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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I do. I am single and pay all my bills even when I lived with a partner I still paid all my bills and rent etc and sometimes his share of the rent as well.I don't see why anyone male or female who works shouldn't be responsible for their own bills etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I walked by a river earlier and I thought I wish I had a canoe, walking is for suckers, might look into getting a Kayak. "
No Kayaking hurts your arms - youre better of with a motorboat  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do. I am single and pay all my bills even when I lived with a partner I still paid all my bills and rent etc and sometimes his share of the rent as well.I don't see why anyone male or female who works shouldn't be responsible for their own bills etc. "
I agree - but I guess a lot of women have children and their partner or the government pay their rent etc .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I walked by a river earlier and I thought I wish I had a canoe, walking is for suckers, might look into getting a Kayak.
No Kayaking hurts your arms - youre better of with a motorboat "
I should have gone on Bullseye when I had the chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do.
There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.
My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month
Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff
It's fucking tough
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Before I left home home, I used to hand over half of my wages to the household.
Since leaving I’ve paid my own bills and rent, with no help from family, parents or government. Even when I lived with someone, he could afford to cover our household expenses, but that’s not me and I paid my equal half |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes I do.
There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.
My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month
Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff
It's fucking tough
P"
I know how you feel Peachy
I live off of credit cards that never get paid off.
I was so much better off financially in the shit relationship I was in.
But I'd rather be broke and independent than with a control freak! |
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Yes, of course.
I grew up in poverty and I've tried my best to protect myself against ending up back there.
I've also seen money used as a tool to exert control in relationships, so I would always want to make money for myself rather than have a partner hold the purse strings. |
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true "
I have a SUP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not a moment was going start in new job in april but due current events so i have job but not started yet and not getting paid for it so signed up for uc guy on phone said pretty unique said yeah tell me about it haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do.
There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.
My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month
Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff
It's fucking tough
P"
Wow that is crap can you not get any help at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. I always have. Not a stich of maintenance from my boys dad ever either.
However it doesn't make me any better or worse than anyone else. There's no shame in people getting the help they are entitled to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would find it alien now if someone “helped me out” I’ve always stood on my own two feet but I never had any other choice anyway x"
off topic i bowed at your pics and your profile weird i know but lockdown got me in heat lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do.
There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.
My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month
Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff
It's fucking tough
P"
I hear you. Although I have a relatively good job, I need a second job on top just to cover all the bills and keep us in food. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would find it alien now if someone “helped me out” I’ve always stood on my own two feet but I never had any other choice anyway xoff topic i bowed at your pics and your profile weird i know but lockdown got me in heat lol"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have done since my first bedsit at 19.... as said above its tough at times but the independence makes it worthwhile "
It's so worthwhile!
I won't let anyone control my life ever again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would find it alien now if someone “helped me out” I’ve always stood on my own two feet but I never had any other choice anyway xoff topic i bowed at your pics and your profile weird i know but lockdown got me in heat lol "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true
I have a SUP "
What is a SUP? |
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true
I have a SUP
What is a SUP?"
Nothings up ??? You ok hun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do.
There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.
My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month
Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff
It's fucking tough
P
Wow that is crap can you not get any help at all "
I don't think so, and to be honest even if I could I doubt I would. When I was off sick (remember when I had the breakdown a few years back) one of my sick notes ran out on the Friday and I couldn't get a Drs appointment til the Monday so a 2 day gap. Work thought they'd do me a favour so I didn't lose out and paid me holiday for those 2 days.
Holy fuckballs, caused a right shit storm and I had to pay back £886 in housing benefit for earning whilst claiming even though it was clear to see what had happened. It's completely put me off claiming any kind of benefit in the future. It can so easily go tits up and leave you in a worse position than you were.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do.
There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.
My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month
Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff
It's fucking tough
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I hear you. Although I have a relatively good job, I need a second job on top just to cover all the bills and keep us in food. "
I've thought about a second job for ages, shit bit is I never know what shifts I'm on from one week to the next, so planning is non existent, plus I'm the "reliable" one who covers shifts so I'm regularly getting called in, or asked to swap at very short notice. I could look for something else and make my current job my second job I guess, but they'd have to work round me not the other way round. It's scary, I've been at my place 11 years now.
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true "
Yes I am 
Yes I do And still enjoy a comfortable lifestyle
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true "
Yep - I (Mr) have been financially independent since I left home at 16. Worked since I was 16 and never claimed a penny from the state. Have been through tough times but worked damned hard, have a good job and now enjoy a very comfortable lifestyle. And I put a large amount of being where I am now financially down to having to be independent and get through some tough times alone.
I’m drilling into my teenage lad now work hard, educate yourself, get qualifications, fill your CV and take the odd risk. From
The earliest age possible be responsible for yourself and you’ll be ok
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
I am a single parent to 3 children, work full time and have no debt other than my mortgage.
I am fully self sufficient, live a comfortable lifestyle but have made huge sacrifices along the way to do so. |
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true "
I paddle what sometimes seems like a barge against the flow of water with a tooth pick  |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Yep, totally financially independent. House, car, bills all paid for by me. Only income I have other than my wage is the basic child benefit. Never claimed for any other benefits although fairly sure that there have been times I would have been entitled to.
Sometimes it is hard to make ends meet but we manage & it is satisfying knowing that everything I have I have earned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do.
There's no room for luxuries and sometimes food either, but I survive.
My household bills hit the £750 a month mark, and I normally pick up between £800-£900 a month
Still have to get my travel out of what's left, gas, electric, food, toiletries and household stuff
It's fucking tough
P
Wow that is crap can you not get any help at all
I don't think so, and to be honest even if I could I doubt I would. When I was off sick (remember when I had the breakdown a few years back) one of my sick notes ran out on the Friday and I couldn't get a Drs appointment til the Monday so a 2 day gap. Work thought they'd do me a favour so I didn't lose out and paid me holiday for those 2 days.
Holy fuckballs, caused a right shit storm and I had to pay back £886 in housing benefit for earning whilst claiming even though it was clear to see what had happened. It's completely put me off claiming any kind of benefit in the future. It can so easily go tits up and leave you in a worse position than you were.
P"
Jeez that's a fucking piss take xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes.
I am a single parent to 3 children, work full time and have no debt other than my mortgage.
I am fully self sufficient, live a comfortable lifestyle but have made huge sacrifices along the way to do so."
No debt other than a mortgage and three kids is impressive |
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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago
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I do. I made a conscious effort to buy a house that I really like rather than live in something I despised because it’s cheaper, and have since paid off everything I owe other than my mortgage. It’s a huge pressure that’s disappeared and I don’t want to end up having to borrow unless I really have no other option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true "
Do you get child benefit? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im pretty selfish, so I much prefer to be independent.
Live alone (with my dog)
Bring in just below 2 bags a month
Zero debt
Exceptionally rare I use my credit cards or store accounts (i'd rather pay outright)
I'll be buying & running a car in the next 2 months when my ban finishes
Then i'll probably think about buying my house
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Meaning are you financially independent without help from a partner or the government?
Do you run a house and pay all the bills yourself?
I was having a conversation about this today at work and a colleague told me I was in the minority as a single woman.
And most people have help.
Surely this isn't true
Do you get child benefit?"
I don't have children.
I don’t get any benefits - I'm not judging anyone that does - it was just a conversation I had that I was curious about others circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too.
So do I
But thats another thread Fiddles
Is that the thread where I get to motor boat your boobs.
What does that mean ???"
I dont know what it means either 
I think it means he's a perv |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do, I have a sailboat these days, but it's not really something that ever bothered me about a person. I'm not worried by the state of your finances unless you take too much of an interest in mine and then I'm just ever so slightly cautious....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been luck in life, not always easy but I get there. Mortgage, bills, two though education etc. Are all covered by myself. I just hope it stays that way. |
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"I do, I feel like I’m paddling others canoes too.
So do I
But thats another thread Fiddles
Is that the thread where I get to motor boat your boobs.
What does that mean ???
I dont know what it means either
I think it means he's a perv "
Hahahaha. Thanks for that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, totally financially independent. House, car, bills all paid for by me. Only income I have other than my wage is the basic child benefit. Never claimed for any other benefits although fairly sure that there have been times I would have been entitled to.
Sometimes it is hard to make ends meet but we manage & it is satisfying knowing that everything I have I have earned. "
Why wouldn't you claim benefits that you thought you were entitled to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, financially independent. I don't have to work, but I can do more fun things if I do. Also, with more time on my hands I would just do stupid shit....  |
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