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over a year ago
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Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like to meet locally so I set my postcode elsewhere as I like to travel. I've had long term fwbs live 3 hours from me a few times. "
That can't be all that easy to sustain for a long period of time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they’re from the forums, nah. Outside the forums, aye"
Same. I'll travel to meet people I've made friends with on the forums.
But I wont go searching for people more than 30 miles away |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested....."
Some people travel to different areas of the country with work (under normal circumstances)
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested....."
No idea but apparently the Scottish and irish are extremely friendly and chatty  |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested....."
Its a small world theses days ..we have met people from Spain..Bournemouth ...London...and we live in the North West ..you never know ..... |
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I'd say it depends on the person and the connection I had with them through messaging. If it's one of the site lotharios with women constantly after him, I probably wouldn't make too much of an effort unless I felt a REALLY strong connection, as the likelihood is he'll just move on to the next in line once we've met. But hell yes if it's someone that I've really clicked with over extended messaging - at the very least I get to see a different part of the country and a stay in a nice hotel. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only meet locally or in clubs, although I've formed connections from the forum and may yet travel for some of them."
I would agree with this. I've connected with people on the forum and then met them, but that's because we clicked on here, but I don't understand why people message looking for meets from so far |
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It depends really. I have few travel plans when this all over so started chatting few couples from places I’m planning to visit.
Also few couples contacted me as they are planning to have weekend breaks around the country and could come closer whenever happens.
However, it would be a concern, if you are not into one-off meets as they likely to end up like this   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t look at distance but that is because work takes me pretty much everywhere regularly so that suits me.
I would feel awkward about someone I had not already met travelling a long way to me however. Unless it was a person I already knew. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Distance has never been an issue for me. In the new world order we will find ourselves in then it may be forced upon us not to do so much travelling.
But in if someone has engaged me in many levels and piqued my interest have car will travel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested....."
because i don't care how far i travel simples.......... what happened to pic challenge thingy?  |
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It all depends what you are looking for, regular / weekly then you need local.
Personally, distance doesn’t matter because if you click you’ll travel. I’ve not dismissed anyone I talk to because of where they live |
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"I'd say it depends on the person and the connection I had with them through messaging. If it's one of the site lotharios with women constantly after him, I probably wouldn't make too much of an effort unless I felt a REALLY strong connection, as the likelihood is he'll just move on to the next in line once we've met. But hell yes if it's someone that I've really clicked with over extended messaging - at the very least I get to see a different part of the country and a stay in a nice hotel. "
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested....."
I could travel say around 160 miles each way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way "
now who is it that lives 160 miles away?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I message people from all over the country, have made some great friends who I wont ever meet but it's great to have a conversation. I dont see a problem in messaging as long as you have read the profile first and respect their wishes  |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away? "
Lots of people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people "
lol but that was very specific |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way "
Would you now |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people lol but that was very specific "
I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people "
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles "
The things we could do with the time saved too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too "
Can I watch? |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too "
Oh the possibilities are endless |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too
Can I watch?"
Join in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too
Can I watch?
Join in "
Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too
Can I watch?
Join in
Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side "
That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too
Can I watch?
Join in
Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side
That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha "
Well that went well hahaa |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people lol but that was very specific
I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous "
lol no a 150or 200 miles is ambiguous a 160 is specific |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people lol but that was very specific
I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous lol no a 150or 200 miles is ambiguous a 160 is specific "
163.247miles is specific.....work to 3 decimal places and it becomes close to exacting while still feasibly measurable  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too
Can I watch?
Join in
Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side
That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha "
I've got no problem joining in. Just dont blame me when you're both unsatisfied afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At least 2m apart for me.
All seriousness, I’d message anyone to chat but if you’re looking to meet, got to be local. I think some people like the one and done, ONS, boom boom ciao. So distance doesn’t bother them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't like to meet locally so I set my postcode elsewhere as I like to travel. I've had long term fwbs live 3 hours from me a few times.
That can't be all that easy to sustain for a long period of time"
True its hard when you like regular meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes aa been let down a few times.
They always say "i love to travel" " i want to try such a such club" but in 2 years have only had 2 people actually come some distance so dont bother if more than 50 miles now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't always message in pursuit of sex, in fact most of the time it's not. I like making friends & connections first & foremost, then if the circumstances fit together, personality, chemistry,location etc, then sex can be included in the friendship.
I'd be quite happy having a friend 300 miles away to talk with that isn't just talking to me because they want thier hole - that makes me NOT want it haha
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people lol but that was very specific
I'm an engineer and know all about specifics...that was at best ambiguous lol no a 150or 200 miles is ambiguous a 160 is specific
163.247miles is specific.....work to 3 decimal places and it becomes close to exacting while still feasibly measurable "
no thats pedantry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes aa been let down a few times.
They always say "i love to travel" " i want to try such a such club" but in 2 years have only had 2 people actually come some distance so dont bother if more than 50 miles now"
50 miles?
Interesting |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
The things we could do with the time saved too
Can I watch?
Join in
Watching is fine. I dont have the ego to disappoint you both and smile on the other side
That’s a subtle way of saying no thanks haha
I've got no problem joining in. Just dont blame me when you're both unsatisfied afterwards "
Ohhhhhh well I'm sure you'll see just how unsatisfied we will look when we're all hot, sticky, grinning like Cheshire cats and gasping for breath.
Yep, that an unsatisfied look for sure |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles "
Oi! At least suggest we meet in the middle |
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
Oi! At least suggest we meet in the middle "
I'll pick you both up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you look at where people are before messaging?
I don't understand why people message if they are at the opposite end of the country?
Do you check this before you message?
If you do then why message?
I'm interested.....
I could travel say around 160 miles each way now who is it that lives 160 miles away?
Lots of people
It says I’m only 150 miles away from you Sophie
Saves us both that 10 miles
Oi! At least suggest we meet in the middle
I'll pick you both up "
Sounds fun |
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In the past I have enjoyed the odd road trip or two but I was always sure they were people I would want to spend a weekend/overnight with, I wouldn’t generally do it for one offs. I’ve had regular play partners who have been anywhere from 30 mins to 2 hours drive to see them, what else are weekends for |
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