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So on fab, most men and women have naked pics of themselves and you can never tell What their dress appearance is like etc
Would the way someone dresses put you off or the way they speak...
What if they haven’t made any effort to smell nice for you...
I personally am conscious before I go on a meet... always Showered, neatly trimmed face and smooth down below... deodorant... put on my best fragrance on my face and even around the genital area etc
Always brush my teeth and use mouth wash and then maybe eat a couple of extras before I turn up etc..
Clean pair of socks lol
Depending on the time of day... pick out a decent outfit to look good....
Is this too much effort... or is that just being over board..
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over a year ago
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I don't overly care how someone dresses on a meet as we probably won't have out clothes on for long  but personal hygiene is really important, and it's something I'm always very conscious of.
I know the way I dress can be off-putting for people though, and I don't begrudge them that, but I won't pretend to be someone I'm not just for a fuck. |
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"I don't overly care how someone dresses on a meet as we probably won't have out clothes on for long but personal hygiene is really important, and it's something I'm always very conscious of.
I know the way I dress can be off-putting for people though, and I don't begrudge them that, but I won't pretend to be someone I'm not just for a fuck."
Can I turn up in my Unicorn Onesie then please ??  |
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"Not me, what you see is what you get. I always dress to impress,
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So you do dress to impress which means you make the effort lol you don’t just turn up in mucky tracks bottoms you have had on for 3 days and the same top lol, that is my point. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I think effort is a good indication of what’s to come. Sight and smell are important, but what about touch OP, do you think about how certain fabrics and accessories feel or sound , metal , leather , silk etc |
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over a year ago
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Shirt buttoned up
Suit dry cleaned and pressed
Tie pin on...
Shoes so I can see my face in them
Weapon loaded
Weapon cocked...
I enter the apartment...
Then I'll throw it a million miles.
Gangster no 1 what a movie!
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over a year ago
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"I don't overly care how someone dresses on a meet as we probably won't have out clothes on for long but personal hygiene is really important, and it's something I'm always very conscious of.
I know the way I dress can be off-putting for people though, and I don't begrudge them that, but I won't pretend to be someone I'm not just for a fuck.
Can I turn up in my Unicorn Onesie then please ?? "
Well I do like unicorns  |
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over a year ago
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I always dress up for a meet but if he turns up in joggers and trainers I’m not going to be thrilled. Pretty sure if we just wore joggers and trainers they would complain!
Jeans and shirt is nice. Have a thing for jeans and a white T-shirt too.
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"I don't overly care how someone dresses on a meet as we probably won't have out clothes on for long but personal hygiene is really important, and it's something I'm always very conscious of.
I know the way I dress can be off-putting for people though, and I don't begrudge them that, but I won't pretend to be someone I'm not just for a fuck.
Can I turn up in my Unicorn Onesie then please ??
Well I do like unicorns "
The Holy Grail  |
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"I always dress up for a meet but if he turns up in joggers and trainers I’m not going to be thrilled. Pretty sure if we just wore joggers and trainers they would complain!
Jeans and shirt is nice. Have a thing for jeans and a white T-shirt too.
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I like Jean's an a crisp white shirt, and a nice smell! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes the way they dress and speak can be off putting.
However if we have spoken to the person for a while, and they are of a likemind to us, fun and adventurous it is less likely to be a turn off.
I guess we are a wee bit judgey. |
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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago
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"So on fab, most men and women have naked pics of themselves and you can never tell What their dress appearance is like etc
Would the way someone dresses put you off or the way they speak...
What if they haven’t made any effort to smell nice for you...
I personally am conscious before I go on a meet... always Showered, neatly trimmed face and smooth down below... deodorant... put on my best fragrance on my face and even around the genital area etc
Always brush my teeth and use mouth wash and then maybe eat a couple of extras before I turn up etc..
Clean pair of socks lol
Depending on the time of day... pick out a decent outfit to look good....
Is this too much effort... or is that just being over board..
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effort is good. I also go all out and look best I possibly can. Would give the fragrance round genitals a miss though!! Just need clean and fresh! |
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over a year ago
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Alot of the people I have met have been during my working day for a coffee on a social I'll be in my work cloths more than offen lol but people are pre warned about that b4 we meet never seemed to put anyone off me if I was going to meet for drinks a meal or a night out or in then yer I'd get a shirt out not offen I wear them lol and make an effort though |
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I always try to look my best whether I'm meeting someone or not. If they clearly haven't made an effort then it indicates to me that they don't think I'm worth the trouble.
By making an effort I mean clean and groomed. If you're going to nip out from work to sneak a coffee with us at least take a clean shirt. |
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"Alot of the people I have met have been during my working day for a coffee on a social I'll be in my work cloths more than offen lol but people are pre warned about that b4 we meet never seemed to put anyone off me if I was going to meet for drinks a meal or a night out or in then yer I'd get a shirt out not offen I wear them lol and make an effort though"
Oh lol. I was posting at the same time as you.
We weren't warned.  |
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I always dress in a way that's appropriate to the time of day and meeting place, so it would be different for a daytime coffee meet as opposed to cocktails in a nice bar. Honestly, I wouldn't be impressed if someone turned up dressed inappropriately or looking scruffy - first impressions definitely count with me.
I would expect that good personal hygiene would be a given for all parties - I certainly wouldn't be sticking around if someone wasn't clean and smelling nice. |
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personal hygiene goes without saying, same as putting on some aftershave.
Clothes depends on where the meet is, always dress for the occasion.
I have been asked if I'd consider wearing my work clothes....obviously when we are able to meet others again. |
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over a year ago
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We would always prepare as if going on a date where you expected to have sex. The preparation is part of the enjoyment, and excitement of a meet.
We’ve been surprised to find some single guys have turned up straight from a days physical work
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"Alot of the people I have met have been during my working day for a coffee on a social I'll be in my work cloths more than offen lol but people are pre warned about that b4 we meet never seemed to put anyone off me if I was going to meet for drinks a meal or a night out or in then yer I'd get a shirt out not offen I wear them lol and make an effort though
Oh lol. I was posting at the same time as you.
We weren't warned. "
haha sorry if I ever meet you ill be sure to have a clean top in my van for you to take off lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So on fab, most men and women have naked pics of themselves and you can never tell What their dress appearance is like etc
Would the way someone dresses put you off or the way they speak...
What if they haven’t made any effort to smell nice for you...
I personally am conscious before I go on a meet... always Showered, neatly trimmed face and smooth down below... deodorant... put on my best fragrance on my face and even around the genital area etc
Always brush my teeth and use mouth wash and then maybe eat a couple of extras before I turn up etc..
Clean pair of socks lol
Depending on the time of day... pick out a decent outfit to look good....
Is this too much effort... or is that just being over board..
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Personal Hygiene is just standard practice for any human being.
As for dressing smart its a no from me, im not off for a job interview, so casual clothes will do |
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over a year ago
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We both always make a huge effort to look and smell good and I would be hugely disappointed if the people/person we was meeting didn’t do the same ! We met someone once who was clean and tidy but dressed worse than my dad which put me off , shallow? Possibly  |
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I just thought I might be being a little OCD... but for me it’s just self presentation, I agree you do have to dress for the occasion, as I have met women after work but I do dress smart at work... which is a smart shirt and trousers or sometimes a full suit and I always keep my fragrances with me, but if I have time to go home then, I would always shower.. find a new outfit, jeans and a smart T-shirt or fitted top... I’m not trying to sound like a snob I’m just saying shouldn’t it be the norm.. as I think it’s a sign of respect for the person your meeting. |
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"I just thought I might be being a little OCD... but for me it’s just self presentation, I agree you do have to dress for the occasion, as I have met women after work but I do dress smart at work... which is a smart shirt and trousers or sometimes a full suit and I always keep my fragrances with me, but if I have time to go home then, I would always shower.. find a new outfit, jeans and a smart T-shirt or fitted top... I’m not trying to sound like a snob I’m just saying shouldn’t it be the norm.. as I think it’s a sign of respect for the person your meeting."
Sounds perfect to me ! |
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over a year ago
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I think I would be just as put off by someone being overdressed as I would be if they were underdressed.
I would be a bit weirded out if I was grabbing a coffee with them at the beach in my flip flops and summer dress and they turned up on a shirt and trousers
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"I think I would be just as put off by someone being overdressed as I would be if they were underdressed.
I would be a bit weirded out if I was grabbing a coffee with them at the beach in my flip flops and summer dress and they turned up on a shirt and trousers
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In that case I’d definitely have to go home and get my shorts and t-shirt or smart vest lol would never go to a beach in scorching hot weather in my trousers and shirt lol |
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"I think I would be just as put off by someone being overdressed as I would be if they were underdressed.
I would be a bit weirded out if I was grabbing a coffee with them at the beach in my flip flops and summer dress and they turned up on a shirt and trousers
In that case I’d definitely have to go home and get my shorts and t-shirt or smart vest lol would never go to a beach in scorching hot weather in my trousers and shirt lol"
Plus I’d get sand in my shoes lol so I’d need my flip flops too
If we were meeting for a coffee and didn’t have enough time for me to get changed.. I’d ask to meet on another day.
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I think turning up appropriately dressed surely 
If I invited a guy to my flat, I’m sure he expects me to be dressed similarly to my pictures. So if I’m at the door wearing my favourite shell suit and dirty trainers (ok before you start, I don’t own a shell suit ..dirty trainers on the other hand ) him turning away quickly wouldn’t be a surprise.
Same opposite I expect to be treated respectfully as well, so put in some effort |
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over a year ago
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"Imagine going to meet someone new and not even making any effort.
My anxiety thinks NOT! "
Some men don't bother even having a wash. 
I find it worse when the man I'm meeting makes a point of saying he will shower before we meet. Like I should be grateful.... or impressed.... ?!!?!  |
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"Imagine going to meet someone new and not even making any effort.
My anxiety thinks NOT!
Some men don't bother even having a wash.
I find it worse when the man I'm meeting makes a point of saying he will shower before we meet. Like I should be grateful.... or impressed.... ?!!?! "
Oh goodness!
‘Just so you know, I don’t usually shower but for you I’ve made an effort’.
I genuinely couldn’t meet anyone unless I felt as though I was clean and wearing something appropriate. |
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I’d always think that looking your best means feeling your best!
If I’m meeting someone I plan to sleep with then I’d always make the extra effort to look beautiful, for them and my hubby.
Personal hygiene goes without saying.
If someone turned up to a meet not clean and with bad breath I’d just tell them so and leave. If your going to be intimate with someone, respect them enough not to have them smelling your stale sweat and garlic breath.  |
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hmmm I haven’t came across anyone who showed up scruffy looking to be honest... I make an effort and expect the same from the pair.. so far they were all lovely hence the reason, I never worried about this subject  |
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We have a simple rule, zero effort = zero reward.
We always make an effort for a meet/party/club and expect others to do the same.
When - usually a single guy - turns up scruffy, they get nowhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think pretty much all the points that have been said are standard.
As long as you don’t wear a Darth Vader mask I’m all good  "
So no interest in a sexy Darth Vader cosplay outfit then?  |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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I wouldn't be that bothered about what somebody wears, if I meet a nice MF couple or single at their place, they can be totally naked as far as I'm concerned....but I definitely expect freshly showered smells and hopefully freshly brushed teeth. And obviously I would do exactly the same and whatever I wore would also smell freshly laundered. |
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over a year ago
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Yes it would to be honest.
A badly dressed person in my opinion can appear unattractive.
There’s also no excuse for bad hygiene in any situation, soap and water is cheap, you don’t even need fancy smells (although I love them), you just have to wash properly!
I don’t think you can ever go to *too* much effort really, apart from far too much aftershave! |
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"I think I would be just as put off by someone being overdressed as I would be if they were underdressed.
I would be a bit weirded out if I was grabbing a coffee with them at the beach in my flip flops and summer dress and they turned up on a shirt and trousers
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I don't object to a bit of scruff. If it's a coffee after work or a quick lunchtime cuppa then you turn up how you turn up and as long as what you're wearing is clean, it's all good.
By the time we're meeting for more than a social I don't care what he turns up wearing because I don't plan on him wearing it for long!
Hygiene is a non-negotiable though, if someone smells then it's a very sharp exit for me. |
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"I think I would be just as put off by someone being overdressed as I would be if they were underdressed.
I would be a bit weirded out if I was grabbing a coffee with them at the beach in my flip flops and summer dress and they turned up on a shirt and trousers
I don't object to a bit of scruff. If it's a coffee after work or a quick lunchtime cuppa then you turn up how you turn up and as long as what you're wearing is clean, it's all good.
By the time we're meeting for more than a social I don't care what he turns up wearing because I don't plan on him wearing it for long!
Hygiene is a non-negotiable though, if someone smells then it's a very sharp exit for me."
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"So on fab, most men and women have naked pics of themselves and you can never tell What their dress appearance is like etc
Would the way someone dresses put you off or the way they speak...
What if they haven’t made any effort to smell nice for you...
I personally am conscious before I go on a meet... always Showered, neatly trimmed face and smooth down below... deodorant... put on my best fragrance on my face and even around the genital area etc
Always brush my teeth and use mouth wash and then maybe eat a couple of extras before I turn up etc..
Clean pair of socks lol
Depending on the time of day... pick out a decent outfit to look good....
Is this too much effort... or is that just being over board..
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aftershave on your nob omg that must sting after you shaved them hairy suckers smooth your neighbours must have thought somebody been murdered |
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It’s a kinda interview. so dress appropriately. We’ve had meets where the guy looks like he’s put no effort in. We always try to ensure we look our best. Unfortunately if their best looks like they’ve not put any effort in, then it’s a no |
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Not everyone has the same standards unfortunately.
We were at a party early this year, a nice, good looking guy starts chatting to Frisky, unfortunately in a hot house he was wearing a thick puffer jacket that going by the smell had never been washed.
Frisky nearly gagged when he leaned in to talk to her.
Yet people still played with him... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Imagine going to meet someone new and not even making any effort.
My anxiety thinks NOT!
Some men don't bother even having a wash.
I find it worse when the man I'm meeting makes a point of saying he will shower before we meet. Like I should be grateful.... or impressed.... ?!!?!
Oh goodness!
‘Just so you know, I don’t usually shower but for you I’ve made an effort’.
I genuinely couldn’t meet anyone unless I felt as though I was clean and wearing something appropriate. "
Yes exactly that! |
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"Rem_mber, less is more when it comes to aftershave.
Some men put far too much on and it’s overbearing and not pleasant."
They need a lot to hide the cock cheese scent though. |
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"Rem_mber, less is more when it comes to aftershave.
Some men put far too much on and it’s overbearing and not pleasant.
They need a lot to hide the cock cheese scent though. "
Hahaha this made me laugh... I usually splash some on my boxers... I don’t drown my self in aftershave how ever I do use and nice fragranced shower gel. |
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"Rem_mber, less is more when it comes to aftershave.
Some men put far too much on and it’s overbearing and not pleasant.
They need a lot to hide the cock cheese scent though. "
It will help to hide the smell of my fishy fanny |
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"Rem_mber, less is more when it comes to aftershave.
Some men put far too much on and it’s overbearing and not pleasant.
They need a lot to hide the cock cheese scent though. "
Wouldn’t be a proper ploughmans without a cheesy scent |
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"Rem_mber, less is more when it comes to aftershave.
Some men put far too much on and it’s overbearing and not pleasant.
They need a lot to hide the cock cheese scent though.
It will help to hide the smell of my fishy fanny "
I add croutons for extra sensation. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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I always make an effort to dress well in life regardless.
For a meet I would dress appropriately depending on where we are going. I have told a couple of people that I'd be in gym kit because the only time they could do was straight after the gym. They were cool with it. But I wouldn't rock up in gym kit without warning. |
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I’m a little confused.......
Isn’t dressing nicely and smelling nicely standard everyday practice, regardless is you’re meeting someone for sex.....
Maybe I’m reading this thread wrongly , but people are giving the Op a pat on the back for being normal..... |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m a little confused.......
Isn’t dressing nicely and smelling nicely standard everyday practice, regardless is you’re meeting someone for sex.....
Maybe I’m reading this thread wrongly , but people are giving the Op a pat on the back for being normal....."
I'm currently sitting in track pants and slippers and smell like a badgers armpit |
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"I’m a little confused.......
Isn’t dressing nicely and smelling nicely standard everyday practice, regardless is you’re meeting someone for sex.....
Maybe I’m reading this thread wrongly , but people are giving the Op a pat on the back for being normal.....
I'm currently sitting in track pants and slippers and smell like a badgers armpit "
Same but without the badgers armpits |
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"I’m a little confused.......
Isn’t dressing nicely and smelling nicely standard everyday practice, regardless is you’re meeting someone for sex.....
Maybe I’m reading this thread wrongly , but people are giving the Op a pat on the back for being normal....."
Maybe they have experienced where someone has turned up and didn’t make any effort at all.. or has bad hygiene it’s happened to me in the past.
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"I’m a little confused.......
Isn’t dressing nicely and smelling nicely standard everyday practice, regardless is you’re meeting someone for sex.....
Maybe I’m reading this thread wrongly , but people are giving the Op a pat on the back for being normal.....
Maybe they have experienced where someone has turned up and didn’t make any effort at all.. or has bad hygiene it’s happened to me in the past.
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Ok , I thought Having good hygiene was normal human behavior.....
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"I’m a little confused.......
Isn’t dressing nicely and smelling nicely standard everyday practice, regardless is you’re meeting someone for sex.....
Maybe I’m reading this thread wrongly , but people are giving the Op a pat on the back for being normal.....
Maybe they have experienced where someone has turned up and didn’t make any effort at all.. or has bad hygiene it’s happened to me in the past.
Ok , I thought Having good hygiene was normal human behavior.....
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You would hope so wouldn’t you.. |
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"I’m a little confused.......
Isn’t dressing nicely and smelling nicely standard everyday practice, regardless is you’re meeting someone for sex.....
Maybe I’m reading this thread wrongly , but people are giving the Op a pat on the back for being normal.....
Maybe they have experienced where someone has turned up and didn’t make any effort at all.. or has bad hygiene it’s happened to me in the past.
Ok , I thought Having good hygiene was normal human behavior.....
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. Wait until you find out people aren’t even washing properly in the shower! |
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Making an effort both sides is a must.
I’m not into the whole track suit wear look unless if it’s just lounging around at home but that’s my personal preference.
If we’re going out for a social meet then yes...look sharp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I put in a bit of effort everytime i have to leave the house. During this lockdown stuff i have enjoyed just wearing joggers and a t shirt most days. I hate ironing shirts. |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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I'm afraid I will take a bit of a different stance to some of you regarding the aftershave issue...obviously I will not rip off the vaporiser tool and drench myself in it but a good 6 to 8 squirts of it, I am definitely guilty of doing.
Then again, I've been told also that an eau de toilette smells differently on freshly soaped skin and not freshly soaped skin...and also you have the variable of mixing different scents like that of a shower gel and an aftershave (supposedly never a good idea) |
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