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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no opinion
I used to accommodate. I now have a baby. I no longer accommodate.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesnt bother me. I assume people are allowed to choose who they want in their house and who they dont and that's their right |
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Sometimes I do and others not. Just depends on circumstances at the time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same here, I have a child so accommodating is off the cards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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i can accomodate now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could it be an issue of safety if its a single lady? If its a one off maybe people don’t like a random meet knowing where they live.... |
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"I have no opinion
I used to accommodate. I now have a baby. I no longer accommodate. "
Exactly the same. I dont want people knowing where I live when I have a little one at home xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again."
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men  |
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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We're married couple. Just prefer to keep fun separate and away from home. Considering a few good close friends now tho |
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I’m living with my mum and my daughter.
Doesn’t seem right to bring anyone here. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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I don't because I'm a single girl and don't feel safe doing it. Even if I meet a guy for a drink first, he could still end up being a psycho when he comes back to mine. And if things turn sour, it's MUCH easier to leave a guy's house than to make a man leave mine.
So I don't accommodate ever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not accommodating random men.
No |
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People have all sorts of reasons for not accommodating - house share, pets, don't like strangers in their house, house renovations, nosey neighbours, they just don't want to. I'd never automatically assume that they were married.
If I'm interested in meeting them then we'll get a hotel room. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cant accommodate as my family are always here. Its on my profile if the man cant accommodate I wont meet as I detest car play. I do get a little suspicious if they cant accommodate too. Happy if a hotel is available though. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Goodnitegirl came to my house twice shit in the bathroom sink on both occasions
I decided I would be more choosy from then on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't accommodate as we have kids but even if we didn't, we still wouldn't... who wants to give a stranger their address?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i don't accommodate, at all.
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men "
Why do you assume that? Read my OP please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men
Why do you assume that? Read my OP please. "
What's your op got to do with other people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve got a young family so hopefully that makes sense? |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t accommodate. My home life and fab are kept separate. I wouldn’t let anyone know where I live. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men
Why do you assume that? Read my OP please.
What's your op got to do with other people?"
I said this is not about judging people. Enjoy your evening! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Doesnt bother me. I assume people are allowed to choose who they want in their house and who they dont and that's their right "
Exactly this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men
Why do you assume that? Read my OP please.
What's your op got to do with other people?
I said this is not about judging people. Enjoy your evening! "
Its not an uncommon opinion on fab that men that cant accommodating are cheating. Me and the person I replied to was just stating a fact as it's in line with the subject matter |
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"I wouldn’t accommodate. My home life and fab are kept separate. I wouldn’t let anyone know where I live. "
Same here. Fab life and home life will always be kept seperate. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men
Why do you assume that? Read my OP please.
What's your op got to do with other people?
I said this is not about judging people. Enjoy your evening!
Its not an uncommon opinion on fab that men that cant accommodating are cheating. Me and the person I replied to was just stating a fact as it's in line with the subject matter "
Does that mean that women who can’t accommodate are also cheating? I said ‘people’ not men....I adore men, why would I bash them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn’t accommodate. My home life and fab are kept separate. I wouldn’t let anyone know where I live.
Same here. Fab life and home life will always be kept seperate."
come here you can stay forever i have 3 beds ya know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men
Why do you assume that? Read my OP please.
What's your op got to do with other people?
I said this is not about judging people. Enjoy your evening!
Its not an uncommon opinion on fab that men that cant accommodating are cheating. Me and the person I replied to was just stating a fact as it's in line with the subject matter
Does that mean that women who can’t accommodate are also cheating? I said ‘people’ not men....I adore men, why would I bash them? "
We never said you would |
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
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Doesn't make us think too much. We can't for very simple, boring reasons. It would be good to find someone who can accommodate though as those hotels can cost a fortune!   |
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I will accommodate a few trusted people when I move house soon and get a spare room when ‘him indoors’ is working away and my kids are at their dads. Although in a totally open relationship it seems wrong somehow to do it in a bed we often share.
Wether that feels weirder or not to people than someone who just wants to get a hotel cos they have someone at home I don’t know but In summary I will still be picky over who I have round, it’s taken me years to grow trusting swing friendships I wouldn’t have any old ‘I’m in your area on business’ round though. Xx |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men
Why do you assume that? Read my OP please.
What's your op got to do with other people?
I said this is not about judging people. Enjoy your evening!
Its not an uncommon opinion on fab that men that cant accommodating are cheating. Me and the person I replied to was just stating a fact as it's in line with the subject matter
Does that mean that women who can’t accommodate are also cheating? I said ‘people’ not men....I adore men, why would I bash them?
We never said you would"
Ha ha stop it you’re making me howl (laugh) now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Goodnitegirl came to my house twice shit in the bathroom sink on both occasions
I decided I would be more choosy from then on"
She did that to you as well?! |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
Stafford |
Me ans hubs are on here. We don't accomodate. We just don't wish to. |
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"Goodnitegirl came to my house twice shit in the bathroom sink on both occasions
I decided I would be more choosy from then on
She did that to you as well?!"
It’s like my calling card |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just chose it so it confuses people |
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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I live with one of my parents so it would be a bit weird. |
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I don't presume anything negative from a person not wanting to accommodate.
Personally, I wouldn't invite a meet to my home, even if it was an option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kids still living at home, that's why I cant accommodate !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Goodnitegirl came to my house twice shit in the bathroom sink on both occasions
I decided I would be more choosy from then on
She did that to you as well?!
It’s like my calling card "
It should be a wake up call to change your diet.
Fucking stink! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got my watch stolen so no more accommodating. |
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"I got my watch stolen so no more accommodating."
that’s awful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have children so don't want to accommodate..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesnt bother me. I assume people are allowed to choose who they want in their house and who they dont and that's their right "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got my watch stolen so no more accommodating."
Would you describe your meet with her was time consuming? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got my watch stolen so no more accommodating.
that’s awful "
I doubt she even knew the full value of it. Probably traded it for drugs or something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can't accommodate due to family..who seriously would even consider playing at home with children present...we definitely wont..everyones living conditions varies be it house share with a lodger...rent a room in a shared house..we don't judge..they have there reasons and if they want can tell us we don't ask.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got my watch stolen so no more accommodating.
Would you describe your meet with her was time consuming?"
I would have chosen 'Did you show her a good time?' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got my watch stolen so no more accommodating.
Would you describe your meet with her was time consuming?
I would have chosen 'Did you show her a good time?'"
Well played. I'll write that one down  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't accommodate for two reasons, 1 we have Rottweilers (who are soft as heck but can be quite attention seeking) and people tend to be put off by them and 2 we have extremely nosy neighbours.
Neither are particularly good reasons, but they are our reasons. Plus we don't want any freaky stalkers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's understandable when a single female isn't willing to accommodate but when it's a single man, people jump straight on the cheating bandwagon!
When I'm home, my kids are with me almost all the time and therefore I wouldn't accommodate there. When I'm away with work I'm usually in a nice hotel and can accommodate. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I think it's understandable when a single female isn't willing to accommodate but when it's a single man, people jump straight on the cheating bandwagon!
When I'm home, my kids are with me almost all the time and therefore I wouldn't accommodate there. When I'm away with work I'm usually in a nice hotel and can accommodate."
Already had the conversation tonight re your first paragraph about men cheating. The thread isn’t about man bashing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
It may not be the intention, but the cheater bashers will surely come out of the woodwork again.
Ah yes. And it will all be aimed at men "
Life is so unfair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can't accommodate more often than we can accommodate.
For that reason we put on our profile,can't accommodate |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
People do what they feel comfortable with. People assume about men (wrongly, in some cases) that they are cheating. Strange how women don't seem get the same treatment. Could be down to having kids, house share living with parents or just don't want swingers at their home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We accomodate couple's and single ladies but will meet single guys in clubs xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's understandable when a single female isn't willing to accommodate but when it's a single man, people jump straight on the cheating bandwagon!
When I'm home, my kids are with me almost all the time and therefore I wouldn't accommodate there. When I'm away with work I'm usually in a nice hotel and can accommodate.
Already had the conversation tonight re your first paragraph about men cheating. The thread isn’t about man bashing. "
I read the first post and replied to that. I didnt read anything else |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
My profile states that I can accommodate. This doesn't mean I will though. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
I generally don't accommodate in one respect but do in another.
That is, I work away from home, and in the main, my employers provide me with free Live-In accommodation. However, I keep my private life away from my work life, so using my employer's accommodation wouldn't be right.
When I return home several times each year, I accommodate there, or will travel to meets.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"We accomodate couple's and single ladies but will meet single guys in clubs xx"
Just out of interest, why not single men? |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't accommodate and I'm single so no I don't just presuame because someone doesn't accommodate it means they are attached. I actually think that's a big assumption peoole jump to. I have no issue bringing people I have met a few times to my home once I know they are trustworthy but anyone else not a hope would I bring them to my home. I have friends who made that mistake and ended up with guys turning up unannounced at all one even brought a mate cos he thought it was okay. It wasn't
So ye it makes more sense to me to not accommodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We accomodate couple's and single ladies but will meet single guys in clubs xx
Just out of interest, why not single men? "
I guess a safety aspect there's more chance of a random single guy just turning up unannounced xx |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"We accomodate couple's and single ladies but will meet single guys in clubs xx
Just out of interest, why not single men? "
I wondered that too.
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I cannot accommodate and doesn't bother me if someone else cannot. There are other options if I want to meet someone. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I don't accommodate and I'm single so no I don't just presuame because someone doesn't accommodate it means they are attached. I actually think that's a big assumption peoole jump to. I have no issue bringing people I have met a few times to my home once I know they are trustworthy but anyone else not a hope would I bring them to my home. I have friends who made that mistake and ended up with guys turning up unannounced at all one even brought a mate cos he thought it was okay. It wasn't
So ye it makes more sense to me to not accommodate. "
I've had a stalker and 2 guys trying to get into my house at 2 am so I only accommodate very close friends now. I was living on my own at the time and working late into the evening. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"I don't accommodate and I'm single so no I don't just presuame because someone doesn't accommodate it means they are attached. I actually think that's a big assumption peoole jump to. I have no issue bringing people I have met a few times to my home once I know they are trustworthy but anyone else not a hope would I bring them to my home. I have friends who made that mistake and ended up with guys turning up unannounced at all one even brought a mate cos he thought it was okay. It wasn't
So ye it makes more sense to me to not accommodate.
I've had a stalker and 2 guys trying to get into my house at 2 am so I only accommodate very close friends now. I was living on my own at the time and working late into the evening. "
This is exactly why I won't unless I know them really well. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I don't accommodate and I'm single so no I don't just presuame because someone doesn't accommodate it means they are attached. I actually think that's a big assumption peoole jump to. I have no issue bringing people I have met a few times to my home once I know they are trustworthy but anyone else not a hope would I bring them to my home. I have friends who made that mistake and ended up with guys turning up unannounced at all one even brought a mate cos he thought it was okay. It wasn't
So ye it makes more sense to me to not accommodate.
I've had a stalker and 2 guys trying to get into my house at 2 am so I only accommodate very close friends now. I was living on my own at the time and working late into the evening.
This is exactly why I won't unless I know them really well. "
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I occassionally can when my partner is away, usually when he stays with his other partner. I put can't though as its easier to explain to someone after getting to know each other. If I put can people think that means my place is regularly available. |
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"I don't accommodate and I'm single so no I don't just presuame because someone doesn't accommodate it means they are attached. I actually think that's a big assumption peoole jump to. I have no issue bringing people I have met a few times to my home once I know they are trustworthy but anyone else not a hope would I bring them to my home. I have friends who made that mistake and ended up with guys turning up unannounced at all one even brought a mate cos he thought it was okay. It wasn't
So ye it makes more sense to me to not accommodate.
I've had a stalker and 2 guys trying to get into my house at 2 am so I only accommodate very close friends now. I was living on my own at the time and working late into the evening. "
Bloody hell, that's terrible |
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I’m not bringing anyone into my house we’re my kid lives just for a shag. |
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I say I dont as most of the time I can't.
I live with my grown up son and have to work round his work shifts if I want to accommodate. It's easier to say no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do accommodate, as I feel much more relaxed at my own place. However, the fact that I do accommodate does not mean I am willing to let the person I'm meeting with stay overnight. There is sex, and there is sleep- the latter one I prefer to do on my own. |
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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
We aren't super hot on home meets to begin with. But, we also would as directly if folks are fooling around on their partner. Not our thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even if I could accommodate, I wouldn't.
My private life, and my fab life are completely separate from each other.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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I can not as I have a live in landlord..but once I get my own place I will accommodate but only Once I feel comfortable with that person. |
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over a year ago
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I don’t accommodate because firstly my home is my ‘safe place’ I don’t want strangers in here. Secondly and most importantly, I have children. I would not have someone here even if they are sleeping- as some do.
I would consider accommodating someone I had built up trust with and met several times, when the children aren’t here. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't accommodate and I'm single so no I don't just presuame because someone doesn't accommodate it means they are attached. I actually think that's a big assumption peoole jump to. I have no issue bringing people I have met a few times to my home once I know they are trustworthy but anyone else not a hope would I bring them to my home. I have friends who made that mistake and ended up with guys turning up unannounced at all one even brought a mate cos he thought it was okay. It wasn't
So ye it makes more sense to me to not accommodate.
I've had a stalker and 2 guys trying to get into my house at 2 am so I only accommodate very close friends now. I was living on my own at the time and working late into the evening. "
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I don’t accomodate as my son lives with me plus I live in a village of just 200 of us ... everyone knows everybody else plus it’s my home and my space ... plus I’ve had a previous stalker so safety is paramount too |
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Not as it's my family home and its more fun in a hotel or outdoors plus I don't have to change the sheets |
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I don’t accommodate at my home, it’s my lad’s territory and I wouldn’t risk the safety of that.
In 5 years only one person has been here, but we had been seeing each other for 6 months and my lad was never here at the same time. |
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over a year ago
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We don’t really want to accommodate by preference simply because our current flat is TINY.
We downsized to save for a mortgage and went from a 2 bedroom flat with a dining room and conservatory to a shitty one bedroom upstairs council house.
We’re still living out of boxes a year later. I wouldn’t want to invite someone into that! I’m really house proud but can’t be proud of a place still full of moving boxes! |
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I accommodate because I can, I’m single, would be different if I had kids here, In fact I would like to host a gangbang or group meet when we are allowed, so any interested people get in touch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Last year I couldn't accomodate as was living with 4 others in a shared house, so was always awkward as they pretty much heard anything I had anyone over.
Be nice to have a party later this year though
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I tend to get to know people first so I will find out why they don't accommodate in the process.. there can be many reasons.
I love accommodating, then I know it's cosy, sorted for good tunes and a nice vibe. I don't mind if the neighbours talk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got teenage kids at home |
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"I tend to get to know people first so I will find out why they don't accommodate in the process.. there can be many reasons.
I love accommodating, then I know it's cosy, sorted for good tunes and a nice vibe. I don't mind if the neighbours talk "
You’re welcome to mine, we can alternate lol |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I live with my mum and my kids.
It’s not an environment conducive to good, laid back, chilled out sex.
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"Goodnitegirl came to my house twice shit in the bathroom sink on both occasions
I decided I would be more choosy from then on"
So why did you invite her back after the first turd in the sink? |
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I can accommodate. That means I’m definitely single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do assume a man is attached if he can't accommodate unless there's a reasonable explanation. Might seem harsh but majority of non accommodations that have mailed me have been attached so.... Just going by my own experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't live alone. I won't give out their address without reason. |
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I can't accommodate. And I am married. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate to accommodate, but I will do it for single females never couples...
I also crap at telling people to leave , so some women will take the liberty to spend the night... |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I hate to accommodate, but I will do it for single females never couples...
I also crap at telling people to leave , so some women will take the liberty to spend the night..."
‘Taking liberties’ ! Goodness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My gf and I agreed neither of us would for lots of reasons. Nosey, bitchy neighbours was one. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to never even notice if people can accomadate or not, and usually assume meets will be hotel based, and think nothing of it at all. Not many people will want to just bring a stranger home male or female. |
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We accom couples and fems will accom Guys once we know they not a crazy stalker after a few idiots turned up a few times pissed after the pub kicked out one guy got abusive after we said not tonight thanks we up early for work we phoned the cops after he started kicking the cars in the street |
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over a year ago
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I don't mind accommodating, for those who may be dodgy or have psyco tendencies there's enough space under the floor boards for them, best to always be prepared |
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"Sometimes I do and others not. Just depends on circumstances at the time.
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Same |
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I can and do, amongst other options. Sure, some people who don't actually live with partners but home life is complex now and different to how it used to be. |
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over a year ago
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I am temporarily staying with my gran, not a good idea to take people back there lol |
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We don’t accommodate as have kids at home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can, but wasn't able to until recently, but who cares, i mean really, under normal circumstances on a personal level i couldn't care less if someone could accommodate or not, chances are you will meet less than 1% of people on here, and now, meets are gonna be alot less than that, im sorry if this offends anyone but (CUE MISSION STATEMENT) but i hate the accommodate tag, having been on both sides of. it, jesus let's just get on with it, if he or she is playing away who cares. Rant over, i will be hiding in introductions if anyone is looking for me |
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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Yet to meet anyone yet, bad timing, but any first times would be hotel anyway.
Its a stranger technically, and wouldn't want bring home a stranger unless know some more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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I do not accom as living with parents still but have arranged hotel meets which I hosted and car meets in my own car |
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We would veey rarely accommodate, only for a select few people that I have known in the scene for years.
We prefer to keep swinging snd our family life totally separate.
It's surely a bit daft, judgemental and presumptious automatically assuming it's because a person is married when there are so many valid other reasons. |
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I accommodate for single ladies and couples when I've felt comfortable. I don't feel 100% confident bringing guys back to my place as I live alone |
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Despite being single and having my own place I'm very careful about mixing my fab life with personal and having a stranger in my home does worry me a bit. Would need to feel very comfortable.
Prefer a hotel, feel much more relaxed and happy to pay for that preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I love the thought of inviting un caught murderers and sex pests into my house. How do you know the mental state of anyone acoomodate or not.
Only club meets for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I love the thought of inviting un caught murderers and sex pests into my house. How do you know the mental state of anyone acoomodate or not.
Only club meets for me. "
I’m sure as a man you can defend yourself in your own home.... you do know were the weapons are...... |
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over a year ago
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Find it weird to the women saying they won’t accommodate random men( not talking about those with kids at home) but will want a random man to accommodate them |
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over a year ago
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If you can get to Germany we can party |
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over a year ago
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"Find it weird to the women saying they won’t accommodate random men( not talking about those with kids at home) but will want a random man to accommodate them"
Because we don’t want weirdos knowing where we live but we’re happy knowing where weirdos live |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Find it weird to the women saying they won’t accommodate random men( not talking about those with kids at home) but will want a random man to accommodate them
Because we don’t want weirdos knowing where we live but we’re happy knowing where weirdos live "
How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet |
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over a year ago
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How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet"
Thats a creepy thing to say  |
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over a year ago
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How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet
Thats a creepy thing to say "
Not creepy just putting it out there |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
Weirdsville South Coast Dorset |
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How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet
Thats a creepy thing to say
Not creepy just putting it out there "
That really is proper creepy  |
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over a year ago
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How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet
Thats a creepy thing to say
Not creepy just putting it out there
That really is proper creepy "
Never try to intimidate a serial killer you don't know |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
Weirdsville South Coast Dorset |
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How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet
Thats a creepy thing to say
Not creepy just putting it out there
That really is proper creepy
Never try to intimidate a serial killer you don't know "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do ppl always assume married? Some people house share and don't want house mates knowing they hook up with couples etc. |
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By *ntcovMan
over a year ago
Church Gresley / Swadlincote |
"Goodnitegirl came to my house twice shit in the bathroom sink on both occasions
I decided I would be more choosy from then on"
Wouldn't have got a 2nd invite from me after doing that the first time! |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
Am too old for car meets
Am too poor for hotel meets
Not interested in club meets
But happy to accommodate,Never had any issues, brilliant neighbours who mind their own business, Do prefer a social meet first.
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How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet
Thats a creepy thing to say
Not creepy just putting it out there
That really is proper creepy
Never try to intimidate a serial killer you don't know
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That is proper creepy and worrying that they can't see why......and this is why we would never accommodate randoms off a sex site. Too many freaks with no grip on what is acceptable about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We use to accommodate till the oldest daughter came home unexpectedly and caught us lol. |
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over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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The way I see it is most people over the age of 30 would have their own place so should be able to accommodate unless they have a valid reason for not accommodating.
If they don't then there must be another reason why and it's usually because they're attached. imo |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I don't accommodate and I'm single so no I don't just presuame because someone doesn't accommodate it means they are attached. I actually think that's a big assumption peoole jump to. I have no issue bringing people I have met a few times to my home once I know they are trustworthy but anyone else not a hope would I bring them to my home. I have friends who made that mistake and ended up with guys turning up unannounced at all one even brought a mate cos he thought it was okay. It wasn't
So ye it makes more sense to me to not accommodate.
I've had a stalker and 2 guys trying to get into my house at 2 am so I only accommodate very close friends now. I was living on my own at the time and working late into the evening.
That must of been horrendous, even if you think you know someone, you can't predict if they will turn into a nutter or what they will tell your neighbours etc. "
The stalker was a friend of a friend, he was mortified. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
The way I see it is most people over the age of 30 would have their own place so should be able to accommodate unless they have a valid reason for not accommodating.
If they don't then there must be another reason why and it's usually because they're attached. imo "
Have you not read alternative reasons on this thread at all? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"We would veey rarely accommodate, only for a select few people that I have known in the scene for years.
We prefer to keep swinging snd our family life totally separate.
It's surely a bit daft, judgemental and presumptious automatically assuming it's because a person is married when there are so many valid other reasons. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
The way I see it is most people over the age of 30 would have their own place so should be able to accommodate unless they have a valid reason for not accommodating.
If they don't then there must be another reason why and it's usually because they're attached. imo
Have you not read alternative reasons on this thread at all?"
My apologies, I thought the OP was asking for opinions based on people's experiences.. Aggressive response much |
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over a year ago
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I would rather meet outdoors have in the past had bad experiences, once went to someone house and they locked me in , wouldn’t let me go as I didn’t want to do anything with him , kept saying come to bed with me and I will let you go , I had to get very angry with him and threatened to put the table threw the window , and have had men over to mine before but you cannot get rid of them once you have gone the deed , they think there stopping the whole night , so best for me to meet outdoors then I can just walk away |
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I just love in shared accommodation at the moment, so it's difficult. Don't jump to conclusions about being married. |
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"I just love in shared accommodation at the moment, so it's difficult. Don't jump to conclusions about being married."
Typo. live |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Find it weird to the women saying they won’t accommodate random men( not talking about those with kids at home) but will want a random man to accommodate them
Because we don’t want weirdos knowing where we live but we’re happy knowing where weirdos live
How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet"
This is creepy.
I once met my FWB at a club, we took our own cars and parked next to each other. At end of the night when we walked to the cars, I noticed a 4 x 4 parked next to me with two guys in it, they wound their window down and told me they had been watching me all night and were going to follow me home! I got in my car and rang my FWB who told me to set off and he would stay in the car park and if they followed me he would follow them. He gave me 10 minutes lead time. They did not follow me, just said it to scare me probably because they had no action in the club. The next day I rang the owner to report it and he knew who they were from the car description. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
The way I see it is most people over the age of 30 would have their own place so should be able to accommodate unless they have a valid reason for not accommodating.
If they don't then there must be another reason why and it's usually because they're attached. imo
Have you not read alternative reasons on this thread at all?
My apologies, I thought the OP was asking for opinions based on people's experiences.. Aggressive response much"
Nothing aggressive at all about my response. I asked a question. |
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over a year ago
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If I have known people a while then I accommodate, otherwise I do their place, hotels, or clubs.
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over a year ago
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We never accommodate like to keep swinging totally separate from our private life , so it’s always a hotel / club of some sort for us |
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I joined just before lockdown, so I’ve not accommodated yet, but I’m genuinely single, live alone in a reasonable house, and I’d have no problem accommodating here. With caution, if I’m trusting someone to let us share our bodies, then I’ll let them into my home. In fact I’m looking forward to it... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Find it weird to the women saying they won’t accommodate random men( not talking about those with kids at home) but will want a random man to accommodate them
Because we don’t want weirdos knowing where we live but we’re happy knowing where weirdos live
How do u know they won't get someone to follow you home after the meet
This is creepy.
I once met my FWB at a club, we took our own cars and parked next to each other. At end of the night when we walked to the cars, I noticed a 4 x 4 parked next to me with two guys in it, they wound their window down and told me they had been watching me all night and were going to follow me home! I got in my car and rang my FWB who told me to set off and he would stay in the car park and if they followed me he would follow them. He gave me 10 minutes lead time. They did not follow me, just said it to scare me probably because they had no action in the club. The next day I rang the owner to report it and he knew who they were from the car description. "
What a pair of creeps. Karma is a bitch though. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I would rather meet outdoors have in the past had bad experiences, once went to someone house and they locked me in , wouldn’t let me go as I didn’t want to do anything with him , kept saying come to bed with me and I will let you go , I had to get very angry with him and threatened to put the table threw the window , and have had men over to mine before but you cannot get rid of them once you have gone the deed , they think there stopping the whole night , so best for me to meet outdoors then I can just walk away "
Sorry to hear you have had bad experiences, I do hope people read your post and understand that single men are as much at risk as couples and females. Glad you are OK. Xx |
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over a year ago
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I assume they dont want strangers in their house. Clever.
I won't accommodate and I won't go to anyone else's house either. |
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I can accommodate in principle, as I'm single, don't have children and have my own house.
I have had the female half of a couple over, and hosted a party (see separate thread on swinging meet disasters) but I'm still wary about having people here. More so now, having read this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Find it weird to the women saying they won’t accommodate random men( not talking about those with kids at home) but will want a random man to accommodate them
Because we don’t want weirdos knowing where we live but we’re happy knowing where weirdos live "
That’s weird in my opinion, I understand if you got kid and family You live with. But if not.... |
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over a year ago
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"I can, but wasn't able to until recently, but who cares, i mean really, under normal circumstances on a personal level i couldn't care less if someone could accommodate or not, chances are you will meet less than 1% of people on here, and now, meets are gonna be alot less than that, im sorry if this offends anyone but (CUE MISSION STATEMENT) but i hate the accommodate tag, having been on both sides of. it, jesus let's just get on with it, if he or she is playing away who cares. Rant over, i will be hiding in introductions if anyone is looking for me "
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I dont accommodate. I'm not married but this is my children's home aswell as mine and I choose not to have casual guys around. |
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Why do 90% of guys who send us a message want us to meet them at our place or hotel when they have there own place then ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no opinion but as I'm looking for regular meets they need to be able to accommodate as I have a child so can't and hotels get costly.
If they can't then I would rather wait for someone who can. I spent a very expensive 7 months shelling out for hotels with my last partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do 90% of guys who send us a message want us to meet them at our place or hotel when they have there own place then ?"
Because the wife or mum would get pretty upset if .... Guys are bringing random strangers around for sex... |
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I dont. I dont want random people in my bed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no opinion but as I'm looking for regular meets they need to be able to accommodate as I have a child so can't and hotels get costly.
If they can't then I would rather wait for someone who can. I spent a very expensive 7 months shelling out for hotels with my last partner "
Did you ever think about getting a hotel rewards credit card?
They will give you free nights depending on how much you spend.... |
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"Why do 90% of guys who send us a message want us to meet them at our place or hotel when they have there own place then ?"
Maybe they don't want their flatmates knowing, maybe live with their parents, maybe they have children.
We find it best to not jump to conclusions as we could be proved wrong, then we would look presumptuous and silly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hotel meets give you a neutral ground to enjoy passionate experiences..factor in the noise and potential juice explosion without having to worry about the clean up.. and finally add easy shower facilities is very appealing. |
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"Why do 90% of guys who send us a message want us to meet them at our place or hotel when they have there own place then ?
Maybe they don't want their flatmates knowing, maybe live with their parents, maybe they have children.
We find it best to not jump to conclusions as we could be proved wrong, then we would look presumptuous and silly."
Not being presumptuous at all here in the west mids area judging by the email and message we get from guys who are attached ??
Maybe it’s different for you and where you live we can only comment on what we know really now can’t we
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"Why do 90% of guys who send us a message want us to meet them at our place or hotel when they have there own place then ?
Maybe they don't want their flatmates knowing, maybe live with their parents, maybe they have children.
We find it best to not jump to conclusions as we could be proved wrong, then we would look presumptuous and silly.
Not being presumptuous at all here in the west mids area judging by the email and message we get from guys who are attached ??
Maybe it’s different for you and where you live we can only comment on what we know really now can’t we
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If they are telling you they are attached then at least they are being upfront and honest. That can only be a good thing. |
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"Why do 90% of guys who send us a message want us to meet them at our place or hotel when they have there own place then ?
Maybe they don't want their flatmates knowing, maybe live with their parents, maybe they have children.
We find it best to not jump to conclusions as we could be proved wrong, then we would look presumptuous and silly.
Not being presumptuous at all here in the west mids area judging by the email and message we get from guys who are attached ??
Maybe it’s different for you and where you live we can only comment on what we know really now can’t we
If they are telling you they are attached then at least they are being upfront and honest. That can only be a good thing."
Not when they have single and straight on there profile they ain’t |
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over a year ago
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I can't accommodate because I live at my side chick's house after my wife found out I have a girlfriend on the side.
But please don't tell my side chick about my girlfriend, or she'll kick me out. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Hotel meets give you a neutral ground to enjoy passionate experiences..factor in the noise and potential juice explosion without having to worry about the clean up.. and finally add easy shower facilities is very appealing."
So you leave all the mess for the maid to clean up? Gosh that’s a 1970s attitude! |
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"Why do 90% of guys who send us a message want us to meet them at our place or hotel when they have there own place then ?
Maybe they don't want their flatmates knowing, maybe live with their parents, maybe they have children.
We find it best to not jump to conclusions as we could be proved wrong, then we would look presumptuous and silly."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to accommodate but I had some bad experiences, so now I choose if I do or don’t have at my home. I prefer neutral territory like hotels, But naturally there are the sceptics who assume because you can’t accommodate you must be married or with a partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont accom simply because ive adult kids as well as teenagers so house is never empty.....and no not married or attached in any way |
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I'd rather randoms from the internet didn't come round to mine. Neutral venues is the way forward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm living with family until I buy.
I'm pretty sure my mum while make you breakfast though? #hot |
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"Good evening,
Musing again.
What’s your opinion on people who cannot accommodate? Are they married perhaps? I don’t know.
Do you accommodate? If yes, why? If no, why not?
This isn’t about judging anyone on here.
I’m just interested in you wonderful Fabbers views on this.
Bhubaysi x
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Well we are married (to each other) and we do not accommodate!
When I was a single lady on here I didn’t accommodate either (although I was married but made that clear on my profile)
We just don’t want to play with others in our home. We both prefer hotels or clubs! We have been to others houses which has been nice, still didn’t change our mind on inviting people to ours.
Maybe one day. But honestly I’d rather keep fab life and home life separate |
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I can't accommodate as I'm home looking after my mother, sigh.
Was meant be out last year, had to look after, and out this Yr, then covid happened.
Plus I wouldn't want anyone back at mine first off.
Hotel or outdoor social meet of a sorts feels safer to begin with |
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over a year ago
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I would never dream of inviting anyone from fab to my home... What if they became a stalker, or were crazy, or dropped by unannounced... Or gave your address details to someone else?
Clearly i have trust issues, but I'm kinda amazed how many people are open b to fab meets at home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also wonder if there are hidden cameras lol.. Man i am suspicious! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not accommodating random men.
No"
But you would fuck them??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes for the right person and with trust and planning, but never on the first couple of meets. I'm not bringing potentially crazy sex ppl into the home that I share with my daughter. If it becomes a regular thing and I feel I can trust them then it has happened, but that's very rare tbh, even with non-fab women....
....except for the driveway dogging, obv....   |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
ePeople assume that because I can accommodate, I will. Not always the case, particularly with people I don't know. I've had bad experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ePeople assume that because I can accommodate, I will. Not always the case, particularly with people I don't know. I've had bad experiences. "
This essentially... |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"I would never dream of inviting anyone from fab to my home... What if they became a stalker, or were crazy, or dropped by unannounced... Or gave your address details to someone else?
Clearly i have trust issues, but I'm kinda amazed how many people are open b to fab meets at home "
Totally agree. As the lady I would never have someone in my home there's a divide
As for who we would meet if they want to meet us they will accommodate. If we ask for single guys then not accommodating does make me wonder if they are actually single at all. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I would never dream of inviting anyone from fab to my home... What if they became a stalker, or were crazy, or dropped by unannounced... Or gave your address details to someone else?
Clearly i have trust issues, but I'm kinda amazed how many people are open b to fab meets at home
Totally agree. As the lady I would never have someone in my home there's a divide
As for who we would meet if they want to meet us they will accommodate. If we ask for single guys then not accommodating does make me wonder if they are actually single at all. "
There are ‘single guys’ who cannot accommodate.
They may live with an elderly relative
They may live with their children
They may not want strangers in their home
Why do you assume single men are married? Do you judge single women in the same way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't accommodate as at the times I can meet the rest of the family are home too. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Yes for the right person and with trust and planning, but never on the first couple of meets. I'm not bringing potentially crazy sex ppl into the home that I share with my daughter. If it becomes a regular thing and I feel I can trust them then it has happened, but that's very rare tbh, even with non-fab women....
....except for the driveway dogging, obv.... "
I'm the same but its not happened yet... |
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I’m a foreigner and I share a house with 2 friends, we work at different shifts so just imagine their faces if they see a couple getting out of my room ( I guess if is a woman won’t be that bad)
So accommodating for me is kind of a headache. Nothing to hide tho , just asume that not everyone could do it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t accommodate as I have a live I landlord and soon her daughter will be here too.
Once I get my own place I’ll accommodate but only after a few socials and I feel comfortable.. |
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