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Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit 
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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We’re not “abs fit “ and don’t go for abs fit. You look good from over here  |
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By *elloWoman
over a year ago
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Definitely, if I get a message from a really gymfit guy/couple I automatically think nah they've made a mistake in too big for them, and then I make a mistake of checking out their verifications and see all the stunning, slender women they've previously met.
I do tend to ignore those messages rather than go through the faff of arranging a meet just for then to be disappointed.
Meeting in a club is so much easier because people can then see each other and what they look like without camera filters, flattering poses and good lighting
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I've enough photos that they know what my body is like. I make no pretence to be other than I am, and that certainly isn't gym-fit! If they still choose to message then happy days, I'm not intimidated. |
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It's not an issue for me, because I don't get many messages anyway (and that's not a whinge or comlplaint, it's just a statement of fact)
However, without wanting to sound like I'm trying to blow smoke up your ass, I'd far rather get messages from someone like yourself, OP, or Hello - to me you're both far more attractive than gym bunnies anyway |
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By *avhonaWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Absolutely yes! I feel this way automatically...and regardless of how confident I should feel and how much I should accept my shape, it's intimidating to be approached by a hard body.
There is a body for everybody, however. And yours (super gorgeous btw) will be absolute perfection to someone else.
I find that it helps if that hard body is attached to someone who also appreciates my mind.  |
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over a year ago
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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I wouldn't worry, no one likes a stick. Curves for the win |
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over a year ago
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Other side of that spectrum is I’ve wanted to message you to say hi but I feel my body isn’t good enough so I haven’t x |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
We’re not “abs fit “ and don’t go for abs fit. You look good from over here "
Well you both look fit to me from here 
That’s what I mean, I would feel a little uncomfortable with someone who’s all ripped and I’ve got rolls in places that you shouldn’t have rolls  lol |
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"Definitely, if I get a message from a really gymfit guy/couple I automatically think nah they've made a mistake in too big for them, and then I make a mistake of checking out their verifications and see all the stunning, slender women they've previously met.
I do tend to ignore those messages rather than go through the faff of arranging a meet just for then to be disappointed.
Meeting in a club is so much easier because people can then see each other and what they look like without camera filters, flattering poses and good lighting
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Exactly my thoughts |
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"It is much more important to have a sexy personality. You have a sexy body too BTW. Embracing differences is part of what this is all about! X"
I think that’s something that I definitely need to work on with myself in accepting my own shape.
Awww thank you very much hun 
So have you |
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I used to think this myself. When a muscly guy says your body is amazing I used to think umm no it’s not and would think that they would want a really toned fit body but in my experience that’s not always the case. I never ignore messages from them as they are my type so if they like my body them I’m extremely happy. Being comfortable in your own skin and confident is much more sexy than having what you consider a perfectly toned fit body |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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He's messaged you so unless he's a any hole's a goal kind of guy I'd assume he likes you enough to want to know more.
Are the women in his verifications all toned gym bunnies, I doubt it.
You're a very attractive woman, why wouldn't he message you.
Life's short, Enjoy
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Not at all. I like to think people judge and message me for more than my body. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would be awesome to get a message from someone that out of my league  Just go with it, they're messaging you because they like what they see, even if you can't see it yourself! |
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"It's not an issue for me, because I don't get many messages anyway (and that's not a whinge or comlplaint, it's just a statement of fact)
However, without wanting to sound like I'm trying to blow smoke up your ass, I'd far rather get messages from someone like yourself, OP, or Hello - to me you're both far more attractive than gym bunnies anyway"
Awww that’s very sweet of you to say hun, thank you
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"Yes, I do, very much so. Infact only yesterday it happened to me! 
Jo.Xx
Awww jo I know the feeling.
I’ve just not replied to one message this morning since the guys body is just heavenly lol
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Hahaha I did exactly the same thing! 
*Just incase he seees this! Sorry!
Jo.Xx |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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I can sometimes feel a bit like that. But I try and remind myself that we all come in different shapes and sizes. And my character is what is really important rather than this meat vessel I’m inhabiting |
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No OP, they can see what I’m like and I make no secret that everything wobbles and I’ve never set foot in a gym since I left school.
You are a beautiful lady, embrace it, they obviously like what they see  |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
Absolutely yes! I feel this way automatically...and regardless of how confident I should feel and how much I should accept my shape, it's intimidating to be approached by a hard body.
There is a body for everybody, however. And yours (super gorgeous btw) will be absolute perfection to someone else.
I find that it helps if that hard body is attached to someone who also appreciates my mind. "
Your comment is just lovely hun, yes definitely.
Fab for me is a mental attraction just as much as a physical attraction.
Both need to be there |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
We’re not “abs fit “ and don’t go for abs fit. You look good from over here
Well you both look fit to me from here
That’s what I mean, I would feel a little uncomfortable with someone who’s all ripped and I’ve got rolls in places that you shouldn’t have rolls lol"
We tend to prefer the personalities of people who aren’t ripped than those who are. Did someone say rolls?... Bread rolls? We do like a bread roll |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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you look good |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
Other side of that spectrum is I’ve wanted to message you to say hi but I feel my body isn’t good enough so I haven’t x"
There always another side to it, isn’t there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not in the slightest. My profile shows my size quite clearly so if they message me I assume they have seen that I'm a fatty. However I don't generally go for abs fit type guys anyway. I prefer tall chunky dad bods |
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"It is much more important to have a sexy personality. You have a sexy body too BTW. Embracing differences is part of what this is all about! X
I think that’s something that I definitely need to work on with myself in accepting my own shape.
Awww thank you very much hun
So have you "
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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You Look Gorgeous and Busty to Me xx 
Be Happy in you're own body not what others have....
You have assets they make like xx |
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"I used to think this myself. When a muscly guy says your body is amazing I used to think umm no it’s not and would think that they would want a really toned fit body but in my experience that’s not always the case. I never ignore messages from them as they are my type so if they like my body them I’m extremely happy. Being comfortable in your own skin and confident is much more sexy than having what you consider a perfectly toned fit body "
Sounds like I’ve got a little work to do on my thoughts of myself.
I might just need to find a guy who has a body of steel to make me think differently lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don’t feel intimidated by anyone on here. I pretty much only get messages from people who are interested in something I’ve posted, like something about my profile or pics or are friends. None of those reasons are intimidating for me. How others look doesn’t intimidate me at all. |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
He's messaged you so unless he's a any hole's a goal kind of guy I'd assume he likes you enough to want to know more.
Are the women in his verifications all toned gym bunnies, I doubt it.
You're a very attractive woman, why wouldn't he message you.
Life's short, Enjoy
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Awww thank you very much for saying that
I promise this thread wasn’t made to receive compliments lol
I’ve not even looked into the message or profile yet. I might have a peek into it and see his verification |
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By (user no longer on site)
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GB here. Everyone has different tastes and many are mature enough to find beauty in anyone where there is a connection, personality is more important anyway.
Physically I have little to no interest in slim or toned women. It's not attractive to me at all. I am far more drawn to curvy and large women. So to me, you, and the majority of the women in this tread are very sexy, more so than a those with a "model body".
Be happy and confident in who you are. |
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"I don't feel intimidated, I just don't like this types of bodies. I mean it's their choice but rock hard abs on a man aren't for me at all. I prefer bears "
I do like the thoughts of running my hands down a rock hard abs though.
I’m the same as you as I like the cozy cuddles |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do! As a woman it’s really easy to compare yourself, I do it all the time as I’m not stuck thin and have lumps and bump.
Op you have a beautiful figure, you really needn’t feel intimidated at all
L x |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
Not at all. I like to think people judge and message me for more than my body."
That’s the hope for a lot hopefully
You are gorgeous |
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"Yes, I do, very much so. Infact only yesterday it happened to me!
Jo.Xx
Awww jo I know the feeling.
I’ve just not replied to one message this morning since the guys body is just heavenly lol
Hahaha I did exactly the same thing!
*Just incase he seees this! Sorry!
Jo.Xx "
Lol Jo
I say read the message and reply sexy lady |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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I personally was a little more intimidated my the other guys on here when I first joined I'm not exactly the buff type |
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"No OP, they can see what I’m like and I make no secret that everything wobbles and I’ve never set foot in a gym since I left school.
You are a beautiful lady, embrace it, they obviously like what they see "
Thank you four hours, you look mighty fine for not stepping in the gym
I think I’m missing just gym workout and it’s making me feel that little bit more wobbly :/
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
We’re not “abs fit “ and don’t go for abs fit. You look good from over here
Well you both look fit to me from here
That’s what I mean, I would feel a little uncomfortable with someone who’s all ripped and I’ve got rolls in places that you shouldn’t have rolls lol We tend to prefer the personalities of people who aren’t ripped than those who are. Did someone say rolls?... Bread rolls? We do like a bread roll "
Haha I’ve have a few spares if you’d like to take some. I’d happily donate them
Personality overrules it a lot I think, it might just be giving someone that chance first to be able to get a glimpse of it, without messaging back I’ll never know
Awww I do feel a lot better now tho
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"It is much more important to have a sexy personality. You have a sexy body too BTW. Embracing differences is part of what this is all about! X
This and Proportion x"
Hahaha yes we know a lot about that don’t we
Hope you are well hun |
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I wouldn’t say intimidated, but sometimes I question whether they actually fancy me or whether they’re just on ‘a sex site’ so are trying their luck with everyone. |
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"Not in the slightest. My profile shows my size quite clearly so if they message me I assume they have seen that I'm a fatty. However I don't generally go for abs fit type guys anyway. I prefer tall chunky dad bods "
Plenty of chucky dads bods around.
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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1. Nope I wouldnt
2. I wish I got the messages
3. if I did I would be flattered (and shocked)
4. be yourself, enjoy the compliments and messages, sort the wheat from the chaff and enjoy fab ! |
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"It is much more important to have a sexy personality. You have a sexy body too BTW. Embracing differences is part of what this is all about! X
This and Proportion x
Hahaha yes we know a lot about that don’t we
Hope you are well hun "
Your a stunner x |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
You Look Gorgeous and Busty to Me xx
Be Happy in you're own body not what others have....
You have assets they make like xx "
Thank you
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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You have absolutely nothing to feel intimidated about Gobby, curves are way more fun |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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I definitely do but then Iv never been very confident in my own body so the fact that anyone wants me is a surprise to me at times. But I guess at some point it’s gotta sink in. I do laugh when they call me fit and ask do I need a partner for the gym  do I look like I go to the gym nope I’d rather eat cake |
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"GB here. Everyone has different tastes and many are mature enough to find beauty in anyone where there is a connection, personality is more important anyway.
Physically I have little to no interest in slim or toned women. It's not attractive to me at all. I am far more drawn to curvy and large women. So to me, you, and the majority of the women in this tread are very sexy, more so than a those with a "model body".
Be happy and confident in who you are."
Ohhh I love this
It was just a thought that ran through my mind after this mornings message and thought it would be nice to have others thoughts.
Stupidly (as I should feel it anyways)
This thread has made me think a little differently |
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Not intimidated. Sometimes though I do wonder why they contacted me and whether I'm just part of a scattergun approach.
I'm usually a good judge of who is a good match for me though so trust my instincts as to who to reply to. |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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There are plenty of shapes and sizes to suit everyone! Just ignore any negativity and keep smiling |
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"I do! As a woman it’s really easy to compare yourself, I do it all the time as I’m not stuck thin and have lumps and bump.
Op you have a beautiful figure, you really needn’t feel intimidated at all
L x"
I think it’s only natural to compare sometimes.
We all have certain insecurities.
Thank you Hun |
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I'd stress what others have said. If you have enough photos that someone can reasonably see your body type etc.and they still message, then they're making an educated choice.Remember as well that they might be just as intrigued by your profile text and forum contributions as the photos.
If you like the look of them, and they like the look of you, then just take a deep breath and message back.
As a wise person once said, it's better to regret the chances you took than the chances you didn't |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
I personally was a little more intimidated my the other guys on here when I first joined I'm not exactly the buff type "
Is it better now that you’ve been on here a while?? |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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I think it’s always key to remember how much of that is self-imposes; we are often our own harshest critic and have negative views that very few others would share.
I do it.....I’d like bigger arms, bigger specs, flatter abs, more definition....yadda yadda. Most people who may be interested in me would probably just want me to be engaging and not an asshole....all of ‘my stuff’ would be irrelevant.
Don’t talk yourself into a poor self image which doesn’t exist, especially when every pics you’ve takes so far suggests you’re gorgeous. |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Intimidated? No
Jealous,hell yes,but definitely not intimidated |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think exactly the same as you I cant understand why anyone would look at me at 50 all soft and wobbly with boobs down to the floor when they clearly spend hours in the gym. It baffles me and I feel so out of their league x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gobby you have nothing to be worried about...such a stunning girl and very sweet too.
Don’t compare yourself with others because you don’t need to change anything, you’re already the best version of you.
Big love lady!
T.W.O xxx |
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By *91kMan
over a year ago
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"But they’ve messaged you after seeing your pics and obviously like what they’ve seen? Nah. Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder "
This... Body types don't have to match! If you like what you see then you like what you see, it's all subjective  |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
You have absolutely nothing to feel intimidated about Gobby, curves are way more fun "
More to play with ?? Haha |
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Not really. I'm more bothered if they actively show a strong preference for a body type that is different to mine either slim or large. I don't want anyone to settle for me. Both my long term partner and a guy I've been seeing are attracted to a wide range of body types. I've witnessed that both in the images they like online and the women they date. That doesn't bother me. I'm not saying I'm upset by them also being attracted to anyone with a different body type to me. What I mean is when I am very clearly an exception, that doesn't sit comfortably with me. I had it once on an online dating app when a guy had on his profile that he was only into women under size 12. When he messaged me I explained I was outside his preferences. He told me I "carried it well" and he was still interested. I'm not down for that. |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Confidence and fitness are not always linked together. It’s only been the last couple of years that I’ve started to feel body confident, and I’m nowhere near as fit these days as I used to be. I always felt I was too hairy and too short. Now though, I don’t care. Physically I’m still trading off all the martial arts I did about 15 years ago. These days I cycle and do a bit of yoga occasionally but that’s all.
As for attraction, I find lots of different body types very desirable. Personality draws me in far more than a physical type. You’re beautiful inside and out. You have every right to be confident Xx |
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I messaged a lady on here and she replied saying you do realise I'm not slim 
I'm not gym fit, I was a little surprised at her reply. Plenty of good pics so was well aware what she looked like. |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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i definitely don't look for abs in a woman |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"I definitely do but then Iv never been very confident in my own body so the fact that anyone wants me is a surprise to me at times. But I guess at some point it’s gotta sink in. I do laugh when they call me fit and ask do I need a partner for the gym do I look like I go to the gym nope I’d rather eat cake
Hahaha yes busty...let’s have some cakes together
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Everyone see's themselves in different light, so what you see in the mirror and then think, might not match what someone else see's and thinks, which can work both ways! Personally aslong as I'm attracted to the person I'm always happy too chat/meet etc, if I'm not attracted to them or vice versa, I'd always be happy to chat but with the caviat that it's ublikely to go further than that |
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"I'd stress what others have said. If you have enough photos that someone can reasonably see your body type etc.and they still message, then they're making an educated choice.Remember as well that they might be just as intrigued by your profile text and forum contributions as the photos.
If you like the look of them, and they like the look of you, then just take a deep breath and message back.
As a wise person once said, it's better to regret the chances you took than the chances you didn't "
Sound advice O” wise one |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
I think it’s always key to remember how much of that is self-imposes; we are often our own harshest critic and have negative views that very few others would share.
I do it.....I’d like bigger arms, bigger specs, flatter abs, more definition....yadda yadda. Most people who may be interested in me would probably just want me to be engaging and not an asshole....all of ‘my stuff’ would be irrelevant.
Don’t talk yourself into a poor self image which doesn’t exist, especially when every pics you’ve takes so far suggests you’re gorgeous."
We all can be greedy with wanting more right
Thank you Hun, it just made me wonder a little |
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"I think exactly the same as you I cant understand why anyone would look at me at 50 all soft and wobbly with boobs down to the floor when they clearly spend hours in the gym. It baffles me and I feel so out of their league x "
I would be very pleased with myself if I had a body like yours at 50. |
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By *91kMan
over a year ago
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"I definitely do but then Iv never been very confident in my own body so the fact that anyone wants me is a surprise to me at times. But I guess at some point it’s gotta sink in. I do laugh when they call me fit and ask do I need a partner for the gym do I look like I go to the gym nope I’d rather eat cake
Hahaha yes busty...let’s have some cakes together
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Can we have a cake three way |
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"Gobby you have nothing to be worried about...such a stunning girl and very sweet too.
Don’t compare yourself with others because you don’t need to change anything, you’re already the best version of you.
Big love lady!
T.W.O xxx"
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"Not really. I'm more bothered if they actively show a strong preference for a body type that is different to mine either slim or large. I don't want anyone to settle for me. Both my long term partner and a guy I've been seeing are attracted to a wide range of body types. I've witnessed that both in the images they like online and the women they date. That doesn't bother me. I'm not saying I'm upset by them also being attracted to anyone with a different body type to me. What I mean is when I am very clearly an exception, that doesn't sit comfortably with me. I had it once on an online dating app when a guy had on his profile that he was only into women under size 12. When he messaged me I explained I was outside his preferences. He told me I "carried it well" and he was still interested. I'm not down for that."
I get what you mean. I would be put off from a profile that had that out down too.
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
Confidence and fitness are not always linked together. It’s only been the last couple of years that I’ve started to feel body confident, and I’m nowhere near as fit these days as I used to be. I always felt I was too hairy and too short. Now though, I don’t care. Physically I’m still trading off all the martial arts I did about 15 years ago. These days I cycle and do a bit of yoga occasionally but that’s all.
As for attraction, I find lots of different body types very desirable. Personality draws me in far more than a physical type. You’re beautiful inside and out. You have every right to be confident Xx"
Oh George...can you teach me a few martial arts move |
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"I messaged a lady on here and she replied saying you do realise I'm not slim
I'm not gym fit, I was a little surprised at her reply. Plenty of good pics so was well aware what she looked like."
It’s exactly that!!! She felt like she needed to point it out even tho it was visible how she looked. |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
i definitely don't look for abs in a woman "
What are you looking for then lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I do understand what you mean OP - I've felt like that before. It doesn't help when those who say they're attracted to all shapes and sizes bitch/make disparaging comments about a person's weight either. I think the best thing to do is to have more self belief and confidence in your own attractiveness; if you have photos up that show your shape and they still message you they clearly see something they like.
(Also I get a lot of gym fit, ripped men messaging me. I think they might like the contrast between my blob state and their chiselled selves ) |
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"I definitely do but then Iv never been very confident in my own body so the fact that anyone wants me is a surprise to me at times. But I guess at some point it’s gotta sink in. I do laugh when they call me fit and ask do I need a partner for the gym do I look like I go to the gym nope I’d rather eat cake
Hahaha yes busty...let’s have some cakes together
Can we have a cake three way "
You might not get much cake if me and busty are there. |
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"You're beautiful, and you also have a lovely personality which shows on here.
He obviously likes what he sees, what the worst that could happen?"
Awwww gorgoues hippychick.
I’ve replied back and yes no harm can be done
Thank you Hun |
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Never ceases to amaze me the fit young men who message.
Whilst they have no intention of dating me (and vice versa thank god). They certainly seem to love a curvy older fat lass.
Who knew x |
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I really love a toned mind with curves
What's the use in being intimidated by either a body or a mind? I doubt the other person would wish that for you so if they're talking and showing interest then there must be something about you that's attractive to them, so be grateful and smile innit |
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By *91kMan
over a year ago
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"Not really. I'm more bothered if they actively show a strong preference for a body type that is different to mine either slim or large. I don't want anyone to settle for me. Both my long term partner and a guy I've been seeing are attracted to a wide range of body types. I've witnessed that both in the images they like online and the women they date. That doesn't bother me. I'm not saying I'm upset by them also being attracted to anyone with a different body type to me. What I mean is when I am very clearly an exception, that doesn't sit comfortably with me. I had it once on an online dating app when a guy had on his profile that he was only into women under size 12. When he messaged me I explained I was outside his preferences. He told me I "carried it well" and he was still interested. I'm not down for that."
That's not cool... You either like the look of someone or you don't, don't make them feel shit about being 'an exception'
I would never back handedly compliment someone like that, make your interest clear and approach/treat all the same. Or don't bother |
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If someone messages I'd assume they like what they see regardless of their body type.
I'm skinny unfortunately but generally I prefer women to have some curves, big boobs and or bum. if that means they don't have abs then I wouldn't be too fussed.
Don't worry about them being "gym fit". If they think you're sexy then that's all that matters which you definitely are btw OP |
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"You're beautiful, and you also have a lovely personality which shows on here.
He obviously likes what he sees, what the worst that could happen?
Awwww gorgoues hippychick.
I’ve replied back and yes no harm can be done
Thank you Hun "
Yay , it might be the start of a beautiful thing |
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"I do understand what you mean OP - I've felt like that before. It doesn't help when those who say they're attracted to all shapes and sizes bitch/make disparaging comments about a person's weight either. I think the best thing to do is to have more self belief and confidence in your own attractiveness; if you have photos up that show your shape and they still message you they clearly see something they like.
(Also I get a lot of gym fit, ripped men messaging me. I think they might like the contrast between my blob state and their chiselled selves )"
Haha _eli
I’m definitely going to try working on that self confidence thing everyone’s talking about.
Can’t help but think like that sometimes tho |
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"I really love a toned mind with curves
What's the use in being intimidated by either a body or a mind? I doubt the other person would wish that for you so if they're talking and showing interest then there must be something about you that's attractive to them, so be grateful and smile innit "
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By *91kMan
over a year ago
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"I definitely do but then Iv never been very confident in my own body so the fact that anyone wants me is a surprise to me at times. But I guess at some point it’s gotta sink in. I do laugh when they call me fit and ask do I need a partner for the gym do I look like I go to the gym nope I’d rather eat cake
Hahaha yes busty...let’s have some cakes together
Can we have a cake three way
You might not get much cake if me and busty are there. "
Well I'm moving to Derry soon (she's too irresistible not to )
Move in with us and we can eat cake 24/7 haha |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
Confidence and fitness are not always linked together. It’s only been the last couple of years that I’ve started to feel body confident, and I’m nowhere near as fit these days as I used to be. I always felt I was too hairy and too short. Now though, I don’t care. Physically I’m still trading off all the martial arts I did about 15 years ago. These days I cycle and do a bit of yoga occasionally but that’s all.
As for attraction, I find lots of different body types very desirable. Personality draws me in far more than a physical type. You’re beautiful inside and out. You have every right to be confident Xx
Oh George...can you teach me a few martial arts move "
I can sure try But you have to promise not to hurt me! I was never very good and I’m a big wuss |
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"If someone messages I'd assume they like what they see regardless of their body type.
I'm skinny unfortunately but generally I prefer women to have some curves, big boobs and or bum. if that means they don't have abs then I wouldn't be too fussed.
Don't worry about them being "gym fit". If they think you're sexy then that's all that matters which you definitely are btw OP "
Thank you Hun. Taken that on board |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Nah. If they're daft enough to talk to me in the first place, they can't be all that. |
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"You're beautiful, and you also have a lovely personality which shows on here.
He obviously likes what he sees, what the worst that could happen?
Awwww gorgoues hippychick.
I’ve replied back and yes no harm can be done
Thank you Hun
Yay , it might be the start of a beautiful thing "
here’s hoping |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"I definitely do but then Iv never been very confident in my own body so the fact that anyone wants me is a surprise to me at times. But I guess at some point it’s gotta sink in. I do laugh when they call me fit and ask do I need a partner for the gym do I look like I go to the gym nope I’d rather eat cake
Hahaha yes busty...let’s have some cakes together
Can we have a cake three way
You might not get much cake if me and busty are there.
Well I'm moving to Derry soon (she's too irresistible not to )
Move in with us and we can eat cake 24/7 haha"
still not sending you that pic |
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I used to, OP. I'd been in a fairly shitty relationship and my self esteem wasn't great. I now understand that plenty of fit guys prefer curvy women, so I'm accepting of how I look and flattered that they contact me.
Whether I'll feel quite so confident after 14weeks of isolation and little chance for exercise, who knows! |
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By *91kMan
over a year ago
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"I definitely do but then Iv never been very confident in my own body so the fact that anyone wants me is a surprise to me at times. But I guess at some point it’s gotta sink in. I do laugh when they call me fit and ask do I need a partner for the gym do I look like I go to the gym nope I’d rather eat cake
Hahaha yes busty...let’s have some cakes together
Can we have a cake three way
You might not get much cake if me and busty are there.
Well I'm moving to Derry soon (she's too irresistible not to )
Move in with us and we can eat cake 24/7 haha
still not sending you that pic "
Plenty of time to work on that hehe |
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No never, however I do consider if we would match. If I see verifications and all the ladies are stick thin I think that is their preferance, therefor I won't suit them. |
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"No never, however I do consider if we would match. If I see verifications and all the ladies are stick thin I think that is their preferance, therefor I won't suit them. "
you look gorgeous as you are |
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"I used to think this myself. When a muscly guy says your body is amazing I used to think umm no it’s not and would think that they would want a really toned fit body but in my experience that’s not always the case. I never ignore messages from them as they are my type so if they like my body them I’m extremely happy. Being comfortable in your own skin and confident is much more sexy than having what you consider a perfectly toned fit body
Sounds like I’ve got a little work to do on my thoughts of myself.
I might just need to find a guy who has a body of steel to make me think differently lol
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Being on here has done wonders for my body confidence. I’m not happy with my body but I’m not as hung up about it as I used to be and I met up with some incredibly fit handsome men that usually come back for more. So that in itself gives me confidence |
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"I've enough photos that they know what my body is like. I make no pretence to be other than I am, and that certainly isn't gym-fit! If they still choose to message then happy days, I'm not intimidated."
Exactly this for me too. Xx |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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If they've contacted you it's clearly because they've found your profile appealing. Be thankful for the interest and follow it to where it may lead. Don't sabotage your experience here with self doubt or overthinking |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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You have an amazing figure, is not surprising you are getting attention..
Maybe you need to realise that the way you are looking at yourself is wrong, if so many others are looking at you in a positive light.
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I think people worry too much about their selves externally. It’s doesnt matter if you gain or lose weight! Most people’s weight changes through their lives! As long as you’re fully functional what the hell! Aye! |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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From a guys point of view, I understand.
If I see a woman, amazing toned and ridiculously pretty, I'm def wondering if will get a reply or anything.
I've not got the worst bod, or best by far, but I get you |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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I recently checked you out and from what I can see you look lovely be happy with yourself you've got no reason to feel intimidated |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
We’re not “abs fit “ and don’t go for abs fit. You look good from over here "
Yes, I agree, look good from over here to!! |
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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Clearly they liked what they saw so don't worry about it reply and see how things go |
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"Is it me or do others feel a little intimidated when you have messages from other fabbers who have the most perfectly toned abs and a body to drool over?
I’m a curvaceous lady and clearly not abs fit
I automatically think that someone who’s so dedicated to working out that much would surely want someone all toned.
it’s obviously my own thoughts but would love to hear your as well.
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Youbshould never feel intimidated if someone messages you in a friendly and polite way. Everyone is attracted to different shapes sizes and looks. Also they say opposites attract.
If someone is super hot and has you drooling....message back and hopegully have fun |
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"It is much more important to have a sexy personality. You have a sexy body too BTW. Embracing differences is part of what this is all about! X"
Def agree here. The person, there attitude and overall presence can be more attractive than body shape.
We may all have a visually appealing preference, but so much more attractiveness within, chatting talking, personality etc etc |
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"GB here. Everyone has different tastes and many are mature enough to find beauty in anyone where there is a connection, personality is more important anyway.
Physically I have little to no interest in slim or toned women. It's not attractive to me at all. I am far more drawn to curvy and large women. So to me, you, and the majority of the women in this tread are very sexy, more so than a those with a "model body".
Be happy and confident in who you are.
Ohhh I love this
It was just a thought that ran through my mind after this mornings message and thought it would be nice to have others thoughts.
Stupidly (as I should feel it anyways)
This thread has made me think a little differently "
Don't worry _obbychick, you're extremely sexy.
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