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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself "
Single man is a cross dresser at heart but is afraid to do so and tell others in case they judge him. So he’s miserable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
Single man is a cross dresser at heart but is afraid to do so and tell others in case they judge him. So he’s miserable "
Someone pretending to be straight because ‘some people won’t meet bisexual people’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah as in going after your true desires? Then yes. Within my limitations. Things I am not able to change I need to learnt to accept. And those I can, go after them relentlessly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We like to think we are. Would rather have tried something and failed than not tried for fear of facing. Regret doing something... Don't regret not doing it if that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ah as in going after your true desires? Then yes. Within my limitations. Things I am not able to change I need to learnt to accept. And those I can, go after them relentlessly. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself "
Ah, okay, with you now. I think I am mostly true to myself, although not at work for now, I love my work. I have my quirks, which I do not hide, opinionated (opinions are malleable though). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself "
That Isn't necessarily about being true to yourself or not.
I want to quit my job and go travelling around the world but that's not practical right now, but just because I don't do what I want doesn't mean I'm not true to myself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
That Isn't necessarily about being true to yourself or not.
I want to quit my job and go travelling around the world but that's not practical right now, but just because I don't do what I want doesn't mean I'm not true to myself."
True |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
That Isn't necessarily about being true to yourself or not.
I want to quit my job and go travelling around the world but that's not practical right now, but just because I don't do what I want doesn't mean I'm not true to myself."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try to be as true to myself as I possibly can in every given situation.
Despite this there are some scenarios i wouldn't reveal my kink self at a christmas party with colleagues etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
That Isn't necessarily about being true to yourself or not.
I want to quit my job and go travelling around the world but that's not practical right now, but just because I don't do what I want doesn't mean I'm not true to myself.
True"
I think your example about someone saying they are straight when really there are because some people won't meet them is about pretending to be someone you are not. So no it instant they are not being true to who they are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
That Isn't necessarily about being true to yourself or not.
I want to quit my job and go travelling around the world but that's not practical right now, but just because I don't do what I want doesn't mean I'm not true to myself.
True
I think your example about someone saying they are straight when really there are because some people won't meet them is about pretending to be someone you are not. So no it instant they are not being true to who they are. "
Aye
That’s why I wrote it lol. Realised the first one was a bit ‘meh’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely true to myself, what you see here is what you get, no game playing or superficialness
If I like you, you'll know.
If I don't, you'll know
And if your my friend then what a lucky duck you are!  |
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I believe I am true to myself. I'd describe myself as an Ethical Hedonist so not as selfish as a pure Hedonist and I'd never force or coerce anyone to do anything they didn't want to do. I believe in giving as much pleasure as receiving it. And I will always help a fellow human before I'd hurt them. |
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself "
Some people have to make and mend do, ie just adapting to the situation at that particular time.
You look good in Blue Queenie   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
Some people have to make and mend do, ie just adapting to the situation at that particular time.
You look good in Blue Queenie "
Aye I gave more examples cause that one was shit
And thank you! |
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Not always. Sometimes I know I justify things to myself that I really shouldn't. Also I will occasionally do things I normally wouldn't for the sake of harmony. But if I know I'm doing that and it's part of who I am does that make me true to myself anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not always. Sometimes I know I justify things to myself that I really shouldn't. Also I will occasionally do things I normally wouldn't for the sake of harmony. But if I know I'm doing that and it's part of who I am does that make me true to myself anyway? "
Good question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I should be swimming around the Pacific living my best mermaid life.
On land, I struggle a bit with other people’s expectations of me. I feel that sometimes people set the bar too high for me and when I do achieve something they tell me a job well done, but I never feel like I earn it.
I think people also expect me to do everything with a smile on my face all the time and be a ray of sunshine when some days I’m more of a rain cloud but then I feel like I’m letting people down when I feel like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you true to yourself?"
No....but I’m learning, we are frequently conditioned into certain behaviours from a young age. it’s difficult to be true to your self as often this comes at a cost.....truck being balancing the two. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Are you true to yourself?
No....but I’m learning, we are frequently conditioned into certain behaviours from a young age. it’s difficult to be true to your self as often this comes at a cost.....truck being balancing the two. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No. I should be swimming around the Pacific living my best mermaid life.
On land, I struggle a bit with other people’s expectations of me. I feel that sometimes people set the bar too high for me and when I do achieve something they tell me a job well done, but I never feel like I earn it.
I think people also expect me to do everything with a smile on my face all the time and be a ray of sunshine when some days I’m more of a rain cloud but then I feel like I’m letting people down when I feel like that. "
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Within reason, yes I am, and more so as I have got older and am even less concerned about what others think I should do.
I don't feel the need to conform but nor do I want to cause offence or lose my job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I should be swimming around the Pacific living my best mermaid life.
On land, I struggle a bit with other people’s expectations of me. I feel that sometimes people set the bar too high for me and when I do achieve something they tell me a job well done, but I never feel like I earn it.
I think people also expect me to do everything with a smile on my face all the time and be a ray of sunshine when some days I’m more of a rain cloud but then I feel like I’m letting people down when I feel like that.
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So in short, I’d like to live life more as a fuck up on occasion rather than a competent ray of sunshine. I don’t know what I’m doing I’m just a blagger that gets lucky  |
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself "
But her responsibility to her child overwhelms it I'd say.
I did a job a hated for years until the kids were old enough for me to change.
Sometimes you can't be totally true to yourself because of responsibility be it kids, Bill's to pay, older family to care for.
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself "
Sometimes lifes practicalities can get in the way of being 100% true to yourself. In this case the single Mum has to be realistic and put her children and her own welfare first before her own dreams. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a line in a song by Catatonia that goes "If you live a lie then you die a Liar"... ?
Oooooo
I thought of you with this thread  "
you did ? As in one of the examples im guessing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think there are varying ways of being true to yourself.
To start, sticking to your principles, morals and beliefs. You may be flexible with them at times if you feel it's justified/for greater good/ are making a conscious decision to do so rather than spouting one thing and then thinking it doesn't apply to you. "Do as I say not as I do" kinda people (the mother was one of those  lead by example woman!)
There is a tendency tho if you do have a flexible moment, it will run a limited course as your inner voice and instinct will tell you "it's not you" and normal service will resume.
Being honest with yourself. Listening to your inner monologue (as long as it's the nice cherub sitting on your shoulder and not the one with horns)
I also think being true to yourself can take on another phase. I think it's also about giving yourselves the best chance to be good humans.
We all have baggage, we have all been shaped by nature and the most damaging one, nurture. Experiences have made us the way we are.
I think being true to ourselves can also mean stripping that back. Yes we can use being cunted off as an excuse to act like a prick to everyone, but why should we? Aren't we doing ourselves and other people a disservice? Yes we've learned things the hard way, and no, some people absolutely shouldn't be maybe forgiven or given second chances in our lives, but for me, being true to myself means dealing with those things, those feelings, those fears and anxieties and working on becoming less of a headfuck over them. I owe that to me. I came into this world a beautiful soul and I intend on leaving it a beautiful soul.
I can be a fucking bitch, I know I can, and in some circumstances I make no apology for it right now, but eventually with the self esteem to truly believe those who have wronged me without taking responsibility for their actions coz they're grade A cunts will get their visit from the karma bus or I dunno, fuck off and die somewhere and their oxygen theft will no longer haunt me, I can find that part of my true self that is peace.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been thinking it's not always possible to be fully true to yourself. .. I'm currently working for a company I detest... The way they treat staff and customers is awfull and the companies core ethics fly in the face of my own at times ..but I need to eat and live so whilst this crisis continues I have to bite the bullet  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been thinking it's not always possible to be fully true to yourself. .. I'm currently working for a company I detest... The way they treat staff and customers is awfull and the companies core ethics fly in the face of my own at times ..but I need to eat and live so whilst this crisis continues I have to bite the bullet "
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"No I lie to myself daily so I don't feel so bad for everyone else I speak to.
The only time I ever lie to myself is in the morning when I look in the mirror and think I'm good looking  "
I can’t even do that |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I've been thinking it's not always possible to be fully true to yourself. .. I'm currently working for a company I detest... The way they treat staff and customers is awfull and the companies core ethics fly in the face of my own at times ..but I need to eat and live so whilst this crisis continues I have to bite the bullet "
You can still do the right thing in your capacity while you plan your exit, and try and make a difference. Had to do this a few times in the past, doesn’t always make you popular! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been thinking it's not always possible to be fully true to yourself. .. I'm currently working for a company I detest... The way they treat staff and customers is awfull and the companies core ethics fly in the face of my own at times ..but I need to eat and live so whilst this crisis continues I have to bite the bullet
You can still do the right thing in your capacity while you plan your exit, and try and make a difference. Had to do this a few times in the past, doesn’t always make you popular! "
yes I try to in my humble capacity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I believe mentally we all like to think that we are being true to ourselves but in reality that's most often than not a lie.
Whether it be pushing aside our wants for practicalitys sake, or caving into our desires to block out the dullness of reality.
It's a very open ended question one which can be left open to interpretation; plus the majority of us tend to hide behind our own virtual mask or party personas when it comes to meeting.
As much as a vast number of people strive to be honest with themselves we often tend to hide more from our own self than we do from others. Some of it is deliberate and some of it is habitual due to denial and fear. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"I believe mentally we all like to think that we are being true to ourselves but in reality that's most often than not a lie.
Whether it be pushing aside our wants for practicalitys sake, or caving into our desires to block out the dullness of reality.
It's a very open ended question one which can be left open to interpretation; plus the majority of us tend to hide behind our own virtual mask or party personas when it comes to meeting.
As much as a vast number of people strive to be honest with themselves we often tend to hide more from our own self than we do from others. Some of it is deliberate and some of it is habitual due to denial and fear. "
Tbh... yes 
I try x |
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
Single man is a cross dresser at heart but is afraid to do so and tell others in case they judge him. So he’s miserable "
In this case I'm 100% true to myself as im in a place im happy with being in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
Single man is a cross dresser at heart but is afraid to do so and tell others in case they judge him. So he’s miserable
In this case I'm 100% true to myself as im in a place im happy with being in "
Yay!! Love that you’re happy x
I’m true to myself too. I can be a brat, quirky, fragile at times, but I’m also a Queen. I fight for what matters to me, and don’t seek to hurt others for my own self gratification, and if I can’t change something i acknowledge that fact- even if I don’t always accept what’s being offered, as the best option. I love my life and love those in it. Wouldn’t change me, as I don’t think I need to x Viv x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Example;
Bored single mum. Wants to quit her job, but doesn’t. Wants to be a total punk princess but instead is stuck being a receptionist. She’s miserable. Not being true to herself
Single man is a cross dresser at heart but is afraid to do so and tell others in case they judge him. So he’s miserable "
Quite guy really wants to tell the asshole he has to work with exactly what he thinks of him ..but he doesn't .. |
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