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over a year ago
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"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy? "
Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?
Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!!"
Yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There’s been an influx of Lamborghini’s driving through my town and also seen an F12 Berlinetta, I *think* one of the boys I know is opening his gym illegally and letting these out of towners use it cos I’ve seen them parked outside it.
Listening to these cars and seeing them I get jealous, it’s more than envy, it’s like fuck I wish I had that.
Motors make me feel jealous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My penis is something I hide, the five inches gives me no pride, it would make no women zealous, nor other men jealous. And I'm ashamed that it's only that wide! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair  that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!! 
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I read this as if Jo had chest hair and you were jealous hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?
Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!!"
Yeah that makes sense. Jealousy being toxic form of envy? |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm not sure if it is desire, jelouse, inspiration or just me dreaming, but being a transvestite I put a lot of effort into being (looking) feminine .
When I look at people like yourself OP my heart melts because I know I will never look that good.xx |
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"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!
D.
I read this as if Jo had chest hair and you were jealous hahaha"
If she had two I would be
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?
Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!!"
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature...
And yet envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, weird innit  "
Yeah but the church doesn’t want you to be competitive. Just well behaved and accepting that you have nothing and they have everything. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!
D."
Please don't!  |
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"Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature...
And yet envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, weird innit
Yeah but the church doesn’t want you to be competitive. Just well behaved and accepting that you have nothing and they have everything."
Sounds about right |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jealousy is definitely destructive. Envy, I suppose, could motivate those with a competitive nature...
And yet envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, weird innit
Yeah but the church doesn’t want you to be competitive. Just well behaved and accepting that you have nothing and they have everything.
Sounds about right "
Ooooh. Work mellowing you out now? |
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"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!
D.
Please don't! "
smooth all the way?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is negative.
Any kind of comparison also if not managed properly can lead into negativity.
Morning lovely. But it’s part of human nature isn’t it?  "
Morning. It is. I am not saying it's easy to control or avoid. |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
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"Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?"
Yes it does have value into people improving themselves.
Jealously isnt always a negative it can also be a positive,it really goes on who's jealous and to the extreme it's taken to and that goes on the person who jealous
But we are all human at the end of the day and jealously is a emotion like any other, so jealously can be turned into a positive like anything else |
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Oh and to answer your actual question OP I do think that it depends on the individuals as to whether they can use their jealousy in a positive way to improve themselves. I think some people definitely can if that's what drives them |
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Having experienced jealousy and the terrible things it does, I can't see how it can be used as a positive tool. Envy sure, that can be a driving force but jealousy has only ever shown itself to be ugly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Envy can be a motivator.
Jealousy on the other hand can lead to sneaky sneak sneak behaviour and underhanded actions, where people show devious tendencies to get what they want, regardless of the destruction it may cause. In my mind it's where they put themselves at the forefront and screw everyone.
Jealousy is a huge umbrella term which covers a massive amount of feelings actually, most of them stemming from insecurities. But a nasty personality and jealous tendencies it's the perfect storm for a big ole clusterfuck.
We often say we're jealous, of food someone is eating or their new puppy when in fact we're not really.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?
Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!!"
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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"Well Jo seems to have a thing about a little chest hair that gets to me!! I have one hair!! Not sure if that’s jealousy or envy I just know I’m gunna make them hairs grow out of my chest!!
D.
Please don't!
smooth all the way?
D."
Smooth torsos and backs make me smile. A lot. |
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"Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?"
Purely negative I think Queenie....I mean some are jealous of me being a guy in a dress and say nasty things instead of being nice |
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The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is the emotion of coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else. Neither are particularly attractive. |
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"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?
Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!!"
Very well put. I see envious as "oh, that's nice, I would like one of those", and can be a driving force to motivate you to get it.
Jealousy is more "you have that and I want it, so I'm going to do whatever I can to take it off of you"
Personally, I think it's a very negative emotion |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There’s been an influx of Lamborghini’s driving through my town and also seen an F12 Berlinetta, I *think* one of the boys I know is opening his gym illegally and letting these out of towners use it cos I’ve seen them parked outside it.
Listening to these cars and seeing them I get jealous, it’s more than envy, it’s like fuck I wish I had that.
Motors make me feel jealous. "
You’ve always been hot, but now you’ve been able to identify a Lamborghini and a specific model of Ferrari, you’ve just flown off the scale.....
Expect many marriage propositions. |
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"I'm not a jealous person but I do get envious of people. It doesn't make me anger or bitter which I think for me is the difference. I feel envious a lot on here "
I agree on that being the difference. I think it's possible to be happy for others while being envious but not when feeling jealous. |
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"The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is the emotion of coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else. Neither are particularly attractive."
Neither of these is negative for a person with strong sense of self-worth. But to those who do not they can both be toxic. |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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"Silly question maybe, what's the difference between jealousy and envy?
Personally. I think envy is wanting/desiring something someone else maybe has. Like, wow I wish I had one of those or I wish my relationship was like that, but not in a “I wish you didn’t have that”’ kind of way. Whereas jealousy is more resentful and bitter. If that makes sense!!
Very well put. I see envious as "oh, that's nice, I would like one of those", and can be a driving force to motivate you to get it.
Jealousy is more "you have that and I want it, so I'm going to do whatever I can to take it off of you"
Personally, I think it's a very negative emotion "
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Both jealousy and envy were considered Deadly Sins for good reason, as the story goes that Cain murdered Abel because God favoured Abel’s sacrifice over his.
Personally I saw envy damage my relationship with my younger sister, because she thought I always got favourable treatment from my parents. That envy has lasted nearly 50 years and is still there. So much so that she deliberately did things to hurt me and my relationships because of it. It nearly destroyed my relationship with my parents because I confronted her about aspects of her behaviour and she made up up a pack of lies that my parents bought to try to damage my relationship with them. They were always trying to make up for the favouritism she accused them of and believed her despite solid, witnessed evidence to the contrary. It took a long time to heal that rift and for them to see her from a different perspective and take off the tinted glasses. Thankfully I found a way to help the family relationships to operate in a more healthy way, but my sister still hasn’t forgiven me really, so it’s always a bit weird.
The French though use the term ‘Emulation’ which literally means jealousy or envy, but they use it often in a positive way as a process to inspire greater achievements by learning from the best. We see it so often in all walks of life from Sport, to how to handle Covid effectively, to how to develop yourself etc..etc..
So in that sense it can be healthy.
However our use of the words jealousy and envy are more imbued with dark emotional meaning.
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