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I think the answer to this one is “maybe, but some reserve the right to not meet them”
A few would like to reserve the right to castrate them without anaesthetic and a few don’t mind at all, so I’m taking an average  |
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over a year ago
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"Also why only married men and married women?"
Did you not know it’s ok for married women to be on here as it’s hot? But if you're a married man you’re a cheating scumbag. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Also why only married men and married women?
Did you not know it’s ok for married women to be on here as it’s hot? But if you're a married man you’re a cheating scumbag. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do you mean...married and sneaking around behind their other halfs back...cause I'm married..and we are both here..with a joint profile and solo ones... |
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"Also why only married men and married women?
Exactly ... socksy 
See im not just a pair of socks.
Well no, there are feet in them also  "
Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning. |
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"Also why only married men and married women?
Exactly ... socksy
See im not just a pair of socks.
Well no, there are feet in them also
Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning. "
That's not the first time I've heard that   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think the answer to this one is “maybe, but some reserve the right to not meet them”
A few would like to reserve the right to castrate them without anaesthetic and a few don’t mind at all, so I’m taking an average "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also why only married men and married women?
Exactly ... socksy
See im not just a pair of socks.
Well no, there are feet in them also
Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning.
That's not the first time I've heard that "
I nearly spat my coffee out then. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes of course they should. How else would anyone who's married be able to swing it is a swingers site after all! Its practically a site made for them "
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"Also why only married men and married women?
Exactly ... socksy
See im not just a pair of socks.
Well no, there are feet in them also
Wow thats very deep for this time on a Monday morning.
That's not the first time I've heard that
I nearly spat my coffee out then. "
My work is therefore done ... again ... not the first time ice said that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ironic how you query married men when your tagged as "Wife Teaser"
So who's wife are you teasing then? So it's ok for Wives to be here then.
People are here from all kinds of backgrounds... Not our place to judge I don't think |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ironic how you query married men when your tagged as "Wife Teaser"
So who's wife are you teasing then? So it's ok for Wives to be here then.
People are here from all kinds of backgrounds... Not our place to judge I don't think"
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"Ironic how you query married men when your tagged as "Wife Teaser"
So who's wife are you teasing then? So it's ok for Wives to be here then.
People are here from all kinds of backgrounds... Not our place to judge I don't think"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone need to justify their reasons for being on here?
Nope
Yes of course they do but only to themselves. "
. Although a lot even struggle with that! |
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge  "
This, this is one of the places where people should be able to be themselves without being judged, so long as were all honest with each other which I grant doesn’t always happen |
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge "
exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that |
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over a year ago
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By banning married men you are encouraging even more dishonesty. How many would join as a single, how would you prove otherwise?
I am a married 'scumbag' playing without wife's knowledge, but I dont hide that fact from people on Fab I contact... maybe that's why I am not chosen very often .. Fab is a hobby, it's fun exciting and quite often challenging.. much better than going to play snooker or any other mundane hobby..
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that "
I dont judge. I don't live their life. |
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"By banning married men you are encouraging even more dishonesty. How many would join as a single, how would you prove otherwise?
I am a married 'scumbag' playing without wife's knowledge, but I dont hide that fact from people on Fab I contact... maybe that's why I am not chosen very often .. Fab is a hobby, it's fun exciting and quite often challenging.. much better than going to play snooker or any other mundane hobby..
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that "
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. "
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. "
Neither do I |
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do  "
Exactly. Wrong of me to say I don’t judge as I’m bloody queen judge privately! If it affects me personally or I’m meeting someone then yes I judge! There’s plenty people on here I wouldn’t meet for lots of reasons so I suppose that is me judging. As for judging in public or saying who should or shouldn’t be on here then no, nobody has the right to do that. |
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It is their choice to be here. But it is the choice of the person they are contacting as to whether they meet. Many (not all) see this site as "dial a fuck" (in our own personal experience) and take rejection badly.
We do not judge and are not anyones moral compass. Yes they should be here but shouldn't be offended if their situation, whatever it is, is off putting to other people |
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do "
I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that! |
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do
I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!"
ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:
married..... block
face pic..... block
cock pic...... block
doesn't accom equals married.... block
distance..... block
argumentative..... block
harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do
I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:
married..... block
face pic..... block
cock pic...... block
doesn't accom equals married.... block
distance..... block
argumentative..... block
harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do
I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:
married..... block
face pic..... block
cock pic...... block
doesn't accom equals married.... block
distance..... block
argumentative..... block
harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here
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Well, I call it natural selection! |
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I don’t like guys that pretend to be single when they’re not actually single. Bit of digging and it comes out though.
Can’t really comment on women as I’m not looking to meet them but I don’t really agree with any kind of cheating or deceit and I certainly don’t want to enable anyone to cheat. |
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Well my partner knows all about my desires. I've been trying to encourage her to swing for years as i'd love to see her with another guy or couple, or even just know that she's done it.
I think she's incredibly sexy and a bit wasted on just me but she isn't interested.
We've spoken many times at great length and in depth but nothing doing. We had cam sex a couple of times with a couple after adding a profile on another site but most people who contacted us were too pushy, rude or just ignorant of what we wanted so she got put off it all.
She has said if i want that kind of fun then she will let me but she doesn't want to know anything about it. She would speak to the couple to confirm she knows about it but that's it.
So my question is am i a swinger or a cheater? Without knowing the person's full circumstances you can not comment, we are not all the same. |
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"Well my partner knows all about my desires. I've been trying to encourage her to swing for years as i'd love to see her with another guy or couple, or even just know that she's done it.
I think she's incredibly sexy and a bit wasted on just me but she isn't interested.
We've spoken many times at great length and in depth but nothing doing. We had cam sex a couple of times with a couple after adding a profile on another site but most people who contacted us were too pushy, rude or just ignorant of what we wanted so she got put off it all.
She has said if i want that kind of fun then she will let me but she doesn't want to know anything about it. She would speak to the couple to confirm she knows about it but that's it.
So my question is am i a swinger or a cheater? Without knowing the person's full circumstances you can not comment, we are not all the same."
No. You’re not a cheater |
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Yes of course, why not? We've met married guys, they don't get clingy and just like to fuck n go... perfect
(Ps 90% of 'single' guys on here are married shhhh ) |
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"Well my partner knows all about my desires. I've been trying to encourage her to swing for years as i'd love to see her with another guy or couple, or even just know that she's done it.
I think she's incredibly sexy and a bit wasted on just me but she isn't interested.
We've spoken many times at great length and in depth but nothing doing. We had cam sex a couple of times with a couple after adding a profile on another site but most people who contacted us were too pushy, rude or just ignorant of what we wanted so she got put off it all.
She has said if i want that kind of fun then she will let me but she doesn't want to know anything about it. She would speak to the couple to confirm she knows about it but that's it.
So my question is am i a swinger or a cheater? Without knowing the person's full circumstances you can not comment, we are not all the same."
Based on the information provided, I wouldn't go behind her back to sleep with another woman. Said that, I wouldn't call you any names. If I was in a relationship, I would be fully committed to that person. Swinging and FWB'S are not my thing. I am not you and you are not me. So, the question I would ask myself is, what would happen if your partner finds out you are on here. Would she be hurt? Would you be able to live with that guilt? |
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"Yes of course, why not? We've met married guys, they don't get clingy and just like to fuck n go... perfect
(Ps 90% of 'single' guys on here are married shhhh )"
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It depends.
If they’re on here and their wife knows and is fine with it, then I don’t see any problem.
If they’re on here and cheating on their wife then I don’t like it, and think it’s wrong, however there is nothing in the rules to say married men who cheat cannot join, they’re within their rights to.
And those of us who don’t want to meet them, can simply delete message and move on. |
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"Who as a right to say who should be here and who shouldnt? Not all married are doing behind there partners back ,and if they are who are we to judge exactly right but we still judge....... how weird is that
I dont judge. I don't live their life. we judge everything before we do it its a prerequisite of life, its the selection process, for many the fact that a person man or woman cheats on their partner is either acceptable or not but if say for example you've been cheated on or have cheated then your choices are governed by that, its a moral standard which seems to be unfairly balanced in favour of women here, for me its the choice of the person concerned, we don't know their situation so who are we to judge but many do
I agree with you, however people judge with their right part of our brain, which is the emotional side. They try to see the world through their lenses which is their own experiences. However we have the ability to take a back step and direct it to the left side of the brain, which is the logical side. We just cannot and should not make judgements without all available information. I think it is just irresponsible to do that!ahhhh but here its the harsh reality:
married..... block
face pic..... block
cock pic...... block
doesn't accom equals married.... block
distance..... block
argumentative..... block
harsh realities based on instant decisions are the norm here
Well, I call it natural selection! "
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I guess I'm wondering why you're asking the forums? Would the unanimous response influence your decision or maybe ease some difficulties in your conscience?
The choice is yours like most things in life. Just dont expect everyone to agree with your choice regardless of your situation. Take responsibility for your choices, good or bad. |
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Op - in the wider swinging world i.e. clubs, parties etc you will find most people wont even ask if you're married because most swinging couples couldn't care less.
On the fab forums you will get a different view because some here dont meet much and a lot are vanilla singles who wouldn't dream of swinging if they had a partner because that would be cheating  .
Just do you're own thing, visit clubs when they reopen and meet people who just want to fuck with no hang ups or strings |
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My partner told me i should find another couple and wouldn't want to know about my times with them. Course she might be hurt but she knows i have needs and we are both OK with them being met if it means our relationship is less disrupted by me not pestering her to swing. It is only sex, not love that's the difference. A type of sex some simply aren't into and others are. |
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PLUS.........
If you had asked a different question I'd give you a very different answer.
Are you a married man looking for others to salve your conscience ?
What married people do , they must work out for themselves and not try to say 'someone' told me it was okay when they are found out.
( im not talking about those with accepted liberties....... just the low down cheating gits. )
ooops...... |
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over a year ago
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Yes why not? And women and whoever else.
If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere. |
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"Yes why not? And women and whoever else.
If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere. "
^ this lady speaks the truth.
My 2p - disclose your true status then let people decide for themselves |
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"OP, are you married? Are you looking for validation from the punters? I’m married but I don’t think it sits well on here tbf.
At least you are upfront and honest about it OP why not be ? "
I’m not judging, tbh people’s marital state is their business, not mine, but I was curious with you saying why not be, as read a post where someone says you mention it on your profile so I had a look... where exactly? If it was on there, why remove it? If there’s no reason not to be honest x Viv |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think that yes they should be. I also think that some people won't like it because of their own personal morals and that's absolutely fine. As long as a person is honest and allows others to make up their mind, it's really rather subjective. |
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"Yes why not? And women and whoever else.
If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere.
^ this lady speaks the truth.
My 2p - disclose your true status then let people decide for themselves "
Absolutely
Am I agreeing with you Dan? That needs to stop right now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes why not? And women and whoever else.
If you’re referring to cheating then don’t be fooled, there are couples on here who cheat even though they’re swingers. It’s happens here there and everywhere.
^ this lady speaks the truth.
My 2p - disclose your true status then let people decide for themselves "
This. I don't want to meet people cheating (no judgement, just my choice due to being badly burnt...) Anyone is entitled to be here but respect other people and be honest about your situation if asked. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, no it's disgusting. No matter what excuses you have, sob stories or just plain bored, don't do it "
Well said.
Tell the wife otherwise it is cheating not swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, no it's disgusting. No matter what excuses you have, sob stories or just plain bored, don't do it
Well said.
Tell the wife otherwise it is cheating not swinging. "
Exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they admit they are, fine.
Although, I'd personally hate to be the poor wife who's husband is out having sex behind her back.
So, I don't really know. Morally, it's wrong but then it happens.
I met someone years ago from fab who I found out was married after we met. He said he was single. That was pretty horrible.
Honesty is the best policy IMO |
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There's no way to police anyone's relationship status on a site like this, so married and cheating people will come on and will lie about their status. In my view it's ridiculous to say such people should be honest. They're lying to their nearest and dearest. They're hardly likely to care much about lying to strangers on the Internet.
Having said that, women are less likely to lie because they know most blokes on here don't care about marital status (a function of the rarity of women) whereas most blokes will lie because they know many women won't meet married men.
I appreciate some blokes do fess up to being attached. Hats off to them, but they're the exception. |
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"There's no way to police anyone's relationship status on a site like this, so married and cheating people will come on and will lie about their status. In my view it's ridiculous to say such people should be honest. They're lying to their nearest and dearest. They're hardly likely to care much about lying to strangers on the Internet.
Having said that, women are less likely to lie because they know most blokes on here don't care about marital status (a function of the rarity of women) whereas most blokes will lie because they know many women won't meet married men.
I appreciate some blokes do fess up to being attached. Hats off to them, but they're the exception."
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"There's no way to police anyone's relationship status on a site like this, so married and cheating people will come on and will lie about their status. In my view it's ridiculous to say such people should be honest. They're lying to their nearest and dearest. They're hardly likely to care much about lying to strangers on the Internet.
Having said that, women are less likely to lie because they know most blokes on here don't care about marital status (a function of the rarity of women) whereas most blokes will lie because they know many women won't meet married men.
I appreciate some blokes do fess up to being attached. Hats off to them, but they're the exception."
A few do to be fair. Or at least they do once you start chatting. It’s usually the first question I ask. Maybe they’re honest with me as I had on my profile that your relationship status is irrelevant to me. To lie about it is wrong though and that would really piss me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah everyone should be allowed as long as they’re honest. It’s up to other people to decide for themselves if they want to get involved with a married person.
Personally I don’t like cheating and wouldn’t facilitate it but what others do is not my business |
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"I don’t have a problem with anyone’s marital / relationship status but if I’m invited to a meeting then I expect honesty and the revelation .... I don’t think it’s too much to ask "
what is too much to ask is their bank balance........ whats your bank balance Op? |
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