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Some people don't know, and both men and women do it.
I think the line is how it's received (if in doubt don't, any pushback, retreat).
The issue is how you respond to pushback. If you're making someone uncomfortable, stop, don't protest that they're being sensitive. |
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over a year ago
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It’s difficult
Yes both men and women can be creepy.
The line is ‘that’s making me feel uncomfortable now’ and/or ‘Jesus Christ this is non stop, they’re doing it all the time’ etc etc.
I don’t think most people know they’re being creepy.
However, some (a few in the minority) are well aware that they’re being creepy, and get a kick from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My ex partner used to call me creepy because I would hover when he was in the shower and getting dressed. He used to use the spray bottle we used on the plants to squirt me with water when he caught me staring at him 
Please note, this was obviously in jest and it was funny. I’m in no way accusing him of being mean. |
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"My ex partner used to call me creepy because I would hover when he was in the shower and getting dressed. He used to use the spray bottle we used on the plants to squirt me with water when he caught me staring at him
Please note, this was obviously in jest and it was funny. I’m in no way accusing him of being mean. "
That's hilarious |
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Someone else’s creep alarm could be someone else’s bring it on
Everyone is different, if you don’t like how someone is messaging you, tell them or block them, if they don’t know you are weirded out they aren’t going to change |
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By *mber OP Woman
over a year ago
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But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting  " |
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"OP your nipples are so perfect. Can we spend Christmas together this year? 
(My granny makes a banging Christmas dinner)
Only if I can hold the baby and there's Christmas pudding  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting ""
Does that bother you? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Lots of people don't realise they're being creepy. They genuinely think they're being nice. "
Yep. 
I guess if it's pointed out and they don't want to listen/accept it, there's nothing that can really be done other than ignoring their posts (talking about on the forum obvs). |
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I believe that most creepy men don't realise. In part it's not always their fault because our society doesn't teach boys/men how to actually talk with girls/women. And there's a lot of masculine culture which teaches teenage boys that being "hard" and not learning how to empathise with other humans is desirable.
If more men stopped to think "that's a human being in talking to. What do my words make her feel?" there would be less creepy behaviour. |
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I think some people can come across as being a bit creepy without meaning to. I've never found anyone on here creepy, too keen maybe though. Some people can say things and get away with it but if another person says it, it is taken in a different way I have noticed x |
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"Lots of people don't realise they're being creepy. They genuinely think they're being nice.
Yep.
I guess if it's pointed out and they don't want to listen/accept it, there's nothing that can really be done other than ignoring their posts (talking about on the forum obvs)."
‘How is it creepy that I follow you around?! I’m just being nice. It’s a compliment’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone else’s creep alarm could be someone else’s bring it on
Everyone is different, if you don’t like how someone is messaging you, tell them or block them, if they don’t know you are weirded out they aren’t going to change "
Although when its played out on public on the forums it is almost always going to to look creepy and often a little desperate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lots of people don't realise they're being creepy. They genuinely think they're being nice.
Yep.
I guess if it's pointed out and they don't want to listen/accept it, there's nothing that can really be done other than ignoring their posts (talking about on the forum obvs).
‘How is it creepy that I follow you around?! I’m just being nice. It’s a compliment’"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lots of people don't realise they're being creepy. They genuinely think they're being nice.
Yep.
I guess if it's pointed out and they don't want to listen/accept it, there's nothing that can really be done other than ignoring their posts (talking about on the forum obvs).
‘How is it creepy that I follow you around?! I’m just being nice. It’s a compliment’
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It’s funny now but I’ve honestly had someone say that to me on a night out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lot of people struggle to communicate face to face so the internet makes them more bold and less inhibited. However, if they are not particularly articulate, messages are mixed, context lost and so misinterpreted.
Personally I dislike the internet/messaging to talk about serious stuff.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people struggle to communicate face to face so the internet makes them more bold and less inhibited. However, if they are not particularly articulate, messages are mixed, context lost and so misinterpreted.
Personally I dislike the internet/messaging to talk about serious stuff.."
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
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I think people tend not to know. They seem to think they're being flirty, or funny, or seductive.
Both genders can be creepy, but I think it tends to more commonly be guys. Not sure if it's because they are generally more predatory, or because of a social norm where they do the approaching. |
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"Lots of people don't realise they're being creepy. They genuinely think they're being nice.
Yep.
I guess if it's pointed out and they don't want to listen/accept it, there's nothing that can really be done other than ignoring their posts (talking about on the forum obvs).
‘How is it creepy that I follow you around?! I’m just being nice. It’s a compliment’
It’s funny now but I’ve honestly had someone say that to me on a night out!"
Yikes!!! Really? Ewwww |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
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If you are hot and gorgeous your not creepy, if you're ugly get your creepy arse away, general rule. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
If you are hot and gorgeous your not creepy, if you're ugly get your creepy arse away, general rule. "
What if I steal someone’s photos to pretend to be hot and gorgeous, when actually I’m ugly? |
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"But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting ""
It happens daily from various men and women, it’s how they choose to use the forums.
No one has to join in with them if they don’t choose to, just skim over it and if you happen to have one take you by surprise just have the bucket close by  |
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By *mber OP Woman
over a year ago
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"But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting "
Does that bother you?"
Does it bother me?
It doesn't bother me, it baffles me.
I'm turned off by people who are slimy, who always make threads about sex even when they aren't started that way. Some people do it in a funny way, some don't.
But then when it's pointed out to them they say that it's other people who are at fault.
If someone told me I was being creepy I'd think about how I was percieved. |
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By *innMan
over a year ago
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"Some people don't know, and both men and women do it.
I think the line is how it's received (if in doubt don't, any pushback, retreat).
The issue is how you respond to pushback. If you're making someone uncomfortable, stop, don't protest that they're being sensitive. "
Very true - I think everyone needs to understand that the reasons or scenario in your head is just your interpretation and desire.
The person receiving the message is not in tune with you or your thoughts.
You might intrigue them or strike a chord but you may just as easily go wide of the mark and be blocked - that’s fab life. |
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There's also no hard rule in some cases.
A man might compliment a woman on her smile, for example. Some women will simply take it as a compliment and it may brighten their mood. Others will be upset and creeped out that this stranger has commented on their appearance. It's sad that one human cannot always say something nice to another human but history and experience teaches a lot of women that "a nice compliment" is something different.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
If you are hot and gorgeous your not creepy, if you're ugly get your creepy arse away, general rule. "
Wow so only “ugly” people are creepy...? |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
If you are hot and gorgeous your not creepy, if you're ugly get your creepy arse away, general rule.
What if I steal someone’s photos to pretend to be hot and gorgeous, when actually I’m ugly?"
That insecurity, and your not ugly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
If you are hot and gorgeous your not creepy, if you're ugly get your creepy arse away, general rule.
What if I steal someone’s photos to pretend to be hot and gorgeous, when actually I’m ugly?
That insecurity, and your not ugly. "
Oh I know I’m not, I’m just nosey |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My ex partner used to call me creepy because I would hover when he was in the shower and getting dressed. He used to use the spray bottle we used on the plants to squirt me with water when he caught me staring at him
Please note, this was obviously in jest and it was funny. I’m in no way accusing him of being mean. "
Ohhh God. I've done similar to a fab meet and the guy I'm sleeping with away from the site. Just standing in the doorway watching them shower in the mirror after sexy times. Neither had a spray bottle though |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s difficult
Yes both men and women can be creepy.
The line is ‘that’s making me feel uncomfortable now’ and/or ‘Jesus Christ this is non stop, they’re doing it all the time’ etc etc.
I don’t think most people know they’re being creepy.
However, some (a few in the minority) are well aware that they’re being creepy, and get a kick from it. "
Yup agree with this |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
If you are hot and gorgeous your not creepy, if you're ugly get your creepy arse away, general rule.
Wow so only “ugly” people are creepy...?"
I'm seen some creepy hottie's but they get away with it so generally it intends to be a choice what is or isn't.
One woman prince charming is another ladies stalker. |
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"My ex partner used to call me creepy because I would hover when he was in the shower and getting dressed. He used to use the spray bottle we used on the plants to squirt me with water when he caught me staring at him
Please note, this was obviously in jest and it was funny. I’m in no way accusing him of being mean.
Ohhh God. I've done similar to a fab meet and the guy I'm sleeping with away from the site. Just standing in the doorway watching them shower in the mirror after sexy times. Neither had a spray bottle though "
Absolutely nothing wrong in a good perve...I’ve done that with a fab meet only because I couldn’t keep my eyes off him then offered to put moisturiser on him after his shower, only to be helpful of course  |
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"There's also no hard rule in some cases.
A man might compliment a woman on her smile, for example. Some women will simply take it as a compliment and it may brighten their mood. Others will be upset and creeped out that this stranger has commented on their appearance. It's sad that one human cannot always say something nice to another human but history and experience teaches a lot of women that "a nice compliment" is something different.
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Agreed. It isn't always this hard and fast men hurting women, but there's a pattern, and as a woman I need to be wary. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
If you are hot and gorgeous your not creepy, if you're ugly get your creepy arse away, general rule.
What if I steal someone’s photos to pretend to be hot and gorgeous, when actually I’m ugly?
That insecurity, and your not ugly.
Oh I know I’m not, I’m just nosey "
Don't get to nosey, that creepy. X |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"It’s difficult
Yes both men and women can be creepy.
The line is ‘that’s making me feel uncomfortable now’ and/or ‘Jesus Christ this is non stop, they’re doing it all the time’ etc etc.
I don’t think most people know they’re being creepy.
However, some (a few in the minority) are well aware that they’re being creepy, and get a kick from it.
Yup agree with this "
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"Someone else’s creep alarm could be someone else’s bring it on
Everyone is different, if you don’t like how someone is messaging you, tell them or block them, if they don’t know you are weirded out they aren’t going to change
Although when its played out on public on the forums it is almost always going to to look creepy and often a little desperate "
That is your perception and not necessarily everyone else’s point of view. There are so many threads I think ‘here we go again’ eye roll, pass the bucket....
Do I moan about them? Tell people to stop their flirting, love ins , drivel nonsense, etc? No !
It is everyone’s choice to use the forums how they please (within the rules) and you have the choice to ignore certain threads by certain posters, as you know it’s going to turn into a creep fest.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lots of people don't realise they're being creepy. They genuinely think they're being nice.
I do realise what I am doing!  "
One would hope so considering you are meant to be grown adult.
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By *nnnikCouple
over a year ago
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
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What many guys on here seem to forget is that they are single, 90% of them are hand jobs with nout more to offer. Speaking to a woman with respect isn't how they were brought up... Nik |
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"But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting ""
I think when it's not aimed at you personally, it can be valid to think privately "oh yuck" but also say nothing because it's not about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't know if a woman is flirting or just being nice. Sometimes I think a woman wants pumped just because she has smiled at me"
I get that at the checkout in Aldis all the time bud... |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting "
I think when it's not aimed at you personally, it can be valid to think privately "oh yuck" but also say nothing because it's not about you."
I do this so often |
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"But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting "
Does that bother you?
Does it bother me?
It doesn't bother me, it baffles me.
I'm turned off by people who are slimy, who always make threads about sex even when they aren't started that way. Some people do it in a funny way, some don't.
But then when it's pointed out to them they say that it's other people who are at fault.
If someone told me I was being creepy I'd think about how I was percieved."
I hear you. After all, doesn't it come down to what you want to get out of fab? I flirt, and I flirt with women who can take it. What others think about me is irrelevant. Perception is one's reality, doesn't make everyone's reality! |
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Agreed. It isn't always this hard and fast men hurting women, but there's a pattern, and as a woman I need to be wary."
Agreed, and it's prudent to be careful with people you don't know. Though again context is important. Are you in a swingers club, a pub or passing on the street?
There's also generally a difference between "that's a nice smile" and "great tits, get them out for the lads".
Honestly i think if people thought about how the recipient of the words is likely to feel, a lot of creepy behaviour would disappear. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
What many guys on here seem to forget is that they are single, 90% of them are hand jobs with nout more to offer. Speaking to a woman with respect isn't how they were brought up... Nik"
The male halves of couples need reminding how to speak to women in a lot of cases too, as I've found some if them can be just as bad, if not worse. Likewise, women can be the same, it's not gender specific. |
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Agreed. It isn't always this hard and fast men hurting women, but there's a pattern, and as a woman I need to be wary.
Agreed, and it's prudent to be careful with people you don't know. Though again context is important. Are you in a swingers club, a pub or passing on the street?
There's also generally a difference between "that's a nice smile" and "great tits, get them out for the lads".
Honestly i think if people thought about how the recipient of the words is likely to feel, a lot of creepy behaviour would disappear. "
Yes.
I also think in most cases people need to reflect more on how their actions are taken. If your actions are regularly perceived as creepy, maybe there isn't a rash of sensitive people. Maybe you're being creepy and should stop. |
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"But what about on forum posts.
They might not be directed at any individual.
Just a generic post or response and you think "woah really?"
And then other people obviously think the same by their responses.
Then the poster will say "I'm flirting "
I think when it's not aimed at you personally, it can be valid to think privately "oh yuck" but also say nothing because it's not about you.
I do this so often "
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Agreed. It isn't always this hard and fast men hurting women, but there's a pattern, and as a woman I need to be wary.
Agreed, and it's prudent to be careful with people you don't know. Though again context is important. Are you in a swingers club, a pub or passing on the street?
There's also generally a difference between "that's a nice smile" and "great tits, get them out for the lads".
Honestly i think if people thought about how the recipient of the words is likely to feel, a lot of creepy behaviour would disappear.
Yes.
I also think in most cases people need to reflect more on how their actions are taken. If your actions are regularly perceived as creepy, maybe there isn't a rash of sensitive people. Maybe you're being creepy and should stop."
Boom! Nailed it!! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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Agreed. It isn't always this hard and fast men hurting women, but there's a pattern, and as a woman I need to be wary.
Agreed, and it's prudent to be careful with people you don't know. Though again context is important. Are you in a swingers club, a pub or passing on the street?
There's also generally a difference between "that's a nice smile" and "great tits, get them out for the lads".
Honestly i think if people thought about how the recipient of the words is likely to feel, a lot of creepy behaviour would disappear.
Yes.
I also think in most cases people need to reflect more on how their actions are taken. If your actions are regularly perceived as creepy, maybe there isn't a rash of sensitive people. Maybe you're being creepy and should stop.
Boom! Nailed it!! "
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"Someone else’s creep alarm could be someone else’s bring it on
Everyone is different, if you don’t like how someone is messaging you, tell them or block them, if they don’t know you are weirded out they aren’t going to change "
Yup, this!
I can come across a bit creepy sometimes with my sense of humour and sometimes it genuinely scares people away as they think I'm serious but then with others we laugh about it and get on really well.
I do agree with what QL said a few comments above about how some people get off on being creepy and like to weird people out and make them uncomfortable. I think that's a different thing though but the best thing to do if you're ever uncomfortable is just let the person know and remove yourself from that situation.
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"There's also no hard rule in some cases.
A man might compliment a woman on her smile, for example. Some women will simply take it as a compliment and it may brighten their mood. Others will be upset and creeped out that this stranger has commented on their appearance. It's sad that one human cannot always say something nice to another human but history and experience teaches a lot of women that "a nice compliment" is something different.
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It's not surprising that so many young men are checking out of dating and women in general because of this. They're never sure if a simple compliment can be interpreted the wrong way, or in extremis, be considered some form of sexual harassment. You would think most people would be able to distinguish a genuine compliment from a creepy one, but that seems more difficult nowadays. |
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Additionally.... Its important how someone who is being creepy acts when they are called out.
I run polyamory social meets (in normal times) and yes, some people can be creepy. Usually the first act of the organising team is to have a private word to see if the person (usually but not always a man) understands and can modify their behaviour. Some will instantly understand that they did something wrong. Some cab learn. And some get all defensive and ascribe blame or bad motives 5 on the person who reported them. These people usually get banned. Quickly. |
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I think everyone has a different opinion on what creepy is. I don’t think outrageous flirting with cheesy lines is creepy. Especially if it’s in a public forum.
I get creeped out by the ones that slide into my inbox because what they want to say is a bit odd and they don’t want others to see. For example ‘hope your back is ok I’d love to massage every inch of your body with my tongue’ that’s creepy af if the question was ‘does anyone know any stretches to help a stiff back’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
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Is lamp post pissing allowed on fab?  |
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"I think everyone has a different opinion on what creepy is. I don’t think outrageous flirting with cheesy lines is creepy. Especially if it’s in a public forum.
I get creeped out by the ones that slide into my inbox because what they want to say is a bit odd and they don’t want others to see. For example ‘hope your back is ok I’d love to massage every inch of your body with my tongue’ that’s creepy af if the question was ‘does anyone know any stretches to help a stiff back’ "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know if I am creepy, but I was once told that I was creepy in a text. I was just trying to have a laugh and I can't rem_mber what I said now, but she took it in a creepy way.
Can someone describe a creepy message? |
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It's not surprising that so many young men are checking out of dating and women in general because of this. They're never sure if a simple compliment can be interpreted the wrong way, or in extremis, be considered some form of sexual harassment. You would think most people would be able to distinguish a genuine compliment from a creepy one, but that seems more difficult nowadays."
I think it's just prudent to avoid compliments based on appearance until you know someone well enough to know how they feel about them. Women often like to look good, but also don't usually like to feel they are valued primarily for their looks. Why not say you're enjoying talking with them? Or you're really impressed with something they've achieved? |
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"I think everyone has a different opinion on what creepy is. I don’t think outrageous flirting with cheesy lines is creepy. Especially if it’s in a public forum.
I get creeped out by the ones that slide into my inbox because what they want to say is a bit odd and they don’t want others to see. For example ‘hope your back is ok I’d love to massage every inch of your body with my tongue’ that’s creepy af if the question was ‘does anyone know any stretches to help a stiff back’ "
For sure. I think most people know what's clearly over the line... which is why the ick ends up in the inbox.
It's just communication. Everyone needs to play our part. Communicate, listen, reflect. Try to be good to each other. |
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"Is this the same as; if you don't know who's the weirdo on the bus then it's probably you, type things?55"
Oooh in definitely the weirdo on the bus.... But that's because I'm listening to 70s progressive rock on a cassette Walkman. |
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I always worry about being creepy or offensive. I proceed slowly, appear reserved when you first meet me. I'd rather you think me shy than hurt someone.
And if I hurt someone or am creepy I try to make amends. Mistakes happen. It's what you do about those mistakes that matters. You don't blame the person you upset. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I am creepy, but I was once told that I was creepy in a text. I was just trying to have a laugh and I can't rem_mber what I said now, but she took it in a creepy way.
Can someone describe a creepy message? "
Telling someone you are there soul mate without even meeting them in person. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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It's not surprising that so many young men are checking out of dating and women in general because of this. They're never sure if a simple compliment can be interpreted the wrong way, or in extremis, be considered some form of sexual harassment. You would think most people would be able to distinguish a genuine compliment from a creepy one, but that seems more difficult nowadays.
I think it's just prudent to avoid compliments based on appearance until you know someone well enough to know how they feel about them. Women often like to look good, but also don't usually like to feel they are valued primarily for their looks. Why not say you're enjoying talking with them? Or you're really impressed with something they've achieved? "
I'm not speaking from personal experience but instead commenting on social trends i've seen. I think I have a good grasp of when and when not to flirt / complement in a proper context. |
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I think with regards to the forum there are also people who very clearly reply to the poster rather than the post and when you see they behaviour manifested in different variants depending on who they are trying to garner favour with that is to be blunt as creepy as fuck |
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"I think with regards to the forum there are also people who very clearly reply to the poster rather than the post and when you see they behaviour manifested in different variants depending on who they are trying to garner favour with that is to be blunt as creepy as fuck"
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"I think with regards to the forum there are also people who very clearly reply to the poster rather than the post and when you see they behaviour manifested in different variants depending on who they are trying to garner favour with that is to be blunt as creepy as fuck
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"Creepy to me is when people message telling me they have seen me in a public place, then not telling where or when or who they are either. "
I had this from a stalker, blocked them but didn’t know who they were. He lived in the same village, knew where I lived, what I was wearing, etc. Although he told me where, when and what I was wearing- he wanted to compliment me apparently. Some strange people about x Viv x |
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"Creepy to me is when people message telling me they have seen me in a public place, then not telling where or when or who they are either.
I had this from a stalker, blocked them but didn’t know who they were. He lived in the same village, knew where I lived, what I was wearing, etc. Although he told me where, when and what I was wearing- he wanted to compliment me apparently. Some strange people about x Viv x"
I had a guy message me saying how hot it was that I got my tits out in Tesco
I was breastfeeding my son |
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"I don't know if I am creepy, but I was once told that I was creepy in a text. I was just trying to have a laugh and I can't rem_mber what I said now, but she took it in a creepy way.
Can someone describe a creepy message?
Telling someone you are there soul mate without even meeting them in person."
Il have to cut that out then |
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In the main people displaying creepy behaviour don't seem to realise or care a jot. It's easier to deal with online than in person. The feeling I get on the receiving end of creepiness is absolutely horrible and makes me feel very icky and vulnerable. It is a behavioural trait that I detest in anyone. |
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"Creepy to me is when people message telling me they have seen me in a public place, then not telling where or when or who they are either.
I had this from a stalker, blocked them but didn’t know who they were. He lived in the same village, knew where I lived, what I was wearing, etc. Although he told me where, when and what I was wearing- he wanted to compliment me apparently. Some strange people about x Viv x"
Now that is creepy !  .. |
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"In the main people displaying creepy behaviour don't seem to realise or care a jot. It's easier to deal with online than in person. The feeling I get on the receiving end of creepiness is absolutely horrible and makes me feel very icky and vulnerable. It is a behavioural trait that I detest in anyone. "
I find the reaction when you express discomfort really interesting. Intent matters. |
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As others have said, I think it's very much down to how the receiver perceives that person and their behaviour - one person's creepy will be another person's just being nice.
An perfect example is going to a sandwich shop with my colleague once, I placed my order and was happily just chatting to people and being me. As the lady serving me brought my sandwich over, the male owner shouted "give that lady a free cake, her smile and laughter has brightened my day up". Lovely, and also brightened my day up...free cake is always going to be a good thing.
When we got out of the shop, my colleague asked why I didn't tell the "creepy old sod" what to do with his cake. Just differing perspectives. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Creepy" can take on many different forms both from men and women and some is easier to deal with than others.
At one end of the scale it can be as simple as Beevis and Butthead style posts on the forums which are easily ignored for the most part - or at the other extreme it can be obsessive stalkerish behaviour, where no matter how often it is pointed out to a person what they are doing they continue in a misguided belief they are doing nothing wrong - how you deal with that is entirely different and may well be situational and driven by circumstances. |
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I'm pretty sure I come across as creepy at times, especially in person. Unfortunately people have a tendency to perceive being shy and socially awkward as creepy. |
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"Creepy to me is when people message telling me they have seen me in a public place, then not telling where or when or who they are either.
I had this from a stalker, blocked them but didn’t know who they were. He lived in the same village, knew where I lived, what I was wearing, etc. Although he told me where, when and what I was wearing- he wanted to compliment me apparently. Some strange people about x Viv x
I had a guy message me saying how hot it was that I got my tits out in Tesco
I was breastfeeding my son"
That is the creepiest thing ever. I have no tolerance for people that get off on watching a baby eat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do people know if they're being creepy?
Where is the line between being creepy and flirting?
Are both men and women creepy?
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Not necessarily all know.it also depends on individual's values and standards.
The line between is very thin. People may be bit bolder online. But most things we consider creepy will get you arrested, sued or sacked in the non-fab world.
Both men and women can be creepy but I think women in general think before they act/speak which helps.
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I don't think those creeps like to be told..
Just ignore them. 