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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking from my own experience here. I did then eventually remembered why we split in the first place. So all it did for us was dig up all the pain and hurt that we had already been through and got over once before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it didn’t work the first time around, why would it work the second time? Obviously have no idea of circumstances, but be careful is not just rose tinted glasses. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Guys are like 20 years later, she was so sweet , the way she played with her hair , I still miss her..... girls are like, that one I dumped last week, what was his name again ?
Move on, it wasn’t meant to be. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
Is it better the devil you know?
I am a different person now as well and I think she is.
It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?
I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it better the devil you know?
I am a different person now as well and I think she is.
It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?
I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex. "
.honestly only you will know the answer. Most ppl on here will tell you to not go but if you feel it worth a shot go for it |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"Is it better the devil you know?
I am a different person now as well and I think she is.
It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?
I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex.
.honestly only you will know the answer. Most ppl on here will tell you to not go but if you feel it worth a shot go for it "
A shot maybe, it’s the thing of going through hurt again if it doesn’t work out that is the scary thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it better the devil you know?
I am a different person now as well and I think she is.
It’s hard to say how we would get on long term. But is it worth a go?
I Don’t think I could leave it at just sex.
.honestly only you will know the answer. Most ppl on here will tell you to not go but if you feel it worth a shot go for it
A shot maybe, it’s the thing of going through hurt again if it doesn’t work out that is the scary thing. "
Well that is a risk to take. But if you see that it doesn't go well you can stop before getting really emotionally involved |
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I posted a similar thread at the beginning of lockdown. I have always had dealings with my ex because of the kids.
She has and still seems to be more chatty and stuff since all this malarkey started.
Different to you as I'm thinking just sex. Certainly no getting back together. Maybe she would if I suggested, how about it?
Good luck to you in spite of don't do it seeming to be the consensus on here. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"I posted a similar thread at the beginning of lockdown. I have always had dealings with my ex because of the kids.
She has and still seems to be more chatty and stuff since all this malarkey started.
Different to you as I'm thinking just sex. Certainly no getting back together. Maybe she would if I suggested, how about it?
Good luck to you in spite of don't do it seeming to be the consensus on here. "
Thanks for the advice. I might just not make assumptions. Hopefully use my brain rather than my dick. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.
I am unsure whether to ask her back.
I still love her. "
Your asking a question none of us can answer but you, reflecting can be positive in times like this, maybe use this to tone to find the answer that only you can answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.
I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.
I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity. "
Is it a lockdown thing and you get thinking about the ex? |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.
I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity.
Is it a lockdown thing and you get thinking about the ex?"
I think for me personally reflecting on those times, looking at the photos reading the diaries (and watching Normal People damn that show is so relatable). I have come to appreciate the they have had in shaping the person I am today and appreciate the time memories shared as well as hard times together. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"This has gone through my head a lot during lockdown. I think it’s loneliness and wanting companionship, and familiarity more so than the person.
I’m trying to not think about it until things start going back to normal. I’m hoping then I’ll have better clarity.
Is it a lockdown thing and you get thinking about the ex?
I think for me personally reflecting on those times, looking at the photos reading the diaries (and watching Normal People damn that show is so relatable). I have come to appreciate the they have had in shaping the person I am today and appreciate the time memories shared as well as hard times together."
Yes think made me a different person. I don’t know if she will like me now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends why you broke up. I shagged my most recent ex the day before Easter Sunday. We flirt often and send each other naked stuff but I put it down to lockdown flirting/boredom. I will shag mine again at some point. |
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I'm 62. Over the years I have 'gone back' with former partners. Once in my 20's for a mutual fuck fest weekend which we both wanted and agreed it would end there when she got on the train home. Second was an ex of 16 months who decided she didn't want to live in the area because of work but came back a few times for FWB type stuff; I was in my 40's. Finally a sympathy comeback by an old friend after my wife died. She had not long been divorced and had similar sexual needs to mine! I was 53. Lasted 15 months till she changed job down to the SW. I have learnt to try and remain friends and so for me it has worked. The sympathy shagging after five years without sex (because my wife had cancer) was bloody fantastic!! I'd say make sure you are both clear about what you want. Having said that there are some I would not go back to! |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"You take care, some good and some sad sides of your story.
Still not a clue of the decisions, been asked to meet for a brew. 
Maybe tomorrow is the day.  "
Ps
Social distance still. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got back with an ex a couple of years ago and big mistake, as much as you think things will be different they never are no matter how hard you try, some people just aren't compatible together. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
It's great you still love her .. I always think it's odd when people say they no longer care for their exes.. although I know it depends on circumstances.
Love sometimes works better in friendship if there are good reasons why you're not together anymore.
X |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"It's great you still love her .. I always think it's odd when people say they no longer care for their exes.. although I know it depends on circumstances.
Love sometimes works better in friendship if there are good reasons why you're not together anymore.
X "
Yes we were best friends as well as lovers. When we split didn’t just lose my wife but my best friend as well. X |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.
I am unsure whether to ask her back.
I still love her.
Sometimes...love isnt enough
MsD"
This. If you can't make it work. You can't make it work. It. I know that it May hurt but sometimes its for best of both parties. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.
I am unsure whether to ask her back.
I still love her.
Sometimes...love isnt enough
Better than having no one?
MsD
This. If you can't make it work. You can't make it work. It. I know that it May hurt but sometimes its for best of both parties."
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Similiar situation..I've gone back twice and she broke my heart twice but when I was with her I've never been happier and it was the best sex either of us has ever has.Been back in touch the last few weeks and we are clearly not over each other but it's not going to happen.
It's so easy for someone to say just walk away .and even if your head is saying that..if your heart is saying the opposite thing..its the hardest thing to Do.
I'm terrified I'll never find that happiness again. |
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"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.
I am unsure whether to ask her back.
I still love her.
Sometimes...love isnt enough
MsD"
You would think it would though wouldnt you?
So much for all you need is love. |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
Only u can decide wether to go back or not ....depends why you split in the first place,
I'm not a believer in going back always look forward into the future and never behind at your past things happen for a reason..
But ask yourself this if it wasnt for the lockdown would you be thinking this ? |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"My ex is my best friend, we split 9 years ago and remained best buds, we occasionally end up in bed, or at a club.  "
That’s good you if you can do that it’s just not physically connection but also mentally. |
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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in |
"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.
I am unsure whether to ask her back.
I still love her. "
they are ex's for reason !!! Never look back  |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.
I am unsure whether to ask her back.
I still love her. they are ex's for reason !!! Never look back "
Sometimes look back to look forward? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s never the same... you can pretend it is for a while and be ‘happy’ but deep down the reasons that split you up surface
We all feel like crap during lockdown... make the decision once it’s over and your head is in a better place |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"It’s never the same... you can pretend it is for a while and be ‘happy’ but deep down the reasons that split you up surface
We all feel like crap during lockdown... make the decision once it’s over and your head is in a better place "
Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don't hold out an olive branch you may miss out. If you do and she rejects you, you can then get on with your life. Good luck with whatever you decide to do |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"If you don't hold out an olive branch you may miss out. If you do and she rejects you, you can then get on with your life. Good luck with whatever you decide to do"
Thanks been really thinking and not worth pursuing at this moment.
I think mentally at the moment I am in a good place and think would really break me to get back
And then all go wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This lockdown had made me think of trying to have a fresh start with an ex.
I am unsure whether to ask her back.
I still love her. "
Don't do it.
Never go back.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok mate,you must do what you think is best for you. If it's really over put all thoughts of her out of your mind and get on with your life. Don't be looking over your shoulder or thinking what was or might have been. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"Ok mate,you must do what you think is best for you. If it's really over put all thoughts of her out of your mind and get on with your life. Don't be looking over your shoulder or thinking what was or might have been. "
Drinking makes you think what a perfect life |
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Don't....just don't. An ex should remain an ex and if I had a time machine and could go back and tell my younger self what lay ahead then I'd have saved myself from years of hell.
There are so many things I could tell you that would seem hard to believe so my advice is just don't, your life of it was like mine back then is worth too much to even consider it. |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
blackpool |
"Don't....just don't. An ex should remain an ex and if I had a time machine and could go back and tell my younger self what lay ahead then I'd have saved myself from years of hell.
There are so many things I could tell you that would seem hard to believe so my advice is just don't, your life of it was like mine back then is worth too much to even consider it."
Fuck it ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I still love and care for my ex. I'll always lover her. But I wouldn't want to go back down the same old road. Time has changed and so have the both of us. We're not the same person we were. Yesterday was a different person to today. |
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