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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey folks....just thought I'd share some news with you all.
After being so excited to come home yesterday, I got back to the news that my older sister had passed away last week after contracting Clovid 19. She was a retired NHS nurse who had gone back to work to help out a few days per week in some of the nursing homes where she picked it up.
Clearly I'm devastated but I'm more worried about my dad than anything else. Hes already had to bury my brother due to suicide, his grandson (my son) due to an accident and now his only daughter. He still has a step daughter, myself and another son as well as my mum.
In the past 12 months, I've lost my son and now my sister. My head has been scrambled for a while now and I dont know how muh more I can take. My dad is in his 80's but is relatively healthy.
My counsellor has vanished since this pandemic has kicked in and I cant get ahold of her. Thank goodness for antidepressants just now and 2 weeks off work.
Look after your loved ones, give your closest and dearest a call tonight and tell them you love them and please please plead with them to follow the guidelines and to stay as safe as possible.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am truly sorry about your loss. Your sister and your son both in such a short space of time.. that must have hit hard. Can you contact your counsellor and ask for zoom sessions? Or whichever organisation she is working for? Possibly call your GP and ask if there is any bereavement support in your area? Meds are all good to balance the chemicals in your brains, but they dont fix the things long term.. as I am sure you know. Just maskig the symptoms. You deserve better care. Look after yourself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So sorry to hear your news. You and your family are having a very bad time. Love and best wishes to you all. I am sure everyone reading your post will to send you love.
Take care xx |
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"Hey folks....just thought I'd share some news with you all.
After being so excited to come home yesterday, I got back to the news that my older sister had passed away last week after contracting Clovid 19. She was a retired NHS nurse who had gone back to work to help out a few days per week in some of the nursing homes where she picked it up.
Clearly I'm devastated but I'm more worried about my dad than anything else. Hes already had to bury my brother due to suicide, his grandson (my son) due to an accident and now his only daughter. He still has a step daughter, myself and another son as well as my mum.
In the past 12 months, I've lost my son and now my sister. My head has been scrambled for a while now and I dont know how muh more I can take. My dad is in his 80's but is relatively healthy.
My counsellor has vanished since this pandemic has kicked in and I cant get ahold of her. Thank goodness for antidepressants just now and 2 weeks off work.
Look after your loved ones, give your closest and dearest a call tonight and tell them you love them and please please plead with them to follow the guidelines and to stay as safe as possible.xx"
I'm so sorry and wish you my heartfelt condolences. I hope things get better for you soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to read this 
There’s probably not much any of us can put into words to help you right now but what I can safely say is that there are a lot of good people on here if you need them.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for your kind words and messages.
Believe it or not, this forum has helped pull me out of a dark hole before from just getting involved in some of the random chats on here and by having a laugh. I'm confident that it can happen again. So expect me to still give out some cheeky banter and jokes as it's what keeps me smiling!
Love this place!x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for your kind words and messages.
Believe it or not, this forum has helped pull me out of a dark hole before from just getting involved in some of the random chats on here and by having a laugh. I'm confident that it can happen again. So expect me to still give out some cheeky banter and jokes as it's what keeps me smiling!
Love this place!x"
The forums can be a truly wonderful place especially in dark times stay safe OP xx |
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I'm truly sorry to read that and you have my deepest sympathies.
Cruise have a helpline you can call if you need to speak to a counsellor. It's not as good as speaking to your normal counsellor who knows you and your background, but perhaps might offer you some support. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Apart from Cruse, you could also try contacting Mind charity infoline who do signposting to your local services. Hope this helps. I know you didn't specifically asked for it, but I'm worried that your counsellor is MIA.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am sorry to hear of you loss OP. I dont know if its of any help but some counselling is available via skype type of thing, maybe, you could look into that.
As for grieving- well there are no rules, but my inbox is open anytime, sending heartfelt virtual hugs xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you folks! Was a hard thread to type up but it's nice to have so many messages of support. There truly are some fantastic people on here and only a small handful of trumpets!   xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to read about your loss; it will bring to the fore past sorrows. There may, in the future as you look back, be some small consolation in that your sister died doing that for which she trained, caring for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah sorry for your loss op. Sending you positive hugs and thoughts. Even though can be crappy here at times. There are people who are genuinely nice and care and even just one person reaching out can brighten up someone's day or even make them realise they not alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi OP
Our condolences to you, your family and friends at this sad time.
Continue to reach out on here, continue to enjoy the distractions in whichever way helps you.
Take care
C and P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you folks! Was a hard thread to type up but it's nice to have so many messages of support. There truly are some fantastic people on here and only a small handful of trumpets! xx"
Onwards and upwards. It takes courage to do what you just. Men wont normally do that. Thank you for being a role model to others!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So sorry to hear this x
Chin up. Bad things never last forever. Years to come we’ll all look back on this period of time and have a laugh over some drinks obviously "
Did you read the post?  |
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss Mr Bants, there are few words anyone can say to make things easier for you at this time but you do have friends on here, genuine friends and people who care.
I'm happy to lend an ear if you ever need a chat.
Take good care of you and yours x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So sorry to hear this x
Chin up. Bad things never last forever. Years to come we’ll all look back on this period of time and have a laugh over some drinks obviously"
I think you should read what he wrote before commenting.
It will NEVER be laughed about  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So sorry to hear this x
Chin up. Bad things never last forever. Years to come we’ll all look back on this period of time and have a laugh over some drinks obviously
Did you read the post? "
Just the title it seems. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Ok can people just report idiotic posts rather than quote and replying to it, it will be removed as soon as it is seen
Also if you posted and mentioned the persons name I have had to remove those too so you will need to re post |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That is so sad to hear! Is there anyone else you could talk to? Any mates? Any family m_mbers you are close to? Stay strong bud! "
Yes I have many friends and family that I can chat with thankfully. Sometimes it's nice to chat with people who are impartial too though. Thank you for your words pal. |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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Omg what a horrendous time you've had..I'm so sorry.
I can't even begin to imagine how you're dealing with all of this but I have to say, your ability to talk about this shows amazing strength & courage. I have huge respect for you. I'm sending you a big socially distanced hug. I will be thinking of you & wishing you peace in your heart & mind xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat  "
I messed up the original post but I did post it further down. |
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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat
I messed up the original post but I did post it further down."
ohhh gosh just read it , so so sorry , can't give you enough hugs for that and say enough, you've had a lot of crap to deal with the last 12 months so sorry for you, as I say my inbox is open it is horrible life can be really crap at times and you just feel there is no end to the dismay, massive massive man hugs xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat
I messed up the original post but I did post it further down. ohhh gosh just read it , so so sorry , can't give you enough hugs for that and say enough, you've had a lot of crap to deal with the last 12 months so sorry for you, as I say my inbox is open it is horrible life can be really crap at times and you just feel there is no end to the dismay, massive massive man hugs xxx "
Thanks pal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give your dad a huge hug. xx
You probably both need a good cry on each other, manly back slaps and a single malt raised to toast your lovely sister. What a heroine. |
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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/20 20:00:06]not sure what your comment was , but massive man hugs , message me if you want and I'm happy to chat
I messed up the original post but I did post it further down. ohhh gosh just read it , so so sorry , can't give you enough hugs for that and say enough, you've had a lot of crap to deal with the last 12 months so sorry for you, as I say my inbox is open it is horrible life can be really crap at times and you just feel there is no end to the dismay, massive massive man hugs xxx
Thanks pal "
Pleasure , not empty words , I know a little of how you feel I've lost my auntie, a very dear friend of mine, and now my nephew is poorly with a virus as well, also not had a good year myself with health issues , so seriously if you ever want to talk I'm a good listener, but also you're telling it on here is a good step at least you're not bottling it all up |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"That is so sad to hear! Is there anyone else you could talk to? Any mates? Any family m_mbers you are close to? Stay strong bud!
Yes I have many friends and family that I can chat with thankfully. Sometimes it's nice to chat with people who are impartial too though. Thank you for your words pal. "
Yes that is very true, massive {{hugs}} to you. You have some difficult times ahead and I wish you and your family strength at this time xx |
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Jesus. Life isn't fair. Nothing I can say can even begin to heal the pain you have had to go through. I can't imagine how hard it must be. Look after your dad and yourself.
Sorry for your loss. And although it may be hard, your sister is a hero. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks again to everyone who has commented and/or sent me private messages! You've no idea how much you have all helped to perk me up.
It wasnt easy for me to start this thread but I'm glad I did and I'm grateful of the love tonight.
These times are difficult for anyone and everyone right now but I'm glad I reached out. You lot really are a top bunch.
I'm off to my bed now and hoping to wake up and get back to my usual piss taking self!xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks again to everyone who has commented and/or sent me private messages! You've no idea how much you have all helped to perk me up.
It wasnt easy for me to start this thread but I'm glad I did and I'm grateful of the love tonight.
These times are difficult for anyone and everyone right now but I'm glad I reached out. You lot really are a top bunch.
I'm off to my bed now and hoping to wake up and get back to my usual piss taking self!xx"
It takes courage to do what you just did! Words can be used to lift people up or put people down. Glad to see many believe in the former! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks again to everyone who has commented and/or sent me private messages! You've no idea how much you have all helped to perk me up.
It wasnt easy for me to start this thread but I'm glad I did and I'm grateful of the love tonight.
These times are difficult for anyone and everyone right now but I'm glad I reached out. You lot really are a top bunch.
I'm off to my bed now and hoping to wake up and get back to my usual piss taking self!xx
It takes courage to do what you just did! Words can be used to lift people up or put people down. Glad to see many believe in the former! "
Thanks pal. Feeling better for posting it now and reading the responses I received. |
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