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Have you ever pulled someone who you think is way out of your league?
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't believe in leagues when it comes to people I find attractive and who find me attractive, only connection and chemistry - and if they are there 'leagues' doesn't enter into the equation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't believe in leagues when it comes to people I find attractive and who find me attractive, only connection and chemistry - and if they are there 'leagues' doesn't enter into the equation "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When I see someone who looks amazing, I think there's no chance of me ever meeting her and that 9 times out of ten she won't even see my message.
But earlier I messaged someone who I have been drooling over in hotpics since I first joined here and she sent me a nice reply back.
So I guess there is still hope  |
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"When I see someone who looks amazing, I think there's no chance of me ever meeting her and that 9 times out of ten she won't even see my message.
But earlier I messaged someone who I have been drooling over in hotpics since I first joined here and she sent me a nice reply back.
So I guess there is still hope "
Hope isn't a fuck.
I'm really glad she replied.
And thanks for sharing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You mean someone more traditionally attractive? Current body trend compatible? If you say someone is out of your league, you unnecessarily put yourself down. I stopped thinking like that a while ago. You never know really, why deprive yourself of a chance of finding out? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I see someone who looks amazing, I think there's no chance of me ever meeting her and that 9 times out of ten she won't even see my message.
But earlier I messaged someone who I have been drooling over in hotpics since I first joined here and she sent me a nice reply back.
So I guess there is still hope
Hope isn't a fuck.
I'm really glad she replied.
And thanks for sharing "
No but she said I was "Yummmy"
She probably wasn't wearing her glasses when she saw my face pic, but il take that  |
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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago
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Originally I had some moments when I've thought this lady is out of my league but then I think, we are sleeping together so I'm clearly not.
Since that moment of realization about 14 years ago, I don't think that way at all now, life and experiences are what you make it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No one is out of anyone’s league   "
Love this! I’ve pulled people who at the time I thought were well “out of my league” but turned out to be dickheads. If you start putting people in leagues it limits opportunity based on a shallow judgement |
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By *B69Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't believe in leagues when it comes to people I find attractive and who find me attractive, only connection and chemistry - and if they are there 'leagues' doesn't enter into the equation "
Definitely this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never thought that, that's the insecurity that fab brings.. Unfortunately (puts on tin hat and waits for the abuse to start) that's what the women holding all of the power does to men who are on fab.. In the real world I bet there are alot of men who would turn there noses up at some of the women on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The people I have considered "out of my league" looks wise, once I chase and get to know them a little, usually are not out of my league personailty wise.
Muscles can cause shallowness and I cannot talk about protein and gym all day *yawn*
So I like a nice guy to look at, and maybe play with a little, but it doesnt make it past that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You mean someone more traditionally attractive? Current body trend compatible? If you say someone is out of your league, you unnecessarily put yourself down. I stopped thinking like that a while ago. You never know really, why deprive yourself of a chance of finding out? "
Yeah. Well I guess I do put myself down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nov_mber 2017 one particular Sunday night if removed my age filters, at the time had them set to 99 to 99 so no one could get through. Just as I was about to put them back on a message landed in my box with pictures attached. The guy was gorgeous, we exchanged numbers and spoke on the phone, said I’d meet him the following weekend. He said it’ll have to be tomorrow cos I’m off to Oman for 3 weeks Tuesday. Met him the next night and when I saw him in the flesh I felt intimidated because he was that good looking. Ended up burping on his dick as I was sucking it. Met him when he got back to the uk and met up with him got around 3 months after. Very very handsome man. |
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"The people I have considered "out of my league" looks wise, once I chase and get to know them a little, usually are not out of my league personailty wise.
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Tend to agree on this. I often find people attractive then become less interested when I get to know them better.
And vice versa. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The people I have considered "out of my league" looks wise, once I chase and get to know them a little, usually are not out of my league personailty wise.
Tend to agree on this. I often find people attractive then become less interested when I get to know them better.
And vice versa. "
Hmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont believe in leagues. You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to.
That being said, if someone devastatingly handsome and funny gets in contact, a part of me is suspicious it’s for a joke or a bet  |
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Not sure about ‘leagues’ as such - but yeah I’ve met guys and couples who were - in my opinion - far better looking and/or in far better shape physically than me!
When that happens I don’t question it or have some kind of confidence crisis - I just hi 5 myself in bed that night (or the next morning)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure about ‘leagues’ as such - but yeah I’ve met guys and couples who were - in my opinion - far better looking and/or in far better shape physically than me!
When that happens I don’t question it or have some kind of confidence crisis - I just hi 5 myself in bed that night (or the next morning) "
You are so brilliant! I love your outlook on life |
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"Not sure about ‘leagues’ as such - but yeah I’ve met guys and couples who were - in my opinion - far better looking and/or in far better shape physically than me!
When that happens I don’t question it or have some kind of confidence crisis - I just hi 5 myself in bed that night (or the next morning)
You are so brilliant! I love your outlook on life "
Thanks! Does that mean I get to snog you again? |
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"Or do you look at a hot profile and think nah I'm only wasting my time messaging this person "
I have certainly pulled women who could have got with men a lot better-looking than me, but fortunately it's not all about looks for a lot of people. Luke |
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I thought all leagues were suspended due to CV19.
Except in Belarus, I’ve never shagged anybody from Belarus although I did meet a lovely young lady in Montrose once but I don’t think that counts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I think at times everyone can feel that way.
Often I feel that Im not the ‘type of person’ they’d be interested in....took the chance once and to my surprise it massively paid off.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We think that all the time and its just the wrong thing to do. I felt the same about hubby when we first met and he about me.. We wasted 5 years because neither of us wanted to take the risk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had a couple of meets with absolutely gorgeous men, never did I think they would be interested in me. Some of these hotties ive ended up having more then one meet with.
Id never ask hotties though as would rather not know then get blocked lol |
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Some people might give the impression that that might be out of others leagues, but that’s all down to personality,
I’ve gotten remarks from too good to having my face isn’t the best .. roll with the punches.
They might seem untouchable but confidence is easily shattered and it’s a long way down from that pedestal that they seem on but on the flip side once a text or two is exchanged they could be the nicest going and just shy
Never judge  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure about ‘leagues’ as such - but yeah I’ve met guys and couples who were - in my opinion - far better looking and/or in far better shape physically than me!
When that happens I don’t question it or have some kind of confidence crisis - I just hi 5 myself in bed that night (or the next morning)
You are so brilliant! I love your outlook on life
Thanks! Does that mean I get to snog you again? "
Of course gorgeous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you look at a hot profile and think nah I'm only wasting my time messaging this person "
Ha ha ha every day op.....that’s why I don’t message much lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Leagues are simply myths. Myths only exist if you believe in them. I have been with men that are extremely good looking with unbelievable bodies, where as I think I’m a good average at best!!! If that’s what you mean OP? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If i thought someone was out of my 'league' i would not have the bottle to approach them...if they approached me...well that would be a different story.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sad to say I have not. I often find the most attractive people almost intimidating to approach. As I've gotten older its changed a little but still find that fabled unicorn a daunting prospect to approach! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes been with some good lookers who have had the personality and traits of a sewer rat, so my league now is the whole package and certainly not just on looks. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Often get approached on here by guys I think are out of my league as they're so gorgeous..I'm just average I think. I definitely get more attention on here than in real life..although in my defense I live in a very rural area with not many suitors around! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Often get approached on here by guys I think are out of my league as they're so gorgeous..I'm just average I think. I definitely get more attention on here than in real life..although in my defense I live in a very rural area with not many suitors around!"
Starts looking at property prices in clywd |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the problem lies in the fact that men think you lovely ladies ( that's all of you ) are unapproachable... How many of you get nice normal messages.. I expect those that do... Appreciate them more than the normal sort .. no one is out of any ones League... It's how you approach the situation x |
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By *akbearMan
over a year ago
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I think league is probably the wrong way of looking it at, I've pulled someone who I found v attractive as did other men but the relationship was dull, I've also had great fun at random times with people who had no immediate attraction, but that grew over time (v short time in some occasions) |
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If someone very attractive starts chatting me up in a bar I immediately get suspicious that it's some sort of joke. Sad but true.
I've had some incredibly attractive FWB, who have found me arousing and attractive, but I do struggle to see it in myself. I tend to think people fancy me in spite of my looks rather than because of them.
I don't tend to think in terms of "out of my league" though. If someone fancies me, whether because of or in spite of my looks, then they fancy me and aren't out of my league.
If someone doesn't fancy me then they could've fallen out of the ugly tree hitting their face on every branch on the way down and it wouldn't matter, they're still out of my league.
Dunno if that makes any sense, I've had a few glasses tonight so I'm a bit fuzzy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you look at a hot profile and think nah I'm only wasting my time messaging this person "
I don't pull, but I do get pulled at times. Some women are blind as a bat!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are loads of women on here out my league, I'll make contact but usually 'read no reply', with there being such a crowded market for single men, I sometimes wonder whether fabs worth it unless you are: vwe, black, gym mad or bi which sadly I'm none of. But hey there's a needle in a haystack somewhere surely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No such thing as leagues in my opinion,they might be a beauty who might not look at you,but that same beauty might have a shitty personality or outlook on life,so that's no good anyway.
People can be attracted to people for many reasons,it's not always about looks,I myself tend not to go for females who have fake looks,body etc...but love a natural looking female.....it's all about preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started doing security (bouncing) I got to meet girls who'd chat me up and make passes at me .
At first it's bizarre but then you get used to it ..
I've said before on here the kinda things that have happened but the jealous freaks hide behind the keyboard casting aspersions.
Guys who have done what I do and make the effort know what happens and ladies know exactly what they are doing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they're not interested in a few cans of stout, some corned beef sarnies and I night up the allotments then I dont want to know. I dont care how expensive their hair is... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they're not interested in a few cans of stout, some corned beef sarnies and I night up the allotments then I dont want to know. I dont care how expensive their hair is..."
Do they know you do doggie bags? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they're not interested in a few cans of stout, some corned beef sarnies and I night up the allotments then I dont want to know. I dont care how expensive their hair is...
Do they know you do doggie bags? "
Once they've bagged off with The Doggie they know it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I punch well above my weight with people I show interest in on here, but I usually never have the confidence to meet them and try and put them off or don't keep in contact very well. I think the way I describe myself to guys puts them off a lot too. Calling yourself ugly isn't exactly a turn on!
I'm sure 99.9 percent of the site is out of my league. I hate that term and the punching term but they are applicable to me.
I should think myself lucky if anyone I'm physically attracted to likes me back really! I think most of the interest is solely on my lady parts sadly. 
( no I'm not looking for sympathy, but feel free to give me it anyway. )  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I punch well above my weight with people I show interest in on here, but I usually never have the confidence to meet them and try and put them off or don't keep in contact very well. I think the way I describe myself to guys puts them off a lot too. Calling yourself ugly isn't exactly a turn on!
I'm sure 99.9 percent of the site is out of my league. I hate that term and the punching term but they are applicable to me.
I should think myself lucky if anyone I'm physically attracted to likes me back really! I think most of the interest is solely on my lady parts sadly.
( no I'm not looking for sympathy, but feel free to give me it anyway. ) "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I punch well above my weight with people I show interest in on here, but I usually never have the confidence to meet them and try and put them off or don't keep in contact very well. I think the way I describe myself to guys puts them off a lot too. Calling yourself ugly isn't exactly a turn on!
I'm sure 99.9 percent of the site is out of my league. I hate that term and the punching term but they are applicable to me.
I should think myself lucky if anyone I'm physically attracted to likes me back really! I think most of the interest is solely on my lady parts sadly.
( no I'm not looking for sympathy, but feel free to give me it anyway. ) "
Theres nothing wrong with you at all,and I'm not trying my luck by getting on your good side as we don't live near each other,so genuinely telling you that you're fine xx |
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"I think I punch well above my weight with people I show interest in on here, but I usually never have the confidence to meet them and try and put them off or don't keep in contact very well. I think the way I describe myself to guys puts them off a lot too. Calling yourself ugly isn't exactly a turn on!
I'm sure 99.9 percent of the site is out of my league. I hate that term and the punching term but they are applicable to me.
I should think myself lucky if anyone I'm physically attracted to likes me back really! I think most of the interest is solely on my lady parts sadly.
( no I'm not looking for sympathy, but feel free to give me it anyway. ) "
Nothing wrong with you at all - very attractive but you probably only see what you don’t like about your appearance- not what other people see which is a very attractive woman with a stunning figure xx. That’s my 2p worth xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yea. You seen that youtube video about how sexy and crazy correlate? She was sexy as hell and batshit crazy, we had a one night stand, still friends, but not going there again, for my own sanity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There only out of your league if you let them be and it's your own fault. If you hit it off who cares lol. Now if they think there out your league that's different they can fuck off |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Yes i have..Took a woman for a weekend abroad for a first date (she paid her own way of course),
My mates at the time were telling me she looks too high maintenance/stuck up and i wouldn't be her type.
To this day, we're still good friends and trying to plan more trips away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem with any league is that it ranks people according to points scored on one attribute alone. Imagine if a football referee could award 'goals' for effort, style and feminist awareness of the players...
People are rather more holistic in life decisions.
Mr here. 5 years ago i was parking up in the market square, heading into a fetish social. Spotted a young hot goth walking across the square, dont mind admitting i perved a little. Turns out said hot goth was heading into the same social (her first)
So one option was to say way out of my league, the other, just to get to know her as a person.
We moved in together 3 weeks later and 5 years on still very happy.
I am 35 years older and a bearded grumpy old git (some of the time) so fuck leagues, people are people
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem with any league is that it ranks people according to points scored on one attribute alone. Imagine if a football referee could award 'goals' for effort, style and feminist awareness of the players...
People are rather more holistic in life decisions.
Mr here. 5 years ago i was parking up in the market square, heading into a fetish social. Spotted a young hot goth walking across the square, dont mind admitting i perved a little. Turns out said hot goth was heading into the same social (her first)
So one option was to say way out of my league, the other, just to get to know her as a person.
We moved in together 3 weeks later and 5 years on still very happy.
I am 35 years older and a bearded grumpy old git (some of the time) so fuck leagues, people are people
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That's lovely, really nice story  . You can't use emojis unless you use the forum ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Often get approached on here by guys I think are out of my league as they're so gorgeous..I'm just average I think. I definitely get more attention on here than in real life..although in my defense I live in a very rural area with not many suitors around!
Starts looking at property prices in clywd"
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I met Town a hundred miles from home at an event
Londoner pretty ! Way out of my league
We found we had so much in common, including the swinging..
9 months later she moved to be with me !! Wowzer
Love her to bits !! |
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But I get to go home with her so I win 