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How Important is trust??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust is very important. I wouldn’t want to be with anyone I couldn’t trust- whether long term or for a one off meet. I don’t trust easily though, so I’m very cautious x Viv x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nahhh. It’s not all that.
It adds to the excitement. Are they a devastatingly handsome, young guy with a great sense of humour who is going to make my earth shake or are they catfishing me and also happen to be a serial killer. Who knows! That’s the fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nahhh. It’s not all that.
It adds to the excitement. Are they a devastatingly handsome, young guy with a great sense of humour who is going to make my earth shake or are they catfishing me and also happen to be a serial killer. Who knows! That’s the fun "
Always keep a loaded pistol in your garter. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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Trust...?
You'll turn up.
Be like you described yourself.
You'll be clean and nice smelling.
You'll be discreet.
You'll have a great time, as will I.
You'll respect our boundaries.
You'll not rob my place, when I'm asleep.
So yeah, it's an important thing. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Who are we trusting or not?
I think it's important in any relationship but how far do I need to trust the people we meet casually and in what respect?"
I think there are different layers and levels of trust dependent on a relationship - a casual acquaintance you pass in the street you trust at a fairly low and basic level...
....someone you decide to have sex with once at a club you trust to be honest about certain things (sexual health for example)...
...someone you have an ongoing meet situation with you may trust at a slightly higher level...or perhaps if kink is part of the equation you trust them to respect limits etc
It's all very individual and dependent on a given dynamic but there is an element of trust in all that we do whether it be swinging or otherwise - so for me anyone saying it's not important actually either hasn't thought about it or means a lower level of trust is required than that another person might think |
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"Who are we trusting or not?
I think it's important in any relationship but how far do I need to trust the people we meet casually and in what respect?
I think there are different layers and levels of trust dependent on a relationship - a casual acquaintance you pass in the street you trust at a fairly low and basic level...
....someone you decide to have sex with once at a club you trust to be honest about certain things (sexual health for example)...
...someone you have an ongoing meet situation with you may trust at a slightly higher level...or perhaps if kink is part of the equation you trust them to respect limits etc
It's all very individual and dependent on a given dynamic but there is an element of trust in all that we do whether it be swinging or otherwise - so for me anyone saying it's not important actually either hasn't thought about it or means a lower level of trust is required than that another person might think"
I think that people who say that trust isn't important are really say "trusting me is not possible, therefore you should place no importance on it" |
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"Who are we trusting or not?
I think it's important in any relationship but how far do I need to trust the people we meet casually and in what respect?
I think there are different layers and levels of trust dependent on a relationship - a casual acquaintance you pass in the street you trust at a fairly low and basic level...
....someone you decide to have sex with once at a club you trust to be honest about certain things (sexual health for example)...
...someone you have an ongoing meet situation with you may trust at a slightly higher level...or perhaps if kink is part of the equation you trust them to respect limits etc
It's all very individual and dependent on a given dynamic but there is an element of trust in all that we do whether it be swinging or otherwise - so for me anyone saying it's not important actually either hasn't thought about it or means a lower level of trust is required than that another person might think"
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Trust is very important and you should be honest and no lies to each other and you know we’re u standing if you hid the honest and the lie it just get bigger bigger before you know it get out of control and everything blow up in your face if you are swinging or not x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust is very important. However trust is purely believing that a person will do what you expect them to do. It is a judgement call an individual makes based on what they know about someone.
Swinging can often put you in a position where you have not had a lot of time to make that judgement. Even chatting on here over time does not allow the most accurate judgement of someone. Some people trust easily but is it misplaced? How can you trust someone entirely based on information they have volunteered?
For me I need to feel I trust someone. However maybe those who say trust is not important find it harder to trust anyone at all but don’t want that to stop them from swinging?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Trust is very important. However trust is purely believing that a person will do what you expect them to do. It is a judgement call an individual makes based on what they know about someone.
Swinging can often put you in a position where you have not had a lot of time to make that judgement. Even chatting on here over time does not allow the most accurate judgement of someone. Some people trust easily but is it misplaced? How can you trust someone entirely based on information they have volunteered?
For me I need to feel I trust someone. However maybe those who say trust is not important find it harder to trust anyone at all but don’t want that to stop them from swinging?
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Exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Trust is very important. However trust is purely believing that a person will do what you expect them to do. It is a judgement call an individual makes based on what they know about someone.
Swinging can often put you in a position where you have not had a lot of time to make that judgement. Even chatting on here over time does not allow the most accurate judgement of someone. Some people trust easily but is it misplaced? How can you trust someone entirely based on information they have volunteered?
For me I need to feel I trust someone. However maybe those who say trust is not important find it harder to trust anyone at all but don’t want that to stop them from swinging?
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Trust is expecting them to do what they believe is the right thing to do! Everyone has conscious. Trust comes with integrity. Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Trust is very important. However trust is purely believing that a person will do what you expect them to do. It is a judgement call an individual makes based on what they know about someone.
Swinging can often put you in a position where you have not had a lot of time to make that judgement. Even chatting on here over time does not allow the most accurate judgement of someone. Some people trust easily but is it misplaced? How can you trust someone entirely based on information they have volunteered?
For me I need to feel I trust someone. However maybe those who say trust is not important find it harder to trust anyone at all but don’t want that to stop them from swinging?
Trust is expecting them to do what they believe is the right thing to do! Everyone has conscious. Trust comes with integrity. Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching! "
It is expecting them to do what you believe they should believe is the right thing to do. Very different.
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