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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
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I can be short tempered when I'm tired and/or stessed or hormonal, and will sometimes shout at the children for example, when I shouldn't.
I do try to curb it though but we are only human.
Don't beat yourself up OP, we are sure your good traits outweigh the minority of the not so good.
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over a year ago
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I’m too nice, put it this way I play Rugby and I play in a position that requires me to tackle hard and still to this day I can’t floor someone without apologising but even the nicest people have a breaking point! |
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I think by default I'm a people pleaser. It's not all it's cracked up to be. I'm unlearning that. Partly because I seethe until I blow up. And partly because it can be kinder to be honest rather than pussy foot around the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m nice to the people I care about. Everyone else I’m just polite. I’m stubborn though and I’m not much of a forgiver if people mess with me or mine. I’m a bit Gemma Teller  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not sure I am *nice*. I do think that nice can often be a sort of front? Like you know that they're not nice 100% of the time but they feel they have to be and it's weird. You can read it in tone etc.
Thinking about it, I'm not nice as such. I'm flawed but working on those flaws. I think that what I am is good enough though. More than. I'm nice to those I care about and like. Those I'm not particularly fond of, I'm not going to try and be nice per se but I am going to show them compassion and try and be kinder to them. They have their own struggles so why add to them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some folk will tell you that I'm the nicest guy you could ever meet.
Others will tell you I'm a heartless cunt.
You should believe them both. I dont treat people badly....I treat them accordingly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some folk will tell you that I'm the nicest guy you could ever meet.
Others will tell you I'm a heartless cunt.
You should believe them both. I dont treat people badly....I treat them accordingly."
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A woman I know is "nice" to everyone. She goes out of her way to be "nice". It causes problems because people think she's their friend and she isn't.
I think the thing is that genuine niceness isn't forced, non-genuine niceness is obvious
Most of us are ok, very few people are outright nasty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A woman I know is "nice" to everyone. She goes out of her way to be "nice". It causes problems because people think she's their friend and she isn't.
I think the thing is that genuine niceness isn't forced, non-genuine niceness is obvious
Most of us are ok, very few people are outright nasty."
So if I ask her to have sex with me as a 'friend' she would say yes? |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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I am naturally polite and will treat others with kindness if they deserve it. I try to treat others fairly with the notion "treat others as you would have them treat you". This doesn't make me a doormat however, far from it.
Once someone has been blatantly inconsiderate, nasty or disrespectful, they receive only disdain and contempt from me. Once someone falls out of favour with me, very rarely do they get back on my good side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
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I’m curious why you think you’re not naturally nice?!
Having a short temper doesn’t make someone not nice?!
Whilst Im not the most personable person I wouldn’t say I’m not nice.....how you treat me will very much depend on how I treat you....if that makes sense?!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
I’m curious why you think you’re not naturally nice?!
Having a short temper doesn’t make someone not nice?!
Whilst Im not the most personable person I wouldn’t say I’m not nice.....how you treat me will very much depend on how I treat you....if that makes sense?! "
I used to be nice but have lost my way recently, so trying to bring it back. It's not everyone elses fault things are shitty haha and it's not a reason for me to be a bitch.
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse."
I'm a lot like this too. |
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
I'm a lot like this too. "
I know. Perhaps that’s why we get on so well |
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
I'm a lot like this too.
I know. Perhaps that’s why we get on so well "
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse."
Been there before. |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse."
Totally me |
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
Been there before."
I've fucked up so many things trying to fix them. Meh. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse."
I always apologise if I upset someone or it would eat me up, but I want to stop it getting to the point if upset if that makes sense. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
Been there before.
I've fucked up so many things trying to fix them. Meh."
Same. Sometimes it's good to just step away and not try to - fixing things might help your conscience but not actually help the other person's (not directed at you Swing or anyone on here for that matter). |
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
Been there before.
I've fucked up so many things trying to fix them. Meh.
Same. Sometimes it's good to just step away and not try to - fixing things might help your conscience but not actually help the other person's (not directed at you Swing or anyone on here for that matter)."
Oh I've learned that the hard way more than once! |
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
Been there before.
I've fucked up so many things trying to fix them. Meh."
Yup, makes you wonder if it's actually worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
Been there before.
I've fucked up so many things trying to fix them. Meh."
Balls isn't it. |
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
Been there before.
I've fucked up so many things trying to fix them. Meh.
Balls isn't it. "
What doesn't kill us gives us scars and hopefully lessons. Hey ho |
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"I am naturally kind, it makes me feel good, but I’m a long way from perfect. I hate knowing I’ve upset someone, and always try to fix things, which sometimes makes everything worse.
Been there before.
I've fucked up so many things trying to fix them. Meh.
Balls isn't it.
What doesn't kill us gives us scars and hopefully lessons. Hey ho"
Nicely put. I've always hated that saying. I'm pretty sure that a stroke wouldnt necessarily kill you but it certainly wont make you stronger. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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I’m the best friend you could have but also the worst enemy.
I used to always see the good in people especially ones that don’t have much in life. I tend to take people under my wing.
Unfortunately I have changed massively as I had my fingers burnt. Now I am extremely cautious of people.
So no I’m probably not as nice as I used to be. |
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"A woman I know is "nice" to everyone. She goes out of her way to be "nice". It causes problems because people think she's their friend and she isn't.
I think the thing is that genuine niceness isn't forced, non-genuine niceness is obvious
Most of us are ok, very few people are outright nasty.
So if I ask her to have sex with me as a 'friend' she would say yes?"
Probably but she'd have no intention of going through with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A woman I know is "nice" to everyone. She goes out of her way to be "nice". It causes problems because people think she's their friend and she isn't.
I think the thing is that genuine niceness isn't forced, non-genuine niceness is obvious
Most of us are ok, very few people are outright nasty.
So if I ask her to have sex with me as a 'friend' she would say yes?
Probably but she'd have no intention of going through with it"
.tbh she probably won't even feel it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m the best friend you could have but also the worst enemy.
I used to always see the good in people especially ones that don’t have much in life. I tend to take people under my wing.
Unfortunately I have changed massively as I had my fingers burnt. Now I am extremely cautious of people.
So no I’m probably not as nice as I used to be. "
It is hard not to shaped by past experiences x |
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"A woman I know is "nice" to everyone. She goes out of her way to be "nice". It causes problems because people think she's their friend and she isn't.
I think the thing is that genuine niceness isn't forced, non-genuine niceness is obvious
Most of us are ok, very few people are outright nasty.
So if I ask her to have sex with me as a 'friend' she would say yes?
Probably but she'd have no intention of going through with it
.tbh she probably won't even feel it "
She'll feel the beard though and that's what counts  |
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I’m to nice as my husband is always telling me if I think I’ve upset someone it plays on my mind and I feel awful..I have in the past let people walk all over me..I wish sometimes i wasn’t and have tried to change but it doesn’t come naturally to me but I’m still a work in progress.. |
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No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances. |
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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
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"I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
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yes , but even that is taken the wrong way often xxx massive hugs to you xxxxx you are who you are and that's why you are what you are and who you are, people don't like you for what you are then FCUK them |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances. "
I think I'm a little too forgiving, I just wont forget. |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
I think I'm a little too forgiving, I just wont forget."
You can forgive some things, but never forget as that’s your lesson learnt and you know you need to be cautious with that individual. It’s a tough balancing act. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I’m nice and it makes me happy to be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my grumpy moments like others and I may have a moan occasionally but I don’t really have arguments or fall out with people. It’s not straightforward being nice though because people can mistrust, like you must be being nice for a reason. It’s not how it works for me. I don’t work at it or try to be nice and even when people are being rude I can be nice. If I’m hurt or someone else is being hurt in whatever way then I’m more likely to say something but even then I would be polite. Generally though, I’m just nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
I’m curious why you think you’re not naturally nice?!
Having a short temper doesn’t make someone not nice?!
Whilst Im not the most personable person I wouldn’t say I’m not nice.....how you treat me will very much depend on how I treat you....if that makes sense?!
I used to be nice but have lost my way recently, so trying to bring it back. It's not everyone elses fault things are shitty haha and it's not a reason for me to be a bitch.
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Everyone loses their way at some point or another and for various reasons. Don’t beat yourself up. Those who know you and are worth a damn know who you are.
Irrespective of this you know who you are and the person you protect is you. We do this in many ways and sometimes we just need to shit off to the demands of others and have a breather.
None of that makes you a not nice person.x
Makes you real.x |
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It very much depends on how people are with me...I approach everyone I meet with an open mind and reciprocate the way they behave towards me. To my friends and those I care about, I'm kind, loyal and generous, and will go out of my way to help or just do thoughtful things. However, if someone wants to treat me in a less than pleasant manner they will be met with a complete bitch. And once I've taken a dislike to somebody I won't change my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My personal values are respect, polite, professional and always being helpful. I am committed to be a better version of me. I try to be good. But not perfect yet. Believe in progression over perfection! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like to think I'm a nice guy and act accordingly, but quite happy not being nice if the person isn't nice with me.
I say fuck what people think about you, if they don't like you that's their problem not yours @OP |
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There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though |
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though "
This! |
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"I’m nice and it makes me happy to be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my grumpy moments like others and I may have a moan occasionally but I don’t really have arguments or fall out with people. It’s not straightforward being nice though because people can mistrust, like you must be being nice for a reason. It’s not how it works for me. I don’t work at it or try to be nice and even when people are being rude I can be nice. If I’m hurt or someone else is being hurt in whatever way then I’m more likely to say something but even then I would be polite. Generally though, I’m just nice. "
You have come across exactly the way you have described yourself. You are that one in hundred. Keep it up and hopefully be a role model to many!
I mean it and not flirting with you for a change!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t think nice is a characteristic that would be used to describe me these days. I was a nice boy when I was younger and in my early teens. I can be kind and generous, empathetic and compassionate but I’m challenging when necessary, I have a dark side that people see from time to time. I can be aggressive in conflict situations and have other less than endearing characteristics. |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
I think I'm a little too forgiving, I just wont forget.
You can forgive some things, but never forget as that’s your lesson learnt and you know you need to be cautious with that individual. It’s a tough balancing act. "
Oh yes definitely. And I do just that. As you know! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances. "
Agree regarding breaking point. However, do you agree we can work on increasing our resilience? |
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By *abs..Woman
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"I’m nice and it makes me happy to be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my grumpy moments like others and I may have a moan occasionally but I don’t really have arguments or fall out with people. It’s not straightforward being nice though because people can mistrust, like you must be being nice for a reason. It’s not how it works for me. I don’t work at it or try to be nice and even when people are being rude I can be nice. If I’m hurt or someone else is being hurt in whatever way then I’m more likely to say something but even then I would be polite. Generally though, I’m just nice.
You have come across exactly the way you have described yourself. You are that one in hundred. Keep it up and hopefully be a role model to many!
I mean it and not flirting with you for a change! "
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though "
This is how I aspire to be |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
Agree regarding breaking point. However, do you agree we can work on increasing our resilience?"
At this age my resilience is at a very good level, it is and not going any higher |
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"I’m nice and it makes me happy to be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my grumpy moments like others and I may have a moan occasionally but I don’t really have arguments or fall out with people. It’s not straightforward being nice though because people can mistrust, like you must be being nice for a reason. It’s not how it works for me. I don’t work at it or try to be nice and even when people are being rude I can be nice. If I’m hurt or someone else is being hurt in whatever way then I’m more likely to say something but even then I would be polite. Generally though, I’m just nice.
You have come across exactly the way you have described yourself. You are that one in hundred. Keep it up and hopefully be a role model to many!
I mean it and not flirting with you for a change!
Thank you "
There should be a meme thing “be like babs”
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
I think I'm a little too forgiving, I just wont forget.
You can forgive some things, but never forget as that’s your lesson learnt and you know you need to be cautious with that individual. It’s a tough balancing act.
Oh yes definitely. And I do just that. As you know! "
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"I’m nice and it makes me happy to be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my grumpy moments like others and I may have a moan occasionally but I don’t really have arguments or fall out with people. It’s not straightforward being nice though because people can mistrust, like you must be being nice for a reason. It’s not how it works for me. I don’t work at it or try to be nice and even when people are being rude I can be nice. If I’m hurt or someone else is being hurt in whatever way then I’m more likely to say something but even then I would be polite. Generally though, I’m just nice.
You have come across exactly the way you have described yourself. You are that one in hundred. Keep it up and hopefully be a role model to many!
I mean it and not flirting with you for a change!
Thank you
There should be a meme thing “be like babs”
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over a year ago
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I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm nice accordingly. If you're nice to me then im nice to you and if you're not then ill be twice as nasty. I am a nice person i just don't let people away with it |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
Agree regarding breaking point. However, do you agree we can work on increasing our resilience?
At this age my resilience is at a very good level, it is and not going any higher "
Age is just a number. I believe you can keep working on it till death! |
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over a year ago
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"I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher"
Tune! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m nice and it makes me happy to be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my grumpy moments like others and I may have a moan occasionally but I don’t really have arguments or fall out with people. It’s not straightforward being nice though because people can mistrust, like you must be being nice for a reason. It’s not how it works for me. I don’t work at it or try to be nice and even when people are being rude I can be nice. If I’m hurt or someone else is being hurt in whatever way then I’m more likely to say something but even then I would be polite. Generally though, I’m just nice.
You have come across exactly the way you have described yourself. You are that one in hundred. Keep it up and hopefully be a role model to many!
I mean it and not flirting with you for a change!
Thank you
There should be a meme thing “be like babs”
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Nora |
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"I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher
Tune! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher
Tune!
Who is it?"
Rag n bone man |
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over a year ago
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"I’m nice and it makes me happy to be nice. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my grumpy moments like others and I may have a moan occasionally but I don’t really have arguments or fall out with people. It’s not straightforward being nice though because people can mistrust, like you must be being nice for a reason. It’s not how it works for me. I don’t work at it or try to be nice and even when people are being rude I can be nice. If I’m hurt or someone else is being hurt in whatever way then I’m more likely to say something but even then I would be polite. Generally though, I’m just nice.
You have come across exactly the way you have described yourself. You are that one in hundred. Keep it up and hopefully be a role model to many!
I mean it and not flirting with you for a change!
Thank you
There should be a meme thing “be like babs”
Nora "
True though. We are quite similar as we know and agree on most things but I’ve got that added stubborn feistiness! I WANT to be like babs! I really do |
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over a year ago
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"I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher
Tune!
Who is it?
Rag n bone man"
Oh and from the thread last night...love you too |
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"I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher
Tune!
Who is it?
Rag n bone man"
I see |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
Agree regarding breaking point. However, do you agree we can work on increasing our resilience?
At this age my resilience is at a very good level, it is and not going any higher
Age is just a number. I believe you can keep working on it till death! "
It is but my resilience really can’t go any higher than it is ! |
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"I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher"
Perfect tune ! |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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I'm generally a nice person, and the few genuine people who know me will know that.
But too many times, people take advantage, try manipulate or just see friendship as a throwaway.
So for me it comes down to three categories: keep, discard or manipulate  |
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over a year ago
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"I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
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Can be both, depending on what they deserve, I have a pretty good radar for that shit. Sorry you've had a tough time though my lovely and hope you're feeling better. Always free for a chat. Nip x |
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though "
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm me, take me or leave me, I say things as I see them, and certainly don't go out of my way to be malicious or mean, and if that means people think I'm "nice" then it's a lovely compliment.
When it comes to other people, I try to treat as I find, but do think, at times, I give people too much of a benefit of the doubt though and tend to hold my tongue while doing so, but that only lasts so long until I have to say something - particularly if I disagree with their actions or the way they are - then I'll either tell them exactly what I think or cut them out of my life where I can.
I'm a positive person and constant negativity and doom and gloom tends to grind me down - especially when that person absolutely refuses to drink the water I have led them to. |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
Agree regarding breaking point. However, do you agree we can work on increasing our resilience?
At this age my resilience is at a very good level, it is and not going any higher
Age is just a number. I believe you can keep working on it till death!
It is but my resilience really can’t go any higher than it is ! "
Where there is a will there is a way! My apologies for being so persuasive! |
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
Agree regarding breaking point. However, do you agree we can work on increasing our resilience?
At this age my resilience is at a very good level, it is and not going any higher
Age is just a number. I believe you can keep working on it till death!
It is but my resilience really can’t go any higher than it is !
Where there is a will there is a way! My apologies for being so persuasive! "
As someone who doesn’t know me, you can’t judge how high my resilience is, only those that know me, know it’s true marker and it can’t go higher ! |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
I think I’m a nice person, always try to see the good in people however I’m not a walkover which I suspect some people think I am. I’m feisty, will stand my ground and don’t do second chances (10 year ago maybe but not now). |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I'm me, take me or leave me, I say things as I see them, and certainly don't go out of my way to be malicious or mean, and if that means people think I'm "nice" then it's a lovely compliment.
When it comes to other people, I try to treat as I find, but do think, at times, I give people too much of a benefit of the doubt though and tend to hold my tongue while doing so, but that only lasts so long until I have to say something - particularly if I disagree with their actions or the way they are - then I'll either tell them exactly what I think or cut them out of my life where I can.
I'm a positive person and constant negativity and doom and gloom tends to grind me down - especially when that person absolutely refuses to drink the water I have led them to."
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"No one is 100% nice, everyone has their breaking point
Those that know me, know I’ll give anyone the time of day, listen for hours and everyone gets the benefit of doubt. On the other hand they also know that I will tell them exactly how it is and won’t mince my words. Patience can only last so long when you’ve been asked for advice, give it and they keep doing the same thing over and over, asking the same questions..... you can lead a camel to water but you can’t make it drink !
Those that truly deserve my time get it 100% and they know I’ll do anything for them
However, if you cross me or break my trust I’ll be polite to a point, but you’ll know we are no longer friends. I’m a stubborn one and there is no getting back in my good books as by the the time this happens, they’ve had enough chances.
Agree regarding breaking point. However, do you agree we can work on increasing our resilience?
At this age my resilience is at a very good level, it is and not going any higher
Age is just a number. I believe you can keep working on it till death!
It is but my resilience really can’t go any higher than it is !
Where there is a will there is a way! My apologies for being so persuasive!
As someone who doesn’t know me, you can’t judge how high my resilience is, only those that know me, know it’s true marker and it can’t go higher ! "
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now "
Too sleepy to do my own words, so can I borrow yours? They look like something I'd write
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"I'm only human,
I make mistakes
I'm only human that's all it takes
To put the blame on me
Don't put the blame on me
'Cause I'm no prophet or messiah
You should go looking somewhere higher
Tune!
Who is it?
Rag n bone man
Oh and from the thread last night...love you too "
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"I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
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As Dr Who always says"Be kind!" It's a good philosophy for life! |
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"I have had some home truths thrown at me this weekend, and I'll be honest, they didn't feel good.
I'm not naturally nice and my temper is short, so I have to work at it and I am going to make an effort.
Are you naturally nice? Or is it something that you think about when dealing with people?
As Dr Who always says"Be kind!" It's a good philosophy for life! "
It is and I try...but then people just be and I get frustrated  |
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now "
Hallelujah! Funny thing is on all the posts, when someone nails it, everyone ignores it lol  |
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though "
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now
Too sleepy to do my own words, so can I borrow yours? They look like something I'd write
Mrs TMN x"
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now
Hallelujah! Funny thing is on all the posts, when someone nails it, everyone ignores it lol "
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now
Hallelujah! Funny thing is on all the posts, when someone nails it, everyone ignores it lol
I’m used to it lol "
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now
Hallelujah! Funny thing is on all the posts, when someone nails it, everyone ignores it lol
I’m used to it lol
I see you "
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now
Hallelujah! Funny thing is on all the posts, when someone nails it, everyone ignores it lol
I’m used to it lol
I see you
Me too xx"
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now "
I kinda agree but disagree at the same time. The words look beautiful the way they're written, however plenty of ppl might use kindness, compassion or empathy as tools for selfish gain or to divide folk or create distrust in others. I see a lot of grey where others maybe see black and white I guess. We're all good and bad combined and shouldn't beat ourselves up over that. Sometimes what could be seen as selfish by others might be a case of who needs you the most, more an issue of where to divert your limited attention. But yes genuine kindness, the selfless kind, is a rare and precious thing to possess and receive |
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"There’s already too much nastiness in the world I believe in being nice, treat people the way you want to be treated is my mantra. Don’t confuse this with being weak or a push over though
There is a tendency in some to associate kindness with weakness. It’s not, it’s actually the opposite. It can take real strength to be kind in this world of ours, just as it takes courage to own your mistakes or forgive the mistakes of others. The negative emotions are easy. Nobody has to try to be hateful. You don’t work at being distrustful or make an effort to be selfish. Kindness, compassion, empathy, these are not easy virtues to keep. It’s why they are rare and valuable. Everybody wants a friend who is kind and compassionate. Nobody wants a friend who is selfish and uncaring... I’m starting to ramble. I’ll stop now
Hallelujah! Funny thing is on all the posts, when someone nails it, everyone ignores it lol
I’m used to it lol
I see you
Me too xx
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I’m a kind person and also empathetic and compassionate. I’ll defend and support family and friends, tolerate rudeness and someone whose inconsiderate to a point but I don’t forgive easily ( It’s something I’m working on).
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” ....... |
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