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"This is what I read in someone's profile as an explanation why he would never show his face publicly."
its a valid reason. If he doesn't want to show his face because it would jeopardise his job I think he's being sensible |
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"This is what I read in someone's profile as an explanation why he would never show his face publicly.
its a valid reason. If he doesn't want to show his face because it would jeopardise his job I think he's being sensible"
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"In my work.
What does it mean? That outside work you're not?"
My dyslexia nearly got the better of me then reading that title  I think people often use it to state they’re not working class and have better jobs. To me it doesn’t matter. Yes I’m a professional but attraction in someone else doesn’t need to come down to what they do for work imo  |
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I understand that people might not want to show their face. For whatever reason. But to say it's because "I'm a professional" I just find rather weird |
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"I understand that people might not want to show their face. For whatever reason. But to say it's because "I'm a professional" I just find rather weird "
I personally wouldn’t want my patients or there relatives to see me on here which is why I don’t have a full face picture. But you can state it in other ways that being a professional. I’m happy to explain to anyone if they asked |
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Possibly the best example is that of sports persons.
Back in the day only Amateur sports persons could participate in the Olympic Games whereas now they only allow professionals.
The difference between the two is that professionals get paid. |
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"In my work.
What does it mean? That outside work you're not?
Absolutely. Outside of work I am a total freak, batshit crazy....  "
Finally I get some valid explanation |
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"So howcome I'm more of a twat in work than I am outside if I'm a certified professional, 
I think only you can answer that "
Youd hope i was more professional in work when you know what I do and nope, I refuse to answer my own questions. I'm a twat like that |
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"So howcome I'm more of a twat in work than I am outside if I'm a certified professional,
I think only you can answer that
Youd hope i was more professional in work when you know what I do and nope, I refuse to answer my own questions. I'm a twat like that "
Glad you are |
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"So howcome I'm more of a twat in work than I am outside if I'm a certified professional,
I think only you can answer that
Youd hope i was more professional in work when you know what I do and nope, I refuse to answer my own questions. I'm a twat like that "
I class myself as the most unprofessional professional on the planet. Tbh I’m a twat both in & out of the work place  |
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"So howcome I'm more of a twat in work than I am outside if I'm a certified professional,
I think only you can answer that
Youd hope i was more professional in work when you know what I do and nope, I refuse to answer my own questions. I'm a twat like that
Glad you are "
I appreciate your professionalism in this instance  |
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"So howcome I'm more of a twat in work than I am outside if I'm a certified professional,
I think only you can answer that
Youd hope i was more professional in work when you know what I do and nope, I refuse to answer my own questions. I'm a twat like that
Glad you are
I appreciate your professionalism in this instance "
You can count on me  |
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When I was working I was completely professional, we both were. Neither of us was professional outside of work, there was no need for it and it's not relevant. Now we're retired we're not professional at all.
The word does seem to cause a lot of upset on fab though |
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"So howcome I'm more of a twat in work than I am outside if I'm a certified professional,
I think only you can answer that
Youd hope i was more professional in work when you know what I do and nope, I refuse to answer my own questions. I'm a twat like that
Glad you are
I appreciate your professionalism in this instance
You can count on me "
Up to 20 if you include your toes as well as your fingers |
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I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown |
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Once people are naked we are all the same, it's not where you come from or where you are going & not what you have or don't have.
People term themselves mostly for confidence to part of something like a group or a gang for acceptance in society.
Me & Kim have friends ranging from those that don't have a pot to pee in to some that are millionaires, you could put them in the same room & no would would know they lead different lives.
Don't label yourselves guys just enjoy people for who there are. |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown "
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional "
I'll get my coat as well  |
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"Once people are naked we are all the same, it's not where you come from or where you are going & not what you have or don't have.
People term themselves mostly for confidence to part of something like a group or a gang for acceptance in society.
Me & Kim have friends ranging from those that don't have a pot to pee in to some that are millionaires, you could put them in the same room & no would would know they lead different lives.
Don't label yourselves guys just enjoy people for who there are."
I’m the same. If fact the richer friends I have dress like they’re not the richer friends. In a room of people you’d be picking them as the skint ones |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional "
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
I'll get my coat as well "
Shall we share an Uber?? |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
I'll get my coat as well
Shall we share an Uber?? "
Only if you wear PPE |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional "
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
I'll get my coat as well
Shall we share an Uber??
Only if you wear PPE "
I’ve put my outside work PPE on |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it "
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way? |
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"Once people are naked we are all the same, it's not where you come from or where you are going & not what you have or don't have.
People term themselves mostly for confidence to part of something like a group or a gang for acceptance in society.
Me & Kim have friends ranging from those that don't have a pot to pee in to some that are millionaires, you could put them in the same room & no would would know they lead different lives.
Don't label yourselves guys just enjoy people for who there are."
True & well said, sometimes I am still struggling with bios on profiles. Indeed there is some info that should be explained such as when & how they will meet but there are a lot of unnecessary fantasies too. |
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"I understand that people might not want to show their face. For whatever reason. But to say it's because "I'm a professional" I just find rather weird "
Was he willing to video chat before a meeting or just wanted you to meet him without a face picture? |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way?"
I think it’s a class issue. Them and us. Rather than fellow humans. |
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"I understand that people might not want to show their face. For whatever reason. But to say it's because "I'm a professional" I just find rather weird
Was he willing to video chat before a meeting or just wanted you to meet him without a face picture?"
He winked at me, liked my pictures and requested to be friends. No message. I wouldn't be interested. |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way?
I think it’s a class issue. Them and us. Rather than fellow humans. "
Ok. I personally have no problem with someone describing themselves as professional in a profile. I assume that they're describing themselves in an effort to give an idea of what I can expect. I don't see it as an exclusive thing or a class issue |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
I'll get my coat as well
Shall we share an Uber??
Only if you wear PPE
I’ve put my outside work PPE on "
So classy |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way?
I think it’s a class issue. Them and us. Rather than fellow humans.
Ok. I personally have no problem with someone describing themselves as professional in a profile. I assume that they're describing themselves in an effort to give an idea of what I can expect. I don't see it as an exclusive thing or a class issue"
I guess it depends how it’s written and the expectation behind it. I’m not put off by it as such depending what’s around it. As I said earlier attraction n connection comes before someone’s career or lack of career for me |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
I'll get my coat as well
Shall we share an Uber??
Only if you wear PPE
I’ve put my outside work PPE on
So classy "
I do like to dress up for the ladies you know and guys too. I like to look my best |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way?
I think it’s a class issue. Them and us. Rather than fellow humans.
Ok. I personally have no problem with someone describing themselves as professional in a profile. I assume that they're describing themselves in an effort to give an idea of what I can expect. I don't see it as an exclusive thing or a class issue
I guess it depends how it’s written and the expectation behind it. I’m not put off by it as such depending what’s around it. As I said earlier attraction n connection comes before someone’s career or lack of career for me "
I’m not doubting your sincerity...... But do you have any work or education criteria for someone you sleep with?
This is not a dig at you but sometimes when I read comments on a thread....
I’m like come on man you’re trying to sound prefect....
For example you are a nurse , you went to university and worked hard to become the man that you are....
So you would have no problems sleeping with a unemployed single mom with 6 children living in a counsel house surviving on the dole? |
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I’m a professional is used by different types of people. Those whose heads are up their arses and believe that this will attract someone of an upper class nature, or it may be someone attempting to let people know that they would be easily identified through their job which may be in the public eye, therefore requiring an element of discretion.
It’s hard to identify which one is which when reading a profile, but I suppose after a few messages you would soon know. |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way?
I think it’s a class issue. Them and us. Rather than fellow humans.
Ok. I personally have no problem with someone describing themselves as professional in a profile. I assume that they're describing themselves in an effort to give an idea of what I can expect. I don't see it as an exclusive thing or a class issue
I guess it depends how it’s written and the expectation behind it. I’m not put off by it as such depending what’s around it. As I said earlier attraction n connection comes before someone’s career or lack of career for me
I’m not doubting your sincerity...... But do you have any work or education criteria for someone you sleep with?
This is not a dig at you but sometimes when I read comments on a thread....
I’m like come on man you’re trying to sound prefect....
For example you are a nurse , you went to university and worked hard to become the man that you are....
So you would have no problems sleeping with a unemployed single mom with 6 children living in a counsel house surviving on the dole?"
I don’t judge anyway for who they are black/white/brown. Gay/straight/bi. Male/female/trans/tv/cd. or what they have/don’t have. If I get on with them I get on with them. If I’m attracted to someone then I’m attracted to them and it’s as simple as that. If that sounds perfect as you put it that’s not me trying to be perfect that’s me as a person. I used to work in addiction services now many would frown at someone who’s addicted to drugs and/alcohol but I’ve met some of the nicest people on the planet. Polite, kind, genuine people. Same with someone who hears voices or has psychosis. Or self harms. My personal problem is that there’s too much judgment of those less fortunate with little consideration of the full narrative behind why someone doesn’t work and had 6 kids or whatever the issue is as most would have. Now on the flip side to that. Yes it’s one thing meeting someone for a FWB situation or even a one off meet although that’s not my thing, who has 6 kids or however many but I wouldn’t want to be in a full relationship with that person as I dislike kids and would never want to be a step parent at any level. But that’s just my preference. But that’s not to say I couldn’t enjoy time in there company away from the kids. I’m a completely honest person and I will always endeavour to answer any question posed to me to the best of my ability. I’m an open book on the whole although parts of my life I choose to keep to myself in terms of I wouldn’t discuss fab/swinging with my work colleagues or even discuss any of my personal life with them. I’m selective who I share stuff with in my friends circle about involvement in swinging but that’s because some maybe many wouldn’t get it. Hope that answers your question and settles your curiosity. |
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"Possibly the best example is that of sports persons.
Back in the day only Amateur sports persons could participate in the Olympic Games whereas now they only allow professionals.
The difference between the two is that professionals get paid."
The best example?! |
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"Probably better just to state that something is job related, rather than use a term that's loaded with potential for being disliked. "
If you're bitter, jealous, with a chip on your shoulder and an inferiority complex, doesn't matter what's written it'll be disliked. |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way?
I think it’s a class issue. Them and us. Rather than fellow humans.
Ok. I personally have no problem with someone describing themselves as professional in a profile. I assume that they're describing themselves in an effort to give an idea of what I can expect. I don't see it as an exclusive thing or a class issue
I guess it depends how it’s written and the expectation behind it. I’m not put off by it as such depending what’s around it. As I said earlier attraction n connection comes before someone’s career or lack of career for me "
Me too. Which is why I find it difficult to understand why people have such a problem with professionals if job status is irrelevant to them. |
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Some folks say they’re “Educated”.
We are all “educated” because all (or most) of us have been to school. Some went to University as well but it may only mean they’ve been educated for a bit longer having never actually left school till they got a degree or something !!!
I’m proud to say I was educated at school then have been attending the “School of Life” for the rest of my life.
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I don’t have any reference to my work on my profile- because I don’t expect people to judge/form an opinion of me based on my chosen career. Just as I would not do the same to others.
Also, work me and home me are very different people. |
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It’s a nice way of saying middle class without being so blatant. It’s not an insult to anyone who isn’t, but just inclination of the lifestyle that they live. Thus making a social a little awkward to anyone who may not be comfortable or necessarily be able to afford a social is a decent restaurant. We had a social with one couple who were clearly out of their depth. An uncomfortable social is no good for anyone.
If the term upsets you. Then the profile doesn’t suit you. Tuck you bottom lip in and carry on. |
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If someone mentions this it immediately puts me off
I just don't see the need for it. I don't care what you do, I only care about what kind of person you are. And that, tells me your probably not for me |
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"We had a social with one couple who were clearly out of their depth.
That seriously smacks of arrogance."
So be it. We aren’t suited. It’s all there for just that. |
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"If someone mentions this it immediately puts me off
I just don't see the need for it. I don't care what you do, I only care about what kind of person you are. And that, tells me your probably not for me"
If you don't care what they do why does them being professional put you off? |
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"If someone mentions this it immediately puts me off
I just don't see the need for it. I don't care what you do, I only care about what kind of person you are. And that, tells me your probably not for me
If you don't care what they do why does them being professional put you off?"
I think maybe because it means that they place importance on things that I don't. |
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X"
I'm a professional landscaper and I'm educated in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm well I got nvqs and gcses so in uuummmm.
Nope fuck it I'm thick as fuck lol |
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Some professional people might have an honest reason if they have a very high profile job but the majority of job it wouldnt really inflict on its a cop out when people put it. I dont understand why people hide they have an open sexlife society is so narrow minded and tunnel visioned its rather sad |
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It’s the perfect word for a profile. If you like it, it works to let people know what type of person you are. If you don’t like it, it separates people who don’t want to see each other. So this thread is redundant.
Basically this thread is. I don’t like some people’s profiles. Not news really. |
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"If someone mentions this it immediately puts me off
I just don't see the need for it. I don't care what you do, I only care about what kind of person you are. And that, tells me your probably not for me
If you don't care what they do why does them being professional put you off?
I think maybe because it means that they place importance on things that I don't."
Ok, I understand. |
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"Some professional people might have an honest reason if they have a very high profile job but the majority of job it wouldnt really inflict on its a cop out when people put it. I dont understand why people hide they have an open sexlife society is so narrow minded and tunnel visioned its rather sad"
Your last sentence is exactly the reason people want to keep this side of their life quiet. There are loads of jobs which could be impacted by being outed for being a swinger |
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X
I'm a professional landscaper and I'm educated in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm well I got nvqs and gcses so in uuummmm.
Nope fuck it I'm thick as fuck lol"
haha im a professional warehouse worker lol |
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"We had a social with one couple who were clearly out of their depth.
That seriously smacks of arrogance.
So be it. We aren’t suited. It’s all there for just that. "
Well after this pandemic alot of middle class people aren't going to be middle class anymore due to job losses, so I guess your "pool" is going to shrink substantially over next few months.... I mean who knows, you may not completely safe from being knocked off your middle class pedestal?
And I am from a middle class background myself, before you assume I'm speaking from a place of not understanding, many of my middle class friends are at real risk of this. |
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X
and genuine "
Omg yes, its the worst word, more trouble with this on profiles then anything lol |
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X
I'm a professional landscaper and I'm educated in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm well I got nvqs and gcses so in uuummmm.
Nope fuck it I'm thick as fuck lol"
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X
I'm a professional landscaper and I'm educated in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm well I got nvqs and gcses so in uuummmm.
Nope fuck it I'm thick as fuck lol haha im a professional warehouse worker lol"
I was a professional middle class wife, now I'm just a professional single mother lol  |
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"We had a social with one couple who were clearly out of their depth.
That seriously smacks of arrogance.
So be it. We aren’t suited. It’s all there for just that.
Well after this pandemic alot of middle class people aren't going to be middle class anymore due to job losses, so I guess your "pool" is going to shrink substantially over next few months.... I mean who knows, you may not completely safe from being knocked off your middle class pedestal?
And I am from a middle class background myself, before you assume I'm speaking from a place of not understanding, many of my middle class friends are at real risk of this. "
There’s more to being middle class than your job. It’s how you conduct yourself in daily life. |
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X
and genuine
Omg yes, its the worst word, more trouble with this on profiles then anything lol "
Hold on you said I was genuine the other day.so is that now a bad thing??? |
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X
I'm a professional landscaper and I'm educated in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm in uuummmmmm well I got nvqs and gcses so in uuummmm.
Nope fuck it I'm thick as fuck lol
Im not saying sweetie pie or I will get told off lol "
I'll get my belt out if you keep that up x |
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"It’s the perfect word for a profile. If you like it, it works to let people know what type of person you are. If you don’t like it, it separates people who don’t want to see each other. So this thread is redundant.
Basically this thread is. I don’t like some people’s profiles. Not news really. "
You’re implying everyone labelling themselves as “Professional” looks down their nose at others they feel are “out of their depth” in their company. I’m pretty sure this isn’t the case. I was always taught to never take people at face value, you should try it. You can meet all kinds of wonderful people from all kinds of backgrounds and professions |
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"If I see professional, Gentlemen or Educated on their profiles it puts me right off. X
and genuine
Omg yes, its the worst word, more trouble with this on profiles then anything lol "
Think I might just put it in my profile just to see if I attract a different type of fab clientele |
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It's really just a sense of entitlement.... No one's profession makes their need for discretion any more important than the next person.... We all want discretion for different reasons.... If you need to make yourself feel important by saying you professional or Educated then I think it's got more to do with your own Insecurity or need to feel important..... I'd take a decent human being over a professional or educated twat any day.... Your profession doesn't make you better, and neither does your financial status.... I've met people who have less from a financial point of view, but they still have more class than people who have a better financial standing in society |
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"It's really just a sense of entitlement.... No one's profession makes their need for discretion any more important than the next person.... We all want discretion for different reasons.... If you need to make yourself feel important by saying you professional or Educated then I think it's got more to do with your own Insecurity or need to feel important..... I'd take a decent human being over a professional or educated twat any day.... Your profession doesn't make you better, and neither does your financial status.... I've met people who have less from a financial point of view, but they still have more class than people who have a better financial standing in society "
Why get so upset? So you don’t like someone who doesn’t like you. It’s not a problem is it. Don’t meet them. |
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"Some professional people might have an honest reason if they have a very high profile job but the majority of job it wouldnt really inflict on its a cop out when people put it. I dont understand why people hide they have an open sexlife society is so narrow minded and tunnel visioned its rather sad"
There many professions, jobs whatever you want to call it, where being seen on here by ‘clients’ or colleagues could have a huge repercussions. |
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"We had a social with one couple who were clearly out of their depth.
That seriously smacks of arrogance.
So be it. We aren’t suited. It’s all there for just that.
Well after this pandemic alot of middle class people aren't going to be middle class anymore due to job losses, so I guess your "pool" is going to shrink substantially over next few months.... I mean who knows, you may not completely safe from being knocked off your middle class pedestal?
And I am from a middle class background myself, before you assume I'm speaking from a place of not understanding, many of my middle class friends are at real risk of this.
There’s more to being middle class than your job. It’s how you conduct yourself in daily life. "
Yeah but you say that if a person can't afford to meet you at restaurant that you deem to be to your middle class standard, then they not for you.... Lots of people who live in middle class areas are Just about making it, so can't really afford regular lavish meals out, so you've made it about their affordability of life style, not how they carry themselves |
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"Why get so upset? So you don’t like someone who doesn’t like you. It’s not a problem is it. Don’t meet them. "
You seem quite defensive. Are you upset ? |
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I personally wouldn’t want my patients or there relatives to see me on here which is why I don’t have a full face picture. "
If I knew you'd I'd definitely recognise you from your half face profile pic! |
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"It's really just a sense of entitlement.... No one's profession makes their need for discretion any more important than the next person.... We all want discretion for different reasons.... If you need to make yourself feel important by saying you professional or Educated then I think it's got more to do with your own Insecurity or need to feel important..... I'd take a decent human being over a professional or educated twat any day.... Your profession doesn't make you better, and neither does your financial status.... I've met people who have less from a financial point of view, but they still have more class than people who have a better financial standing in society
Why get so upset? So you don’t like someone who doesn’t like you. It’s not a problem is it. Don’t meet them. "
You're assuming I do meet them? I meet people Im attracted to, their class or financial standing is irrelevant, I'm not looking for a partner on fab so my requirements are very different here.
And I'm not upset at all I'm putting my opinion across just like every one else. Why would I upset myself over the opinion of a couple I'd not meet anyway?
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"Thank you for correcting me. Maybe in return I can help you find a suit that fits "
You’re welcome. I probably couldn’t afford a suit that fits but thanks for the offer. |
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"Thank you for correcting me. Maybe in return I can help you find a suit that fits
You’re welcome. I probably couldn’t afford a suit that fits but thanks for the offer."
Hahahaha. |
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"The irony in these "professional" threads always amuses me 
Just waiting patiently for the personal attacks and name calling to start "
Well you did make a start by calling people that use it twats. |
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"I saw a profile once where the couple described themselves as professionals and said something along the lines of "if you are the type of people that work shifts we don't want to know"!
Guess that ruled out doctors, nurses, other emergency services etc. - this was pre-lockdown
That’s me ruled out and as a nurse I think I’m formally classed as a professional
In your previous post you describe yourself as unprofessional
I’m an unprofessional professional but I’m still a nurse however you view it
I don't dispute that. Why are people so wary of being described as professional or people describing themselves that way?
I think it’s a class issue. Them and us. Rather than fellow humans.
Ok. I personally have no problem with someone describing themselves as professional in a profile. I assume that they're describing themselves in an effort to give an idea of what I can expect. I don't see it as an exclusive thing or a class issue
I guess it depends how it’s written and the expectation behind it. I’m not put off by it as such depending what’s around it. As I said earlier attraction n connection comes before someone’s career or lack of career for me
Me too. Which is why I find it difficult to understand why people have such a problem with professionals if job status is irrelevant to them. "
A lot of this conversation is in code. "Professional" tends to mean someone who considers themselves more intelligent, educated, cultured or whatever than the average person on here. Obviously that goes with the implication that other people are not intelligent, educated, cultured etc. Such people quite naturally resent that implication.
It's the great British disease of class. People quite naturally prefer to spend time with people with whom they have something in common, but it seems that in this country that can't go without resentment. Thus the "professionals" resent the "chavs" and the "down to earth" people resent those who are "stuck up".
I don't know of a solution |
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"The irony in these "professional" threads always amuses me
Just waiting patiently for the personal attacks and name calling to start
Well you did make a start by calling people that use it twats. "
I didn't say you did lol
I responded to the forum moderator making a joke.... Why you taking it so personally |
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I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma |
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"I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma "
Are you a bit peeved by the change in your status? |
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"I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma "
Hahahaha. Now who’s taking it seriously. And as for not being able to have your view. Do you not see the irony that you are guilty for not letting people have their view. You just don’t want to accept that someone has a different opinion to yourself. Stay safe. Asthma is a risk.
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"Are all the chavs at each other again ???"
It appears you are not allowed to do well for yourself and provide for your family. And to seek people with a similar ethic to yourself. |
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"I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma
Are you a bit peeved by the change in your status?"
Who said my status changed? |
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"I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma
Hahahaha. Now who’s taking it seriously. And as for not being able to have your view. Do you not see the irony that you are guilty for not letting people have their view. You just don’t want to accept that someone has a different opinion to yourself. Stay safe. Asthma is a risk.
No smog her in the countryside. "
Nope, I just prefer to not get a forum ban |
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"I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma
Hahahaha. Now who’s taking it seriously. And as for not being able to have your view. Do you not see the irony that you are guilty for not letting people have their view. You just don’t want to accept that someone has a different opinion to yourself. Stay safe. Asthma is a risk.
No smog her in the countryside.
Nope, I just prefer to not get a forum ban "
Just be civil and be willing to debate. And that some people will think differently to yourself. |
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"I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma
Are you a bit peeved by the change in your status?
Who said my status changed? "
You did further up the thread |
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"I'm stepping out before I get a forum block cause this is just turning into a little shit show of I can have my opinion, but you can't .... Pmsl
You have no idea what my background is... I actually come from a much more affluent area than you do, I just choose to not let it get to my head... I prefer the clean air in Northumberland anyway, that smog down south played havoc with my asthma
Are you a bit peeved by the change in your status?
Who said my status changed?
You did further up the thread "
Ah you mean my wifey status changing lol.... Oh I'm definitely not peeved about that.... Much prefer the single mum status over the wife of a dick head status |
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To me class is not so much about money these days, it's more about background and upbringing, beliefs and principles. Etiquette also plays a big part in it. And I believe a lot of people that put professional on their profile are looking for people with a similar outlook on those types of things. It is their preference to use that as a criteria to select people to meet, the same as it is with any other particular attributes or traits that people use for selection, and they should not be vilified for that - simply see it as something that makes you incompatible and move on, the same as you would if it was a physical characteristic that you don't fit. |
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"I never knew getting a good education and having a good job would put people off from meeting someone.....
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I never knew that being non-judgemental would make people think you somehow come across as a try-hard but hey ho we are all different I guess |
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"I never knew getting a good education and having a good job would put people off from meeting someone.....
I never knew that being non-judgemental would make people think you somehow come across as a try-hard but hey ho we are all different I guess "
Ohhh no way my friend.....
If you read the forums for a long time , you will notice only women voice their preference and standards about the men they choose to meet..
The men who post frequently seem to all be non judgmental saints ... In a bbw thread , they love bbw’s... in a slim woman thread , they love slim women... They also never stand anyone up , and they will diagnose anyone that has stood someone up as “ Mad “...
So I asked this question to you because I really wanted to see if you were a forum Saint...
I must be the only man on the forums who would say .. I wouldn’t sleep with people from or go to certain neighborhoods...no matter how attractive they are... Does that make me judgemental or honest?
My mother always told me “ You can’t be perfect, you can only be yourself “
Sorry if I caused any offense, thank you for the great job you’re doing.....please stay safe
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"I never knew getting a good education and having a good job would put people off from meeting someone.....
Reverse snobbery always makes me laugh.
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Please enlighten me.....
How is being a professional reverse snobbery? |
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"I never knew getting a good education and having a good job would put people off from meeting someone.....
I never knew that being non-judgemental would make people think you somehow come across as a try-hard but hey ho we are all different I guess
Ohhh no way my friend.....
If you read the forums for a long time , you will notice only women voice their preference and standards about the men they choose to meet..
The men who post frequently seem to all be non judgmental saints ... In a bbw thread , they love bbw’s... in a slim woman thread , they love slim women... They also never stand anyone up , and they will diagnose anyone that has stood someone up as “ Mad “...
So I asked this question to you because I really wanted to see if you were a forum Saint...
I must be the only man on the forums who would say .. I wouldn’t sleep with people from or go to certain neighborhoods...no matter how attractive they are... Does that make me judgemental or honest?
My mother always told me “ You can’t be perfect, you can only be yourself “
Sorry if I caused any offense, thank you for the great job you’re doing.....please stay safe
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On my profile I state what/who attracts me. It’s not always about looks it’s about connections. It’s also not about genders. Yes like everyone I can rule people out for strange reasons and some maybe not that explainable. I like what I like and that’s never following a type if that makes sense. |
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