Ok, i know no a lot of you will agree with this but i am lol
when people ask for my number i explain to them that i prefer to text initially as i get very shy on the phone
this has caused my genuinness (is that a word???) to be called ito question.
I'm not fussed, i know i am genuine, but is it really that much of a deal breaker not talking on the phone? i am not saying i never do it, it just takes time for me to feel comfortable with it |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I hate talking on the phone and it always feels un-natural and stilted to me. Texting is so much easier, and I've met several guys who are happy with that.
I also hate camming and chatting online so people probably think I'm a right fraud. |
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I wouldnt ring someone first, they have to ring me usually. But then im fine but by the time it comes to the phone call stage i usually know we have stuff in common.
What surprises people about me(when im sober) is that im coy and can blush really easily |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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It is a deal-breaker for me.
My thinking is if someone cant have a quick conversation with me on the phone, how are they going to have that nervous first conversation with me when we meet face to face?
Lesson-learned from once just chatting with someone by text before we met, and when we did he was so nervous he couldnt string a sentence together.... |
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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago
from a town near you |
i can understand what you mean,but i prefer a phone call,you dont get the tone of the conversation in a txt,i can be quite funny in real life but it doesnt always come across in txt or msg,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I hate talking on the phone too, especially for the first time with a stranger. I am however, quite comfortable when meeting new people as you can use body language, eye contact etc.
Just the phone like someone else said, seems stilted. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"i do speak on the phone once i feel comfortable and brave enough lol"
Nah couldnt be arsed with that.
Maybe a couple of texts to confirm phone numbers and then 'Are you free if I call now?, but thats about it.... |
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Urgh, I hate talking on the phone. I wouldn't refuse to, and I can tell how that would make people suspicious, but still..makes me uneasy.
I worked in a call center too, funnily enough, but I was tech support *for the phones*, so if they could call to tell me there was a problem, chances are there wasn't much of a problem! |
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Mind you, once im on the phone i never shut up lol. A friend of mine rang once and all of a sudden he said pause, i said whats up he said weve been on the phone 20 minutes and ive not said anything yet lol |
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"i do speak on the phone once i feel comfortable and brave enough lol
Nah couldnt be arsed with that.
Maybe a couple of texts to confirm phone numbers and then 'Are you free if I call now?, but thats about it...."
god you're so demanding!!!  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Mind you, once im on the phone i never shut up lol. A friend of mine rang once and all of a sudden he said pause, i said whats up he said weve been on the phone 20 minutes and ive not said anything yet lol"
Now that i can believe   |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"i do speak on the phone once i feel comfortable and brave enough lol
Nah couldnt be arsed with that.
Maybe a couple of texts to confirm phone numbers and then 'Are you free if I call now?, but thats about it....
god you're so demanding!!! "
Too bloody right!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I talk all day either face to face or on the phone when driving.
I still get nervous when talking to someone from here for the first time. It's good though as it shows I care.
I like to communicate by text though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, i know no a lot of you will agree with this but i am lol
when people ask for my number i explain to them that i prefer to text initially as i get very shy on the phone
this has caused my genuinness (is that a word???) to be called ito question.
I'm not fussed, i know i am genuine, but is it really that much of a deal breaker not talking on the phone? i am not saying i never do it, it just takes time for me to feel comfortable with it"
  I honestly thought i must be the only one tht felt like this - in a chat room i can chat all night, can text banter and email/msn but ring me or ask me to ring and i crumple and become a bimbo - lose all my faculties - bizzarre  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone that I want to meet wants a chat on the phone then im happy to talk to them,its nice to get a real feeling for how someone comes across while talking to me rather than via messages on here
Ive had some people that I can talk to as if ive known them for years which is a total pleasure and others that have been a struggle to talk to,for me its better to find that out sooner rather than later |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah I also like to text, it allows me to answer in my own time, and being put on the spot over the phone can make me nervous; I'm also shy in clubs though. I would never walk over to someone and outright speak to them, I like to smile and show them I'm interested first.
I'm a listener, thats not to say I dont have my thoughts and dont say anything; more that I like to let people talk; you can learn a lot from listening to someone
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to text too, I am not a fan either of chatting on the phone; I have done it with a couple of lovely members on here but in the past, I have had guys ring me during the day knowing I was at work, they didn't understand why I couldn't chat to them and I just found it very off putting. Also some wanted to chat in the evening but I don't live alone, yes I suppose I could nip outside into the garden but I just prefer to text as that way I don't have to make excuses to my son as to who that is and what is going on.
And now that my son is using my old mobile that I used for swinging, I cannot phone or text as I am not giving anyone my IPhone number |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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I have had guys ring me during the day knowing I was at work, they didn't understand why I couldn't chat to them and I just found it very off putting. Also some wanted to chat in the evening but I don't live alone,
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I just arrange a time that we are both free to talk.
And if they called when I had asked them not to, then that would be enough for a bye-bye from me.... |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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I have a bit of a phone phobia and don't even really like chatting to family and friends on it, let alone people I don't know.
Always end up getting tongue tied and sounding like an idiot.
Much prefer to meet and chat face to face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a deal-breaker for me.
My thinking is if someone cant have a quick conversation with me on the phone, how are they going to have that nervous first conversation with me when we meet face to face?
Lesson-learned from once just chatting with someone by text before we met, and when we did he was so nervous he couldnt string a sentence together...."
You are so right there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some guys will just do it as a way to get your telephone number, be carefull who you do as to be fair only takes one person out of 20 good guys for you to regret giving it out ! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"some guys will just do it as a way to get your telephone number, be carefull who you do as to be fair only takes one person out of 20 good guys for you to regret giving it out !"
The beauty of having a seperate 'perv phone' with disposable SIM cards  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lost my voice Saturday night, could talk but painfully, and volume was not a possibility, so kept to a minimum had a great night with several lovely people in the club... therefore I think I should either work on my chat up lines or just not talk at all |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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"some guys will just do it as a way to get your telephone number, be carefull who you do as to be fair only takes one person out of 20 good guys for you to regret giving it out !
The beauty of having a seperate 'perv phone' with disposable SIM cards "
Always have a play phone 
As for the phone, whilst I'd like to speak on the phone, a lot of women don't want to, or and many that do prefer to take my number then ring from witheld numbers... then wonder I can't/don't contact them. lol.
Not that many I can contact these days for a chat. |
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I work in a call centre also so totally agree the last think i wanna do is talk over the phone but i get why people like it
I prefer text as then i don't feel embarrassed about talking about certain things such as sexting as phone sex is not my thing im terrible at it |
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