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Discretion when it comes to photos
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As you can see by my profile I am a married man and my wife does not know I'm on here. Due to this discretion for me is paramount, I know to stand any sort of chance of meeting/connecting with people I'm going to need photos on my profile. However I feel a bit apprenhensive when it comes to posting them so my question is what sort of photos can I post that will keep to my need of discretion but also satisfy peoples need to know what I look like? |
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By *mpishMan
over a year ago
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"As you can see by my profile I am a married man and my wife does not know I'm on here. Due to this discretion for me is paramount, I know to stand any sort of chance of meeting/connecting with people I'm going to need photos on my profile. However I feel a bit apprenhensive when it comes to posting them so my question is what sort of photos can I post that will keep to my need of discretion but also satisfy peoples need to know what I look like?"
Should you even be on this site at all if your wife doesn't know about it? Shame on you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There was a recent thread about suited images, which appear to be very popular. Perhaps clothed, headless shots with a face pic set to private?
Good luck here and perhaps get a profile on fab guys as well. Out of interest why won't you meet gay men? Wouldn't a gay guy give you the bi experience you are interested in? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can here them coming with their pitch forks and burning stakes OP 
Yep! 
That should say ‘hear’ BTW bleeding sausage fingers "
Too late. Unfriended. I am the grammar police!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone has their reasons for being here and shouldn't be judged for it. Drop the holier than though act people "
It's not as if he's going to get a meet for a while is it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP probably best to stick to Body shots that don’t identify you or any marks/tattoos that would give you away. But I’m guessing quite unlikely your wife would find you here. Good luck to you xx |
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"As you can see by my profile I am a married man and my wife does not know I'm on here. Due to this discretion for me is paramount, I know to stand any sort of chance of meeting/connecting with people I'm going to need photos on my profile. However I feel a bit apprenhensive when it comes to posting them so my question is what sort of photos can I post that will keep to my need of discretion but also satisfy peoples need to know what I look like?
Should you even be on this site at all if your wife doesn't know about it? Shame on you "
No shame on you for being so judgemental. At least he is honest about his wife unlike others on here. |
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For full discretion op use body shots that don't show any distinguishing marks and don't forget to remove jewellery and any clothes that might be recognisable.
Most people will want to see a face photo before they meet though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are in relationships where they actually love their partner, but their partner can't have sex for medical reasons. If you told them you going were off to have sex with someone else, it would cause them physical and psychological harm.
Some people are caring for other peoples needs but at the same have to make sacrifices. Their needs are neglected or they give up things like socialising, holidays, hobbies, their job, etc, to support their loved one and at the same time have to give up any intimacy.
While they are on this site, why should they explain their personal life to anyone?
I'm not saying its the best solution, but unless you are personally going through having to give up sex completely with no sign of it ever coming back into your marriage/relationship, you might think twice about judging people as it could be you in this very same situation at some point in the future.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people are in relationships where they actually love their partner, but their partner can't have sex for medical reasons. If you told them you going were off to have sex with someone else, it would cause them physical and psychological harm.
Some people are caring for other peoples needs but at the same have to make sacrifices. Their needs are neglected or they give up things like socialising, holidays, hobbies, their job, etc, to support their loved one and at the same time have to give up any intimacy.
While they are on this site, why should they explain their personal life to anyone?
I'm not saying its the best solution, but unless you are personally going through having to give up sex completely with no sign of it ever coming back into your marriage/relationship, you might think twice about judging people as it could be you in this very same situation at some point in the future.
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Well said. Even though that will fall on deaf ears to those people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've obviously searched to see if she's on here? If she's not as advised headless shots hiding any marks and get face pics in either friends or private to use later, no judgement from me fellow fabber |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can never be too careful I don't think with pictures.
People can recognise clothing, furniture, wallpaper, carpets, car interior.
I recognised B's knee in a group photo that was taken before I even knew him. Was uploaded by someone else a few months back and I spotted him straight away. From a fucking knee. It doesn't have anything "stand out" about it but I recognised it from the way it fell when laid down. We've been together under 2 years, imagine how well someone you've been married to for years knows your body.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet there is a few cheating wives on here too. I wonder how much shit they get?"
Probably not much coz they don’t tend to broadcast it like men do. How many threads do you see like this from women and how many do you see from men? People should just get on with it if they don’t want hassle from judgey people. It’s nobody’s else’s business anyway. These threads always go the same way unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet there is a few cheating wives on here too. I wonder how much shit they get?
Probably not much coz they don’t tend to broadcast it like men do. How many threads do you see like this from women and how many do you see from men? People should just get on with it if they don’t want hassle from judgey people. It’s nobody’s else’s business anyway. These threads always go the same way unfortunately. "
That's true that they wont broadcast it as much because they wont need to. Women on here can have their pick of the guys and I'm sure a lot of men would get off on knowing someone they were shagging was secretly married.
There are plenty of cheating wives/girlfriends on here though. Maybe not the forums, but I've seen a few openly married women on the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet there is a few cheating wives on here too. I wonder how much shit they get?
I’d quite like to be your cheating wife  "
You want to marry me then cheat on me?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet there is a few cheating wives on here too. I wonder how much shit they get?
Probably not much coz they don’t tend to broadcast it like men do. How many threads do you see like this from women and how many do you see from men? People should just get on with it if they don’t want hassle from judgey people. It’s nobody’s else’s business anyway. These threads always go the same way unfortunately.
That's true that they wont broadcast it as much because they wont need to. Women on here can have their pick of the guys and I'm sure a lot of men would get off on knowing someone they were shagging was secretly married.
There are plenty of cheating wives/girlfriends on here though. Maybe not the forums, but I've seen a few openly married women on the site"
Yes there are lots of attached men and women on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Headless photos.
Hide any easily identifiable marks (scars, tattoos, piercings) and you could be anyone.
A"
Pretty much this advice... 
You’ll struggle as a shadow man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I bet there is a few cheating wives on here too. I wonder how much shit they get?
Probably not much coz they don’t tend to broadcast it like men do. How many threads do you see like this from women and how many do you see from men? People should just get on with it if they don’t want hassle from judgey people. It’s nobody’s else’s business anyway. These threads always go the same way unfortunately.
That's true that they wont broadcast it as much because they wont need to. Women on here can have their pick of the guys and I'm sure a lot of men would get off on knowing someone they were shagging was secretly married.
There are plenty of cheating wives/girlfriends on here though. Maybe not the forums, but I've seen a few openly married women on the site"
*waves*
We generally keep a low profile and just get on with it.
Helps to have a vagina on here regardless whether it’s attached or not.... |
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She might recognise your clothes or decor in your home, so consider where you take them. Never, ever on a loo though! 
We need to see your physique as closely as if we're meeting, to get the best chance of evaluating you. If you play sports etc, perhaps friends could take some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anything that doesnt show anything that might distinguish you. I use face pictures as I'm too shy to show my body. Although I really dont agree with you keeping it from your wife."
Exactly this,
Why shouldn’t she get the cherry on top as well,
Mr speaking here |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Body shots, pics that tease, avoid any distinguishable features & be aware of backgrounds (have previously seen pics with wedding photos on the wall or Disney wallpaper because pics taken in kids room etc etc) & avoid taking a pic with a toilet in the shot. |
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