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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Awful.
I go to my local cemetery a lot. Always made it very clear to kids its disrespectful. Saying that I sat on the edge of the grave in a local churchyard.. it's like a lunching spot for people who work at adjacent area. But always say a little prayer in my head.
As a side note..Currently a friend of mine has been awarded access to a cemetery chapel to change into a sort of arty centre/community spot.. which I find very refreshing. Also.. Is it Denmark where people picnic in cemeteries? Or is that an internet bluff. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
If at all possible I don't go into graveyards. The thought of bodies in wooden boxes freaks me out.
Apart from family funerals I avoid them like the plague.
I want to be burnt. No formal funeral. No big expense.
I'll be dead. People can remember me if they want without the need for any ceremony.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I maintain a church graveyard..they are tightly packed but I do my best not to walk on them whilst working...mines nothing to do with christianity, just respect. |
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"Very disrespectful  "
See here is the point
I absolutely would not do it intentionally
If I had children I would articulate why they should not either
However let us not gallop upon a high White Horse so proudly
Every day we tread upon the bodies of dead humans
We build houses on them we have sex on them
Dead bodies are beneath us everwhere just not marked within an area or with a stone
Drinking water ? Chances are it comes from a reservoir that had a grave yard think they removed ALL the bodies?
So as per usual the so called respect is one for show
It genuinely is abhorrent to walk across a grave if you can be seen it's a non event if you're not
A grave contains bones at best carbon and calcium its it's becoming ground
At time x it's a grave at time x plus y its ground
If I saw another walk across or fuck on a grave my personal moral compass would not be one of condemnation
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes they're so tightly packed together in places it's hard to get across. Sounds weird but I apologise if I walk over one."
Sometimes they are so tightly packed. I do too say an embarrassed inward sorry on the rare occasions I have.
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I used to enjoy going in to grave yards, looking at the ornate statues, the graves where a whole family is buried.
Also admiring how old some of the head stones are, the sadness of seeing a person who didn't have long to enjoy their life. |
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It’s my number 1 pet hate. It’s totally disrespectful and I always pull people up for doing it. There’s always enough room to navigate around the plots in a cemetery and no need to walk over them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to enjoy going in to grave yards, looking at the ornate statues, the graves where a whole family is buried.
Also admiring how old some of the head stones are, the sadness of seeing a person who didn't have long to enjoy their life."
Hope you went in the witching hour...very eerie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was always brought up to respect graveyards and walk around where possible.
I remember commenting on a post years ago to this affect where people were having graveyard sex and couldn’t see an issue with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In Tonight’s edition of ‘what’s GG been reading on Facebook’
People intentionally standing on graves. It’s up there in my top 5 pet hates. It makes me MADDDDDD.
Let’s debate....
Hate it!! Hate seeing some of the images that the alt community put out in magazines. Have done a few graveyard shoots and have made it very clear to the photographer that I won’t be disrespecting anyone by standing or posing on their grave.
If I did something like that my nanna would come up out of hers and clout me one! A little fiery Irish pissed off ghost is not what anyone wants coming at them, haha x Viv x
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"It’s my number 1 pet hate. It’s totally disrespectful and I always pull people up for doing it. There’s always enough room to navigate around the plots in a cemetery and no need to walk over them. "
Always pull people up, made me smile.......
For more than one reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone who lives in a home surrounded by graves it is surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be. It's a sign of the times and the gradual decline of decency I'm afraid.
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"In Tonight’s edition of ‘what’s GG been reading on Facebook’
People intentionally standing on graves. It’s up there in my top 5 pet hates. It makes me MADDDDDD.
Let’s debate....
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I work in a grave yard I know whats that like. |
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"As someone who lives in a home surrounded by graves it is surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be. It's a sign of the times and the gradual decline of decency I'm afraid.
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Can I question
Is it
A, only disrespectful if you realise a body is there
B. Is it disrespectful if you think a body is but there is none
C . Absolutely no one else knows and zero damage caused
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As someone who lives in a home surrounded by graves it is surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be. It's a sign of the times and the gradual decline of decency I'm afraid.
Can I question
Is it
A, only disrespectful if you realise a body is there
B. Is it disrespectful if you think a body is but there is none
C . Absolutely no one else knows and zero damage caused
????"
Walking on graves if you know they are there but just don't care is disrespectful in my option. There are people who tend graves and memorials and they do get trampled. Other behaviours here include pushing gravestones over, groups of people taking drugs and drinking and general anti social behaviour. So I stand by my comment that it's surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be. |
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"As someone who lives in a home surrounded by graves it is surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be. It's a sign of the times and the gradual decline of decency I'm afraid.
Can I question
Is it
A, only disrespectful if you realise a body is there
B. Is it disrespectful if you think a body is but there is none
C . Absolutely no one else knows and zero damage caused
????
Walking on graves if you know they are there but just don't care is disrespectful in my option. There are people who tend graves and memorials and they do get trampled. Other behaviours here include pushing gravestones over, groups of people taking drugs and drinking and general anti social behaviour. So I stand by my comment that it's surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be. "
Totally agree |
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"As someone who lives in a home surrounded by graves it is surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be. It's a sign of the times and the gradual decline of decency I'm afraid.
Can I question
Is it
A, only disrespectful if you realise a body is there
B. Is it disrespectful if you think a body is but there is none
C . Absolutely no one else knows and zero damage caused
????
Walking on graves if you know they are there but just don't care is disrespectful in my option. There are people who tend graves and memorials and they do get trampled. Other behaviours here include pushing gravestones over, groups of people taking drugs and drinking and general anti social behaviour. So I stand by my comment that it's surprising how disgustingly disrespectful some people can be.
Totally agree"
I was being philosophical
I covered the anti social and damage aspects  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s possible to walk around them I will. Sometimes it’s not. Just like sometimes it’s not possible to give people plenty of space on the tube.
I imagine that some people may stand on my loved ones graves whilst walking though. And I’m sure my loved ones, if they were still here, would not mind at all. |
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"I apologise if i walk on a grave, but I do like graveyards I like to see if i can find the oldest grave, think im a bit strange.
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Well I am too then  and I’ll then try and find out something about them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're dead
They don't care
The people they leave behind do care.
Indeed they do
As I queried (please note above I dont nor advocate)
Is it disrespectful if done without witness or damage ?"
Personally I think it’s disrespectful if done with knowledge as in obvious graves.
However, overall in graveyards there are a lot of unmarked graves so tread carefully and / or avoid walking over the grassy areas. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Wouldn't dream of deliberately walking on a grave - is incredibly disrespectful but I do find them very interesting - went on a tour of Highgate cemetery once into the locked part that you can only view as part of a tour or a family member. Was fascinating and not the slightest bit ghoulish.
Bury St Edmund's has a really good one too that they have deliberately allowed to become overgrown and again have spent many an hour idling in there reading the gravestones.
They're veritable points of historical interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldn't dream of deliberately walking on a grave - is incredibly disrespectful but I do find them very interesting - went on a tour of Highgate cemetery once into the locked part that you can only view as part of a tour or a family member. Was fascinating and not the slightest bit ghoulish.
Bury St Edmund's has a really good one too that they have deliberately allowed to become overgrown and again have spent many an hour idling in there reading the gravestones.
They're veritable points of historical interest "
Highgate Cemetery is fascinating.
It’s all about perspective & being respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're dead
They don't care
The people they leave behind do care."
Dont get me wrong, if someone walked on one of my families graves I'd go crazy, but that's only because I knew about it.
If someone walks on a grave and no one sees, no one cares |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
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I got told from a young age that when you felt a shiver go down your spine, it was someone walking on my grave...now I think about it, not great!! I never walked over one, because I didn’t want ‘them’ to feel shivers! And if I ever slipped and my foot touched one...omg the fear! Thought I’d be haunted forever!!
Don’t you love a religious upbringing!! |
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By *LFB.Woman
over a year ago
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"I apologise if i walk on a grave, but I do like graveyards I like to see if i can find the oldest grave, think im a bit strange.
Well I am too then and I’ll then try and find out something about them "
I do as well, its fascinating what you can find. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I apologise if i walk on a grave, but I do like graveyards I like to see if i can find the oldest grave, think im a bit strange.
Well I am too then and I’ll then try and find out something about them
I do as well, its fascinating what you can find."
I once pulled up next to a graveyard to go to the shop opposite. Looked in and the first headstone i saw had the same name as me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're dead
They don't care
The people they leave behind do care.
Dont get me wrong, if someone walked on one of my families graves I'd go crazy, but that's only because I knew about it.
If someone walks on a grave and no one sees, no one cares "
Could be said for a lot of things - out of sight out of mind.
It’s not that they don’t care they just don’t know. |
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"I apologise if i walk on a grave, but I do like graveyards I like to see if i can find the oldest grave, think im a bit strange.
Well I am too then and I’ll then try and find out something about them
I do as well, its fascinating what you can find."
It definitely is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're dead
They don't care
The people they leave behind do care.
Dont get me wrong, if someone walked on one of my families graves I'd go crazy, but that's only because I knew about it.
If someone walks on a grave and no one sees, no one cares
Could be said for a lot of things - out of sight out of mind.
It’s not that they don’t care they just don’t know."
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It's all perspective, in China the body is dug up and cremated after a short period of time. The plot they purchase isn't long term. Many of the graveyards are at max capacity and resorted to burying them standing up or stacked.
Here if bodies were dug up and forcibly cremated in a year or two there would be riots.
In the UK a plot is owned for a maximum of 75 years on a single lease, lease can vary from 25 years to 75 years. It has to be repurchased in order to keep it. They cannot be sold with a 100 year lease, but families can renew the lease for family plots.
Every grave over 100years old that isn't currently leased can legally be used by another.
So does that give you insight?
Touching headstones and momentos is disrespectful but councils remove them all the time and fell headstones they deem unsafe whether they were actually unsafe or not.
A person's body buried can vary in depth 10ft to 6 ft down depending on how many are expected to be buried in a family plot.
People getting embalmed delaying natural decomposition means it's likely that when graves are reused the bodies need to be disposed of that resided there.
So if people are so offended by people walking on a grave yet as seen in the comments having lunch sat on them... touching them... but walking on them is so wrong?!?
When I die turn me into a tree with the one of many ways to eco bury people now or cremate me don't need my body decomposing taking up space. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's all perspective, in China the body is dug up and cremated after a short period of time. The plot they purchase isn't long term. Many of the graveyards are at max capacity and resorted to burying them standing up or stacked.
Here if bodies were dug up and forcibly cremated in a year or two there would be riots.
In the UK a plot is owned for a maximum of 75 years on a single lease, lease can vary from 25 years to 75 years. It has to be repurchased in order to keep it. They cannot be sold with a 100 year lease, but families can renew the lease for family plots.
Every grave over 100years old that isn't currently leased can legally be used by another.
So does that give you insight?
Touching headstones and momentos is disrespectful but councils remove them all the time and fell headstones they deem unsafe whether they were actually unsafe or not.
A person's body buried can vary in depth 10ft to 6 ft down depending on how many are expected to be buried in a family plot.
People getting embalmed delaying natural decomposition means it's likely that when graves are reused the bodies need to be disposed of that resided there.
So if people are so offended by people walking on a grave yet as seen in the comments having lunch sat on them... touching them... but walking on them is so wrong?!?
When I die turn me into a tree with the one of many ways to eco bury people now or cremate me don't need my body decomposing taking up space."
So some of our families graves could have another body buried on them in time.
In that case I'm surprised there are still so many old head stones around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is how I see it...yes we walk over the dead, build over the dead..half the time we don't know it but for me it is not the dead as such I am paying my respect to..they are long gone, what's left is their shell that housed the person..BUT that grave, that spot, that is someone's sacred spot, someone alive and kicking, someone with feelings and someone that loved and feels connected with the deceased through that spot. It is a sacred place to someone..and that is my respect. To me stepping on a grave is like using someone's granny's urn as an ash tray, it's like graffiti on a memorial stone to the wars...these are old ways that are being forgotten as in they re known but not the reasons behind so they re cast out as ridiculous...no, this isn't ridiculous, this is respecting a living persons connection to those that passed before and this goes back many many centuries.  |
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In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
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"In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
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I do love the aspects of other cultures..always loved the practise of the Mongols and would love it for myself tbh. They would carry their dead to the top of mountain and leave it to be picked over by the vultures and then the sun bleached bones would be gathered up. For me that is the one that su it's me..my love of mountains and me giving nourishment to the natural world. I watched the ceremonial pyres in Kathmandu. .to the western eyes it maybe unusual..especially since the hospital for the terminally I'll had a ramp right next to the places of burning. Here those on the brink of death could be laid it with their feet in the sacred river and watch the ceremonies of those that had gone before. Once the pyre is finished, the remains are swept into the river to be carried away. |
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"In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
I do love the aspects of other cultures..always loved the practise of the Mongols and would love it for myself tbh. They would carry their dead to the top of mountain and leave it to be picked over by the vultures and then the sun bleached bones would be gathered up. For me that is the one that su it's me..my love of mountains and me giving nourishment to the natural world. I watched the ceremonial pyres in Kathmandu. .to the western eyes it maybe unusual..especially since the hospital for the terminally I'll had a ramp right next to the places of burning. Here those on the brink of death could be laid it with their feet in the sacred river and watch the ceremonies of those that had gone before. Once the pyre is finished, the remains are swept into the river to be carried away. "
Exactly, the world is a an amazingly varied place.
I photographed a ‘natural’ burial site a few years back.
You could elect to be buried in a compostable box in a field and a tree would be planted over you, eventually your remains becoming the tree.
Sounds a nice way to go.
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"In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
I do love the aspects of other cultures..always loved the practise of the Mongols and would love it for myself tbh. They would carry their dead to the top of mountain and leave it to be picked over by the vultures and then the sun bleached bones would be gathered up. For me that is the one that su it's me..my love of mountains and me giving nourishment to the natural world. I watched the ceremonial pyres in Kathmandu. .to the western eyes it maybe unusual..especially since the hospital for the terminally I'll had a ramp right next to the places of burning. Here those on the brink of death could be laid it with their feet in the sacred river and watch the ceremonies of those that had gone before. Once the pyre is finished, the remains are swept into the river to be carried away. "
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"In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
I do love the aspects of other cultures..always loved the practise of the Mongols and would love it for myself tbh. They would carry their dead to the top of mountain and leave it to be picked over by the vultures and then the sun bleached bones would be gathered up. For me that is the one that su it's me..my love of mountains and me giving nourishment to the natural world. I watched the ceremonial pyres in Kathmandu. .to the western eyes it maybe unusual..especially since the hospital for the terminally I'll had a ramp right next to the places of burning. Here those on the brink of death could be laid it with their feet in the sacred river and watch the ceremonies of those that had gone before. Once the pyre is finished, the remains are swept into the river to be carried away.
Exactly, the world is a an amazingly varied place.
I photographed a ‘natural’ burial site a few years back.
You could elect to be buried in a compostable box in a field and a tree would be planted over you, eventually your remains becoming the tree.
Sounds a nice way to go.
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I'm hoping whoever is responsible for my ashes takes them to my big very old tree and places them at her roots..my thank you to all the beautiful hours I ve spent sat within her higher canopy sorting out my issues...she's my place of power. |
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"In Tonight’s edition of ‘what’s GG been reading on Facebook’
People intentionally standing on graves. It’s up there in my top 5 pet hates. It makes me MADDDDDD.
Let’s debate....
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I agree with you on this. I find it very disrespectful. Although I have stood inside Robin Hood's grave. It's not too far away from us. I'll take you sometime |
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"In Tonight’s edition of ‘what’s GG been reading on Facebook’
People intentionally standing on graves. It’s up there in my top 5 pet hates. It makes me MADDDDDD.
Let’s debate....
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There are 1 or 2 people’s graves I would happily dance on.
But as a principle then no, I try to avoid disrespecting the deceased. |
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"In Tonight’s edition of ‘what’s GG been reading on Facebook’
People intentionally standing on graves. It’s up there in my top 5 pet hates. It makes me MADDDDDD.
Let’s debate....
I agree with you on this. I find it very disrespectful. Although I have stood inside Robin Hood's grave. It's not too far away from us. I'll take you sometime "
Where's Robin Hood's grave? |
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"In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
I do love the aspects of other cultures..always loved the practise of the Mongols and would love it for myself tbh. They would carry their dead to the top of mountain and leave it to be picked over by the vultures and then the sun bleached bones would be gathered up. For me that is the one that su it's me..my love of mountains and me giving nourishment to the natural world. I watched the ceremonial pyres in Kathmandu. .to the western eyes it maybe unusual..especially since the hospital for the terminally I'll had a ramp right next to the places of burning. Here those on the brink of death could be laid it with their feet in the sacred river and watch the ceremonies of those that had gone before. Once the pyre is finished, the remains are swept into the river to be carried away.
Exactly, the world is a an amazingly varied place.
I photographed a ‘natural’ burial site a few years back.
You could elect to be buried in a compostable box in a field and a tree would be planted over you, eventually your remains becoming the tree.
Sounds a nice way to go.
I'm hoping whoever is responsible for my ashes takes them to my big very old tree and places them at her roots..my thank you to all the beautiful hours I ve spent sat within her higher canopy sorting out my issues...she's my place of power. "
My body is pledged for parts and to Leicester university anatomy with nothing returned and no funeral xx
If anyone in the future want or needs to reflect upon my time here they know to go to places of water,sea , Woodlands or mountains
Regard and walk over as much as they can |
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"In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
I do love the aspects of other cultures..always loved the practise of the Mongols and would love it for myself tbh. They would carry their dead to the top of mountain and leave it to be picked over by the vultures and then the sun bleached bones would be gathered up. For me that is the one that su it's me..my love of mountains and me giving nourishment to the natural world. I watched the ceremonial pyres in Kathmandu. .to the western eyes it maybe unusual..especially since the hospital for the terminally I'll had a ramp right next to the places of burning. Here those on the brink of death could be laid it with their feet in the sacred river and watch the ceremonies of those that had gone before. Once the pyre is finished, the remains are swept into the river to be carried away.
Exactly, the world is a an amazingly varied place.
I photographed a ‘natural’ burial site a few years back.
You could elect to be buried in a compostable box in a field and a tree would be planted over you, eventually your remains becoming the tree.
Sounds a nice way to go.
I'm hoping whoever is responsible for my ashes takes them to my big very old tree and places them at her roots..my thank you to all the beautiful hours I ve spent sat within her higher canopy sorting out my issues...she's my place of power.
My body is pledged for parts and to Leicester university anatomy with nothing returned and no funeral xx
If anyone in the future want or needs to reflect upon my time here they know to go to places of water,sea , Woodlands or mountains
Regard and walk over as much as they can "
Am similar..straight to the flames and gone..absolutely no one, but then all I have is my gf and either she ll know where to find and connect or she ll be dancing the merry dance of release..  |
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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago
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I'm not overly superstitious, but standing on graves, cutting through a cemetery for a shortcut and and 'fun' in a graveyard is something I'm very much against,
Maybe watching the thriller video when I was younger made me wary  |
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When I found out my older sister is buried in a paupers grave, I have been fascinated by them more.
The baby lived less than 24hrs, my parents couldn't afford a proper burial. |
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"In some places in the world, the burial process is so completely alien to us.
In Egypt for example there is a monastery in the desert. The sand is not easy to dig deep enough for a body as it’s on rock and forever shifting. The practice there is to bury the body in a shallow grave until it’s decomposed and then the bones are taken and placed in storage in a large chamber.
Wealthy or more respected religious figures would have their bones kept together whereas the general population of the monastery would have their bones put with all the others.
Leg bones in one pile, skulls in another etc.
It’s quite the eery place to visit...
St Katherines Monastery, Egypt.
I do love the aspects of other cultures..always loved the practise of the Mongols and would love it for myself tbh. They would carry their dead to the top of mountain and leave it to be picked over by the vultures and then the sun bleached bones would be gathered up. For me that is the one that su it's me..my love of mountains and me giving nourishment to the natural world. I watched the ceremonial pyres in Kathmandu. .to the western eyes it maybe unusual..especially since the hospital for the terminally I'll had a ramp right next to the places of burning. Here those on the brink of death could be laid it with their feet in the sacred river and watch the ceremonies of those that had gone before. Once the pyre is finished, the remains are swept into the river to be carried away.
Exactly, the world is a an amazingly varied place.
I photographed a ‘natural’ burial site a few years back.
You could elect to be buried in a compostable box in a field and a tree would be planted over you, eventually your remains becoming the tree.
Sounds a nice way to go.
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My dad is buried in a natural burial ground. There are no grave stones or anything to mark where anyone is buried, they even graze sheep on there. You can’t leave flowers on the grave but there is a small memorial where the names of those buried are to leave them.
It’s one of the most beautiful places a large field at the top of a hill with a huge oak tree in the centre, wild flowers and amazing views.
It’s peaceful, serene and a quite magical place.
I thought my mum was barking when she suggested it but after seeing the place completely changed my mind. Now mum has a plot too.
I too was taught it’s disrespectful to walk on graves but I had to walk over other graves to attend his burial as you can’t see where they are so soon got passed that. Now I think it’s that old fashioned nonsense that tells us all we can’t, they are dead they don’t care so why should we? |
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