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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, I have two lawns on the front of my house, one of which merges with nextdoor, in the sense that there's no separation by way of a flower bed, fence or hedge etc. Since moving here a few years ago I've always cut the lawn which merges with my neighbour. I used to have a gardener as I simply didn't have time to mow the lawn. The gardener would also do my neighbours side but I'd pay as he would do my front two lawns and my rear lawn and I thoughy there was no point in divvying up what I should pay and what my neighbour should pay as it was a matter of pounds. Over a period of time I began to mow the lawns and I'd do my neighbours side too. We've always been friendly with one another in terms of saying hi and waving etc but they keep themselves to themselves and I do the same.
About two weeks ago I came home and my neighbour had mowed the lawn, first time in 5 years. He did his side and left my side! Cheeky sod I thought. I wouldn't expect him to do my other lawn on the front but atleast he could have done the part which merges into one. I was actually shocked and I felt stupid for doing his lawn all these years. It got my back up a bit that did.
Would I seem petty now by digging out a flower bed in the lawn to separate my lawn from thiers? Is it fair for him to do that? Could any of you lovely Fabbers see yourself doing what he did? Would any Fabbers feel a bit annoyed and peed off like I did? |
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over a year ago
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"So, I have two lawns on the front of my house, one of which merges with nextdoor, in the sense that there's no separation by way of a flower bed, fence or hedge etc. Since moving here a few years ago I've always cut the lawn which merges with my neighbour. I used to have a gardener as I simply didn't have time to mow the lawn. The gardener would also do my neighbours side but I'd pay as he would do my front two lawns and my rear lawn and I thoughy there was no point in divvying up what I should pay and what my neighbour should pay as it was a matter of pounds. Over a period of time I began to mow the lawns and I'd do my neighbours side too. We've always been friendly with one another in terms of saying hi and waving etc but they keep themselves to themselves and I do the same.
About two weeks ago I came home and my neighbour had mowed the lawn, first time in 5 years. He did his side and left my side! Cheeky sod I thought. I wouldn't expect him to do my other lawn on the front but atleast he could have done the part which merges into one. I was actually shocked and I felt stupid for doing his lawn all these years. It got my back up a bit that did.
Would I seem petty now by digging out a flower bed in the lawn to separate my lawn from thiers? Is it fair for him to do that? Could any of you lovely Fabbers see yourself doing what he did? Would any Fabbers feel a bit annoyed and peed off like I did?"
You think this is a problem, you should meet the idiots next to me. Errect a 6 foot fence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm glad it's not just me that felt a bit cringe. I know there's a few a**holes out there but this is specialist. Proper bellend I thought. "
Make a joke out of it next time you see him, see if the penny drops.
I'd definitely have a word...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No slaps required haha. I also think if I'd have said something I'd have got worked up and had a proper go at him with a flurry of choice words haha. Instead I'm going to dig out a flower bed and divide the lawn up that way. That'll get his back up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".
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Some people are a bit selfish, maybe he was a bit short of time, perhaps he didn’t think his mower was up to your standards.
Let the hate wash over you - at the very least he’s saved you the trouble of doing his for a week or two  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".
Maybe. "
Haha, maybe. But if he thought that he was very mistaken lol |
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"Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".
Maybe.
Haha, maybe. But if he thought that he was very mistaken lol "
You’re going to punish him for not being psychic? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some people are a bit selfish, maybe he was a bit short of time, perhaps he didn’t think his mower was up to your standards.
Let the hate wash over you - at the very least he’s saved you the trouble of doing his for a week or two "
Haha. In a small way he's done me a favour and spurred me on more to divide the lawn up. Often while I'm mowing his side I think to myself that he's never even popped his head out the window and said thanks or said thanks the next time he's seen me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Next time cut some of his lawn and make it look ridiculous
Point made perhaps he/she might realise...."
That's brilliant. I might actually do that. Just take a small chuck out of his side and leave the remaining 99% |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stop cutting his grass if it's bothering you so much
All the other stuff is just really petty"
We're all just chatting, petty it maybe but it's just banter and conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd just start doing your own lawn and not bother doing his anymore, dont be angry or make a fuss its not worth your time or energy. If you want to do a flower bed do it but If you cant be asked dont. You could dig a moat. |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think it's worth falling out over in all seriousness. But I wouldn't continue to cut his grass.
If he'd said thanks at any point or if he'd not cut it at all, then fine. But he didn't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did you ever have any kind of agreement?"
No never. The first time it was ever cut by me was not long after I moved here. I felt stupid doing my bit and not his so I went ahead and did it. After that he never said anything and I thought if he's not moaned I'll continue doing it, so when I had a gardener I told him to do it all. It seems now that it was an expectation that I'd be doing his lawn. This thread isn't me kicking off, it's more a case of wow, can people really do that and not feel the tiniest bit of a pisstaker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Next time cut some of his lawn and make it look ridiculous
Point made perhaps he/she might realise....
Like a penis crop circle?"
I was thinking he could wait until his neighbours side is grown thick enough to mow the words ARSEHOLE into his neighbours side of the lawn |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Next time I may just mow his side and leave mine...that'll confuse the f*** out of him
Wait, which side are you gonna pee on "
Haha, brilliant. He'll be mega confused if I then pee'd on my side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you ever have any kind of agreement?
No never. The first time it was ever cut by me was not long after I moved here. I felt stupid doing my bit and not his so I went ahead and did it. After that he never said anything and I thought if he's not moaned I'll continue doing it, so when I had a gardener I told him to do it all. It seems now that it was an expectation that I'd be doing his lawn. This thread isn't me kicking off, it's more a case of wow, can people really do that and not feel the tiniest bit of a pisstaker. "
i used to do my neighbours bit of grass on the verge when i did mine (separated by a path).. And then I'd do his front lawn , 'cos he was knocking on a bit (i don't have a front lawn).. And he used to come out to inspect and point out bits I'd missed
Miss that fucker |
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Aw absolute grade A bellend. Especially since you have been paying / doing their side for years!
Have a similar situation out the front of my house where there is a very small section of grass for me and my neighbour with no divide. Luckily we are not arseholes and whoever happens to be cutting it at the time will do the full thing. Otherwise you would literally have a harder time trying to do a straight line down the middle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did you ever have any kind of agreement?
No never. The first time it was ever cut by me was not long after I moved here. I felt stupid doing my bit and not his so I went ahead and did it. After that he never said anything and I thought if he's not moaned I'll continue doing it, so when I had a gardener I told him to do it all. It seems now that it was an expectation that I'd be doing his lawn. This thread isn't me kicking off, it's more a case of wow, can people really do that and not feel the tiniest bit of a pisstaker. "
Saw right. He's made a statement to the effect that it would appear he will now attend to his side. That's good enough for any neighbours.
Don't let it get your goat. Your heart is in the right place, but his plot is his responsibility. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Aw absolute grade A bellend. Especially since you have been paying / doing their side for years!
Have a similar situation out the front of my house where there is a very small section of grass for me and my neighbour with no divide. Luckily we are not arseholes and whoever happens to be cutting it at the time will do the full thing. Otherwise you would literally have a harder time trying to do a straight line down the middle "
That's civil...whoever is out cutting it will cut both sides. This bellend waits for me to cut it bar two weeks ago where he made his statement
I rem_mber a year back I cut the lawns and then two weeks later I went away for two weeks. I came back and the lawn hadn't been cut. I was snowed under with work once back from my hols so I didn't have time to mow it. It wasn't until 5 fives since I cut it last that it got cut again. The both of them are lazy sods. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"But also it's not worth getting into a big dispute about. So from now on just ignore his side. And if you would like some plant anyway then here's your motivation for putting some in "
I'll do exactly that pal, after I've pee'd all over his side haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a dick move on his part, stick a fence in but ask him if it's alright first or prob moan that you've took about a few inches of his garden being lost. If hes not alright with it just stick it on your boundary. |
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Just a thought. Did he now the lawn himself? Could a family m_mber or friend have done it for him and if so perhaps they were unaware of all the years you had done it for him.
If he did it himself then he's a tosser. Dobt bother putting a separation in between the lawns. Just do what he did and leave his side alone to make the point clear. |
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Yes it would be petty. It would not show you in a good light.
Knock on his door and ask him if he wants to make an agreement with you for each of you to take it in turn to cut the front lawn.
Or just cut your own grass in future.
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Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness. |
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"Yes it would be petty. It would not show you in a good light.
Knock on his door and ask him if he wants to make an agreement with you for each of you to take it in turn to cut the front lawn.
Or just cut your own grass in future.
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What, talk to someone about an issue? Get it resolved in 30 seconds with zero animosity and a growing sense of wellbeing towards your neighbour?
Sounds bollocks to me, much better to devise something that’s elaborate, expensive and time consuming that will only end in everyone being annoyed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, I have two lawns on the front of my house, one of which merges with nextdoor, in the sense that there's no separation by way of a flower bed, fence or hedge etc. Since moving here a few years ago I've always cut the lawn which merges with my neighbour. I used to have a gardener as I simply didn't have time to mow the lawn. The gardener would also do my neighbours side but I'd pay as he would do my front two lawns and my rear lawn and I thoughy there was no point in divvying up what I should pay and what my neighbour should pay as it was a matter of pounds. Over a period of time I began to mow the lawns and I'd do my neighbours side too. We've always been friendly with one another in terms of saying hi and waving etc but they keep themselves to themselves and I do the same.
About two weeks ago I came home and my neighbour had mowed the lawn, first time in 5 years. He did his side and left my side! Cheeky sod I thought. I wouldn't expect him to do my other lawn on the front but atleast he could have done the part which merges into one. I was actually shocked and I felt stupid for doing his lawn all these years. It got my back up a bit that did.
Would I seem petty now by digging out a flower bed in the lawn to separate my lawn from thiers? Is it fair for him to do that? Could any of you lovely Fabbers see yourself doing what he did? Would any Fabbers feel a bit annoyed and peed off like I did?"
A fence would be put up straightaway I’m afraid leave them to it |
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When I changed my facia and soffits and gutters I noticed my elderly neighbours had seen better days so I said when I do mine shall I do yours ive already got the tower scaffolding and I’ll do it for nothing if you buy the materials which came to £70 I was in the process of putting my house up for sale and thought nextdoors house looked a bit rundown and may put of potential buyers of my house anyway my point is if you’re neighbours can’t be bothered to cut the grass it makes yours look untidy so for me I’d just keep cutting it nothing worse than looking at an untidy garden |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would simply only mow my own side and not touch any of his side at all. Just treat him how he's treated you. It'll be a silent fuck you for not mowing my side. |
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"When I changed my facia and soffits and gutters I noticed my elderly neighbours had seen better days so I said when I do mine shall I do yours ive already got the tower scaffolding and I’ll do it for nothing if you buy the materials which came to £70 I was in the process of putting my house up for sale and thought nextdoors house looked a bit rundown and may put of potential buyers of my house anyway my point is if you’re neighbours can’t be bothered to cut the grass it makes yours look untidy so for me I’d just keep cutting it nothing worse than looking at an untidy garden "
Commendable....... xx Everyone should have neighbours like you. |
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"When I changed my facia and soffits and gutters I noticed my elderly neighbours had seen better days so I said when I do mine shall I do yours ive already got the tower scaffolding and I’ll do it for nothing if you buy the materials which came to £70 I was in the process of putting my house up for sale and thought nextdoors house looked a bit rundown and may put of potential buyers of my house anyway my point is if you’re neighbours can’t be bothered to cut the grass it makes yours look untidy so for me I’d just keep cutting it nothing worse than looking at an untidy garden
Commendable....... xx Everyone should have neighbours like you."
although it was a nice gesture by me I suppose there was an ulterior motive as i didn’t want to put of any potential buyers but in all honesty even if I wasn’t selling I’d of offered as I said it made out semis look tidier with new facia and soffits and gutters |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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Ok, I’m probably going to be slammed here but I disagree, I’d keep going and mowing his too, I wouldn’t mention anything about it and carry on but now and again I’d drop a comment about the lawns and make him wonder, let a seed grow, his mind will pull a lot better tricks on him than I could think of, let him torture himself |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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He might like his lawn to be like a summer meadow, with meadow flowers to attract butterflies and nectar seeking insects.
He is probably thinking, what gives next door the audacity to cut my meadow with out asking.
You out to dominate him OP?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness. "
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me "
Ha ha, miserable sod, is that how you see him? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me "
Careful, you're beginning to let the good guy mask slip |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me
Ha ha, miserable sod, is that how you see him?"
He and his wife are miserable sods. Lol. On the cul de sac I live in there's only 6 houses and through the summer we have BBQs in someone's garden, we've had a party once and generally the community spirit is brill. They hardly make any effort to join us and on the odd occasion they have joined he's been moaning about something or he's just killed the mood in some way lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me
Careful, you're beginning to let the good guy mask slip "
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me
Ha ha, miserable sod, is that how you see him?
He and his wife are miserable sods. Lol. On the cul de sac I live in there's only 6 houses and through the summer we have BBQs in someone's garden, we've had a party once and generally the community spirit is brill. They hardly make any effort to join us and on the odd occasion they have joined he's been moaning about something or he's just killed the mood in some way lol "
The odd person likes life quiet and their independence.
Every stick has two ends, wonder what their term is for you?
At a guess?
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......
And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play....  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
"Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......
And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play.... "
The spray of grass..... I got carried away again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......
And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play.... "
Haha. That's possibley what it was. I've never let him have his chance to go out and mow the lawn, wind in his hair etc |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Maybe he’s been gagging to mow his own lawn. Perhaps he has the Porsche of Lawnmowers in his shed and he’s been desperate to mow his lawn. To feel the powerful throb of that engine up his arms. The spray of gray in his face......
And you, ya meanie, you took that joy away from him.....until that fateful day.....when his Bosch AdvancedRotak 750 came out to play....
Haha. That's possibley what it was. I've never let him have his chance to go out and mow the lawn, wind in his hair etc "
You don’t think it might be a non confrontational sign? |
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"Maybe - just maybe, his thought process was....."I really should mow my neighbour's lawn because he has kindly mowed mine for years, but what if he's really into gardening and me mowing his lawn for him will take away the small pleasure he would get to be outside in this lovely weather tending to his own garden".
Maybe. "
This made me smile almost as much as the original post
Just forget it and carry on as normal. Life’s too short to give it another thought.
(Plus most people are idiots anyway. I’d rather continue with a generous nature than let things bother me!)
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me "
Ha! Take a peep. I'm cutting my own lawn again. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Having gone back and read all of the thread I have to tell you O.P. you are the problem.
1. You never asked him if you could trespass on his property.
2. You never asked him if he wanted his grass cutting.
3. Now that he hasn't cut yours you think HE owes you something.
Think about it.
If you feel stupid for doing his lawn all those times then it shows you didn't do it out of neighbourliness.
Haha, this is brilliant. So it turns out I'm the problem.
Firstly if he thought I was trespassing then he'd have said something in 5+ years.
Secondly, I didn't ask him. 9 times out of 10 people would be grateful someone else mowed thier lawn.
Thirdly, he owes me nothing. I'm not sure when I said he did.
I'm now beginning to think you're the miserable sod who lives next door to me
Ha! Take a peep. I'm cutting my own lawn again. "
That a metaphor? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is, if you like that there isn't a fence, then don't get to the point where you want one.
For now just do your own lawn. Cut up to mid point and let that be how it is.
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By (user no longer on site)
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In fairness op, he probably thinks you do a shit job of it and has been gagging to get in there before you for years.
He might just like to keep himself to himself, many people do.
Just do the mature thing next time you see him. Apologise if you cutting his grass without permission has upset him in anyway and ask politely if he prefer you leave it alone on future.
After all, you are the one in the wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed
Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year "
Yup all above board and is on my side |
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"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed
Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year
Yup all above board and is on my side "
What flowers are you planting ? |
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keep doing what you think is right is my opinion.
id have done the same as the op
But some people dont just do it for being decent, They can and do pinch land for maintaining it.
only in the uk though scotland dosnt have this stupid rule |
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"No slaps required haha. I also think if I'd have said something I'd have got worked up and had a proper go at him with a flurry of choice words haha. Instead I'm going to dig out a flower bed and divide the lawn up that way. That'll get his back up "
It will look nice too ! Make sure you sprinkle some bark or slate into his grass so it damages his blade to lol |
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"No slaps required haha. I also think if I'd have said something I'd have got worked up and had a proper go at him with a flurry of choice words haha. Instead I'm going to dig out a flower bed and divide the lawn up that way. That'll get his back up
It will look nice too ! Make sure you sprinkle some bark or slate into his grass so it damages his blade to lol"
That's not neighourly or necessary  |
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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago
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I had the very same situation with an old house I used to live in. However I hated my neighbour cutting my grass as he would cut it way too short. So it was always a race for me to get there first. |
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He's probably embarrassed or feels guilty he has been letti gg you do his side, and fully aware he hasn't thanked you.sometimes when somekne leaves undone something which needs doing (mowing/saying ta) it can stretch into leaving it aamd it seems impossible to save face. So it gets left, and gets worse..
I'd see it as positive that he's done his side.
I'd try not to obssess about it and do just your side next time.
And try not to overthink anything which subsequently happens (that way lies aggro/madness). - if hee doesn't mow his side again, so be it.
I'd just start mowing your side only. He's shown acknowledgement that he should be doing it himself.
And don't get hang up on him nott doing your side. He could have. But didn't.nevermind!
See him doing his as a reset from his point of view re:doing what he should have been doing from the beginning. |
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"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed
Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year
Yup all above board and is on my side
What flowers are you planting ? "
I had some boxwoods potted up so I've planted those in the border. Looks pretty nice I think |
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Without being there or communicating with him, we don't know why he just did his part. He may have been short of time, whatever.
As it's ideal to have an amicable relationship, the ideal way is to have a chat about it. I do with neighbours and then we all know where we stand. Adding a border you'd not planned could be viewed as passive aggressive, as it's a replacement for direct honesty about the situation and you'd presumably have an open lawn, with something worked out.
I'd pop round, keeping social distances intact, and say I thought it was a good time during spring, to discuss what you could plan and arrange for the year. If they're timid, they may not have felt comfortable encroaching on your lawn. You'll give them the opportunity to thank you for having done it earlier but, importantly to clear misunderstandings up and get it straight for the future |
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My front lawn is seperated by a path to my neighbours front lawn. Often when cutting my grass i do his side as well even though he is younger and never does mine. It really does not bother me much as i just think i must be a kinder person than him and i will never stoo being kind to people unless they do me real harm |
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"My front lawn is seperated by a path to my neighbours front lawn. Often when cutting my grass i do his side as well even though he is younger and never does mine. It really does not bother me much as i just think i must be a kinder person than him and i will never stoo being kind to people unless they do me real harm "
Well said - really not worth worrying about! |
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"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed
Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year
Yup all above board and is on my side
What flowers are you planting ?
I had some boxwoods potted up so I've planted those in the border. Looks pretty nice I think "
I recommend Japanese Knot  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Job done. I've dug out a separation on the lawn and made it into a flower bed
Here's hopin' you did it on your side. If not ..... see you on Ch5 next year
Yup all above board and is on my side
What flowers are you planting ?
I had some boxwoods potted up so I've planted those in the border. Looks pretty nice I think
I recommend Japanese Knot "
Haha, just had to Google that. That would have really put a spanner in the works |
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By (user no longer on site)
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He didn't ask you to do it so stop moaning, and if you stop doing it he's found out the depths of your friendliness.
I would say carry on doing his side, he may reciprocate or he may not.
Let this be a lesson to you.
It's best not to volunteer for certain things.
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We also have a garden that merges into the neighbours and I always end up doing both to keep it looking nice
Pointless doing one half without the other but I agree that each neighbour should take it in turns to keep the front gardens looking nice
No you don’t have to do theirs but if their grass is long after you have done yours it will look stupid
Put a little note in their letterbox to ask if they mind doing it now and again |
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**So there's been a development**
Since I separated up the front lawn with my neighbour there's been no word or mention from him at all so I though fair enough, that works for me perfectly, until last weekend.
He dug up his side of the lawn (it's only about 5mtrs x 3mtrs) and is now putting in a rockery it with slate chippings around it.
Have I started something here lol! |
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"**So there's been a development**
Since I separated up the front lawn with my neighbour there's been no word or mention from him at all so I though fair enough, that works for me perfectly, until last weekend.
He dug up his side of the lawn (it's only about 5mtrs x 3mtrs) and is now putting in a rockery it with slate chippings around it.
Have I started something here lol! "
He has probably been meaning to do it for years and has only had the time now its lockdown.
Good for him
Let it go now OP. |
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Fuck it. Put a giant fence up and shit on his lawn
it's lockdown, it's getting to people 
