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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is eating you? If anything?
I am being eaten by slight guilt I cant do more to help my loved ones , my friends. Words are really not enough sometimes. And lockdown doesn't leave us with much more.
Get it out. Feel better. X |
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What had me chomping at the bit yesterday was my neighbours sitting getting pissed in their garden till gone 4am when I had to get up for work at 6am
Douchewaffles! The pair of them |
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Sending hugs! You're doing the best you can  .
I'm mentally and physically exhausted from work and so is my partner which isn't a great combination having two of us like that. I miss my family and friends and I'm worried about my mum who's working in ITU. I could probably cope better with the rest if I could at least let off some steam and go out with my friends and hug people. I'm having a bit of a wobble today but it comes in waves so I'll be fine after I've wallowed in self pity for a bit. |
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I feel bad that I can't do what I normally do for my parents and that younger relatives who live closer are doing things for them. This is ridiculous I know because it's high time the younger ones stepped up anyway. It's not helped by another relative who lives thousands of miles away telling me how much my parents depend on me.  . I know that and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it in the current situation.
There! I got that off my chest  |
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I want to fuck my ex when she comes round tomorrow. Not out of love or intimacy, just to feel my cock inside her. I want to give her a couple of leg shakers then cum on her tits. A Hate fuck really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What had me chomping at the bit yesterday was my neighbours sitting getting pissed in their garden till gone 4am when I had to get up for work at 6am
Douchewaffles! The pair of them "
So inconsiderate. Have a party revenge! Hope you managed to wake up on time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is eating you? If anything?
I am being eaten by slight guilt I cant do more to help my loved ones , my friends. Words are really not enough sometimes. And lockdown doesn't leave us with much more.
Get it out. Feel better. X"
Sending you strength you need! X
Lots of things eating me but I’m staying positive. For now.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What had me chomping at the bit yesterday was my neighbours sitting getting pissed in their garden till gone 4am when I had to get up for work at 6am
Douchewaffles! The pair of them
So inconsiderate. Have a party revenge! Hope you managed to wake up on time. "
I did thanks next time they party I’m moving the drum kit to their drive before they wake up
They’ll learn  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sending hugs! You're doing the best you can .
I'm mentally and physically exhausted from work and so is my partner which isn't a great combination having two of us like that. I miss my family and friends and I'm worried about my mum who's working in ITU. I could probably cope better with the rest if I could at least let off some steam and go out with my friends and hug people. I'm having a bit of a wobble today but it comes in waves so I'll be fine after I've wallowed in self pity for a bit."
Not being able to let off steam might be an issue here too. So many battles to fight and so many thoughts to confront and no actual escape from it eh?
It's ok to go jelly sometimes. As long as we managed to set it right in balance reasonably soon. X
Hope your mum and both of you manage to stay safe. And sane x
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m feeling guilty about not having seen my mum since before lockdown. We FaceTime everyday, but it’s not the same. Used to go over once a week so that’s been hard |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel bad that I can't do what I normally do for my parents and that younger relatives who live closer are doing things for them. This is ridiculous I know because it's high time the younger ones stepped up anyway. It's not helped by another relative who lives thousands of miles away telling me how much my parents depend on me. . I know that and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it in the current situation.
There! I got that off my chest "
Thanks guilt trippers 
Maybe this situation will tip the balance of care towards those who relatives who live nearer. Can be a blessing in disguise? People get used to things done certain way.. nothing you can do right now. And I bet you did enough in the past. And more. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I want to fuck my ex when she comes round tomorrow. Not out of love or intimacy, just to feel my cock inside her. I want to give her a couple of leg shakers then cum on her tits. A Hate fuck really."
If that's what you both want and helps you through the day..
Emotions are complicated thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What is eating you? If anything?
I am being eaten by slight guilt I cant do more to help my loved ones , my friends. Words are really not enough sometimes. And lockdown doesn't leave us with much more.
Get it out. Feel better. X
Sending you strength you need! X
Lots of things eating me but I’m staying positive. For now. "
I wish strength was packaged and easily shipped! We could all do with bit extra thanks. Keep it up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am sad and frustrated that recovering from this horrid virus seems to have triggered a fibromyalgia flare-up.
When I had flu, the fibro ramped up for over a year, so the prospect of similar again this time is really daunting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My sister got diagnosed with MND last year & I hadn't seen her much as she doesn't live close & her husband's a prick. I went to see her just before lockdown & it broke my heart. I hope I get to see her again.x |
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"I feel bad that I can't do what I normally do for my parents and that younger relatives who live closer are doing things for them. This is ridiculous I know because it's high time the younger ones stepped up anyway. It's not helped by another relative who lives thousands of miles away telling me how much my parents depend on me. . I know that and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it in the current situation.
There! I got that off my chest
Thanks guilt trippers
Maybe this situation will tip the balance of care towards those who relatives who live nearer. Can be a blessing in disguise? People get used to things done certain way.. nothing you can do right now. And I bet you did enough in the past. And more. "
It is what it is, nothing I can do about it. I do smile wryly when high praise is being heaped on people who are doing some of the stuff I've been doing for years |
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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago
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I’m frustrated by my neighbours opposite who have their older relatives over daily and went out on two walks. Why can’t people stick to rules.
But, I had an Asda delivery today and the driver was lovely so that’s my good thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not being able to help my Mum and Dad other than virtually.
Not getting the motivation levels up enough to focus on what I ought to be doing for my business. The good weather is definitely a distraction as I’m doing well on garden projects and getting a tan 
Just feeling that bit grumpier for no apparent reason, other than being four weeks into a lockdown.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I feel totally helpless regarding my beautiful mum. She lives 300 miles away and has a neighbour doing her shopping. She is struggling and I can hear her giving up everyday on the phone. She's just survived cancer and now this. I can't on line shop for her or seem to do anything to make her smile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What had me chomping at the bit yesterday was my neighbours sitting getting pissed in their garden till gone 4am when I had to get up for work at 6am
Douchewaffles! The pair of them "
I have neigbours who have been doing this all lock down, with guset and the fukwit police told me to talk them myself.The bloke has a history of violence on top of that, they make their kids scream all day, so child abuse on top. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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I need to call my mother to give her the transaction number for the support money I send her every month and I can’t being myself to doing it. I get all anxious just thinking about it.
We don’t have a good relationship. |
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"I need to call my mother to give her the transaction number for the support money I send her every month and I can’t being myself to doing it. I get all anxious just thinking about it.
We don’t have a good relationship. "
is there another way you can do it. Email, letter? |
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"I feel totally helpless regarding my beautiful mum. She lives 300 miles away and has a neighbour doing her shopping. She is struggling and I can hear her giving up everyday on the phone. She's just survived cancer and now this. I can't on line shop for her or seem to do anything to make her smile "
Just read the entire thread thinking so many stresses and heart goes out to you all, then I got to your post and really bought a tear to my eye. Really wish you and your mum the best and hope you get to see her soon.
As for everybody having a wobble, that's normal in not normal times, wobble away and feel better tomorrow. (My wobble day was last Thursday and I suspect there will be more).
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m feeling guilty about not having seen my mum since before lockdown. We FaceTime everyday, but it’s not the same. Used to go over once a week so that’s been hard "
Hugs. Soon to be real ones with your Mum I hope?
Nothing can replace touch. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am sad and frustrated that recovering from this horrid virus seems to have triggered a fibromyalgia flare-up.
When I had flu, the fibro ramped up for over a year, so the prospect of similar again this time is really daunting."
It must be a huge worry for you considering the past. And I sincerely hope it's not going to turn into anything long term . It's hard to shush these thoughts when you are already drained after having virus. Glad you are mostly on the other side of it and healing vibes your way. X |
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"My sister got diagnosed with MND last year & I hadn't seen her much as she doesn't live close & her husband's a prick. I went to see her just before lockdown & it broke my heart. I hope I get to see her again.x"
does having MND means she needs to isolate for 12 wks? Or you can see her when this lockdown is over? Everything crossed for you and her hugging soon. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m frustrated by my neighbours opposite who have their older relatives over daily and went out on two walks. Why can’t people stick to rules.
But, I had an Asda delivery today and the driver was lovely so that’s my good thing. "
Grr at rules breaking ignorants.
And happy for your delivery. Lucky you to get a slot hope you got a treat amongst all essentials. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not being able to help my Mum and Dad other than virtually.
Not getting the motivation levels up enough to focus on what I ought to be doing for my business. The good weather is definitely a distraction as I’m doing well on garden projects and getting a tan
Just feeling that bit grumpier for no apparent reason, other than being four weeks into a lockdown.
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It's the freedom of roaming taken away which gets to me. It's ok to be bit grumpy about sudden (but justified) need to throw your life upside down.. but hey.. the Tan! so much vit D too.
As for business. Small steps every(other) day surely will get you there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not being able to help my Mum and Dad other than virtually.
Not getting the motivation levels up enough to focus on what I ought to be doing for my business. The good weather is definitely a distraction as I’m doing well on garden projects and getting a tan
Just feeling that bit grumpier for no apparent reason, other than being four weeks into a lockdown.
It's the freedom of roaming taken away which gets to me. It's ok to be bit grumpy about sudden (but justified) need to throw your life upside down.. but hey.. the Tan! so much vit D too.
As for business. Small steps every(other) day surely will get you there. "
I’ll do loads when the weather turns  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel totally helpless regarding my beautiful mum. She lives 300 miles away and has a neighbour doing her shopping. She is struggling and I can hear her giving up everyday on the phone. She's just survived cancer and now this. I can't on line shop for her or seem to do anything to make her smile "
cancer is so draining..and 300 miles is a long way indeed. But you are *there* for her and that matters too even if she struggles to smile.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I need to call my mother to give her the transaction number for the support money I send her every month and I can’t being myself to doing it. I get all anxious just thinking about it.
We don’t have a good relationship.
is there another way you can do it. Email, letter? "
A third person? If it's safe to do so..? Someone who can call or post it through her door?
If I may suggest..keep it quick and brief. And come up with after call recovery plan.. I had to do that too with certain people. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wrestling with work
Not seeing my family
Not having seen my son for about 6 weeks now
Oh ... and fecking snag list and the bastard developers "
I am so sorry about you son. That must be hardest of all let's keep busy, make time fast forward, until this is over and we can enjoy closeness with loves ones again.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel totally helpless regarding my beautiful mum. She lives 300 miles away and has a neighbour doing her shopping. She is struggling and I can hear her giving up everyday on the phone. She's just survived cancer and now this. I can't on line shop for her or seem to do anything to make her smile
Just read the entire thread thinking so many stresses and heart goes out to you all, then I got to your post and really bought a tear to my eye. Really wish you and your mum the best and hope you get to see her soon.
As for everybody having a wobble, that's normal in not normal times, wobble away and feel better tomorrow. (My wobble day was last Thursday and I suspect there will be more).
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Happy to hear you are on the other side of wobbly state x |
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I'm lucky in many ways. I'm home, I'm not worried about money, I'm safe and comfortable. So far no one very close to me has caught it.
I'm shouldering a lot of things privately which are testing my strength. Things I can't pass on.
My voluntary work is up and down. I'm doing a fair amount of psychological first aid. I'm glad to be there for them.
I'm just tired. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m feeling guilty about not having seen my mum since before lockdown. We FaceTime everyday, but it’s not the same. Used to go over once a week so that’s been hard
Hugs. Soon to be real ones with your Mum I hope?
Nothing can replace touch."
Hopefully, she’s having to shield due to medical problems so going to be a while yet.
On a side note if anyone feels they need an ear to vent at or talk with, I’m happy to help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My best friend is going through a really tough time with her terminally ill husband. I want to be there for her, I want to give her a hug and I want to support her.
Instead, she is having to cope on her own. I feel incredibly guilty that I can’t do anything for her |
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"I'm lucky in many ways. I'm home, I'm not worried about money, I'm safe and comfortable. So far no one very close to me has caught it.
I'm shouldering a lot of things privately which are testing my strength. Things I can't pass on.
My voluntary work is up and down. I'm doing a fair amount of psychological first aid. I'm glad to be there for them.
I'm just tired."
You give so much. You are battling lots on the "inside". Of course you are tired.. it's a good strategy to help others and get focus off yourself a little though isnt it? X
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"My best friend is going through a really tough time with her terminally ill husband. I want to be there for her, I want to give her a hug and I want to support her.
Instead, she is having to cope on her own. I feel incredibly guilty that I can’t do anything for her "
I relate to guilt and yet we are doing great by obeying the rules thinking of society at large not just our immediate family and dearest friends..and thinking 'stuff it I will go to her'.
I am sure she doesn't think you are doing nothing! X I'm sure she understands. |
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"My best friend is going through a really tough time with her terminally ill husband. I want to be there for her, I want to give her a hug and I want to support her.
Instead, she is having to cope on her own. I feel incredibly guilty that I can’t do anything for her
I relate to guilt and yet we are doing great by obeying the rules thinking of society at large not just our immediate family and dearest friends..and thinking 'stuff it I will go to her'.
I am sure she doesn't think you are doing nothing! X I'm sure she understands. "
Oh I know, she totally understands. It’s just hard to watch her struggling from afar. She’s always been there for me and she knows I would be there in a heartbeat if I could. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I feel a bit guilty about booking time off work over the next couple of days.
But I've had enough!
It's all well and good being appreciated etc ... but I'm still broke.
Some appreciation in the form of a pay rise or a bonus would be a lot better! |
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"I'm lucky in many ways. I'm home, I'm not worried about money, I'm safe and comfortable. So far no one very close to me has caught it.
I'm shouldering a lot of things privately which are testing my strength. Things I can't pass on.
My voluntary work is up and down. I'm doing a fair amount of psychological first aid. I'm glad to be there for them.
I'm just tired.
You give so much. You are battling lots on the "inside". Of course you are tired.. it's a good strategy to help others and get focus off yourself a little though isnt it? X
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Thank you. Some of the stuff I do helps me feel better about my own crap. Putting on a brave face and being strong. I just do it because I have to, and it's somehow ok.
Other stuff threatens to break me, and I just have to hang on tight for now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My Mum has no bedding plants for her garden and I feel guilty for not dropping some round for her."
Aww 
I'm sure she misses your more than bedding plants.. but I understand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel a bit guilty about booking time off work over the next couple of days.
But I've had enough!
It's all well and good being appreciated etc ... but I'm still broke.
Some appreciation in the form of a pay rise or a bonus would be a lot better!"
Well here goes a little thank you from a stranger for still working, risking your health, etc. Wont pay the Bills but here it is x
We all have our limit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m popping in but I’m fine, I don’t need to spill but I thought I’d send a virtual hug to anyone who needs one.... "
Majority cant complain of too many these days! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm popping in to show support, but i am absolutely embracing this time and enjoying having zero commitments to anyone
Everyone wants a piece of my ass.. Its great to say, sorry... Virus!
My heart goes out to anyone struggling though, or anxious about the future |
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I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation! |
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"I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation! "
How many weeks is she? Is there a chance you can book a private scan once this is over? Unless she is due some more scans? Its lovely you want to be there for her all the way. That's the pregnancy and birth partner she needs x |
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"I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation!
How many weeks is she? Is there a chance you can book a private scan once this is over? Unless she is due some more scans? Its lovely you want to be there for her all the way. That's the pregnancy and birth partner she needs x"
we have the ‘gender’ one in a few weeks but we’re both frustrated really. Apparently some places are still doing private scans although they are apparently only to make sure babies are ok.
Just have to hope it all eases up by due date |
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"I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation!
How many weeks is she? Is there a chance you can book a private scan once this is over? Unless she is due some more scans? Its lovely you want to be there for her all the way. That's the pregnancy and birth partner she needs x
we have the ‘gender’ one in a few weeks but we’re both frustrated really. Apparently some places are still doing private scans although they are apparently only to make sure babies are ok.
Just have to hope it all eases up by due date "
Well then it sounds like you still have plenty of time to get a scan in the future.. maybe even the "gender"/fetal anomaly scans if rules get relaxed by then? I hope you find other ways to bond with your baby in a meantime and support your gf x
I feel you. My youngest kids surgery got cancelled and he really needs one asap. Not the same, but it upset me. |
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"I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation!
How many weeks is she? Is there a chance you can book a private scan once this is over? Unless she is due some more scans? Its lovely you want to be there for her all the way. That's the pregnancy and birth partner she needs x
we have the ‘gender’ one in a few weeks but we’re both frustrated really. Apparently some places are still doing private scans although they are apparently only to make sure babies are ok.
Just have to hope it all eases up by due date
Well then it sounds like you still have plenty of time to get a scan in the future.. maybe even the "gender"/fetal anomaly scans if rules get relaxed by then? I hope you find other ways to bond with your baby in a meantime and support your gf x
I feel you. My youngest kids surgery got cancelled and he really needs one asap. Not the same, but it upset me. "
Fingers crossed! Thanks for listening
Sorry about your youngest, I hope everything works out for him X |
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"I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation!
How many weeks is she? Is there a chance you can book a private scan once this is over? Unless she is due some more scans? Its lovely you want to be there for her all the way. That's the pregnancy and birth partner she needs x
we have the ‘gender’ one in a few weeks but we’re both frustrated really. Apparently some places are still doing private scans although they are apparently only to make sure babies are ok.
Just have to hope it all eases up by due date
Well then it sounds like you still have plenty of time to get a scan in the future.. maybe even the "gender"/fetal anomaly scans if rules get relaxed by then? I hope you find other ways to bond with your baby in a meantime and support your gf x
I feel you. My youngest kids surgery got cancelled and he really needs one asap. Not the same, but it upset me.
Fingers crossed! Thanks for listening
Sorry about your youngest, I hope everything works out for him X "
That is really pants, my friend. What an impossible situation that is, I hope you can work something out. They’re magical moments - woukd she be allowed to FaceTime the confirmation? If you don’t ask...?
Happy to chat any time you want to get a male perspective - I’m main carer for my two little ones, so hope I’d be able to at least offer some words of support, encouragement or just a sounding board. Best wishes |
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"I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation!
How many weeks is she? Is there a chance you can book a private scan once this is over? Unless she is due some more scans? Its lovely you want to be there for her all the way. That's the pregnancy and birth partner she needs x
we have the ‘gender’ one in a few weeks but we’re both frustrated really. Apparently some places are still doing private scans although they are apparently only to make sure babies are ok.
Just have to hope it all eases up by due date
Well then it sounds like you still have plenty of time to get a scan in the future.. maybe even the "gender"/fetal anomaly scans if rules get relaxed by then? I hope you find other ways to bond with your baby in a meantime and support your gf x
I feel you. My youngest kids surgery got cancelled and he really needs one asap. Not the same, but it upset me.
Fingers crossed! Thanks for listening
Sorry about your youngest, I hope everything works out for him X
That is really pants, my friend. What an impossible situation that is, I hope you can work something out. They’re magical moments - woukd she be allowed to FaceTime the confirmation? If you don’t ask...?
Happy to chat any time you want to get a male perspective - I’m main carer for my two little ones, so hope I’d be able to at least offer some words of support, encouragement or just a sounding board. Best wishes "
I really appreciate that man If I randomly pop up one day, don’t be alarmed!
FaceTime is pretty much out the window because they are really strict on phones at the hospital. My gf went recently and there were like 4 security guards on the doors and I was told I had to wait outside the hospital. But we’ll see I guess! |
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"I feel useless at the moment and one reason is my gf is pregnant and I’m not allowed to go with her to appointments or scans and it’s so upsetting I genuinely hate this situation!
How many weeks is she? Is there a chance you can book a private scan once this is over? Unless she is due some more scans? Its lovely you want to be there for her all the way. That's the pregnancy and birth partner she needs x
we have the ‘gender’ one in a few weeks but we’re both frustrated really. Apparently some places are still doing private scans although they are apparently only to make sure babies are ok.
Just have to hope it all eases up by due date
Well then it sounds like you still have plenty of time to get a scan in the future.. maybe even the "gender"/fetal anomaly scans if rules get relaxed by then? I hope you find other ways to bond with your baby in a meantime and support your gf x
I feel you. My youngest kids surgery got cancelled and he really needs one asap. Not the same, but it upset me.
Fingers crossed! Thanks for listening
Sorry about your youngest, I hope everything works out for him X
That is really pants, my friend. What an impossible situation that is, I hope you can work something out. They’re magical moments - woukd she be allowed to FaceTime the confirmation? If you don’t ask...?
Happy to chat any time you want to get a male perspective - I’m main carer for my two little ones, so hope I’d be able to at least offer some words of support, encouragement or just a sounding board. Best wishes
I really appreciate that man If I randomly pop up one day, don’t be alarmed!
FaceTime is pretty much out the window because they are really strict on phones at the hospital. My gf went recently and there were like 4 security guards on the doors and I was told I had to wait outside the hospital. But we’ll see I guess! "
Any time.
Keep your head up and be positive/keep smiling, to support your wife. She’ll know you’re there for her.  |
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Sorry but it’s a depressing post: my dog died just before lockdown (the 12th March) and haven’t been able to get to the vets to get her ashes, lock of fur or paw print. She was my baby.
Been missing my family so much, and hate that we couldn’t support each other with hugs on the 12th April, first birthday without grandad. Had such a shit week with guilt about not being able to give support, as a few days before it was my besties second anniversary and his sons (also one of my besties) first (obvious reasons) and I couldn’t be with my best friends. One of my friends was the sons ex so she’s been devastated, Three of us were there throughout everything, as we battled to keep him with us, so we really needed to be together and had made arrangements to do so.
A few days ago I posted the poem I wrote when my bestie (my rock) died on my social media, and one of my friends (one of the ones I was meant to meet) put it to music for me. Was so beautiful but opened the floodgates and I’ve finally started the grieving process.
I just feel so guilty that I can’t be there for them as I wanted to be x Viv x |
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"Sorry but it’s a depressing post: my dog died just before lockdown (the 12th March) and haven’t been able to get to the vets to get her ashes, lock of fur or paw print. She was my baby.
Been missing my family so much, and hate that we couldn’t support each other with hugs on the 12th April, first birthday without grandad. Had such a shit week with guilt about not being able to give support, as a few days before it was my besties second anniversary and his sons (also one of my besties) first (obvious reasons) and I couldn’t be with my best friends. One of my friends was the sons ex so she’s been devastated, Three of us were there throughout everything, as we battled to keep him with us, so we really needed to be together and had made arrangements to do so.
A few days ago I posted the poem I wrote when my bestie (my rock) died on my social media, and one of my friends (one of the ones I was meant to meet) put it to music for me. Was so beautiful but opened the floodgates and I’ve finally started the grieving process.
I just feel so guilty that I can’t be there for them as I wanted to be x Viv x"
Oh Viv.. that is a lot to take on even if we weren't under lockdown! I dont want to hear any sorry on here..
Guilt is such a twisted thing. Hard to rationalise. Hard to tame emotion.. isnt it?
You have painted for me a picture of some truly wonderful friendships/support network you share.. when you are lucky to have those kind of caring wings around you daily.. one is bound to feel withdrawal.. and all above. Wishing you all the strength to get through it. X |
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"Sorry but it’s a depressing post: my dog died just before lockdown (the 12th March) and haven’t been able to get to the vets to get her ashes, lock of fur or paw print. She was my baby.
Been missing my family so much, and hate that we couldn’t support each other with hugs on the 12th April, first birthday without grandad. Had such a shit week with guilt about not being able to give support, as a few days before it was my besties second anniversary and his sons (also one of my besties) first (obvious reasons) and I couldn’t be with my best friends. One of my friends was the sons ex so she’s been devastated, Three of us were there throughout everything, as we battled to keep him with us, so we really needed to be together and had made arrangements to do so.
A few days ago I posted the poem I wrote when my bestie (my rock) died on my social media, and one of my friends (one of the ones I was meant to meet) put it to music for me. Was so beautiful but opened the floodgates and I’ve finally started the grieving process.
I just feel so guilty that I can’t be there for them as I wanted to be x Viv x
Oh Viv.. that is a lot to take on even if we weren't under lockdown! I dont want to hear any sorry on here..
Guilt is such a twisted thing. Hard to rationalise. Hard to tame emotion.. isnt it?
You have painted for me a picture of some truly wonderful friendships/support network you share.. when you are lucky to have those kind of caring wings around you daily.. one is bound to feel withdrawal.. and all above. Wishing you all the strength to get through it. X"
Thank you. It’s a crazy emotion. His inquest was the worst thing I’ve ever ever been through, bar losing his dad, and I felt I failed them both.
Think this lockdown has just brought everything to a head and it’s a head mash as all the emotions hit you at once. We all need human contact and the reassurance of a hug, but I’m lucky, I have that waiting for me xx |
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Not guilt, but regret I can't be with my son for his birthday today as was originally planned. I take some comfort in that extraordinary circumstances prevented it. Thank goodness for technology or else i'd be in low spirits today. |
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"Not guilt, but regret I can't be with my son for his birthday today as was originally planned. I take some comfort in that extraordinary circumstances prevented it. Thank goodness for technology or else i'd be in low spirits today."
I’m sure he’ll understand. My lil one had to have her party cancelled but she took it very well, and chatted via cam instead so like you, I was so glad for technology x Viv x |
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"Not guilt, but regret I can't be with my son for his birthday today as was originally planned. I take some comfort in that extraordinary circumstances prevented it. Thank goodness for technology or else i'd be in low spirits today."
I am so sorry.. what we wouldnt do to make our kids happy..eh? And not being able to be there for him, especially today must be hard. But more to look forward to after! Happy bday to your boy
I thank technology every day for being able to connect to people.
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"Not guilt, but regret I can't be with my son for his birthday today as was originally planned. I take some comfort in that extraordinary circumstances prevented it. Thank goodness for technology or else i'd be in low spirits today.
I’m sure he’ll understand. My lil one had to have her party cancelled but she took it very well, and chatted via cam instead so like you, I was so glad for technology x Viv x"
Same here. But friends send her cards, called her.. some left little handmade pressies on our doorstep. I was so touched! |
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"I can't fart without making noise anymore !
Oh F&B. Good to have you back. Did someone have your 'back' and 'pumped' you up too generously?
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I meant noise with my mouth ! I think it is an age thing... Since I reached 33 i can't fart without making a noise to express relief
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"Sorry but it’s a depressing post: my dog died just before lockdown (the 12th March) and haven’t been able to get to the vets to get her ashes, lock of fur or paw print. She was my baby.
Been missing my family so much, and hate that we couldn’t support each other with hugs on the 12th April, first birthday without grandad. Had such a shit week with guilt about not being able to give support, as a few days before it was my besties second anniversary and his sons (also one of my besties) first (obvious reasons) and I couldn’t be with my best friends. One of my friends was the sons ex so she’s been devastated, Three of us were there throughout everything, as we battled to keep him with us, so we really needed to be together and had made arrangements to do so.
A few days ago I posted the poem I wrote when my bestie (my rock) died on my social media, and one of my friends (one of the ones I was meant to meet) put it to music for me. Was so beautiful but opened the floodgates and I’ve finally started the grieving process.
I just feel so guilty that I can’t be there for them as I wanted to be x Viv x"
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"Sorry but it’s a depressing post: my dog died just before lockdown (the 12th March) and haven’t been able to get to the vets to get her ashes, lock of fur or paw print. She was my baby.
Been missing my family so much, and hate that we couldn’t support each other with hugs on the 12th April, first birthday without grandad. Had such a shit week with guilt about not being able to give support, as a few days before it was my besties second anniversary and his sons (also one of my besties) first (obvious reasons) and I couldn’t be with my best friends. One of my friends was the sons ex so she’s been devastated, Three of us were there throughout everything, as we battled to keep him with us, so we really needed to be together and had made arrangements to do so.
A few days ago I posted the poem I wrote when my bestie (my rock) died on my social media, and one of my friends (one of the ones I was meant to meet) put it to music for me. Was so beautiful but opened the floodgates and I’ve finally started the grieving process.
I just feel so guilty that I can’t be there for them as I wanted to be x Viv x"
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"Not guilt, but regret I can't be with my son for his birthday today as was originally planned. I take some comfort in that extraordinary circumstances prevented it. Thank goodness for technology or else i'd be in low spirits today.
I’m sure he’ll understand. My lil one had to have her party cancelled but she took it very well, and chatted via cam instead so like you, I was so glad for technology x Viv x
Same here. But friends send her cards, called her.. some left little handmade pressies on our doorstep. I was so touched! "
That’s so lovely. One of her friends got her dad to bring her to drop presents and a card off. So cute as they said “virtual hugs” can’t get close xx |
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"Sorry but it’s a depressing post: my dog died just before lockdown (the 12th March) and haven’t been able to get to the vets to get her ashes, lock of fur or paw print. She was my baby.
Been missing my family so much, and hate that we couldn’t support each other with hugs on the 12th April, first birthday without grandad. Had such a shit week with guilt about not being able to give support, as a few days before it was my besties second anniversary and his sons (also one of my besties) first (obvious reasons) and I couldn’t be with my best friends. One of my friends was the sons ex so she’s been devastated, Three of us were there throughout everything, as we battled to keep him with us, so we really needed to be together and had made arrangements to do so.
A few days ago I posted the poem I wrote when my bestie (my rock) died on my social media, and one of my friends (one of the ones I was meant to meet) put it to music for me. Was so beautiful but opened the floodgates and I’ve finally started the grieving process.
I just feel so guilty that I can’t be there for them as I wanted to be x Viv x
Sending virtual hugs + love "
Thank you so much x returning the love and hugs xx |
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"Sorry but it’s a depressing post: my dog died just before lockdown (the 12th March) and haven’t been able to get to the vets to get her ashes, lock of fur or paw print. She was my baby.
Been missing my family so much, and hate that we couldn’t support each other with hugs on the 12th April, first birthday without grandad. Had such a shit week with guilt about not being able to give support, as a few days before it was my besties second anniversary and his sons (also one of my besties) first (obvious reasons) and I couldn’t be with my best friends. One of my friends was the sons ex so she’s been devastated, Three of us were there throughout everything, as we battled to keep him with us, so we really needed to be together and had made arrangements to do so.
A few days ago I posted the poem I wrote when my bestie (my rock) died on my social media, and one of my friends (one of the ones I was meant to meet) put it to music for me. Was so beautiful but opened the floodgates and I’ve finally started the grieving process.
I just feel so guilty that I can’t be there for them as I wanted to be x Viv x
Big hugs x"
Thank you x returning the hugs xx |
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