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Good morning all,
Curious to know what phobias you forum users have??
Mine is bee’s/wasps and it really gets my heart racing in the “not so good way”
I don’t even need to see them, the buzzing sets me off.
Unfortunately i’m one those friends that you would probably be embarrassed to have lol
I run around like I’ve lost my head and screaming like the worlds ended.  |
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Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously  |
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"Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously "
Awww bless you Hun, I can only imagine how hard that must be.
Do you feel the same even if it’s a large group of people who you know quite well or just a new group??
Lol I know it’s better to stay still but when I hear them, all common sense flies out of the window. |
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Clowns & spiders.
Cried through most of "it" still vent brought myself to watch part 2
Domestic spiders just seem to be getting bigger every year! Dunno if that's because of global warming or that bitch Carole fuckin Baskin! |
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Claustrophobia- big time, break into a cold sweat in small spaces. Never use lifts for this reason even when it’s many many flights of stairs. It’s an awful phobia because it seems to creep up so often  |
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"Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously
Awww bless you Hun, I can only imagine how hard that must be.
Do you feel the same even if it’s a large group of people who you know quite well or just a new group??
Lol I know it’s better to stay still but when I hear them, all common sense flies out of the window. "
Doesnt matter if I know them or not unfortunately I will naturally separate no matter what... even happens in work environments
So it looks like I'm being rude or a dick to others or think im better than them but its just me actually protecting myself
If I push myself and it fails then I can spiral a bit but learnt to manage it and separate myself when I feel it starting
Shame the bee/wasp doesn't go out the window instead ha
Hate it when they zoom past your ear with no warning |
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I have needlephobia. I get panic attacks everytime I take injections. So the first thing I do after taking injection is to lie down for five minutes. Sounds childish I know. |
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"Clowns & spiders.
Cried through most of "it" still vent brought myself to watch part 2
Domestic spiders just seem to be getting bigger every year! Dunno if that's because of global warming or that bitch Carole fuckin Baskin! "
Oh I really enjoyed watching part two....so much better than part one.
I’ve become a lot braver in tackling spiders in the last few years. |
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"Claustrophobia- big time, break into a cold sweat in small spaces. Never use lifts for this reason even when it’s many many flights of stairs. It’s an awful phobia because it seems to creep up so often "
Awww bless you Hun, that must feel so horrible. The best you can do is try and avoid things that set you off like the lifts but what happens when it’s situation you have no control over?? |
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"Nuns. Sorry if this offends anyone but i find them creepy
Nothing to get offended over. It’s something you fear.
Has anything triggered it off for you? Or has it always been there?"
I worked in a hospital run by nuns when i left school and they were mean. Later met a girl who had been to a school run by nuns and she said they were cruel. Also seen several films based on true life stories to back this up |
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Heights which is not something I always feared.
Up until around 2004 they never bothered me.
I would regularly help out friends needing their roof fixed or run up ladders cleaning my windows etc.
Now I can't even see someone on TV looking over a ledge without feeling dizzy |
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"Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously
Awww bless you Hun, I can only imagine how hard that must be.
Do you feel the same even if it’s a large group of people who you know quite well or just a new group??
Lol I know it’s better to stay still but when I hear them, all common sense flies out of the window.
Doesnt matter if I know them or not unfortunately I will naturally separate no matter what... even happens in work environments
So it looks like I'm being rude or a dick to others or think im better than them but its just me actually protecting myself
If I push myself and it fails then I can spiral a bit but learnt to manage it and separate myself when I feel it starting
Shame the bee/wasp doesn't go out the window instead ha
Hate it when they zoom past your ear with no warning "
Awwww I’m sure those who know you will understand when a situation gets too hard for you to handle.
I think it’s hard to keep having to explain yourself when it’s outside of the “norm”
I totally get and totally understand as I’ve got an autistic child who doesn’t deal with all crowds, but we take it in his pace. Encourage him into these situations but let him escape when it gets too much.
Lol the bees are lovely as long as they’re not near me.
It’s like they go for those that are scared lol |
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"Mice.... i know im a whimp but you have to be afraid of something to understand.
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Totally get this and it’s doesn’t matter if they don’t understand. You know how you feel and don’t need to validate it |
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"I have needlephobia. I get panic attacks everytime I take injections. So the first thing I do after taking injection is to lie down for five minutes. Sounds childish I know."
I used to shake and be close to crying when I had to give blood. I deal with it better now thankfully.
You do what makes it better for you. Not childish at all. We all have different coping mechanisms |
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"Nuns. Sorry if this offends anyone but i find them creepy
Nothing to get offended over. It’s something you fear.
Has anything triggered it off for you? Or has it always been there?
I worked in a hospital run by nuns when i left school and they were mean. Later met a girl who had been to a school run by nuns and she said they were cruel. Also seen several films based on true life stories to back this up "
Oh that makes sense as it triggers off horrible memories for you 
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My fear of heights is a major problem for me. I cant watch the tv if someones on top of a building or aerial shot going over a cliff edge i grip the chair. I often close my eyes to go to sleep and my mind gives me 3 or 4 scenatios where im about to fall or someone else near me is in danger of falling. It jolts my body. Hate it |
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I have a fear of falling from a height, it's not the height part as I adore rollercoasters it's the free falling part, which is essentially lack of control, I used to fidget whilst trampolining at heights in school searching for some thing to hold on to  |
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"I have needlephobia. I get panic attacks everytime I take injections. So the first thing I do after taking injection is to lie down for five minutes. Sounds childish I know.
I used to shake and be close to crying when I had to give blood. I deal with it better now thankfully.
You do what makes it better for you. Not childish at all. We all have different coping mechanisms "
Thanks for the kind words. It took many years for me to realise that I actually have a phobia. As I mostly took injections when I was sick, I attributed the dizziness to my underlying sickness. Only when I took an injection for numbing my gums during a dental visit and I almost blacked out, I realised that it was a phobia. Good to know that. I can take the necessary precautions now. But when I do blood tests, I always inform the person administering the needle that I have the problem and I need a place to lie down after taking the needle. |
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"Never really had one but lately flying has made me really nervous.
Has something set it off?"
Had a close call landing at Newcastle. I think that started it. Its only when it starts to descend |
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"Heights which is not something I always feared.
Up until around 2004 they never bothered me.
I would regularly help out friends needing their roof fixed or run up ladders cleaning my windows etc.
Now I can't even see someone on TV looking over a ledge without feeling dizzy "
I definitely know the feeling but it’s weird how it triggered off for you.
Something must have happened to set it off??
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"Clowns & spiders.
Cried through most of "it" still vent brought myself to watch part 2
Domestic spiders just seem to be getting bigger every year! Dunno if that's because of global warming or that bitch Carole fuckin Baskin! "
Hahaha!
+1 for spiders, imagine Homer Simpson’s high pitched shriek when I see one! Hate them! |
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"Rats four legged ones
Will run a mile from one.
same here as a kid I was
out and disturbed a rats home it jumped past my face scared the bejusus out of me "
I’m not a fan of rats either. Some of those sewage ones are hugeeeee!! |
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"I have this huge fear that I will never get to motorboat you and it keeps me up at night in a cold sweat
Haha Now this is a fear that can be easily resolved....Donny isn’t that far away "
I feel better already |
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"Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously
Awww bless you Hun, I can only imagine how hard that must be.
Do you feel the same even if it’s a large group of people who you know quite well or just a new group??
Lol I know it’s better to stay still but when I hear them, all common sense flies out of the window.
Doesnt matter if I know them or not unfortunately I will naturally separate no matter what... even happens in work environments
So it looks like I'm being rude or a dick to others or think im better than them but its just me actually protecting myself
If I push myself and it fails then I can spiral a bit but learnt to manage it and separate myself when I feel it starting
Shame the bee/wasp doesn't go out the window instead ha
Hate it when they zoom past your ear with no warning
Awwww I’m sure those who know you will understand when a situation gets too hard for you to handle.
I think it’s hard to keep having to explain yourself when it’s outside of the “norm”
I totally get and totally understand as I’ve got an autistic child who doesn’t deal with all crowds, but we take it in his pace. Encourage him into these situations but let him escape when it gets too much.
Lol the bees are lovely as long as they’re not near me.
It’s like they go for those that are scared lol"
Unfortunately not. Was told at work I was an ignorant fuck in their words ha as I dont join in with everyone else.
But the jobs gone now so doesnt really matter but I still dwell on it as it makes you think if I was like everyone else then would I still be there ? Would someone have fought for me to stay like they did others ? But cant then trigger my overthinking so cant go down the rabbit hole and just say fuck it their loss.
When I explain my situation to people I get funny looks. Used to be alot worse as it also involved phone calls that was worse to explain especially going for jobs and having to explain it every time to every agent that I'd go in face to face and not over phone as I needed to see their reactions/body language and cant do that over phones
Yes showing encouragement and support will give him a baseline for coping in the situation. Escape is a good plan too as then he knows he has an out and can go to his safe place.
All power to you for instilling this into him as this will be a great coping mechanism for him throughout life
Maybe they sense your pheromones like they do a flower  |
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"My fear of heights is a major problem for me. I cant watch the tv if someones on top of a building or aerial shot going over a cliff edge i grip the chair. I often close my eyes to go to sleep and my mind gives me 3 or 4 scenatios where im about to fall or someone else near me is in danger of falling. It jolts my body. Hate it "
Awwww bless hun. I know what you mean as I don’t like watching bees on tv, it just triggers it all off |
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Canals. I had a bad accident when I was a child and since then I can't stand being remotely close to one or watching a programme featuring them.
Spiders but not quite in the same way as canals. |
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I hate flying soon as I get into the airport I’m shaking and sweating then when I get on my heart beats so fast I just can’t wait until it’s over and it’s always on my mind flying back so kind of ruins the holiday |
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"I have a fear of falling from a height, it's not the height part as I adore rollercoasters it's the free falling part, which is essentially lack of control, I used to fidget whilst trampolining at heights in school searching for some thing to hold on to "
I’d like to think that it’s quite common to have the fear of not having control over your body falling.
Even tho you’re falling on a rollercoaster, you know you’re safely strapped on.
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"I have this huge fear that I will never get to motorboat you and it keeps me up at night in a cold sweat
Haha Now this is a fear that can be easily resolved....Donny isn’t that far away
I feel better already "
Awwww always happy to help you POF |
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"Heights which is not something I always feared.
Up until around 2004 they never bothered me.
I would regularly help out friends needing their roof fixed or run up ladders cleaning my windows etc.
Now I can't even see someone on TV looking over a ledge without feeling dizzy
I definitely know the feeling but it’s weird how it triggered off for you.
Something must have happened to set it off??
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No, absolutely nothing.
I was renovating an old mill outbuilding that we had bought to convert to a sports bar and I had been painting ceilings on scaffolding all week, one day I couldn't get down. Just froze with fear.
Never went back up and been the same since |
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"The dark
Do you need to sleep with the lights on??
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It depends where i am, and if there is a door... Sometimes yes - always when i am away. Hmmm maybe that's why I find travelling so exhausting  |
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"Used to have a fear of moths! but only if I was topless as soon as I seen one banging about at the light I would quickly go grab a top 
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Oh I get the moth part but only whilst topless isn’t something I’ve heard.
Is it because you’re scared they’ll sit there and perv on your topless body D |
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"Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously
Awww bless you Hun, I can only imagine how hard that must be.
Do you feel the same even if it’s a large group of people who you know quite well or just a new group??
Lol I know it’s better to stay still but when I hear them, all common sense flies out of the window.
Doesnt matter if I know them or not unfortunately I will naturally separate no matter what... even happens in work environments
So it looks like I'm being rude or a dick to others or think im better than them but its just me actually protecting myself
If I push myself and it fails then I can spiral a bit but learnt to manage it and separate myself when I feel it starting
Shame the bee/wasp doesn't go out the window instead ha
Hate it when they zoom past your ear with no warning
Awwww I’m sure those who know you will understand when a situation gets too hard for you to handle.
I think it’s hard to keep having to explain yourself when it’s outside of the “norm”
I totally get and totally understand as I’ve got an autistic child who doesn’t deal with all crowds, but we take it in his pace. Encourage him into these situations but let him escape when it gets too much.
Lol the bees are lovely as long as they’re not near me.
It’s like they go for those that are scared lol
Unfortunately not. Was told at work I was an ignorant fuck in their words ha as I dont join in with everyone else.
But the jobs gone now so doesnt really matter but I still dwell on it as it makes you think if I was like everyone else then would I still be there ? Would someone have fought for me to stay like they did others ? But cant then trigger my overthinking so cant go down the rabbit hole and just say fuck it their loss.
When I explain my situation to people I get funny looks. Used to be alot worse as it also involved phone calls that was worse to explain especially going for jobs and having to explain it every time to every agent that I'd go in face to face and not over phone as I needed to see their reactions/body language and cant do that over phones
Yes showing encouragement and support will give him a baseline for coping in the situation. Escape is a good plan too as then he knows he has an out and can go to his safe place.
All power to you for instilling this into him as this will be a great coping mechanism for him throughout life
Maybe they sense your pheromones like they do a flower "
Oh I’m really sorry to hear that you’ve had to go through all of that.
My only hope is that those who are ignorant to others social distancing needs, take the time to educate themselves.
The hope for a brighter future for us all
Yes here’s me hoping i can try to make things a little easier for him. It’s only normal to have days where someone won’t understand but i also know that we have many days where people will accommodate to meet his needs |
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Autism is interesting as I am high up the scale in certain areas. I hate being around lots of people I don't know and like being on my own. But my biggest fear is actually being alone. ????? |
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"I have a fear of falling from a height, it's not the height part as I adore rollercoasters it's the free falling part, which is essentially lack of control, I used to fidget whilst trampolining at heights in school searching for some thing to hold on to
I’d like to think that it’s quite common to have the fear of not having control over your body falling.
Even tho you’re falling on a rollercoaster, you know you’re safely strapped on.
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I agree. Falling off a shed roof as a child and splitting my knee open started it, blood absolutely everywhere  |
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"Canals. I had a bad accident when I was a child and since then I can't stand being remotely close to one or watching a programme featuring them.
Spiders but not quite in the same way as canals."
Awwww sorry to hear that Hun, do you think it’s something you’ll ever be able to overcome??
Someone recommended h ypnotherapy but I’m reluctant to try. |
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"I hate flying soon as I get into the airport I’m shaking and sweating then when I get on my heart beats so fast I just can’t wait until it’s over and it’s always on my mind flying back so kind of ruins the holiday "
Awww that must be horrible. |
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"Good morning all,
Curious to know what phobias you forum users have??
Mine is bee’s/wasps and it really gets my heart racing in the “not so good way”
I don’t even need to see them, the buzzing sets me off.
Unfortunately i’m one those friends that you would probably be embarrassed to have lol
I run around like I’ve lost my head and screaming like the worlds ended. "
Is it a phobia, when is common sense such as bee, wasp, snake, high |
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Was just chatting to a colleague about this the other night. He was telling me about his fear of needles and he asked me what my phobia was. I didnt think I had one till he asked. Turns out I'm afraid of heights but only under certain circumstances. Handrails, back scratchers on ladders or being enclosed makes me feel perfectly safe. Take them away and I'll panic. |
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"All quite normal fears here, mine are buttons.. how strange is that
I’ve heard about this before. What exactly do you fear about it?? The look? The feel? The shape??"
the look the feel and that i think they are completley pointless yet happen to be on most clothes, like they are so uneccercery it annoys me lol |
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"I hate flying soon as I get into the airport I’m shaking and sweating then when I get on my heart beats so fast I just can’t wait until it’s over and it’s always on my mind flying back so kind of ruins the holiday
Awww that must be horrible. "
Yeah I tend to only fly 4 hours away maximum |
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"Autism is interesting as I am high up the scale in certain areas. I hate being around lots of people I don't know and like being on my own. But my biggest fear is actually being alone. ?????"
Since the spectrum is so big, it’s always different for each individual. I think autistic people like to chose a select few who they can turn to when they need to but enjoy that alone time.
It’s finding that balance and also knowing that you have someone to turn to when you need them (you’d be surprised at how many people actually understand this need)
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Used to work with a guy who had a genuine fear of bananas! Lads used to leave them in his locker and in his room or on under his duvet covers. He seen the funny side to it but a very bizarre fear to have. |
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"Used to have a fear of moths! but only if I was topless as soon as I seen one banging about at the light I would quickly go grab a top
D.
Oh I get the moth part but only whilst topless isn’t something I’ve heard.
Is it because you’re scared they’ll sit there and perv on your topless body D "
they can perve all they like! It’s because they are dumb! They just fly anywhere and the thought of them touching my nakedness used to send me mad!
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"Good morning all,
Curious to know what phobias you forum users have??
Mine is bee’s/wasps and it really gets my heart racing in the “not so good way”
I don’t even need to see them, the buzzing sets me off.
Unfortunately i’m one those friends that you would probably be embarrassed to have lol
I run around like I’ve lost my head and screaming like the worlds ended.
Is it a phobia, when is common sense such as bee, wasp, snake, high"
I’m not too sure what you’re asking here |
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"Used to work with a guy who had a genuine fear of bananas! Lads used to leave them in his locker and in his room or on under his duvet covers. He seen the funny side to it but a very bizarre fear to have."
i remember watching a documentary about a guy afriad of beans and the word beans
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"Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously
Awww bless you Hun, I can only imagine how hard that must be.
Do you feel the same even if it’s a large group of people who you know quite well or just a new group??
Lol I know it’s better to stay still but when I hear them, all common sense flies out of the window.
Doesnt matter if I know them or not unfortunately I will naturally separate no matter what... even happens in work environments
So it looks like I'm being rude or a dick to others or think im better than them but its just me actually protecting myself
If I push myself and it fails then I can spiral a bit but learnt to manage it and separate myself when I feel it starting
Shame the bee/wasp doesn't go out the window instead ha
Hate it when they zoom past your ear with no warning
Awwww I’m sure those who know you will understand when a situation gets too hard for you to handle.
I think it’s hard to keep having to explain yourself when it’s outside of the “norm”
I totally get and totally understand as I’ve got an autistic child who doesn’t deal with all crowds, but we take it in his pace. Encourage him into these situations but let him escape when it gets too much.
Lol the bees are lovely as long as they’re not near me.
It’s like they go for those that are scared lol
Unfortunately not. Was told at work I was an ignorant fuck in their words ha as I dont join in with everyone else.
But the jobs gone now so doesnt really matter but I still dwell on it as it makes you think if I was like everyone else then would I still be there ? Would someone have fought for me to stay like they did others ? But cant then trigger my overthinking so cant go down the rabbit hole and just say fuck it their loss.
When I explain my situation to people I get funny looks. Used to be alot worse as it also involved phone calls that was worse to explain especially going for jobs and having to explain it every time to every agent that I'd go in face to face and not over phone as I needed to see their reactions/body language and cant do that over phones
Yes showing encouragement and support will give him a baseline for coping in the situation. Escape is a good plan too as then he knows he has an out and can go to his safe place.
All power to you for instilling this into him as this will be a great coping mechanism for him throughout life
Maybe they sense your pheromones like they do a flower
Oh I’m really sorry to hear that you’ve had to go through all of that.
My only hope is that those who are ignorant to others social distancing needs, take the time to educate themselves.
The hope for a brighter future for us all
Yes here’s me hoping i can try to make things a little easier for him. It’s only normal to have days where someone won’t understand but i also know that we have many days where people will accommodate to meet his needs "
Thank you but it's ok.... it's why I can sometimes come across as needed but it's the overthinking that kicks in... did I say something wrong... did I piss them off... should I check on them and apologise and so on for online / non direct interactions. So it can spill into other areas.
But on the flip side if I'm laid back and relax I get told I'm not trying and not taking things seriously so cant win. Used to get told by family that I was so laid back I was horizontal ha. But that can give you a complex about things and make you more introvert.
Often people are too ignorant to educate themselves unless its put in front of them which is why it's a positive step to see more of these types of (dis)abilities put into mainstream programmes so its subliminally educating those.
Sending big  a d positive vibes for you and your son's future and thanks for giving me an outlet here  |
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"Was just chatting to a colleague about this the other night. He was telling me about his fear of needles and he asked me what my phobia was. I didnt think I had one till he asked. Turns out I'm afraid of heights but only under certain circumstances. Handrails, back scratchers on ladders or being enclosed makes me feel perfectly safe. Take them away and I'll panic."
We learn something new about ourselves everyday
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"Motorway driving....
I used to drive on them fine until the menopause kicked in! "
Ohhhh I get this too....I’ve never liked them and avoid at any cost.
It’s weird how menopause triggered it off for you. |
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"All quite normal fears here, mine are buttons.. how strange is that
I’ve heard about this before. What exactly do you fear about it?? The look? The feel? The shape?? the look the feel and that i think they are completley pointless yet happen to be on most clothes, like they are so uneccercery it annoys me lol "
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Bees and wasps. I hate the noise too, I have learnt to compose myself a little istead of running away from them. Though all I want to do is run and scream
And the dark and deep water. If I can't touch the bottom in a pool I panic. But deep water and the dark together, that is my worst nightmare. |
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"Used to work with a guy who had a genuine fear of bananas! Lads used to leave them in his locker and in his room or on under his duvet covers. He seen the funny side to it but a very bizarre fear to have."
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over a year ago
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"Canals. I had a bad accident when I was a child and since then I can't stand being remotely close to one or watching a programme featuring them.
Spiders but not quite in the same way as canals.
Awwww sorry to hear that Hun, do you think it’s something you’ll ever be able to overcome??
Someone recommended h ypnotherapy but I’m reluctant to try."
Oh it's not that big a thing.
I hope your son is coping okay with the lockdown, x |
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"Sorry to hear
Flying annoyances
Running makes them chase you though and you lose track of where they are until you hear that buzz ugh
I have a social anxiety/phobia so dont do well in big groups and will separate myself very obviously
Awww bless you Hun, I can only imagine how hard that must be.
Do you feel the same even if it’s a large group of people who you know quite well or just a new group??
Lol I know it’s better to stay still but when I hear them, all common sense flies out of the window.
Doesnt matter if I know them or not unfortunately I will naturally separate no matter what... even happens in work environments
So it looks like I'm being rude or a dick to others or think im better than them but its just me actually protecting myself
If I push myself and it fails then I can spiral a bit but learnt to manage it and separate myself when I feel it starting
Shame the bee/wasp doesn't go out the window instead ha
Hate it when they zoom past your ear with no warning
Awwww I’m sure those who know you will understand when a situation gets too hard for you to handle.
I think it’s hard to keep having to explain yourself when it’s outside of the “norm”
I totally get and totally understand as I’ve got an autistic child who doesn’t deal with all crowds, but we take it in his pace. Encourage him into these situations but let him escape when it gets too much.
Lol the bees are lovely as long as they’re not near me.
It’s like they go for those that are scared lol
Unfortunately not. Was told at work I was an ignorant fuck in their words ha as I dont join in with everyone else.
But the jobs gone now so doesnt really matter but I still dwell on it as it makes you think if I was like everyone else then would I still be there ? Would someone have fought for me to stay like they did others ? But cant then trigger my overthinking so cant go down the rabbit hole and just say fuck it their loss.
When I explain my situation to people I get funny looks. Used to be alot worse as it also involved phone calls that was worse to explain especially going for jobs and having to explain it every time to every agent that I'd go in face to face and not over phone as I needed to see their reactions/body language and cant do that over phones
Yes showing encouragement and support will give him a baseline for coping in the situation. Escape is a good plan too as then he knows he has an out and can go to his safe place.
All power to you for instilling this into him as this will be a great coping mechanism for him throughout life
Maybe they sense your pheromones like they do a flower
Oh I’m really sorry to hear that you’ve had to go through all of that.
My only hope is that those who are ignorant to others social distancing needs, take the time to educate themselves.
The hope for a brighter future for us all
Yes here’s me hoping i can try to make things a little easier for him. It’s only normal to have days where someone won’t understand but i also know that we have many days where people will accommodate to meet his needs
Thank you but it's ok.... it's why I can sometimes come across as needed but it's the overthinking that kicks in... did I say something wrong... did I piss them off... should I check on them and apologise and so on for online / non direct interactions. So it can spill into other areas.
But on the flip side if I'm laid back and relax I get told I'm not trying and not taking things seriously so cant win. Used to get told by family that I was so laid back I was horizontal ha. But that can give you a complex about things and make you more introvert.
Often people are too ignorant to educate themselves unless its put in front of them which is why it's a positive step to see more of these types of (dis)abilities put into mainstream programmes so its subliminally educating those.
Sending big a d positive vibes for you and your son's future and thanks for giving me an outlet here "
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"Bees and wasps. I hate the noise too, I have learnt to compose myself a little istead of running away from them. Though all I want to do is run and scream
And the dark and deep water. If I can't touch the bottom in a pool I panic. But deep water and the dark together, that is my worst nightmare. "
Could the water thing be a fear of the unknown?? You’re not sure what’s there so it freak you out.
Lol here’s hoping I learn to be more composed like you one day |
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"Canals. I had a bad accident when I was a child and since then I can't stand being remotely close to one or watching a programme featuring them.
Spiders but not quite in the same way as canals.
Awwww sorry to hear that Hun, do you think it’s something you’ll ever be able to overcome??
Someone recommended h ypnotherapy but I’m reluctant to try.
Oh it's not that big a thing.
I hope your son is coping okay with the lockdown, x"
Awwww thanks for asking hun
He’s a little trooper and is dealing with it so far.
Having the garden and trampoline really helps |
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Good morning Gobbychick and everyone.
I’m Sam and I am actually scared of balloons.
I get really uncomfortable around them.
It’s the unpredictability of the things, like those people that rub them on their head and stick them to the wall and the noise they make when someone runs their fingers across them.
Shit like that drives me crazy.
Otherwise I’m scared of fuck all.
Balloons to me are like snakes to Indiana Jones. |
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"Good morning Gobbychick and everyone.
I’m Sam and I am actually scared of balloons.
I get really uncomfortable around them.
It’s the unpredictability of the things, like those people that rub them on their head and stick them to the wall and the noise they make when someone runs their fingers across them.
Shit like that drives me crazy.
Otherwise I’m scared of fuck all.
Balloons to me are like snakes to Indiana Jones."
Morning Sam
I’ve got a family member who is scared of balloon too. They are unpredictable little f**kers aren’t they.
Does the noise of a chalk board get to you?? |
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over a year ago
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"The Moomins have been a life long fear of mine
Oh I loved the moonmins.
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I did and then one day it all changed and I still have Nightmares about them now |
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"Motorway driving....
I used to drive on them fine until the menopause kicked in!
Ohhhh I get this too....I’ve never liked them and avoid at any cost.
It’s weird how menopause triggered it off for you."
Menopause takes away confidence from some women. |
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"Bees and wasps. I hate the noise too, I have learnt to compose myself a little istead of running away from them. Though all I want to do is run and scream
And the dark and deep water. If I can't touch the bottom in a pool I panic. But deep water and the dark together, that is my worst nightmare.
Could the water thing be a fear of the unknown?? You’re not sure what’s there so it freak you out.
Lol here’s hoping I learn to be more composed like you one day "
The composer had to come because of working with children, when standing with 30 or more children in the sunshine with wasps flying around I have to hold it together. Could you imagine MAYHEM!
The water bit is probably as I am not a strong swimmer, although I don't like the unknown. I always want to know what's going on but not in a nosey way. Just so I can be prepared, if I can't my anxiety goes through the roof. |
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"Good morning Gobbychick and everyone.
I’m Sam and I am actually scared of balloons.
I get really uncomfortable around them.
It’s the unpredictability of the things, like those people that rub them on their head and stick them to the wall and the noise they make when someone runs their fingers across them.
Shit like that drives me crazy.
Otherwise I’m scared of fuck all.
Balloons to me are like snakes to Indiana Jones.
Morning Sam
I’ve got a family member who is scared of balloon too. They are unpredictable little f**kers aren’t they.
Does the noise of a chalk board get to you??"
Not particularly.
It’s annoying to me as to anyone but it doesn’t make me recoil in horror.
It’s just balloons really, it’s not really the noises it’s the fact that it could go pop at anytime.
The squeak sends alarm bells off in my head that it’s gonna pop! |
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"Bees and wasps. I hate the noise too, I have learnt to compose myself a little istead of running away from them. Though all I want to do is run and scream
And the dark and deep water. If I can't touch the bottom in a pool I panic. But deep water and the dark together, that is my worst nightmare.
Could the water thing be a fear of the unknown?? You’re not sure what’s there so it freak you out.
Lol here’s hoping I learn to be more composed like you one day
The composer had to come because of working with children, when standing with 30 or more children in the sunshine with wasps flying around I have to hold it together. Could you imagine MAYHEM!
The water bit is probably as I am not a strong swimmer, although I don't like the unknown. I always want to know what's going on but not in a nosey way. Just so I can be prepared, if I can't my anxiety goes through the roof. "
Again something that I can totally relate too.
I hate the unknown and like yourself it’s not the nosey way. it is the being prepared mentally part. Damn anxiety hey |
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"Good morning Gobbychick and everyone.
I’m Sam and I am actually scared of balloons.
I get really uncomfortable around them.
It’s the unpredictability of the things, like those people that rub them on their head and stick them to the wall and the noise they make when someone runs their fingers across them.
Shit like that drives me crazy.
Otherwise I’m scared of fuck all.
Balloons to me are like snakes to Indiana Jones.
Morning Sam
I’ve got a family member who is scared of balloon too. They are unpredictable little f**kers aren’t they.
Does the noise of a chalk board get to you??
Not particularly.
It’s annoying to me as to anyone but it doesn’t make me recoil in horror.
It’s just balloons really, it’s not really the noises it’s the fact that it could go pop at anytime.
The squeak sends alarm bells off in my head that it’s gonna pop!"
So if you’re in a large room but the balloon is on the other end and it pops. Would that effect you or is it only when it’s close by?? |
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"Good morning Gobbychick and everyone.
I’m Sam and I am actually scared of balloons.
I get really uncomfortable around them.
It’s the unpredictability of the things, like those people that rub them on their head and stick them to the wall and the noise they make when someone runs their fingers across them.
Shit like that drives me crazy.
Otherwise I’m scared of fuck all.
Balloons to me are like snakes to Indiana Jones.
Morning Sam
I’ve got a family member who is scared of balloon too. They are unpredictable little f**kers aren’t they.
Does the noise of a chalk board get to you??
Not particularly.
It’s annoying to me as to anyone but it doesn’t make me recoil in horror.
It’s just balloons really, it’s not really the noises it’s the fact that it could go pop at anytime.
The squeak sends alarm bells off in my head that it’s gonna pop!
So if you’re in a large room but the balloon is on the other end and it pops. Would that effect you or is it only when it’s close by??"
It’s mainly just having them in my immediate vicinity.
If it’s a very quiet large room then it might effect me.
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Me too! Had issues as a student nurse when first giving them as I was so anxious. The nurse trainer was amazing though and helped me though it. Can have tattoos for hours, which some people don’t understand.
Also tiger moths, but that’s a psychological issue from a traumatic time as a teenager xx |
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"None, I don't think
I genuinely cant think of any phobias  "
Oohh I thought of one.... Being in deep, open wate... Never really likely to affect me though |
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"None, I don't think
I genuinely cant think of any phobias
Oohh I thought of one.... Being in deep, open wate... Never really likely to affect me though "
*water... Twat! |
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Spiders, as i watched Arachnophobia at the age of about 5 or 6 i guess.
Deep water, nearly drowned in a swimming pool at about 3 or 4.
Social anxiety with large groups of people bit like a poster above. First timke going out to Pink Punters was extremely difficult. Mainly ends up me coming across as extremely shy as i continually feel im being judged and or laughed at. |
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"My only fear is letting my children down
I think that’s one thing you don’t have to fear hon xx"
I think that's my only fear I'd die for them but I worry all the time about it |
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"My only fear is letting my children down
I think that’s one thing you don’t have to fear hon xx
I think that's my only fear I'd die for them but I worry all the time about it"
You will, you’re their dad. I can’t go to bonfires anymore or handle fireworks, but their dad can so he takes the youngest, as I don’t want my fear to deny her fun- she knows why. We worry about our children, and very second of the day xx |
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"My only fear is letting my children down
I feel parents who fear that they'll let their children are much less likely to do so than those who don't."
* Let their children down
Or, worrying about being good enough means you're probably one of the better ones |
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"My two worst ones are flying ( have to medicate to fly) and needles x "
Damn! I’ve got more phobias than I think of, haha, I have to medicate too. Put off flying until last year, and had a panic attack when we started moving. Sister helped calm me xx |
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Not particularly fond of heights or spiders, but getting much better with both as the years go on.
Not strictly related, but I don’t like arguments either; I can’t get my words out and just clam up. |
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Always been petrified of wasps but after a weekend of fighting for possession of my workshop with a newly establishing colony of the buzzy fuckers I reckon I’ve decimated most of them and cured my fear a little .... |
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"My only fear is letting my children down
I feel parents who fear that they'll let their children are much less likely to do so than those who don't.
* Let their children down
Or, worrying about being good enough means you're probably one of the better ones"
Well.ill take that |
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over a year ago
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"Good morning all,
Curious to know what phobias you forum users have??
Mine is bee’s/wasps and it really gets my heart racing in the “not so good way”
I don’t even need to see them, the buzzing sets me off.
Unfortunately i’m one those friends that you would probably be embarrassed to have lol
I run around like I’ve lost my head and screaming like the worlds ended. "
I've a phobia of boobs....if some of the ladies on here could help me to overcome this....
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No way. I meant to start a thread this morning (& forgot) to list phobia names and their meaning. My thought process was that a few people are going to come out of this lock down a little agorophobic.
To answer the question, just spiders for me. |
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"Good morning all,
Curious to know what phobias you forum users have??
Mine is bee’s/wasps and it really gets my heart racing in the “not so good way”
I don’t even need to see them, the buzzing sets me off.
Unfortunately i’m one those friends that you would probably be embarrassed to have lol
I run around like I’ve lost my head and screaming like the worlds ended. "
Not a phobia but I'm allergic to bee stings, mad dash to hospital if I get stung |
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Dogs. The after effects of a dog attack as a child - absolutely hate dogs approaching me off there leads, I'm sorry but there are a lot of dog owners who don't seem to understand some people don't want your dog running loose coming up to me.
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