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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down? "
Once a guy text me after a date saying that I was worth a shag but not worth making the sandwiches. He meant to text his mate but text me by accident  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down? "
When l took time off work for a morning meet , ( as it was the best time for the lady to meet ) drove for over an hour for a no show . |
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"Not me, but my female friend asked out my male friend when we were all 12
He said ‘sorry no, I’m not gay’"
My first 'girlfriend' let me down gently by saying she was gay.
We were 11.
She is still gay to this day.
Not THAT is commitment.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At last, a thread for my expertise!
Which of the innumerable ways you've been turned down was the most embarrassing!
I'm someone who takes rejection hard but I think just not replying is fine, It would be nice to know if It's my photos or my message which sucked the hardest but whenever I've been in the reverse situation, it's just not something you want to get into.
In person, I have had a girl just laugh at me. If you can avoid that, that'd be great.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it was showing my face on here to a man in a PM and him blocking me. Its a tiny bit easier now but 6 years ago it was horrible and knocked me back alot  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down? "
A girl I once liked at Uni decided to move to Australia the day after I asked her out on a date.
I thought that was a tad extreme.
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Had a mutual definitely NO experience, walking up to see each other and us realising I am actually 6 inches taller than him, we stopped about 8 ft apart smiled, shook our heads and went our separate ways  |
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"I had a guy instantly delete his profile when I sent him a face pic
such bad timing!
I was like "oh dear, there must be some glitch, all those messages just disappeared"
No, he fled. "
I would be fapping  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First job working in a Pub, really liked the waitress/Barmaid that worked there aswell. We got on really well it seemed. Got d*unk on the other side of the bar one night. Conversation somehow got on to who we fancied. She said a guy at her friends Uni, I stupidly said her lol. She just went quiet and didn't speak to me again over than when she was serving me lol. She left a month or two after that lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After exchanging quite a few messages for no reason I was told I was too bald and old...? Lol
I'd messaged a girl for months, shes not from the UK but a very popular forumite none the less.
We had gotten on really well and as she was over here in the country late last year we'd arranged a social. To make this happen I had to drive an almost 5 1/2hr round trip.
It was only a social and I'd expected nothing else but her company with no pressure. After an hour she made an excuse and returned back to her hotel. I was gobsmacked as I dont look any different to my photos, nothing awkward happened...
I text her to thank her for her company and she replied in a very cold manner then blocked me.
This bothered me greatly as we were only meeting as friends and after all the drama I went through the previous night (which she knew about) most would've cancelled the meet let alone drive from South Birmingham to Manchester.
I've since found out shes done this to guys before.
I know what most will think, well perhaps she didnt like you?
I'd be totally cool with it but there was no need to treat me like that.
Some on here know me well enough to know I couldn't ever be anything less than a gentleman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Below are the worst I've had
Fuck off you fat ugly bastard
Your cock is too small
What the hell made you think I'd want to fuck you
Some lovely people on FAB |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It still shocks me how people can be so cruel. I’m guessing upbringing or people that have been treated badly in the past doing the same. Bullied become bullies maybe. |
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"It still shocks me how people can be so cruel. I’m guessing upbringing or people that have been treated badly in the past doing the same. Bullied become bullies maybe. "
Or just doing only what they know or seen from relationships in their lives
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had, (not on here) more than one occasion where I have been told I would be really attractive if I lost some weight."
Makes sense. I don't think losing weight would stop you being attractive. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I was turned down many years ago because I wasn't attractive enough and lacked grrr.
I've been turned down on fab on a number of occasions and was simply told not interested. The one that stood out was that I wasn't hairy enough  |
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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago
Near Wellingborough |
"Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down? "
Nah I'm going to ask out your mate, she's well fit.....they're now engaged |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Personally most hurtful for me was about my height. Too tall. 
I’ve had about my weight also and one said I had the best personality ever but would not look good on his arm. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Gently...
You told me my eyes were too close together, my nose was too big and you didn’t like my ear hair.
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That sounds like something Babybird would have said (Because you're gorgeous) whilst writing that song, all those years ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After exchanging quite a few messages for no reason I was told I was too bald and old...? Lol
I'd messaged a girl for months, shes not from the UK but a very popular forumite none the less.
We had gotten on really well and as she was over here in the country late last year we'd arranged a social. To make this happen I had to drive an almost 5 1/2hr round trip.
It was only a social and I'd expected nothing else but her company with no pressure. After an hour she made an excuse and returned back to her hotel. I was gobsmacked as I dont look any different to my photos, nothing awkward happened...
I text her to thank her for her company and she replied in a very cold manner then blocked me.
This bothered me greatly as we were only meeting as friends and after all the drama I went through the previous night (which she knew about) most would've cancelled the meet let alone drive from South Birmingham to Manchester.
I've since found out shes done this to guys before.
I know what most will think, well perhaps she didnt like you?
I'd be totally cool with it but there was no need to treat me like that.
Some on here know me well enough to know I couldn't ever be anything less than a gentleman."
Fuck..that's a fair fucking bad thing to do to any guy . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After exchanging quite a few messages for no reason I was told I was too bald and old...? Lol
I'd messaged a girl for months, shes not from the UK but a very popular forumite none the less.
We had gotten on really well and as she was over here in the country late last year we'd arranged a social. To make this happen I had to drive an almost 5 1/2hr round trip.
It was only a social and I'd expected nothing else but her company with no pressure. After an hour she made an excuse and returned back to her hotel. I was gobsmacked as I dont look any different to my photos, nothing awkward happened...
I text her to thank her for her company and she replied in a very cold manner then blocked me.
This bothered me greatly as we were only meeting as friends and after all the drama I went through the previous night (which she knew about) most would've cancelled the meet let alone drive from South Birmingham to Manchester.
I've since found out shes done this to guys before.
I know what most will think, well perhaps she didnt like you?
I'd be totally cool with it but there was no need to treat me like that.
Some on here know me well enough to know I couldn't ever be anything less than a gentleman.
Fuck..that's a fair fucking bad thing to do to any guy ."
We had been awesome friends for months on fab and WhatsApp prior. I think she got off on just being a cow. Makes me laugh when I see her on here and guys sucking up to her lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been turned more than my fair share.
The one that got me most wasnt long ago. I'd spent ages trying to find someone local when out the blue, one sent me a message
(Simplified)
Her: hey, want to swap face photos.
Me: sure here you go
Her: sorry not my type
Blocked
That's when I had enough and hid my profile, never to meet anyone on fab again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The one where met in the hotel car park....
We had talked for weeks shared pics and she asked to meet me.
She drove up parked next to my car, opened the car door looked out and said.....
Oh God No!
Shut the car door and drove away
Maybe she didnt like land rovers..... |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
I chatted to a guy quite a bit. Sent him a face photo, got positve feedback.
His face photo was ages old so after some lengthy chats I asked him to send one holding an apple. He did and he looked loads older and different, he wasn't really my type but I wasn't going to be rude. He asked me to do the same. Told him I'd been to the gym and was sweaty. Said it didn't matter. Sent it.
He never replied and just disappeared
How bloody rude.
Mind, saved me a job.
Idiot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some on here know me well enough to know I couldn't ever be anything less than a gentleman....
I think she got off on just being a cow. "
These things don't quite go together |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I think getting the “we both know this isn’t going to go anywhere” speech on a date and then him sat waiting....and waiting...for me to get up and leave was the worst, but only because it was so awkward (for me!).
Makes me cringe just thinking about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had, (not on here) more than one occasion where I have been told I would be really attractive if I lost some weight."
You look fantastic as you are |
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Many years ago got dumped by my first girlfriend on a nightclub dancefloor at 5 mins to midnight on NYE. Told me I was "Too nice" and she celebrated the New year by snogging the face off another guy. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"After exchanging quite a few messages for no reason I was told I was too bald and old...? Lol
I'd messaged a girl for months, shes not from the UK but a very popular forumite none the less.
We had gotten on really well and as she was over here in the country late last year we'd arranged a social. To make this happen I had to drive an almost 5 1/2hr round trip.
It was only a social and I'd expected nothing else but her company with no pressure. After an hour she made an excuse and returned back to her hotel. I was gobsmacked as I dont look any different to my photos, nothing awkward happened...
I text her to thank her for her company and she replied in a very cold manner then blocked me.
This bothered me greatly as we were only meeting as friends and after all the drama I went through the previous night (which she knew about) most would've cancelled the meet let alone drive from South Birmingham to Manchester.
I've since found out shes done this to guys before.
I know what most will think, well perhaps she didnt like you?
I'd be totally cool with it but there was no need to treat me like that.
Some on here know me well enough to know I couldn't ever be anything less than a gentleman."
That is so callous and inconsiderate
Sometimes, even if it stings, it's better the person reveal themselves early on rather than later when you've made an ever greater investment in time and effort. Chin up matey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was told I'm too strong & opinionated for my own good but I'll find someone for me one day.
Dickhead.
Those are good characteristics not bad
Obviously wanted a push over to boss about"
Thank you x I think you're right! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had, (not on here) more than one occasion where I have been told I would be really attractive if I lost some weight.
Makes sense. I don't think losing weight would stop you being attractive."
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So I just had my worst/obvious one recently lol... It was: I didn't feel the physical connection I'm looking for.
The embarrassing bit is it took a while for the penny to drop that this means 'I didn't like shagging you enough to want to do it again'
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"Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down? "
just mention
The rash and if that does not work the oozing pustuals
If non of that works I mention I've been out of the house twice for non essential items
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield |
As much as I find it fruatrating either being ignored or people just disappearing mid-conversation, it kinda makes me glad for that when I read threads like this! Could be so much worse. That said, I've had people not turn up too, a few times, though not from this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was told to fuck off I'm way to hairy and even the best beauty therapist in the world wouldnt have enough wax to sort my problem out.
And that was just after me sending a message saying good morning |
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"Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down?
Once a guy text me after a date saying that I was worth a shag but not worth making the sandwiches. He meant to text his mate but text me by accident "
What kind of sandwiches? Tuna?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those that know me, will know I may be giant but I am very gentle. I tend to let people down gently over messages if I’m not attracted. But this is not always the case. What’s the worst way you have been turned down? "
Luckily my only worst experience involved someone postponing a date. I got the message after 3rd time.
People shouldn't waste others time. Good manners and courtesy doesn't cost anything. Well, I suppose it's a matter of values. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After exchanging quite a few messages for no reason I was told I was too bald and old...? Lol
I'd messaged a girl for months, shes not from the UK but a very popular forumite none the less.
We had gotten on really well and as she was over here in the country late last year we'd arranged a social. To make this happen I had to drive an almost 5 1/2hr round trip.
It was only a social and I'd expected nothing else but her company with no pressure. After an hour she made an excuse and returned back to her hotel. I was gobsmacked as I dont look any different to my photos, nothing awkward happened...
I text her to thank her for her company and she replied in a very cold manner then blocked me.
This bothered me greatly as we were only meeting as friends and after all the drama I went through the previous night (which she knew about) most would've cancelled the meet let alone drive from South Birmingham to Manchester.
I've since found out shes done this to guys before.
I know what most will think, well perhaps she didnt like you?
I'd be totally cool with it but there was no need to treat me like that.
Some on here know me well enough to know I couldn't ever be anything less than a gentleman."
Perception is a crazy thing indeed. Knowing the lady involved, I can only say she rem_mbers it being very different to how you’ve portrayed it. And as I know her better than you OP, I find it difficult to believe she would ever behave in such a way, in fact I know she wouldn’t. |
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By *killsMan
over a year ago
Never Never Land |
Let me count the ways lol
I think the worst is to be chatting and FR each other, start talking about after the lockdown then boom. No longer friends, messages get read and then deleted and then blocked a short while later.
Manners cost nothing and I would much rather a polite no thanks than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After exchanging quite a few messages for no reason I was told I was too bald and old...? Lol
I'd messaged a girl for months, shes not from the UK but a very popular forumite none the less.
We had gotten on really well and as she was over here in the country late last year we'd arranged a social. To make this happen I had to drive an almost 5 1/2hr round trip.
It was only a social and I'd expected nothing else but her company with no pressure. After an hour she made an excuse and returned back to her hotel. I was gobsmacked as I dont look any different to my photos, nothing awkward happened...
I text her to thank her for her company and she replied in a very cold manner then blocked me.
This bothered me greatly as we were only meeting as friends and after all the drama I went through the previous night (which she knew about) most would've cancelled the meet let alone drive from South Birmingham to Manchester.
I've since found out shes done this to guys before.
I know what most will think, well perhaps she didnt like you?
I'd be totally cool with it but there was no need to treat me like that.
Some on here know me well enough to know I couldn't ever be anything less than a gentleman."
Firstly I would like to point out that the too bald and ugly comment was made by a different woman in a totally unrelated incident, sorry if it looked as if the 2 stories were connected.
As for the account underneath I maintain that is what happened though I'm sure it could've only been the lack of communication due to being blocked that compounded the issue.
The only reason why I text later a couple of times was to find out where the misunderstanding lay so as to put it right.
I was concerned I'd inadvertently upset her and now that would appear not to have been the case.
The "cow" remark though was totally uncalled for and I would like to say I am very sorry for that.
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Many years ago got dumped by my first girlfriend on a nightclub dancefloor at 5 mins to midnight on NYE. Told me I was "Too nice" and she celebrated the New year by snogging the face off another guy. "
You are, run to the hills. She is toxic...I'm talking from experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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doesn't wworry me now.
people are just images on a screen.
no one exists until you actually meet them.
for all you know you could be exchanging messages with a bot |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"doesn't wworry me now.
people are just images on a screen.
no one exists until you actually meet them.
for all you know you could be exchanging messages with a bot"
The question was in general not just Fab life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"doesn't wworry me now.
people are just images on a screen.
no one exists until you actually meet them.
for all you know you could be exchanging messages with a bot
The question was in general not just Fab life. "
in general. I don't know any generals |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
I've had someone leave the site on the day of our planned meet.
Not sure if it was because of me, but I know these things happen.
I think some people change their minds and don't know how to deal with it. |
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Me.. Hi, do you fancy going out for a drink one night ?
Woman..I’d love to go out with you for a drink Sam but unfortunately I'm going to have a migraine that night
Me.. Ok no problem
Me five minutes later.. Mmm hang on I didn't mention a day
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a mutual definitely NO experience, walking up to see each other and us realising I am actually 6 inches taller than him, we stopped about 8 ft apart smiled, shook our heads and went our separate ways "
Strormtropper undies. Wow. |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
"Me.. Hi, do you fancy going out for a drink one night ?
Woman..I’d love to go out with you for a drink Sam but unfortunately I'm going to have a migraine that night
Me.. Ok no problem
Me five minutes later.. Mmm hang on I didn't mention a day
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Lol sorry but that did make me laugh |
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I didn't think it went that badly 
