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Do you think we might be bringing some of the bad moods depressive thoughts on ourselves?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Was thinking this the other day. Every morning I have a shower, get dressed, put make up on etc , even though I mostly work from home anyway. I often have another shower before bed or if I go the gym. Haven’t worn make up for about 2 weeks, been wearing crappy clothes round the house, hair piled up in a mess on top of my head. I’ve even not bothered getting dressed some days. Caught myself in the mirror a few times and thought Jesus what the fuck!! So on Friday I thought nah this needs to change and went back to my normal routine and I feel so much better for it.
Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?   |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Was thinking this the other day. Every morning I have a shower, get dressed, put make up on etc , even though I mostly work from home anyway. I often have another shower before bed or if I go the gym. Haven’t worn make up for about 2 weeks, been wearing crappy clothes round the house, hair piled up in a mess on top of my head. I’ve even not bothered getting dressed some days. Caught myself in the mirror a few times and thought Jesus what the fuck!! So on Friday I thought nah this needs to change and went back to my normal routine and I feel so much better for it.
Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me? "
Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you?   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Was thinking this the other day. Every morning I have a shower, get dressed, put make up on etc , even though I mostly work from home anyway. I often have another shower before bed or if I go the gym. Haven’t worn make up for about 2 weeks, been wearing crappy clothes round the house, hair piled up in a mess on top of my head. I’ve even not bothered getting dressed some days. Caught myself in the mirror a few times and thought Jesus what the fuck!! So on Friday I thought nah this needs to change and went back to my normal routine and I feel so much better for it.
Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?
Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you? "
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Nobody has seen me in this state believe me!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Routine is really important when it comes to working from home and spending lots of time in the house. There is a discipline to it. It's not one that I find easy which is why I rarely worked from home in the past.
I think there also has to be an acceptance that this is a bit of an odd time and we need to give ourselves a break now and then |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Was thinking this the other day. Every morning I have a shower, get dressed, put make up on etc , even though I mostly work from home anyway. I often have another shower before bed or if I go the gym. Haven’t worn make up for about 2 weeks, been wearing crappy clothes round the house, hair piled up in a mess on top of my head. I’ve even not bothered getting dressed some days. Caught myself in the mirror a few times and thought Jesus what the fuck!! So on Friday I thought nah this needs to change and went back to my normal routine and I feel so much better for it.
Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?
Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you?
. Says he .
Nobody has seen me in this state believe me!! "
Really? Hmmmm....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Routine is really important when it comes to working from home and spending lots of time in the house. There is a discipline to it. It's not one that I find easy which is why I rarely worked from home in the past.
I think there also has to be an acceptance that this is a bit of an odd time and we need to give ourselves a break now and then "
That’s true. I’ve worked from home for years and I’ve learned that. Usually I’m very organised and have a routine. This is just not me and I think I’ve realised it was getting me down x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Was thinking this the other day. Every morning I have a shower, get dressed, put make up on etc , even though I mostly work from home anyway. I often have another shower before bed or if I go the gym. Haven’t worn make up for about 2 weeks, been wearing crappy clothes round the house, hair piled up in a mess on top of my head. I’ve even not bothered getting dressed some days. Caught myself in the mirror a few times and thought Jesus what the fuck!! So on Friday I thought nah this needs to change and went back to my normal routine and I feel so much better for it.
Anyone else not bothering much or is it just me?
Probably just you. Wanting to scare people off from meeting you?
. Says he .
Nobody has seen me in this state believe me!!
Really? Hmmmm.... "
Hahahahaha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am keeping routine, just not wearing makeup much. Or bras!
Yeah the bra thing is nice. Keeping my knees warm anyway!"
I've not been wearing a bra either its quite liberating lol.
Oh wait hold on this is a public thread  |
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I think this is going to be very much a mileage may vary thing. Depends on what your mental health is like otherwise at the moment, and how susceptible you are to routine and grooming as a form of self care.
Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, I’ve been slacking back too. Getting up later, not doing my hair etc If I’m not going off, I don’t need to look my best but I guess I should. If it helped you, having some routine would help me too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think this is going to be very much a mileage may vary thing. Depends on what your mental health is like otherwise at the moment, and how susceptible you are to routine and grooming as a form of self care.
Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated."
I agree. Like I said before somewhere, I’m usually so organised and in control of life, but this is knocking me for six and I can feel myself getting more down. I’m struggling with it all to be honest and I’m usually pretty strong  x |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I've been sticking to my usual routine as much as possible. I even painted my toenails the other day!
It does make you feel better. I think there's been one day when I couldn't be bothered to have a shower and I felt sluggish all day x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think that it can definitely lower your mood. Sometimes though it's a lot of effort getting ready isn't it? These are odd times and cutting yourself some slack is allowed. At the same time I am about to do my hair properly for the first time in a good few days or so because it lifts the mood. Even a simple thing like wearing matching lingerie makes me smile and feel better about the day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been sticking to my usual routine as much as possible. I even painted my toenails the other day!
It does make you feel better. I think there's been one day when I couldn't be bothered to have a shower and I felt sluggish all day x"
Yeah my nails are crap too. I have them done every 2 weeks. I’ve just left them and they’re awful. Need to try myself. (1st world problems eh!) I need to make an effort I think! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been getting dressed each day even if it’s just fresh pj bottoms and a t shirt , trying to do something around the house so I’ve achieved something and doing some kind of beauty treatment each day ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think that it can definitely lower your mood. Sometimes though it's a lot of effort getting ready isn't it? These are odd times and cutting yourself some slack is allowed. At the same time I am about to do my hair properly for the first time in a good few days or so because it lifts the mood. Even a simple thing like wearing matching lingerie makes me smile and feel better about the day."
Yes! You’re right. I’ve even been wearing all the crappy knickers at the back of the drawer! |
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"I think this is going to be very much a mileage may vary thing. Depends on what your mental health is like otherwise at the moment, and how susceptible you are to routine and grooming as a form of self care.
Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated.
I agree. Like I said before somewhere, I’m usually so organised and in control of life, but this is knocking me for six and I can feel myself getting more down. I’m struggling with it all to be honest and I’m usually pretty strong x"
I'll repeat myself, but we're going through a global trauma. This is so, so normal. I'm technically recovered and I've been flat on my back with fucking flashbacks (I think I'm beginning to find my equilibrium again. Maybe. Progress is non linear).
If you need to talk, you know where I am. My recovery won't be yours, but I can steer you in the right direction. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. This shit is hard. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also Nora, sorry you're struggling right now. It's tough but from what I know of you, you're a fighter and you'll see it through x"
Yeah I will. Just being feeling a bit meh lately (like everyone has!) I suppose I don’t usually do posts like this either. I’ll be fine. Just feeling sorry for myself haha. Need a hug I think! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My routine has remained unchanged though I think I might be in need of some manscaping now...slacking there atm  "
Oh jeeeez. Hairy balls would depress anyone! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think this is going to be very much a mileage may vary thing. Depends on what your mental health is like otherwise at the moment, and how susceptible you are to routine and grooming as a form of self care.
Working out your best self care can be half the battle, particularly when some of our options are eliminated.
I agree. Like I said before somewhere, I’m usually so organised and in control of life, but this is knocking me for six and I can feel myself getting more down. I’m struggling with it all to be honest and I’m usually pretty strong x
I'll repeat myself, but we're going through a global trauma. This is so, so normal. I'm technically recovered and I've been flat on my back with fucking flashbacks (I think I'm beginning to find my equilibrium again. Maybe. Progress is non linear).
If you need to talk, you know where I am. My recovery won't be yours, but I can steer you in the right direction. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. This shit is hard."
Thanks lovely x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"My routine has remained unchanged though I think I might be in need of some manscaping now...slacking there atm
Oh jeeeez. Hairy balls would depress anyone! "
Yep I feel sad reading this. The stallion Chillout has succumbed to laziness. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x |
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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago
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I have a routine as it keeps me sane. Weekend will relax things but definitely important for mental health to establish a routine. Keeping on top of my regular grooming routine as I always do mani/ pedi, hair removal, roots etc  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a routine as it keeps me sane. Weekend will relax things but definitely important for mental health to establish a routine. Keeping on top of my regular grooming routine as I always do mani/ pedi, hair removal, roots etc "
Yes. I think it’s important. I said to the kids right from now on PJ days are still gonna be weekend days only. |
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x "
Different strokes  |
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
Different strokes "
Strokes  . Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I miss my daily routine even if it meant having to work and I do think it's important for a balanced and healthy lifestyle, for me anyway. As it is I've made a new routine to keep me occupied and, failing that, I'm lucky enough to share a gaff with friends |
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
Different strokes
Strokes . Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!"
Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.
Hooray anxiety has an upside |
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x "
My hair has ended up looking like dreadlocks some days , it’s curly and hard work so some days I just put it in a bun and not touch it , when I eventually take it out I look like Medusa ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I miss my daily routine even if it meant having to work and I do think it's important for a balanced and healthy lifestyle, for me anyway. As it is I've made a new routine to keep me occupied and, failing that, I'm lucky enough to share a gaff with friends "
Ah that’s nice that you’re with friends. I miss my friends. FaceTimes not the same x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
My hair has ended up looking like dreadlocks some days , it’s curly and hard work so some days I just put it in a bun and not touch it , when I eventually take it out I look like Medusa !"
Me too!!! Couldn’t get a brush through it the other day!! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"My routine has remained unchanged though I think I might be in need of some manscaping now...slacking there atm
Oh jeeeez. Hairy balls would depress anyone!
Yep I feel sad reading this. The stallion Chillout has succumbed to laziness. "
Needs rectifying asap |
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
My hair has ended up looking like dreadlocks some days , it’s curly and hard work so some days I just put it in a bun and not touch it , when I eventually take it out I look like Medusa !"
I'm plopping mine today so I'm hoping for some snake vibes when I de-turban |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
Different strokes
Strokes . Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!
Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.
Hooray anxiety has an upside "
Really? Oh mine hasn’t. Would take a lot to make that happen lol x |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
Different strokes
Strokes . Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I miss my daily routine even if it meant having to work and I do think it's important for a balanced and healthy lifestyle, for me anyway. As it is I've made a new routine to keep me occupied and, failing that, I'm lucky enough to share a gaff with friends
Ah that’s nice that you’re with friends. I miss my friends. FaceTimes not the same x"
I miss my mum but am thankful for FaceTime. It isn't the same though is right but it's better than not being able to see folk at all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
Different strokes
Strokes . Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!
Tart "
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
Different strokes
Strokes . Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!
Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.
Hooray anxiety has an upside
Really? Oh mine hasn’t. Would take a lot to make that happen lol x"
I've been really in the s mental health wise, and when that happens a lot of shit shuts down. Shrug. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t get me wrong I’m not out looking for sympathy. I’m having a great time with the family. My girls are being amazing, we’ve had so much fun. Had a little party in the garden yesterday. I can still work etc. So many people worse off than me. I was just saying about the “letting yourself go” part of it. I think it helps to still make an effort. x
Different strokes
Strokes . Stop bringing sex into it!! Or is it my mind. God I need sex!!!
Don't look at me, my libido has fucked off.
Hooray anxiety has an upside
Really? Oh mine hasn’t. Would take a lot to make that happen lol x
I've been really in the s mental health wise, and when that happens a lot of shit shuts down. Shrug."
Yes I can understand that. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I love going Ferrell ! It’s great to not have to brush ya hair before 12 o’clock !
Nowt wrong with the odd pj day not that I get many ! "
Yeah but after a week of it it got to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.
showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?
. Suppose I am. I need a kick up the arse don’t I? KICK! learn to slob! "
Your not wrong how we look does impact mood. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.
showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go ."
This is gonna be me from now on!!
I CAN DO THIS!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No, I also used to feel depressed getting up everyday, dressing up and going to work. Forgive me if I’m misunderstanding but I don’t think depression can be pinned to a lack of routine. Otherwise I’d hope to no longer have it. |
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Routine gone to pot, not that I had one much before.
Life is basically up, feed the lad three times a day, school work (trying not to lose the plot) and a bit of cleaning. When he’s not here it’s a big fat zero haha
Ironically my outplacement service called today saying we need to get started, I just laughed and said nope you can put that on hold for another month as can’t actively use the service as it should be used
Life will get some normality again at some point |
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"No, I also used to feel depressed getting up everyday, dressing up and going to work. Forgive me if I’m misunderstanding but I don’t think depression can be pinned to a lack of routine. Otherwise I’d hope to no longer have it. "
That’s why I particularly didn’t use the word “depression” I know depression is a totally different thing and I’m not undermining that. That’s not what I meant by this post x |
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Im very happy this week, I hit rock bottom last week. I stay in my pjs as it helps me stay in, if I get dressed able to go out then I get frustrated because I can't go out
Hope you feel in a better mind space soon |
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"No, I also used to feel depressed getting up everyday, dressing up and going to work. Forgive me if I’m misunderstanding but I don’t think depression can be pinned to a lack of routine. Otherwise I’d hope to no longer have it. "
Depression can be caused or exacerbated by many things. As can subclinical psychological disturbance.
Hang in there x |
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I'm doing ok. This situation hasn't really changed my routine drastically. Just made me think outside the box in terms of how to live as normally as possible. I never thought I'd actually be relieved that I'm emotionally shallow.
Lots of love to everyone who is in a glum space. It won't last. It will get brighter and we need you xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm doing ok. This situation hasn't really changed my routine drastically. Just made me think outside the box in terms of how to live as normally as possible. I never thought I'd actually be relieved that I'm emotionally shallow.
Lots of love to everyone who is in a glum space. It won't last. It will get brighter and we need you xx"
Yes it does make you think more and put things into perspective. For how long I don’t know but I’m hoping I’ll come out of it a better person. |
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"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.
showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go .
This is gonna be me from now on!!
I CAN DO THIS!!! "
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"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.
showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go .
This is gonna be me from now on!!
I CAN DO THIS!!!
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She says in her onesie with her 5th cup of tea
Just one more cuppa then shower! Haha |
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"i always stick to my routine of getting ready for the day ahead, even if it is just to stay inside the house.
showered, dressed, hair done, cologne on and good to go .
This is gonna be me from now on!!
I CAN DO THIS!!!
She says in her onesie with her 5th cup of tea
Just one more cuppa then shower! Haha "
got to start somewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont think we bring them on ourselves. It's what we are being exposed to now. But we can definitely try and do more to shush those thoughts up. To kick their ass.. not our own. We control our reactions.. so yes.. get that make up on Nora not everyday but one evening can be a make up fun with your girls if you are into it. Promised my girl some nail and make up fun over the weekend and hair colouring with chalks. Not the same but doing SOMETHING keep me sane. Just adjusting.. |
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I am having two or three videocon meetings a day with work - I have to put a bit of grooming in or they'd think Bill Oddie had joined the team.
I have my own issues and have to watch not to let self-care turn into compulsion. Right now anxiety is triggering OCD and I have to really watch what I'm doing and what habits I'm creating to make sure I'm doing things because they're necessary, not because it's an effective though unhealthy outlet for my stress. |
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The first 2 weeks since all my work just stopped i was very bad at letting my depression and laziness get the better of me but it was a little bit to be expected as work over the last few years has been one of the main motivators in my life. The stress coming from 4-5 months worth of work and income lost is difficult to deal with, along with the uncertainty.
Non the less this last week or so I have started doing yoga gardening and exercising and showering more and it does certainly help lift the move and help with a more positive outlook. |
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I have been sticking to my routine, not only because it keeps me from getting low in mood but I have a dog who very much likes her routine. Though I have to admit I have have been getting far too used to my siesta time. Not had that since I lived in Cyprus many years ago. But I'm not being too hard on myself, I feel very alone and isolated but that's the point is it not? Just me and BOB (battery operated boyfriend) |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I get showered and dressed etc but then I drift through my day. I’m easily distracted and I lack focus until I properly get into my work and then I’m ok, the day breezes by.
What I find necessary for me is to differentiate week days to weekends. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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To be honest my routine hasn't changed much from how it's been for years on a weekday - about the only difference is that I haven't shaved or had my haircut for a lot longer than normal but I'm embracing that and actually intrigued to see how long my beard/head hair will grow unchallenged.
The time I have felt it most though has been weekends where normally I'd go out and do stuff and now can't and am really "feeling" doing nothing but as is my way, accept it for what it is and try and stay strong and positive and just keep putting one foot in front of the other until we come out the other side. |
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I think a lot of people started this period of lockdown on a pessimistic note anyway and saw it as a reason to not bother. I have always believed that outward appearance reflects a person's state of mind to an extent and that sometimes improvement to one can encourage improvement to the other. I do know that just putting a nice frock on won't cure depression though.
For myself I'm one of the lucky people that have a partner, loads to do, enough food to eat and no pressing financial worries so keeping positive and motivated to pluck the hairs out of my chin is easier for me than many . It isn't the same for loads of people and I don't know how we as a society can support them.
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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve been dressing more casual as working from home but did dress for the office on Friday.
Been trying to stick to similar to my usual work hours as well.
Finding lack of time to myself the weirdest part.
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Garden never looked so good.
Shed emptied out, power washed, painted and good throw away of unwanted shit, my favourite pastime, throwing stuff away, love it.
Kitchen cupboards emptied, scrubbed and refilled with stuff we actually use, the appliances right at the back...in the bin, even if they are Christmas presents.
Seems to be a never ending stream of jobs, how did we do them all before working from home or at least trying to do a bit of work.
I work away quite a bit, never again will I complain of waits in airports and being away from home, well not for a few weeks anyway, it will all be back to normal soonish.
Stay safe. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you blaming your discrepancies on a world event?
. Suppose I am. I need a kick up the arse don’t I?
Doesn't have to be a kick....just saying.."
I’m partial to a gentle slap |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The brain adapts constantly to our lifestyles..believe me I have studied my own problems extensively..noticed the other day my gf was getting quieter and quieter, her sleep pattern was all over the place, because she was napping in the day..she was withdrawing into her own space..not getting out of her pyjamas etc..getting conversation from her was like pulling teeth..we had a chat and I'm taking a day off work every 3 or 4 days, she's getting up at 9 now and keeping busy all day and she s back to the girl I knew before lock down. ..if you re not used to being alone it can be quite a shock to the system and be very stealthy in its impact.  |
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Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair
Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear |
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"Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair
Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear "
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"The brain adapts constantly to our lifestyles..believe me I have studied my own problems extensively..noticed the other day my gf was getting quieter and quieter, her sleep pattern was all over the place, because she was napping in the day..she was withdrawing into her own space..not getting out of her pyjamas etc..getting conversation from her was like pulling teeth..we had a chat and I'm taking a day off work every 3 or 4 days, she's getting up at 9 now and keeping busy all day and she s back to the girl I knew before lock down. ..if you re not used to being alone it can be quite a shock to the system and be very stealthy in its impact. "
I’m used to being alone all day though and I love it. I’m struggling with the not being alone if I’m honest!! X |
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"Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair
Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear "
Do it! |
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I've been get up, showering early and dressing decently to work from home (blouse on top but leggings or jeggings on the bottom!) At the weekend, we have been slobbing around in PJs, but we sometimes do that anyway. I do keep forgetting to have lunch, but I forget at work often too |
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I've been really ill the past week, been in bed and not bothered about my hair or makeup or even getting dressed. Today was the 1st day I got dressed as I felt upto it, even did my hair and put a bit of face on as I popped to the the shop. I definitely felt better for it.
I will be making a little more effort each day, just for me |
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I actually got up early today, did my hair and make up and on my daily exercise walk, with my daughter a very handsome neighbour I have never met before was 100% flirting with me whilst walking on the other side of the road!!! Motivation to stay out of leggings and keep on top of appearance right there |
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"Just finished 6th day working in a row. I currently couldn't give a rats arse what I look like but sleep would be nice "
Hey you!!! Good to see you back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My everyday routine is the same ..up .. training... breakfast ..work .. l try to stick to that routine as best l can only when gone to a concert or on holiday. |
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We create and then recreate ourselves each day, down to, at a micro-level, our posture, emotions and associated bags of associated beliefs, limits and habits etc.
Well worn paths can be followed as if on autopilot. Humans are creatures of habit, it provides some comfort to us and it's less challenging.
The Importance of asking ourselves the right things on an ongoing basis is huge. We can get to check ourselves and change what we can.
There are many fairly easy to do things that can uplift ourselves, if we sank a bit, stuck in a rut. Singles especially so, as no one may be around and able to see the things we're up to for a long time atm. |
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"Hmmm you might be onto something .. I've been in jeans for 3 weeks, slippers, no makeup, not even brushed my hair
Might try and be my normal self tomorrow.. Wonder which heels to wear "
Any that would look good on my shoulders |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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It depends how you perceive it. Letting go, being present with the challenges sometimes means not being arsed about things that are usually important to you.
Riding the waves and the ups and downs .. not feeling like we 'should' be one way or another is probably more useful to me than judging my responses.
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Positivity in the face of adversity has it's place .. it certainly feels better when we can get to that place. For some it's easier than it is for others. I entered into a grieving process over the losses and challenges we are facing right now, personally and collectively. I know that entails a process.
I've been well dressed, slobby, in tears, laughing, strong, fragile .. it's all ok. |
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I’d already been working from home a week before lockdown happened. This is week 4 for me.
I’ve maintained a routine as much as possible. My face to face appointments switched to Skype, usual meetings where we can Skype have continued and I’ve also been seconded to assist in another role a couple of afternoons per week.
I haven’t dropped into scruffs mode just because I’m at home although I’m clearly not sat at my desk in a suit! Just because I can’t do what I did doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do what I can! I’m just doing it differently.
If you let your state of mind get the better of you it’s all downhill and difficult to get yourself out of ...
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Hey at least you’re wearing knickers!
I’ve got to admit apart from the two night shifts I do a week where I try and look decent I haven’t been making an effort. Haven’t been wearing make up or doing my hair. I have been showering every day though cos I’m paranoid about washing the outside off me, I normally only have 4 a week I know I sound like a savage!
I went to Superdrug today though bought hair dye, bought some nail polishes cos I can’t have my gels done, bought face masks and some new make up and I’m gonna try making effort. See so many people in the queue outside Asda now and can’t just nip in and out so I’ll make effort to look tidy. |
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"It depends how you perceive it. Letting go, being present with the challenges sometimes means not being arsed about things that are usually important to you.
Riding the waves and the ups and downs .. not feeling like we 'should' be one way or another is probably more useful to me than judging my responses.
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"It depends how you perceive it. Letting go, being present with the challenges sometimes means not being arsed about things that are usually important to you.
Riding the waves and the ups and downs .. not feeling like we 'should' be one way or another is probably more useful to me than judging my responses.
Absolutely"
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I've fought so hard through all manner of emotions with being Gemma & my divorce last year. I've been to allsorts of places in my head. This lockdown & loss of daily routine is another challenge of similar scale. Or it feels like it. The biggest mistake I made many times was not listening to music. Don't care if it makes me smile, cry or gives me goose bumps, it's vital to our soul & wellbeing. Don't stop your music. Today I washed some windows & then the car. Not much but I'm spacing my jobs out to make then last. I'm kinda used to being on my own now so getting by ok, but it's not easy for others I know. Don't drive yourselves mad watching the news 24/7 either. Take a break & it'll still all be there a few hours later. |
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I'm quite lucky that my routine hasn't changed too much as I'm still in the office everyday. As I'm almost alone in there, casual clothes and music while far from the norm are keeping me relaxed. I also get to keep some of my exercise routine which is helping.
I've cut out news other than what is fed down to us at work and essential to my job, muted negative people on facebook, left lots of political groups. Just trying to avoid the constant noise.
Most of the time I'm probably doing better than okay. One of my quirks is I cope well in a crisis, not really sure how or why, I think it's a leveller when everyone else is frantic and panicing that is so often my norm so I can cope with it while others can't.
Oh and I put wax in my hair for the first time in 2 weeks today because i realised i needed to make an effort. But equally I had a shower this morning having not got dressed since Saturday. How I cope and what's a coping method is always fluid |
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"I'm quite lucky that my routine hasn't changed too much as I'm still in the office everyday. As I'm almost alone in there, casual clothes and music while far from the norm are keeping me relaxed. I also get to keep some of my exercise routine which is helping.
I've cut out news other than what is fed down to us at work and essential to my job, muted negative people on facebook, left lots of political groups. Just trying to avoid the constant noise.
Most of the time I'm probably doing better than okay. One of my quirks is I cope well in a crisis, not really sure how or why, I think it's a leveller when everyone else is frantic and panicing that is so often my norm so I can cope with it while others can't.
Oh and I put wax in my hair for the first time in 2 weeks today because i realised i needed to make an effort. But equally I had a shower this morning having not got dressed since Saturday. How I cope and what's a coping method is always fluid"
This..especially the part about following govern mentioned guidelines only and leaving the media part alone..had to sit a friend down and talk to her..she never trusted, actually hated the medias love of hype then suddenly she was watching every report, hanging on every last word and just getting deeper into the fear side instead of listening to the facts. It was a heated debate between two very close friends..the following day she text to say you re right. She stopped with the media and has now calmed down and is just doing what she needs to do..we all know the media will say pretty much anything to make a story. |
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