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That first message.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You know how guys are always on here asking about how to make that perfect first message? I think I need help too.
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to) but decided to be brave. I got a mind block! No idea what to say!
So go on, tell me how you approach it. Do you have a set way like making sure you reference their profile or wait until they make a forum comment? Are you a copy and paster? Do you try to be witty? Always add a pic? Help!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi how are you as the message
Attach a fanny pic
Thank me later   "
What kind of fanny pic though!? From afar? Over a toilet? Pulled open so you can see my insides!?! Should I put something in there, I mean like a toy not something weird like a houseplant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read their profile, relate to it, be honest in what you want and send a picture, doesn't have to be naked, face pics will start a convo or end it so good to put it out there at the beginning to save on what could be wasted time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to be witty, reference their profile/photos.
Often we find people don't put in any effort in return so it runs out of steam quickly.
We have done copy paste too, but now we message first way less so tend to do something different each time |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"You know how guys are always on here asking about how to make that perfect first message? I think I need help too.
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to) but decided to be brave. I got a mind block! No idea what to say!
So go on, tell me how you approach it. Do you have a set way like making sure you reference their profile or wait until they make a forum comment? Are you a copy and paster? Do you try to be witty? Always add a pic? Help!! "
I must say i'm speechless 
You're stumped?
Just use your natural charm  |
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"Hi how are you as the message
Attach a fanny pic
Thank me later
What kind of fanny pic though!? From afar? Over a toilet? Pulled open so you can see my insides!?! Should I put something in there, I mean like a toy not something weird like a houseplant. "
Over a dirty toilet with a sky remote obviously  thank me later |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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So I was all set for helping you out with your epic struggle to lure in a penis but then I read this...
"I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to)"
and I sighed a bit. I'm glad you're going to start sending them out though! I don't have a set formula, normally I just respond off the back of a post or a status or some other thing. If you want to lure them in you should send that fisting photo - guaranteed action. |
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If they are on the forum, I’ll try and make a witty comment if reference to something they have said.
A general profile on here- I’ll again try to say something witty but, reference something on their profile or a pic. |
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"Hi how are you as the message
Attach a fanny pic
Thank me later
What kind of fanny pic though!? From afar? Over a toilet? Pulled open so you can see my insides!?! Should I put something in there, I mean like a toy not something weird like a houseplant. "
Any will do but it needs to be a black and white one so it looks like some thought has gone into it.
I’ll get you this cock you desire sister. I’m with you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I message first it's because I really like their profile and pictures. I never do copy and paste because I delete them straightaway. I'm just honest and talk about why I think we could get on well. I don't add pictures because if they're interested they can look at my photos and I can send a face pic later on. |
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"You know how guys are always on here asking about how to make that perfect first message? I think I need help too.
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to) but decided to be brave. I got a mind block! No idea what to say!
So go on, tell me how you approach it. Do you have a set way like making sure you reference their profile or wait until they make a forum comment? Are you a copy and paster? Do you try to be witty? Always add a pic? Help!! "
What you could write and what you need to write are two different things IMHO
All you need to say is ‘Hi, I like you. Have a look at my pics and get back to me”
If he isn’t back to you within 45 seconds he’s a knob. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi how are you as the message
Attach a fanny pic
Thank me later
What kind of fanny pic though!? From afar? Over a toilet? Pulled open so you can see my insides!?! Should I put something in there, I mean like a toy not something weird like a houseplant. "
There’s probably no wrong answer, but to give a good idea of depth and width, either a Sky remote, as mentioned, deodorant can, or Pringles tube.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I was all set for helping you out with your epic struggle to lure in a penis but then I read this...
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to)
and I sighed a bit. I'm glad you're going to start sending them out though! I don't have a set formula, normally I just respond off the back of a post or a status or some other thing. If you want to lure them in you should send that fisting photo - guaranteed action."
You know it was tongue in cheek!
I normally save that pic for my second message, I don't want to peak too soon  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any will do but it needs to be a black and white one so it looks like some thought has gone into it.
I’ll get you this cock you desire sister. I’m with you "
I'm gonna call you my wangman  |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"You know how guys are always on here asking about how to make that perfect first message? I think I need help too.
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to) but decided to be brave. I got a mind block! No idea what to say!
So go on, tell me how you approach it. Do you have a set way like making sure you reference their profile or wait until they make a forum comment? Are you a copy and paster? Do you try to be witty? Always add a pic? Help!! "
Most of my message are like me "simple" if you can't pass pleasantries in a message or be civil or try to show who you are not that it gets notice on here which just makes you doubt yourself or get judge by others action.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Whenever I message a guy first that I fancy I just say ‘lush’ here’s me and I attach some pictures. 100% success rate in 9 years! "
If I looked like you I'd probably do the same |
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"Whenever I message a guy first that I fancy I just say ‘lush’ here’s me and I attach some pictures. 100% success rate in 9 years!
If I looked like you I'd probably do the same "
And if Iooked like you then I'd do the same too Rubi |
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By *r B.Man
over a year ago
Durham |
"You know how guys are always on here asking about how to make that perfect first message? I think I need help too.
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to) but decided to be brave. I got a mind block! No idea what to say!
So go on, tell me how you approach it. Do you have a set way like making sure you reference their profile or wait until they make a forum comment? Are you a copy and paster? Do you try to be witty? Always add a pic? Help!! "
Just be you...the rest speaks for itself x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Whenever I message a guy first that I fancy I just say ‘lush’ here’s me and I attach some pictures. 100% success rate in 9 years!
If I looked like you I'd probably do the same
And if Iooked like you then I'd do the same too Rubi "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you put floccinaucinihilipilification in the message it guarantees a reply from me "
Oh I like the irony. The effort of writing it explains itself!
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"If you want to lure them in you should send that fisting photo - guaranteed action.
You know it was tongue in cheek!
I normally save that pic for my second message, I don't want to peak too soon "
Shush, let me have my indignation for a couple of minutes!
Honestly, even hi would do it. A lot of men are... thirsty right now clearly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you put floccinaucinihilipilification in the message it guarantees a reply from me
Oh I like the irony. The effort of writing it explains itself!
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Yep. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"If you want to lure them in you should send that fisting photo - guaranteed action.
You know it was tongue in cheek!
I normally save that pic for my second message, I don't want to peak too soon
Shush, let me have my indignation for a couple of minutes!
Honestly, even hi would do it. A lot of men are... thirsty right now clearly. "
You women always say you don't want a one word message but us men only need two "fuck me" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being a bit more serious now. I think any message that suggests they fancy me, enjoyed reading my profile, like what I post on the forum or liked particular pictures I have uploaded, is highly likely to get a response. Unless it’s a bloke looking for a quick bj meet or similar or couples looking for an immediate meet. If they don’t interest me on either a social or sexual level the conversations tend be very short. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first message to my current meet would've read something along the lines of 'hey I've been stood up in this place, I remember from the forums that you live near there, are you free for a social?'
This was sent at almost 10pm and worked well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know how guys are always on here asking about how to make that perfect first message? I think I need help too.
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to) but decided to be brave. I got a mind block! No idea what to say!
So go on, tell me how you approach it. Do you have a set way like making sure you reference their profile or wait until they make a forum comment? Are you a copy and paster? Do you try to be witty? Always add a pic? Help!! "
First one you sent me was plenty good enough  |
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"So I was all set for helping you out with your epic struggle to lure in a penis but then I read this...
I don't normally send the first one (let's face it, I'm female I don't have to)
and I sighed a bit. I'm glad you're going to start sending them out though! I don't have a set formula, normally I just respond off the back of a post or a status or some other thing. If you want to lure them in you should send that fisting photo - guaranteed action."
I would not reply or be attracted to "that" photo nor a pussy pic first pic
I would require effort and a demonstration of insight x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t overthink it would be my 2p.
I’ve sent some messages where I’ve able to work in a fair bit of humour as the person’s profile has given me both an idea of what their sense of humour is like and material that I can play off.
Others I’ve tried to inject humour from scratch in the hope they get it. Sometimes they will, sometimes they won’t. If it’s the latter, seems reasonable to assume we wouldn’t get on massively well if there was a meet, so potentially no loss.
Other times it’s a simple “Hi, love your pics/post about .....”.
Go with what flows at the time. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Most of the messages I send and receive (to/from people I've not messaged before) are off the back of forum posts and so tend to be geared around that and then just flow (or not) from there.
On the extremely rare occasions (the last was 3 years ago) that I send an unsolicited message I usually introduce myself, pick out something from their profile that interested me to comment on, tell them why I am writing and invite them to take a look at my profile and get back to me if they'd like to chat more - never mention meeting or sex - has got me a response in all but one instance.
You, and most other women, however could just send a message consisting of "." and be guaranteed a reply 95% of the time  |
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