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"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat "There’s enough of us that like to chat here  | |||
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"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat "I know how it feels man... man hug and message me if you wanna friendly chat mate | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "If you ever want just a chat I'm a good listener xx | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "I hear you... Always makes it worse | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "I know how you feel I really do  | |||
"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat " | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "The forum is full of many many folk, a lot of whom have already spoken regularly or even met. I get the same vibe regularly where I feel like my comments get ignored but the few friends I have made keep me entertained and not getting a reply doesnt stop me posting. People will generally acknowledge their friends before strangers I think but I would call that human nature. Don't sweat it, start your own thread even and think of that everyone that posts is giving you a reply | |||
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"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "I get what you are saying about feeling excluded but some users have formed friendships and will chat more with each other. I'm sure it's nothing personal | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "I get that. We've probably all felt ignored on here at some time I think. I try to avoid certain threads I think will go that way, and join in on more inclusive ones. Please keep taking part, I remember you from the pirate thread, aaargh | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I get what you are saying about feeling excluded but some users have formed friendships and will chat more with each other. I'm sure it's nothing personal"Most of the time that's what I'm looking for I'm a single dad of 2 children | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I get that. We've probably all felt ignored on here at some time I think. I try to avoid certain threads I think will go that way, and join in on more inclusive ones. Please keep taking part, I remember you from the pirate thread, aaargh "I'm a single dad of 2 children I don't get much time to go out | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I get that. We've probably all felt ignored on here at some time I think. I try to avoid certain threads I think will go that way, and join in on more inclusive ones. Please keep taking part, I remember you from the pirate thread, aaargh
I'm a single dad of 2 children I don't get much time to go out "Go and join in some other threads, get involved, have fun | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I get that. We've probably all felt ignored on here at some time I think. I try to avoid certain threads I think will go that way, and join in on more inclusive ones. Please keep taking part, I remember you from the pirate thread, aaargh "Thankyou lovely I got totally ignored on that thread. I know its not intentionally, but it still plays on my mind. I try like yourself to stick to threads I think I can have fun on and join in but I seem to get it wrong. Thankyou again that made me smile xx | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "I have the unique distinction of never having one reply to any post I've ever created on here 
Don't let it getcha down. People get busy but they're never too far away | |||
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"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I have the unique distinction of never having one reply to any post I've ever created on here
Don't let it getcha down. People get busy but they're never too far away "I'm sure I've replied to you at some point. Here, you can have a pirate aaargh as well, aaaaargh. | |||
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"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I get that. We've probably all felt ignored on here at some time I think. I try to avoid certain threads I think will go that way, and join in on more inclusive ones. Please keep taking part, I remember you from the pirate thread, aaargh
Thankyou lovely I got totally ignored on that thread. I know its not intentionally, but it still plays on my mind. I try like yourself to stick to threads I think I can have fun on and join in but I seem to get it wrong. Thankyou again that made me smile xx"Glad to be of service, keep smiling! | |||
"I have the unique distinction of never having one reply to any post I've ever created on here "Fixed that for you
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"The NHs volunteering app has an option to do befriending phone calls. Could be good both for those volunteering and those getting the call as well " Great idea! | |||
"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat "You've come to the right place my good man, the forums have saved me from myself on more than 1 occasion | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I have the unique distinction of never having one reply to any post I've ever created on here
Don't let it getcha down. People get busy but they're never too far away
I'm sure I've replied to you at some point. Here, you can have a pirate aaargh as well, aaaaargh. "Oh yeah, on posts. You get my humour, maybe. Which is worrying
But on threads I've created: straight zero.
S'fine, I don't even read all the way down the ones I create myself | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I have the unique distinction of never having one reply to any post I've ever created on here
Don't let it getcha down. People get busy but they're never too far away "It's not unique. Many of us feel like that. It's just that there are some big personalities on here. People are still reading them though x | |||
"The NHs volunteering app has an option to do befriending phone calls. Could be good both for those volunteering and those getting the call as well " Look locally for befriending opportunities too. It really does help. | |||
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"Was diagnosed with depression and anxiety few years back. Happy to check in on anyone to make sure they’re staying sane through all this. OP, you’re a legend. This made my day X " I totally agree, its encouraging loads to come forward with their mental health. Ive kept mine a secret but got diagnosed with EUPD in January. I know my triggers and try to avoid them but whether its this crazy lockdown I dont know but im on here more as loVe company, sadly it back fired. Ive made lovely friends on here though x | |||
"Was diagnosed with depression and anxiety few years back. Happy to check in on anyone to make sure they’re staying sane through all this. OP, you’re a legend. This made my day X I totally agree, its encouraging loads to come forward with their mental health. Ive kept mine a secret but got diagnosed with EUPD in January. I know my triggers and try to avoid them but whether its this crazy lockdown I dont know but im on here more as loVe company, sadly it back fired. Ive made lovely friends on here though x" Sending love and strength your way X | |||
"Was diagnosed with depression and anxiety few years back. Happy to check in on anyone to make sure they’re staying sane through all this. OP, you’re a legend. This made my day X I totally agree, its encouraging loads to come forward with their mental health. Ive kept mine a secret but got diagnosed with EUPD in January. I know my triggers and try to avoid them but whether its this crazy lockdown I dont know but im on here more as loVe company, sadly it back fired. Ive made lovely friends on here though x" Forums can be challenging environments. Stick with it. Personally, depression, anxiety with PTSD features, for about 20 years. | |||
"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat "you ok mate, i have all the time in the world if you need a chat  | |||
"That's true, I'd suggest those people just looking for a chat to join in the forums, and maybe the chat rooms. " | |||
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"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately "I know this pain too... | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I know this pain too..."I think OP started a really great thread and I dont feel so alone seing others feel like me. Its great to know we are all in a similar situation. Sending hugs to you lovely x | |||
"Agreed, lots of chat to be had in the forums, connections and friends to be made. Doesn't always have to be about sex on here. Jim x" This... ^^^
Happy to listen xx | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I know this pain too...
I think OP started a really great thread and I dont feel so alone seing others feel like me. Its great to know we are all in a similar situation. Sending hugs to you lovely x"I think when you spoke honestly and from the heart, it resonated with lots of other people on here too. Its a positive thing and shows people that we are all here if a friendly ear or chat is needed xx | |||
"Would it be a good idea to set up a kik group just for no topic chat? All welcome, only rule maybe no sexy chitchat. Happy to sort if anyone thinks its worth a go." Im not one for groups but id happily join this xx | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
I know this pain too...
I think OP started a really great thread and I dont feel so alone seing others feel like me. Its great to know we are all in a similar situation. Sending hugs to you lovely x
I think when you spoke honestly and from the heart, it resonated with lots of other people on here too. Its a positive thing and shows people that we are all here if a friendly ear or chat is needed xx"Thankyou my lovely friend, custard creams coming your way xx | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
If you ever want just a chat I'm a good listener xx"Thankyou so much lovely xxx | |||
"I got to be honest sometimes I feel worse coming on the forums. I try to join in with everyone and most of the time I just get ignored on here. For someone with my type of mental health its not good as I feel far worse for it. Some days I feel lonely and just want company. More so lately
If you ever want just a chat I'm a good listener xx
Thankyou so much lovely xxx"Anytime beautiful xx | |||
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"I had been depressed since I was 13 when I was sexually assaulted I was forced on to another male by older boys I'm life sucks I hot help when I was arrested I told them I was going to kill myself xxxxx Thanks for all the kind words xxxx "Hope this thread had helped u make some lovely new friends lovely x | |||
"I had been depressed since I was 13 when I was sexually assaulted I was forced on to another male by older boys I'm life sucks I hot help when I was arrested I told them I was going to kill myself xxxxx Thanks for all the kind words xxxx " | |||
"I had been depressed since I was 13 when I was sexually assaulted I was forced on to another male by older boys I'm life sucks I hot help when I was arrested I told them I was going to kill myself xxxxx Thanks for all the kind words xxxx "Here any time. I work with trauma so if I can help give me a shout | |||
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"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery. "These forums have helped me massively! | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively! "No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different "Yeah I agree! | |||
"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat "Sending you hugs x | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree! "Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own. | |||
"Don't suffer in silence and alone. When your in a bad place even the smallest things seem to be the size of a mountain. Just talking can help. Peace and love. We are all in this together xx" This | |||
"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat "Me too. Took an overdose when i was 30. 3 days in hospital and lived to tell the tale. Still battle my demons. | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own."I do agree with what your saying. Ive stayed off here 6 months but thought I could cope better and came back. Sadly my EUPD really kicked in this week especially today. There are some lovely people on here though and this evening they have cheered me up immensely and ive even added s few friends I think its wise I back off here abit though till I can manage things like paranoia better as the forums can tigger it xx | |||
 My inbox is open to anyone, who just fancies a chat, unity is a powerful thing, hugs to all xoxo | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
I do agree with what your saying. Ive stayed off here 6 months but thought I could cope better and came back. Sadly my EUPD really kicked in this week especially today.
There are some lovely people on here though and this evening they have cheered me up immensely and ive even added s few friends
I think its wise I back off here abit though till I can manage things like paranoia better as the forums can tigger it xx"Not doubting the people in the slightest, just not the best place to be when you are down or low and if you’re not known I suppose. | |||
"Depression is a killer I know I nearly killed myself Not all messages are looking for sex some ppl might just want to chat
Me too. Took an overdose when i was 30. 3 days in hospital and lived to tell the tale. Still battle my demons."Love and hugs x | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
I do agree with what your saying. Ive stayed off here 6 months but thought I could cope better and came back. Sadly my EUPD really kicked in this week especially today.
There are some lovely people on here though and this evening they have cheered me up immensely and ive even added s few friends
I think its wise I back off here abit though till I can manage things like paranoia better as the forums can tigger it xx
Not doubting the people in the slightest, just not the best place to be when you are down or low and if you’re not known I suppose. "Your spot on here I think, its why its affected me so much today on here xx | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree! " anyone would think I do this for my job  | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own."Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of "Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody | |||
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"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
I do agree with what your saying. Ive stayed off here 6 months but thought I could cope better and came back. Sadly my EUPD really kicked in this week especially today.
There are some lovely people on here though and this evening they have cheered me up immensely and ive even added s few friends
I think its wise I back off here abit though till I can manage things like paranoia better as the forums can tigger it xx"Her for you if or whenever you need a good ear EUPD will probably always play some part in your life as that’s what it is. But you can learn to manage it and you’re doing the right thing backing off when you need to. Shows great insight and self awareness which is key to manage any mental health diagnosis. So keep your chin up mate | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody "Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key "You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
I do agree with what your saying. Ive stayed off here 6 months but thought I could cope better and came back. Sadly my EUPD really kicked in this week especially today.
There are some lovely people on here though and this evening they have cheered me up immensely and ive even added s few friends
I think its wise I back off here abit though till I can manage things like paranoia better as the forums can tigger it xx
Her for you if or whenever you need a good ear EUPD will probably always play some part in your life as that’s what it is. But you can learn to manage it and you’re doing the right thing backing off when you need to. Shows great insight and self awareness which is key to manage any mental health diagnosis. So keep your chin up mate "Its a life long mental illness . Ive got better as i know my triggers. Just thought here it would get easier x | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
I do agree with what your saying. Ive stayed off here 6 months but thought I could cope better and came back. Sadly my EUPD really kicked in this week especially today.
There are some lovely people on here though and this evening they have cheered me up immensely and ive even added s few friends
I think its wise I back off here abit though till I can manage things like paranoia better as the forums can tigger it xx
Her for you if or whenever you need a good ear EUPD will probably always play some part in your life as that’s what it is. But you can learn to manage it and you’re doing the right thing backing off when you need to. Shows great insight and self awareness which is key to manage any mental health diagnosis. So keep your chin up mate
Its a life long mental illness . Ive got better as i know my triggers. Just thought here it would get easier x"I know it’s life long and for some they get burn out from it though and it becomes easier to manage later in life. The right therapy can do wonders. DBT is great but take a lot of hard work to make it part of your life. Not sure if you do it or your thoughts on it. But mindfulness is part of that. There’s some great free apps I use insight timer and loads of mindfulness guides to use | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate "I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable  | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable "Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.  | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
"No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha "Ask for a pay rise | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha
Ask for a pay rise "Unless I go for a promotion I’m the top of my banding and I don’t want a promotion as it means less patient contact. Not what I signed up for tbh | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha
Ask for a pay rise
Unless I go for a promotion I’m the top of my banding and I don’t want a promotion as it means less patient contact. Not what I signed up for tbh "That’s commendable, whatever makes you happy I suppose good on ya | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha
Ask for a pay rise
Unless I go for a promotion I’m the top of my banding and I don’t want a promotion as it means less patient contact. Not what I signed up for tbh
That’s commendable, whatever makes you happy I suppose good on ya "m Thanks mate. I just know if I sat in an office doing paperwork and such like I’d end up losing it myself | |||
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"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha
Ask for a pay rise
Unless I go for a promotion I’m the top of my banding and I don’t want a promotion as it means less patient contact. Not what I signed up for tbh
That’s commendable, whatever makes you happy I suppose good on ya m
Thanks mate. I just know if I sat in an office doing paperwork and such like I’d end up losing it myself "Although different being around people and seeing different people everyday is one of the things I miss about being in building sites all day. Working from home is ideal but does have some down sides | |||
"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x" Sounds like youve had alot of pain to lovely , so sorry and sending hugs to you xx | |||
"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x" Viv love this lots such a brilliant message to OP. I agree many people who try to harm themselves don’t do it to die. They do it as a way of stopping the pain and suffering. My door is never closed to those that need it. As are my ears and if they are close by and we not under lockdown conditions my kettle can be on in seconds for a brew. I can tell you’re a lovely person from what you’ve said in that post. Keep up the good work  | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha
Ask for a pay rise
Unless I go for a promotion I’m the top of my banding and I don’t want a promotion as it means less patient contact. Not what I signed up for tbh
That’s commendable, whatever makes you happy I suppose good on ya m
Thanks mate. I just know if I sat in an office doing paperwork and such like I’d end up losing it myself
Although different being around people and seeing different people everyday is one of the things I miss about being in building sites all day. Working from home is ideal but does have some down sides"I still have to spend time in the office but least I can offset it by being out and about see people. This period of lockdown is hard for most people. I’m still working as I normally would and I’m back in tomorrow at 8am. So I feel for those like you that have had to change ways of working. If you feel your mood dropping give us a shout mate | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha
Ask for a pay rise
Unless I go for a promotion I’m the top of my banding and I don’t want a promotion as it means less patient contact. Not what I signed up for tbh
That’s commendable, whatever makes you happy I suppose good on ya m
Thanks mate. I just know if I sat in an office doing paperwork and such like I’d end up losing it myself
Although different being around people and seeing different people everyday is one of the things I miss about being in building sites all day. Working from home is ideal but does have some down sides
I still have to spend time in the office but least I can offset it by being out and about see people. This period of lockdown is hard for most people. I’m still working as I normally would and I’m back in tomorrow at 8am. So I feel for those like you that have had to change ways of working. If you feel your mood dropping give us a shout mate "Cheers mate hopefully not no offence | |||
"Fanswibgers and the Forums on here aren’t the best place to be when you’re feeling low and hoping someone will chat with you in my experience. Keep going and i hope this offering the support see it through. Good luck and take care of yourself that’s the most important thing, how you treat and think of yourself will determine the recovery.
These forums have helped me massively!
No one size fits all all in helping people out in shit times. It’s what’s good in the world we are all different
Yeah I agree!
Just my opinion I’ve been in a bad place and I found this site (and other dating type apps) were terrible for my self esteem. The lack of response made me feel a lot worse about myself, just my experience. Thankfully I took a break and managed to come out of the darkness. Hope anyone else affected by this shithouse can pull through and to each their own.
Well done for making good your recovery mate. That’s a big thing to be proud of
Thank you. First thing you have to be is honest with yourself. Look after yourselves everybody
Agreed you have to acknowledge it’s happening as much as that’s hard. You can’t keep burying those feelings forever. Sooner or later they explode so dealing with things sooner is key
You seem knowledgable on this, wise words mate
I’ve worked in mental health for around 16 yrs in various areas so I’m pleased I sound knowledgeable
Didn’t mean to blow smoke up your arse.
No carry on as it often feels like I’m making shit up as I go along. Imposter syndrome haha
Ask for a pay rise
Unless I go for a promotion I’m the top of my banding and I don’t want a promotion as it means less patient contact. Not what I signed up for tbh
That’s commendable, whatever makes you happy I suppose good on ya m
Thanks mate. I just know if I sat in an office doing paperwork and such like I’d end up losing it myself
Although different being around people and seeing different people everyday is one of the things I miss about being in building sites all day. Working from home is ideal but does have some down sides
I still have to spend time in the office but least I can offset it by being out and about see people. This period of lockdown is hard for most people. I’m still working as I normally would and I’m back in tomorrow at 8am. So I feel for those like you that have had to change ways of working. If you feel your mood dropping give us a shout mate
Cheers mate hopefully not no offence
"No offence taken I know exactly how it was meant | |||
"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x Viv love this lots such a brilliant message to OP. I agree many people who try to harm themselves don’t do it to die. They do it as a way of stopping the pain and suffering. My door is never closed to those that need it. As are my ears and if they are close by and we not under lockdown conditions my kettle can be on in seconds for a brew. I can tell you’re a lovely person from what you’ve said in that post. Keep up the good work "Thank you, and thank you for reaching out and giving support as you have done. It’s a sad fact that according to statistics men are the silent sufferers and it shouldn’t be that way. Everyone should feel that they can ask for help and be heard, without judgement or ridicule. The saying I hated most “man up” such an awful and belittling thing to say to someone. I’ve lost more male friends and relatives to depression than female, it’s an awful, silent killer xx | |||
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"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x Viv love this lots such a brilliant message to OP. I agree many people who try to harm themselves don’t do it to die. They do it as a way of stopping the pain and suffering. My door is never closed to those that need it. As are my ears and if they are close by and we not under lockdown conditions my kettle can be on in seconds for a brew. I can tell you’re a lovely person from what you’ve said in that post. Keep up the good work
Thank you, and thank you for reaching out and giving support as you have done. It’s a sad fact that according to statistics men are the silent sufferers and it shouldn’t be that way. Everyone should feel that they can ask for help and be heard, without judgement or ridicule. The saying I hated most “man up” such an awful and belittling thing to say to someone. I’ve lost more male friends and relatives to depression than female, it’s an awful, silent killer xx
"Totally Viv if I hear that phrase it makes me want to throat punch whoever is saying it. It’s awful and the statistics on male suicide out number women considerably as you said. Despite my job there’s times I too need to reach out and I’ve been the other side of this too it doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. We all need that support at times | |||
"There is a lot of pain coming through in this thread. Everybody here is being heard. Bit there is also a huge amount of love and caring. No-one here is alone. Sending everyone hugs and love who is feeling down. We all matter to each other, especially you OP." | |||
"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x Viv love this lots such a brilliant message to OP. I agree many people who try to harm themselves don’t do it to die. They do it as a way of stopping the pain and suffering. My door is never closed to those that need it. As are my ears and if they are close by and we not under lockdown conditions my kettle can be on in seconds for a brew. I can tell you’re a lovely person from what you’ve said in that post. Keep up the good work
Thank you, and thank you for reaching out and giving support as you have done. It’s a sad fact that according to statistics men are the silent sufferers and it shouldn’t be that way. Everyone should feel that they can ask for help and be heard, without judgement or ridicule. The saying I hated most “man up” such an awful and belittling thing to say to someone. I’ve lost more male friends and relatives to depression than female, it’s an awful, silent killer xx
Totally Viv if I hear that phrase it makes me want to throat punch whoever is saying it. It’s awful and the statistics on male suicide out number women considerably as you said. Despite my job there’s times I too need to reach out and I’ve been the other side of this too it doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. We all need that support at times "We do indeed. I sought another ward after five and a half years as I was struggling seeing youngsters, around my daughters age, being admitted having tried to take their own lives. Many were simply a cry for help. I just found it too hard in the end, so I totally commend you and anyone in the mental health profession, it’s one hell of a hard career to have xx | |||
"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x Viv love this lots such a brilliant message to OP. I agree many people who try to harm themselves don’t do it to die. They do it as a way of stopping the pain and suffering. My door is never closed to those that need it. As are my ears and if they are close by and we not under lockdown conditions my kettle can be on in seconds for a brew. I can tell you’re a lovely person from what you’ve said in that post. Keep up the good work
Thank you, and thank you for reaching out and giving support as you have done. It’s a sad fact that according to statistics men are the silent sufferers and it shouldn’t be that way. Everyone should feel that they can ask for help and be heard, without judgement or ridicule. The saying I hated most “man up” such an awful and belittling thing to say to someone. I’ve lost more male friends and relatives to depression than female, it’s an awful, silent killer xx
Totally Viv if I hear that phrase it makes me want to throat punch whoever is saying it. It’s awful and the statistics on male suicide out number women considerably as you said. Despite my job there’s times I too need to reach out and I’ve been the other side of this too it doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. We all need that support at times
We do indeed. I sought another ward after five and a half years as I was struggling seeing youngsters, around my daughters age, being admitted having tried to take their own lives. Many were simply a cry for help. I just found it too hard in the end, so I totally commend you and anyone in the mental health profession, it’s one hell of a hard career to have xx"Thank you Viv just tried to message you but filters won’t allow. My profession is hard at times but I love it. Many people outside it say they don’t know how we do it. I’d be interested to know what you do for your job as I’m certain there’s probably much of it I couldn’t do either. Especially if it’s children it’s just not for me. If you want to or prepared to drop me a message xx | |||
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"It's amazing how friendly and approachable people are on here, no-one should have to feel depressed and keep it to themselves. Hopefully threads like this will encourage those people to gather the strength they need to join in on the forums and chatrooms x" agreed | |||
"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x Viv love this lots such a brilliant message to OP. I agree many people who try to harm themselves don’t do it to die. They do it as a way of stopping the pain and suffering. My door is never closed to those that need it. As are my ears and if they are close by and we not under lockdown conditions my kettle can be on in seconds for a brew. I can tell you’re a lovely person from what you’ve said in that post. Keep up the good work
Thank you, and thank you for reaching out and giving support as you have done. It’s a sad fact that according to statistics men are the silent sufferers and it shouldn’t be that way. Everyone should feel that they can ask for help and be heard, without judgement or ridicule. The saying I hated most “man up” such an awful and belittling thing to say to someone. I’ve lost more male friends and relatives to depression than female, it’s an awful, silent killer xx
Totally Viv if I hear that phrase it makes me want to throat punch whoever is saying it. It’s awful and the statistics on male suicide out number women considerably as you said. Despite my job there’s times I too need to reach out and I’ve been the other side of this too it doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. We all need that support at times
We do indeed. I sought another ward after five and a half years as I was struggling seeing youngsters, around my daughters age, being admitted having tried to take their own lives. Many were simply a cry for help. I just found it too hard in the end, so I totally commend you and anyone in the mental health profession, it’s one hell of a hard career to have xx
Thank you Viv just tried to message you but filters won’t allow. My profession is hard at times but I love it. Many people outside it say they don’t know how we do it. I’d be interested to know what you do for your job as I’m certain there’s probably much of it I couldn’t do either. Especially if it’s children it’s just not for me. If you want to or prepared to drop me a message xx "Winked at you so filters shouldn’t apply- if I’ve done it right, haha xx | |||
"Throughout the years that I’ve been on fab, one thing I’ve realised is that there are a lot of people suffering from mental health or struggling with something one way or another by themselves. You do end up forming friendships with many on here and you start realising that there’s a lot of people struggling in silence out there. One thing I say, is that you need to look after yourself first before or else. Fab can be a very difficult place for many, and without being judgemental (as I don’t really know a lot of people in the forums), a lot of people should not let other members dictate their feelings - I’m trying to write this without upsetting anyone, so kind of tiptoeing around the topic. Don’t let others get to your head, there’s been times I’ve spoken to some people and I’ve had to tel them to not let other men/women treat them in a certain way, string them along or lower their worth. We all think it happens in the real world but it happens on fab as well. I know the above may not apply to you OP, but if you need to speak to someone for a chat or whatever; fab may not be the best place unless you know that you will be okay with being ignored or rejected - for some people, that’s the trigger and that’s what makes it worse. I agree you got the forums and the chat rooms to open up and be yourself/have a chat but you need to have a thick skin sometimes. If things don’t go your way or upset you even more, you need to ask yourself will that affect me even more? Sorry, if the above doesn’t make sense. I’m slightly having a rant and giving advice. But, I’ve known so many on here who’s mental health took a turn for the worse because of how others treated them on here. "I know exactly what your saying lovely, Thankyou xxx | |||
"Throughout the years that I’ve been on fab, one thing I’ve realised is that there are a lot of people suffering from mental health or struggling with something one way or another by themselves. You do end up forming friendships with many on here and you start realising that there’s a lot of people struggling in silence out there. One thing I say, is that you need to look after yourself first before or else. Fab can be a very difficult place for many, and without being judgemental (as I don’t really know a lot of people in the forums), a lot of people should not let other members dictate their feelings - I’m trying to write this without upsetting anyone, so kind of tiptoeing around the topic. Don’t let others get to your head, there’s been times I’ve spoken to some people and I’ve had to tel them to not let other men/women treat them in a certain way, string them along or lower their worth. We all think it happens in the real world but it happens on fab as well. I know the above may not apply to you OP, but if you need to speak to someone for a chat or whatever; fab may not be the best place unless you know that you will be okay with being ignored or rejected - for some people, that’s the trigger and that’s what makes it worse. I agree you got the forums and the chat rooms to open up and be yourself/have a chat but you need to have a thick skin sometimes. If things don’t go your way or upset you even more, you need to ask yourself will that affect me even more? Sorry, if the above doesn’t make sense. I’m slightly having a rant and giving advice. But, I’ve known so many on here who’s mental health took a turn for the worse because of how others treated them on here. "I’m not going to disagree with this fully. But just like in normal life you have to work your way through the rubbish to get to the good. I’ve met some great people on here and some I’m becoming close to and chatting with daily so you have to find those people | |||
"I really feel for you OP, and anyone battling these demons at the mo. The black dog is a terrible creature to keep at heel at times. Wherever and whatever forum you use to reach out is a good thing, as there will always be someone who can empathise, listen, support and guide you. Please don’t keep it in and try to put on a brave face, when you feel like you’re battling with everything inside. I’m not an expert, nor do I claim to be, but I worked within an environment where there were lots of people admitted because of it becoming too much. Many didn’t want to die per se, but to stop feeling so alone. They felt trapped in a darkness that they couldn’t see any other means of escape. I’ve also been the one living with the guilt and sense of failure that I couldn’t stop my friend, even when i held his hand for so long in that dark place. I’ve battled demons, lost many I love to them, so I mean it, in all sincerity, when I say to reach out, get your voice heard, there will be someone who will hold your hand too. If you ever want to talk, I’m a good listener, and would be happy to open my message filter if you needed to reach out x Whoever is suffering, sending you healing hugs and hope you stay safe x Viv x" Thank you viv At these time in my life I'm just looking for chats Being a single dad of 2 children is hard too xxxx | |||
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"I think it's genuinely difficult. This can be a tough environment. While you can find support, not everyone is understanding and you have to guard yourself against those who aren't. For those who are, we're fallible, we're human, and we may be suffering ourselves. I certainly don't want messages from strangers who need lifting (anyone I'm already speaking to, fine) because frankly I'm trying not to drown myself." Its a very difficult environment, ive been on 6 years and made some amazing friends. Im just reducing my forum time now. It was amazing to see so many people feel the same as me yesterday. OPs post really got people opening up xx | |||
