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Don't Call Me Baby (or indeed any other pet term)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Almost every man who messages uses pet terms when messaging initially.
Does this bother you when it happens to you?
Have you ever told the other person not to call you whatever they did?
How did they react?
I myself have had a variety of responses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes yes and yes, anything like baby is cringeee and to me tacky  If you're friends with someone then that's perfectly fine the silly names, but someone trying to impress you, baby or anything like that is a big no, no  |
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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago
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"Almost every man who messages uses pet terms when messaging initially.
Does this bother you when it happens to you?
Have you ever told the other person not to call you whatever they did?
How did they react?
I myself have had a variety of responses "
What are your responses babe ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m nobody’s baby or girl. No hun, babe, pet, sugar or other shite. And don’t even try pretending you’re strong enough to be my ‘daddy’. Ffs, do I look as if I need one? |
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"I’m nobody’s baby or girl. No hun, babe, pet, sugar or other shite. And don’t even try pretending you’re strong enough to be my ‘daddy’. Ffs, do I look as if I need one?"
What’s up babe/hun/sugar/sweet pea/darlin’? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Given my 40 something age, I’m never sure if I find it cute or cringy. I think it depends on the age of the person it’s come from. It’s a term of endearment, I guess "
Same.... I do tend to call people babe though so can't complain when I get called it
Sweet or love makes my shit itch.
One guy calls me 'trouble' yes yes I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m nobody’s baby or girl. No hun, babe, pet, sugar or other shite. And don’t even try pretending you’re strong enough to be my ‘daddy’. Ffs, do I look as if I need one?
What’s up babe/hun/sugar/sweet pea/darlin’? "
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"I’m nobody’s baby or girl. No hun, babe, pet, sugar or other shite. And don’t even try pretending you’re strong enough to be my ‘daddy’. Ffs, do I look as if I need one?
What’s up babe/hun/sugar/sweet pea/darlin’?
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Awwww I’m in lust! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m nobody’s baby or girl. No hun, babe, pet, sugar or other shite. And don’t even try pretending you’re strong enough to be my ‘daddy’. Ffs, do I look as if I need one?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men get called babe too. Given my 40 something age, I’m never sure if I find it cute or cringy. I think it depends on the age of the person it’s come from. It’s a term of endearment, I guess "
Alwighttt babeee, how's the biscuit dunking going? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't really bother me too much. Not a fan of derogatory ones like slut/whore/slag (which I get a fair bit, the little charmers) 
Regardless, if I don't like something, I tend to ignore the message/not respond |
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"Men get called babe too. Given my 40 something age, I’m never sure if I find it cute or cringy. I think it depends on the age of the person it’s come from. It’s a term of endearment, I guess
Alwighttt babeee, how's the biscuit dunking going? "
Right, my office now you   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men get called babe too. Given my 40 something age, I’m never sure if I find it cute or cringy. I think it depends on the age of the person it’s come from. It’s a term of endearment, I guess
Alwighttt babeee, how's the biscuit dunking going?
Right, my office now you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a general rule, I hate all pet names, but I think that stems from having worked in a heavily male dominated industry where they were used in a deliberately condescending way.
If guys on here call me baby, princess, etc. I don't tend to call them out on it, but it is one of the things that goes in the "con" column when I'm deciding whether or not to meet them! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I get referred to as babe and hun all the time by women and it doesn't put me off as it's not normally addressed in a negative tone.
I don't use any of the terms pointed out in my conversations with women. I may use "lovely" every now and again, but that's it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find far more women use those terms than men.
And of is two, only Anna would use any of those terms and no one has ever taken offence.
Sometimes I get the impression that people try very hard to take offence on here, but only if it comes from a male. |
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
Oo err Devon |
I dont particularlyike it from strangers.. But it doesn't offend me..
Its a part of some people's culture where they are from or family ways.. Like being called my duck.. Or lover..
So I don't look to far into it..
I don't assume everyone calling me babe wants a relationship with me..
Some certainly go too far with it.. Like sexy little sugarpuff... As you can tell.. I'm scared for life!
Plus if conversation starts that way.. You are not goi g to be compatible anyhow so delete and move on xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men get called babe too. Given my 40 something age, I’m never sure if I find it cute or cringy. I think it depends on the age of the person it’s come from. It’s a term of endearment, I guess "
This might sound a bit odd, but I’ve noticed over use of the word babe can sometimes be fake accounts where it’s meant pretending to be women. It’s happened a few times.  |
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Pet names don't bother me. I don't have my real name on my profile so if someone wants to call me something cutesy instead, it's cool. I wouldn't appreciate a derogatory term from a stranger, but I get 'hun' or 'lovely/lovey' fairly often, which are fine. Clearly no offence intended, and none taken.
I don't have a problem with the perceived intimacy of a pet name either; after all, if we're going to be chatting, it's a precursor to potential sexytime, which is pretty intimate! |
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"Almost every man who messages uses pet terms when messaging initially.
Does this bother you when it happens to you?
Have you ever told the other person not to call you whatever they did?
How did they react?
I myself have had a variety of responses "
I get m8 and pal from men who want to see or suck my penis
I get hun and babe from profiles whom I assume are most likely not exactly genuine wanting my kik
All get a variety of responses
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love it from people I'm close to, hate it otherwise.
Babe, hun, trouble, cheeky etc all make me cringe
Morning babe! 
D.
Naughty boy
You love it! 
D."
You're allowed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't include lovely/gorgeous/ beautiful, I think they're quite nice. It's hun/babe/cheeky/trouble that makes me grind my teeth
Phew!
Morning "
See now hippy all I wanna fo is say hey babe hows you this morning trouble as always no doubt lol |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Yes! I can let the odd ‘babe’ slide if I like them but any other pet term makes me want to gouge my own eyeballs out."
don't! I'm sure you look far better with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't include lovely/gorgeous/ beautiful, I think they're quite nice. It's hun/babe/cheeky/trouble that makes me grind my teeth
Phew!
Morning
See now hippy all I wanna fo is say hey babe hows you this morning trouble as always no doubt lol "
Lol. Just no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't include lovely/gorgeous/ beautiful, I think they're quite nice. It's hun/babe/cheeky/trouble that makes me grind my teeth
Phew!
Morning
See now hippy all I wanna fo is say hey babe hows you this morning trouble as always no doubt lol
Lol. Just no "
Sorry but that was like dangling a red rag infront of a horny bull lol |
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"Hannah is American and calls everybody Babe, including me (Luke). Does that upset people or is it only if it comes from a man?
Genuine question. I'm interested to hear people's thoughts. "
I'm like others in that it bothers me from anyone I don't know (con column in the Fab messages kind of thing). It can grow on me, or I'll be less bothered if I realise it's something they call everyone. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Utterly cringeworthy in my book, especially from someone I don’t even know!"
I've found its best using the precautionary principle when addressing someone you don't know to avoid any unpleasantness  |
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"To be totally fair you know. In real life it just slips out. I think every phonecall to the vets/bank/my patients even ands in ‘thanks lovey, byeeeeee’
The curse of my NAARRTTHHHAANN upbringing "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t mind what I’m called as long as it’s not derogatory. Most people I know uses terms like babe, hon, love etc, grew up with it, so to me it’s not really any different than using my name as it’s not so much a familiarity as a colloquial way of addressing someone (if that makes sense) xx |
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"“You are a diamond.... no you are more” this morning..... second message...
Excuse me while I find somewhere to throw up
It's better than being way too good for Fab  "
And the hottest woman on here. We should compile a list of the cliches and amalgamate to form what would be the worlds most cliche/cringe AF message.
**Away to start that thread.... |
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"I don’t mind what I’m called as long as it’s not derogatory. Most people I know uses terms like babe, hon, love etc, grew up with it, so to me it’s not really any different than using my name as it’s not so much a familiarity as a colloquial way of addressing someone (if that makes sense) xx"
When I moved here the indiscriminate use of pet names (in public) took some getting used to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t mind what I’m called as long as it’s not derogatory. Most people I know uses terms like babe, hon, love etc, grew up with it, so to me it’s not really any different than using my name as it’s not so much a familiarity as a colloquial way of addressing someone (if that makes sense) xx
When I moved here the indiscriminate use of pet names (in public) took some getting used to."
I grew up hearing love or darling, so when I moved here and it was babe that took a little getting used to, as I always thought that was more for people in love, now I know it’s even for the woman buying a loaf of bread from a cashier. It’s weird how words of familiarity and use of pet names differs from town to town, the different words takes some getting used to, but I never see the actual use of them as someone overstepping the mark as so used to it now xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesn't really bother me too much. Not a fan of derogatory ones like slut/whore/slag (which I get a fair bit, the little charmers)
Regardless, if I don't like something, I tend to ignore the message/not respond"
Agree totally with this |
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"I don’t mind what I’m called as long as it’s not derogatory. Most people I know uses terms like babe, hon, love etc, grew up with it, so to me it’s not really any different than using my name as it’s not so much a familiarity as a colloquial way of addressing someone (if that makes sense) xx
When I moved here the indiscriminate use of pet names (in public) took some getting used to.
I grew up hearing love or darling, so when I moved here and it was babe that took a little getting used to, as I always thought that was more for people in love, now I know it’s even for the woman buying a loaf of bread from a cashier. It’s weird how words of familiarity and use of pet names differs from town to town, the different words takes some getting used to, but I never see the actual use of them as someone overstepping the mark as so used to it now xx"
Absolutely! When I was a kid I didn't really see strange adults calling each other pet names and was like, that's a bit... intimate. But it's grown on me. Different strokes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't mind it from people that I know and have met with but when it is in a first message from a stranger..... no thanks. "
This.
Guys I've spoke to regularly who may refer to me as babe, darlin, etc...not at all fussed as I'm comfortable with them.
From a total stranger, first message it's over bearing. |
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"Don't mind it from people that I know and have met with but when it is in a first message from a stranger..... no thanks.
This.
Guys I've spoke to regularly who may refer to me as babe, darlin, etc...not at all fussed as I'm comfortable with them.
From a total stranger, first message it's over bearing."
It's sweet from a friend. From a stranger it's too intimate or creepy or even condescending. |
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as long as there is a positive attitude I don’t really mind at all. Actually I like them when it come across friendly.
Before people get your name here they need to refer you in a way and creative ones get bonus points regarding that initial referral anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Almost every man who messages uses pet terms when messaging initially.
Does this bother you when it happens to you?
Have you ever told the other person not to call you whatever they did?
How did they react?
I myself have had a variety of responses "
I absolutely hate the term Babe!!! I once remember a man had pulled into a parking space that I had waited for, so I stood out my car and just shouted, “I’ve been waiting what you playing at.” He responded with alright babe bla bla bla. I saw red and only heard the babe bit and nearly parked my car in his ass!!! So no I don’t like them!!! |
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"I'm not offended by being called love or hun or similar.
However, my profile seems to attract sub men, who tend to call me Miss or Madam, which is a bit odd."
I'm so not a domme and I don't mind miss |
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"I'm not offended by being called love or hun or similar.
However, my profile seems to attract sub men, who tend to call me Miss or Madam, which is a bit odd.
I'm so not a domme and I don't mind miss"
I don't mind it... I just find it odd. Maybe because when I was at school, female teachers were always called Miss. |
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"I'm not offended by being called love or hun or similar.
However, my profile seems to attract sub men, who tend to call me Miss or Madam, which is a bit odd.
I'm so not a domme and I don't mind miss
I don't mind it... I just find it odd. Maybe because when I was at school, female teachers were always called Miss. "
True. It's all odd |
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"I'm not offended by being called love or hun or similar.
However, my profile seems to attract sub men, who tend to call me Miss or Madam, which is a bit odd.
I'm so not a domme and I don't mind miss
I don't mind it... I just find it odd. Maybe because when I was at school, female teachers were always called Miss.
True. It's all odd "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I added it to my profile, but hasnt helped much lol"
you're getting more dates than ever then, you don't know me the way you really should
you're sure misunderstood
don't call me baby |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I added it to my profile, but hasnt helped much lolyou're getting more dates than ever then, you don't know me the way you really should
you're sure misunderstood
don't call me baby "
I'm definitely misunderstood |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I added it to my profile, but hasnt helped much lolyou're getting more dates than ever then, you don't know me the way you really should
you're sure misunderstood
don't call me baby
I'm definitely misunderstood "
speak English then give us a chance |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well this certainly blew up! Such an interesting response, thhis clearly resonates with many of you.
I actually created a list of what people could call me on another online profile years ago. I should look at ad see if it's changed! |
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I actually like derogatory terms when I’m playing or having sex, but these are for lovers not strangers as their first message. Those terms are for when we are building trust between us.
However non derogatory terms such as duck, sweetheart (unfortunately one I use at times in my real life) hun or darling, no real issue. I actually don’t like mate or bud too male sounding. |
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