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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Correct me if I'm wrong but but if a man is going to take part in same sex sexual activities ( whether it's to get to his female partner or not) in my eyes makes them bi ? Or am I being old fashioned with my thinking ? . May I add that I have nothing against anyone of any sexual orientation

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Bisexual is defined as being sexually attracted to more than one gender....

So if it just to get at the other half then not technically bi...

More importantly who gives a fuck what they call themselves

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Correct me if I'm wrong but but if a man is going to take part in same sex sexual activities ( whether it's to get to his female partner or not) in my eyes makes them bi ? Or am I being old fashioned with my thinking ? . May I add that I have nothing against anyone of any sexual orientation "

Not nessasarily, plenty of guys play in mmf/mmmmf etc and are not bi.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual is defined as being sexually attracted to more than one gender....

So if it just to get at the other half then not technically bi...

More importantly who gives a fuck what they call themselves"

I don't have any other options to pick on fab but like to think of myself as a "tri sexual" simliar to pansexual i guess. But like you say who cares

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight? "

It's technically possible yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I'm only asking as a couple who both have straight on their profile was mailing me chatting about meeting then they ask about guy on guy fun when I said I'm not bi and suggested if he changed his profile to bi they would find it easier to find someone who fitted their own preference

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight?

It's technically possible yes."

So not just the guy in denial then

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight? "

It's ok to explore and just be who you want to be. Your on a journey of self discovery by the sounds of things.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Like there are gay porn stars who consider themselves straight.. or maybe folks who might try something for a laugh or a new experience

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight?

It's technically possible yes.

So not just the guy in denial then "

Not necessarily

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight?

It's technically possible yes.

So not just the guy in denial then "

But i thought it's for your woman? Do whatever you want to do, what's good for you. In denial of what exactly?

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By *og-ManMan  over a year ago

somewhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight?

It's ok to explore and just be who you want to be. Your on a journey of self discovery by the sounds of things. "

isn't that why theres a bi curious option on profile

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By *og-ManMan  over a year ago

somewhere

The sexual health clinics call it men that have sex with men

As someone else said as long as everyone plays safe and is up for it then who needs names

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"So a man can fuck another man but he's not gay or bisexual as long as he identifies as straight?

It's technically possible yes.

So not just the guy in denial then

But i thought it's for your woman? Do whatever you want to do, what's good for you. In denial of what exactly? "

that if they are regularly taking part in sexual activities with same sex , that there either gay or bi

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

who cares?who needs labels?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"The sexual health clinics call it men that have sex with men

As someone else said as long as everyone plays safe and is up for it then who needs names "

what's wrong with using names , nothing wrong with being gay , bisexual or anything else , just clarifies things and would help find someone with similar interests

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"The sexual health clinics call it men that have sex with men

As someone else said as long as everyone plays safe and is up for it then who needs names what's wrong with using names , nothing wrong with being gay , bisexual or anything else , just clarifies things and would help find someone with similar interests "

There is nothing wrong with calling yourself whatever label you like.. just dont try and impose them on anyone/everyone else. Its unnecessary

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"who cares?who needs labels? "
well it would help

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"who cares?who needs labels? "

this .

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

They may not be attracted to the same sex and play one in one with the same sex but in a threesome situation may. That does not may them bi or gay.

I'd be the same I have zero interest in playing one on one with a female but would if it was a threesome etc situ. Doesn't make me bi or gay. If it's such an issue for you set your boundaries and just say not interested if asked. Otherwise stick to just meeting females.

There is no need for labels. A simple no works.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"who cares?who needs labels? well it would help"

Why would it help? It really doesn't matter to anyone on here what you are. We are all sexual beings and the majority of people here are totally no judgmental in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

People can call themselves what they like, what irritates me is the resulting assumption by some that I don't mean it when I describe myself as straight - hence the addition to the end of our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"who cares?who needs labels? well it would help

Why would it help? It really doesn't matter to anyone on here what you are. We are all sexual beings and the majority of people here are totally no judgmental in my experience. "

yeah maybe it doesn't help as I have my "label" set as straight but still get messages from guys looking to meet

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've been asked to meet up with couples where the husband is either bi-sexual or bi-curious, and I always decline politely as I don't have any interest whatsoever in having sex with another guy. I've no qualms about doing mfm, and do so pretty regularly with a lady who has zero interest in becoming involved in the swinging scene.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"People can call themselves what they like, what irritates me is the resulting assumption by some that I don't mean it when I describe myself as straight - hence the addition to the end of our profile. "
the fact that you both have straight in your profile should mean that the addition to your profile should be unnecessary

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"People can call themselves what they like, what irritates me is the resulting assumption by some that I don't mean it when I describe myself as straight - hence the addition to the end of our profile. the fact that you both have straight in your profile should mean that the addition to your profile should be unnecessary "

You'd think so, wouldn't you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"People can call themselves what they like, what irritates me is the resulting assumption by some that I don't mean it when I describe myself as straight - hence the addition to the end of our profile. the fact that you both have straight in your profile should mean that the addition to your profile should be unnecessary

You'd think so, wouldn't you? "

that's my reason for this post , it would simply things and make looking for people with same interests far better

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"People can call themselves what they like, what irritates me is the resulting assumption by some that I don't mean it when I describe myself as straight - hence the addition to the end of our profile. the fact that you both have straight in your profile should mean that the addition to your profile should be unnecessary

You'd think so, wouldn't you? that's my reason for this post , it would simply things and make looking for people with same interests far better "

, the amount of times I get called a time waster after messaging to and fro, only for them to eventually mention guy on guy fun and when I say no thanks , I'm the one that gets called a time waster and fake

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By *og-ManMan  over a year ago

somewhere

It can also work the other way Op

I've had bi curious on my profile since I joined.

I wasn't 100 % sure what to label myself to be honest when joined

I thought that as I'd like to try MFM I better put bi curious as my label.

I'm new to all this in fairness so thought that was what it meant

I got some private messages from women having a go at me for being foolish in putting down bi curious because thats not what it meant and that Im 100 % straight so I changed it .

However the more I thought about the more I realised I wasn't being honest.

If I'm ever in a situation when I'm with a couple and we were all enjoying ourselves well then it wouldnt bother me to be orally bi as I've seen it described.

So I changed my profile back to bi curious.

Since then I've had single "straight" men contact me (fab straight )and couples that the men are bi but don't want to put that on their profile because it will stop other couples from contacting them.

So yes labels would help but since a huge amount of people lie anyway...then you're always going to get people asking about bi/ straight play

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"who cares?who needs labels? well it would help

Why would it help? It really doesn't matter to anyone on here what you are. We are all sexual beings and the majority of people here are totally no judgmental in my experience. yeah maybe it doesn't help as I have my "label" set as straight but still get messages from guys looking to meet"

That's because they are fab straight. There's straight, and fab straight. The amount of messages from straight guys offering up their "ass to be used" that we get is unreal. Despite the profile stating no anal.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

One thing I’ve learnt from being in here is straight doesn’t always mean straight ,the amount of men who message me looking to be fucked or sucked all have straight on there profile , some married, but are they really straight or just pretending to get more offers , as most gay men dream about turning straight men gay , if I was to restart my profile on here , I would put straight on my profile, your chances of getting sex multiply, as I said before gay men would run to you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman  over a year ago

Dublin

OP you're going on as if there's no consequence in our society to labelling yourself as a bi man, when in fact there is HUGE stigma against bi men (as evidenced in this thread). Lots of women are biphobic and wouldn't play with a bi man, lots of couples too. It's glaringly obvious why men who are more open about their sexual partners don't want to identify as bi.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"who cares?who needs labels? well it would help

Why would it help? It really doesn't matter to anyone on here what you are. We are all sexual beings and the majority of people here are totally no judgmental in my experience. yeah maybe it doesn't help as I have my "label" set as straight but still get messages from guys looking to meet"

There is a message filters option for that, problem solved. But i am wondering will you still question yourself as you are now though regardless. I thought it was to do with your woman??

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

"

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"who cares?who needs labels? well it would help

Why would it help? It really doesn't matter to anyone on here what you are. We are all sexual beings and the majority of people here are totally no judgmental in my experience. yeah maybe it doesn't help as I have my "label" set as straight but still get messages from guys looking to meet

There is a message filters option for that, problem solved. But i am wondering will you still question yourself as you are now though regardless. I thought it was to do with your woman??

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it was a couple offering me his woman

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"The sexual health clinics call it men that have sex with men

As someone else said as long as everyone plays safe and is up for it then who needs names what's wrong with using names , nothing wrong with being gay , bisexual or anything else , just clarifies things and would help find someone with similar interests "

People are scared of them now for various reasons. These may include reducing the chances with others. Might be they are actually uncomfortable with certain connotations that a particular label represents. Might be they are confused.

It does seem were in an age where people can call themselves whatever they want or deny whatever they like and it's becoming quite acceptable. Some say their dick is 10", who am I or anyone to disagree with them. They may get offended if we do.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster "

I'd say then, regardless of sexual preferences, you probably dodged a bullet if that's their attitude. Its fairly common after chatting to find you are in some way incompatible

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

While I have bi in my profile, I’m not attracted to men. I do love a bit of cock from time to time though. Don’t really feel the need to label it, unless in this context. Ie: showing other men that I could be interested in some fun on here

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By *he English OneMan  over a year ago

west


"Correct me if I'm wrong but but if a man is going to take part in same sex sexual activities ( whether it's to get to his female partner or not) in my eyes makes them bi ? Or am I being old fashioned with my thinking ? . May I add that I have nothing against anyone of any sexual orientation "

Sometimes just going with the flow of things and not putting labels on things is the way to go

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I put bi on mine as I've sucked plenty of cock in the past and under cetain circumstances (wife requesting me to do it) I'd do it happily again.

But its 14 years since and it was never a male attraction thing for me. Does that make me not bi? As a few of ye already said, who cares

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By *ainted SlutTV/TS  over a year ago

Longford Town Area


"Correct me if I'm wrong but but if a man is going to take part in same sex sexual activities ( whether it's to get to his female partner or not) in my eyes makes them bi ? Or am I being old fashioned with my thinking ? . May I add that I have nothing against anyone of any sexual orientation "

I think everybody is pansexual even if its only .01%

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Say their fully straight but put on their profile they would sleep with a man so that they could get with a woman. There's a lot of guys on here that wouldn't do that no matter how good looking the woman was. If they don't think it matters. Why do they not like putting it up on their profile then

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Say their fully straight but put on their profile they would sleep with a man so that they could get with a woman. There's a lot of guys on here that wouldn't do that no matter how good looking the woman was. If they don't think it matters. Why do they not like putting it up on their profile then"

I've NEVER seen on a profile that a man would only sleep with a man if they got to sleep with a woman after. That's just not on anyones radar.

Plus your logic there is very hard to follow... are saying that a man who wouldn't consider fucking a man in order to fuck a woman after... should put that in his profile so that he doesn't get offers of that scenario.. I'm confused can you clarify.

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By *ofusplusCouple  over a year ago

Limerick


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster "

Maybe put an extra line in your description like we did. Having been asked several times about girl on girl activity, even though I (mrs) have 'straight' on my profile, they still ask, so this just spells it out a bit more.

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By *og-ManMan  over a year ago

somewhere


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster

Maybe put an extra line in your description like we did. Having been asked several times about girl on girl activity, even though I (mrs) have 'straight' on my profile, they still ask, so this just spells it out a bit more."

But you have that you are open to a bi experience so not just straight.

Surely thats why you get asked....well that and you look feckin amazing

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan  over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...


"who cares?who needs labels?

this . "

Plus one on that,"label rebel" here

Unlabel sexuality.

Unlabel your mind .

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By *obertFrostMan  over a year ago

Maynooth

I think we sometimes get caught up in sexuality as something that can be strictly defined. Indeed, most people (outside and on this site) fall loosely between two norms: hetro or homosexual.

But because we're on here, in a way we've made different choices. We all obviously want something different to the status quo (maybe they want it too, but don't know?).

My two cents is that as long as people are honest early, and we're all not afraid to ask for what we want, then there shouldn't be a problem.

It's also okay not to know what you want or change what that is over time or with different people. Personally, as a straight man, I've experimented with men - now I know it's not my thing.

But I also wouldn't discount being attracted to a particular man in a given context - doesn't that defeat the purpose of life, to explore...?

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By *og-ManMan  over a year ago

somewhere


"I think we sometimes get caught up in sexuality as something that can be strictly defined. Indeed, most people (outside and on this site) fall loosely between two norms: hetro or homosexual.

But because we're on here, in a way we've made different choices. We all obviously want something different to the status quo (maybe they want it too, but don't know?).

My two cents is that as long as people are honest early, and we're all not afraid to ask for what we want, then there shouldn't be a problem.

It's also okay not to know what you want or change what that is over time or with different people. Personally, as a straight man, I've experimented with men - now I know it's not my thing.

But I also wouldn't discount being attracted to a particular man in a given context - doesn't that defeat the purpose of life, to explore...? "

Well put

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"I think we sometimes get caught up in sexuality as something that can be strictly defined. Indeed, most people (outside and on this site) fall loosely between two norms: hetro or homosexual.

But because we're on here, in a way we've made different choices. We all obviously want something different to the status quo (maybe they want it too, but don't know?).

My two cents is that as long as people are honest early, and we're all not afraid to ask for what we want, then there shouldn't be a problem.

It's also okay not to know what you want or change what that is over time or with different people. Personally, as a straight man, I've experimented with men - now I know it's not my thing.

But I also wouldn't discount being attracted to a particular man in a given context - doesn't that defeat the purpose of life, to explore...? "

I dont even think honesty is necessary.. noone needs to give anyone any explanation on their sexuality

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster

Maybe put an extra line in your description like we did. Having been asked several times about girl on girl activity, even though I (mrs) have 'straight' on my profile, they still ask, so this just spells it out a bit more."

but the fact that I have straight on my profile should be enough without having to make it any clearer

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By *og-ManMan  over a year ago

somewhere


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster

Maybe put an extra line in your description like we did. Having been asked several times about girl on girl activity, even though I (mrs) have 'straight' on my profile, they still ask, so this just spells it out a bit more. but the fact that I have straight on my profile should be enough without having to make it any clearer "

The problem is not with you.

The problem is the huge amount of men that are fab straight so they feel its ok to ask you if you would be orally bi with them as a couple.

They won't label themselves as anything but straight so thats why you only get asked at the last minute and then being accused of wasting their time

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By *ilthyNightsCouple  over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster

Maybe put an extra line in your description like we did. Having been asked several times about girl on girl activity, even though I (mrs) have 'straight' on my profile, they still ask, so this just spells it out a bit more. but the fact that I have straight on my profile should be enough without having to make it any clearer "

Good point. Given they incredible difficulty and awkwardness that it takes to add that extra line to your profile.. its WAY too much to have to do in order to avoid getting "pissed off" so much.

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By *obertFrostMan  over a year ago

Maynooth

I agree, you don't need to explain your sexuality to anyone. But when your sexuality forms a basis of information for someone else, you must, at least, be upfront.

For instance, if a person is saying that they'll do one thing in order to get to a partner (or get their foot in the door) and are not prepared to act, then I believe that that dishonesty is unhelpful.

Maybe it's more imperative that people are /(try be) honest with themselves first and then (try) impart that on the world.

There's also nothing wrong with telling people, 'I don't know'.

We're too fixated on being defined and knowing the answer, when actually someone (on here) might be able to help us to begin to understand.

But, if we're no honest, then we'll never know...

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By *ofusplusCouple  over a year ago

Limerick


"

The problem is not with you.

The problem is the huge amount of men that are fab straight so they feel its ok to ask you if you would be orally bi with them as a couple.

They won't label themselves as anything but straight so thats why you only get asked at the last minute and then being accused of wasting their time

"

That's a great point. Maybe make it clear early on in the convo, so it doesn't get to that stage.

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By *obertFrostMan  over a year ago

Maynooth


"

The problem is not with you.

The problem is the huge amount of men that are fab straight so they feel its ok to ask you if you would be orally bi with them as a couple.

They won't label themselves as anything but straight so thats why you only get asked at the last minute and then being accused of wasting their time

That's a great point. Maybe make it clear early on in the convo, so it doesn't get to that stage."

Sometimes we need to be a bit more contractual about it. We're not at a bar hoping to get lucky.

If there's more than two people of different sexes arranging to meet, then everyone should have a reasonable understanding what to expect.

We all understand what this site is for, so we just need to find the right people to do it with...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Correct me if I'm wrong but but if a man is going to take part in same sex sexual activities ( whether it's to get to his female partner or not) in my eyes makes them bi ? Or am I being old fashioned with my thinking ? . May I add that I have nothing against anyone of any sexual orientation "

I find cocks very sexy but I'm not attracted to men in the slightest. I also enjoy having sex with men but kissing men repulses me. I don't consider myself bi but a lot of people would

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I shouldn't worry yourself with what others do. As with any preference, if it turns out in conversation that you're not compatible for whatever reason then just say "not for me" and move on.

I'm not worried, it just pisses me off after endless messages then get asked for guy on guy and when I say no thanks , I get told I'm the time waster

Maybe put an extra line in your description like we did. Having been asked several times about girl on girl activity, even though I (mrs) have 'straight' on my profile, they still ask, so this just spells it out a bit more. but the fact that I have straight on my profile should be enough without having to make it any clearer "

It is clear, unfortunately too many can't accept what one says on profiles, mix that with the way 'bi' has so many different meanings depending on what one wishes it to mean, throw in the number of closet 'bi' who call themselves 'straight' and muddy the term straight.

I went into the shop yesterday and bought some sweetened condensed milk. Went out it in my cake mix and FFS the manufacturer decided to put baked beans in the condensed tin. Absolutely raging. Can't they see the fucking label on it.

Maybe just remove all the labels stick them all on one shelf and we can pick and mix to our delight.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Correct me if I'm wrong but but if a man is going to take part in same sex sexual activities ( whether it's to get to his female partner or not) in my eyes makes them bi ? Or am I being old fashioned with my thinking ? . May I add that I have nothing against anyone of any sexual orientation

I find cocks very sexy but I'm not attracted to men in the slightest. I also enjoy having sex with men but kissing men repulses me. I don't consider myself bi but a lot of people would"

Ultimately it's what others think, not you that determine if they want you or not. That will then depend on the truth or the lie you you tell them if what you are. We don't make up labels as we feel but they're based upon evidence and you my friend are bi in your own admittance.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Say their fully straight but put on their profile they would sleep with a man so that they could get with a woman. There's a lot of guys on here that wouldn't do that no matter how good looking the woman was. If they don't think it matters. Why do they not like putting it up on their profile then

I've NEVER seen on a profile that a man would only sleep with a man if they got to sleep with a woman after. That's just not on anyones radar.

Plus your logic there is very hard to follow... are saying that a man who wouldn't consider fucking a man in order to fuck a woman after... should put that in his profile so that he doesn't get offers of that scenario.. I'm confused can you clarify."

Fab straight. They'll do it but don't want anyone ta know they'll do it.a fully straight guy might not want to go on a meet in that situation if he new frist

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The amount of messages we get from STRAIGHT guys that haven’t a problem fucking a guy in front of a woman is plentiful

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By *obertFrostMan  over a year ago

Maynooth


"The amount of messages we get from STRAIGHT guys that haven’t a problem fucking a guy in front of a woman is plentiful "

Why is that? Because they want to fuck men, or because they want to fuck you and will fuck a man to fuck you?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"The amount of messages we get from STRAIGHT guys that haven’t a problem fucking a guy in front of a woman is plentiful

Why is that? Because they want to fuck men, or because they want to fuck you and will fuck a man to fuck you?"

We sometimes suspect this is the case with some me but we are getting much better at ing those ones out

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By *he English OneMan  over a year ago

west

Well I bet alot of people here are bí despite the fact that they have straight on their profiles those who do that shouldn't hide how you live your life if others have a problem with it then that's their problem not yours I'm sure there are plenty of people here that have absolutely no issue with how you play here simply do the things that's right for you and ignore the labelling have a good day folks

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"The amount of messages we get from STRAIGHT guys that haven’t a problem fucking a guy in front of a woman is plentiful

Why is that? Because they want to fuck men, or because they want to fuck you and will fuck a man to fuck you?"

I tell them the truth that I don’t always get involved , I mightn’t even turn up lol , that usually separates the genuine bi / gay guys from the cuckolding / bull wannabes

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Human sexuality is a a very deep subject, but I don't believe that some ostensibly straight guys would be so desperate to get sex with a woman, they would willing to suck her husband's dick just to get in her good graces, or her pussy for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well I bet alot of people here are bí despite the fact that they have straight on their profiles those who do that shouldn't hide how you live your life if others have a problem with it then that's their problem not yours I'm sure there are plenty of people here that have absolutely no issue with how you play here simply do the things that's right for you and ignore the labelling have a good day folks "

Think the issue isn't about labeling, but rather honesty. If they'rere dishonest be about this important issue then what else are they dishonest about? If they're more concerned about a particular label than being honest then there's something deeply amis.

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By *he English OneMan  over a year ago

west


"Well I bet alot of people here are bí despite the fact that they have straight on their profiles those who do that shouldn't hide how you live your life if others have a problem with it then that's their problem not yours I'm sure there are plenty of people here that have absolutely no issue with how you play here simply do the things that's right for you and ignore the labelling have a good day folks

Think the issue isn't about labeling, but rather honesty. If they'rere dishonest be about this important issue then what else are they dishonest about? If they're more concerned about a particular label than being honest then there's something deeply amis."

What being dishonest about their sexuality? For some coming out isn't all that easy I wouldn't call them dishonest just because they are not ready to admit their sexuality that's their decision and theirs alone

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Well I bet alot of people here are bí despite the fact that they have straight on their profiles those who do that shouldn't hide how you live your life if others have a problem with it then that's their problem not yours I'm sure there are plenty of people here that have absolutely no issue with how you play here simply do the things that's right for you and ignore the labelling have a good day folks

Think the issue isn't about labeling, but rather honesty. If they'rere dishonest be about this important issue then what else are they dishonest about? If they're more concerned about a particular label than being honest then there's something deeply amis.

What being dishonest about their sexuality? For some coming out isn't all that easy I wouldn't call them dishonest just because they are not ready to admit their sexuality that's their decision and theirs alone "

We're talking about on Fab. If you can't be honest here amongst anonymous people who are said to be the most open minded then where can you be?

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By *yesgreenMan  over a year ago

north and south


"Well I bet alot of people here are bí despite the fact that they have straight on their profiles those who do that shouldn't hide how you live your life if others have a problem with it then that's their problem not yours I'm sure there are plenty of people here that have absolutely no issue with how you play here simply do the things that's right for you and ignore the labelling have a good day folks

Think the issue isn't about labeling, but rather honesty. If they'rere dishonest be about this important issue then what else are they dishonest about? If they're more concerned about a particular label than being honest then there's something deeply amis.

What being dishonest about their sexuality? For some coming out isn't all that easy I wouldn't call them dishonest just because they are not ready to admit their sexuality that's their decision and theirs alone "

The romans fucked everything that moved , That was before labels were introduced to humans beings, We all are innovative, unique people and are sexually oriented should be no ones Business , Human first kinky yes please lol

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By *anhoeMan  over a year ago

galway


"Well I bet alot of people here are bí despite the fact that they have straight on their profiles those who do that shouldn't hide how you live your life if others have a problem with it then that's their problem not yours I'm sure there are plenty of people here that have absolutely no issue with how you play here simply do the things that's right for you and ignore the labelling have a good day folks

Think the issue isn't about labeling, but rather honesty. If they'rere dishonest be about this important issue then what else are they dishonest about? If they're more concerned about a particular label than being honest then there's something deeply amis.

What being dishonest about their sexuality? For some coming out isn't all that easy I wouldn't call them dishonest just because they are not ready to admit their sexuality that's their decision and theirs alone The romans fucked everything that moved , That was before labels were introduced to humans beings, We all are innovative, unique people and are sexually oriented should be no ones Business , Human first kinky yes please lol "

Totally agree with you m8!!

Wud ye all just calm down and stop trying to enforce your own home brewed theological interpretations of the physical fun we humans have amongst each other!

Jaysus! it's like a synod of bishops in conclave in here with the high brow debates going to and fro twixt parties about who we shud and shud not romp with !

Will ye just unzip and have fun lads and ladies, be that with opposite or same sex!

Who gives a rat's ass nowadays who you sexually play with!!

I have been very open with work colleagues about the fun I get up to and they dont bat an eye lid..

There's more important issues to concern our minds and bodies with nowadays folks such as Corona!!

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By *he English OneMan  over a year ago

west


"Well I bet alot of people here are bí despite the fact that they have straight on their profiles those who do that shouldn't hide how you live your life if others have a problem with it then that's their problem not yours I'm sure there are plenty of people here that have absolutely no issue with how you play here simply do the things that's right for you and ignore the labelling have a good day folks

Think the issue isn't about labeling, but rather honesty. If they'rere dishonest be about this important issue then what else are they dishonest about? If they're more concerned about a particular label than being honest then there's something deeply amis.

What being dishonest about their sexuality? For some coming out isn't all that easy I wouldn't call them dishonest just because they are not ready to admit their sexuality that's their decision and theirs alone The romans fucked everything that moved , That was before labels were introduced to humans beings, We all are innovative, unique people and are sexually oriented should be no ones Business , Human first kinky yes please lol

Totally agree with you m8!!

Wud ye all just calm down and stop trying to enforce your own home brewed theological interpretations of the physical fun we humans have amongst each other!

Jaysus! it's like a synod of bishops in conclave in here with the high brow debates going to and fro twixt parties about who we shud and shud not romp with !

Will ye just unzip and have fun lads and ladies, be that with opposite or same sex!

Who gives a rat's ass nowadays who you sexually play with!!

I have been very open with work colleagues about the fun I get up to and they dont bat an eye lid..

There's more important issues to concern our minds and bodies with nowadays folks such as Corona!!"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Labels labels labels. Just go with the flow and enjoy .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Correct me if I'm wrong but but if a man is going to take part in same sex sexual activities ( whether it's to get to his female partner or not) in my eyes makes them bi ? Or am I being old fashioned with my thinking ? . May I add that I have nothing against anyone of any sexual orientation

I find cocks very sexy but I'm not attracted to men in the slightest. I also enjoy having sex with men but kissing men repulses me. I don't consider myself bi but a lot of people would"

You have sex with men you are bi call it a label or whatever it doesn't make it less true. Likewise with sucking. If I had any sexual interaction with women I would call myself bi or bi curious. No one care's who fucks who here. It's the honesty part I have a problem with it,would save everyone a lot of time.

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By *uittopMan  over a year ago

South County Dublin


"Bisexual is defined as being sexually attracted to more than one gender....

So if it just to get at the other half then not technically bi...

More importantly who gives a fuck what they call themselves"

Absolutely, as long as they enjoy what they do, and enjoy giving the other pkeasure., Who needs a label

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By *antra MassageMan  over a year ago

city

I'm pansexual. I know that turns a lot of people off, so limits my opportunities. But, what's in a label. Bi, straight, multi, ambi, poly, pan, or even left handed.. Who cares.

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By *ofusplusCouple  over a year ago

Limerick


"I'm pansexual. I know that turns a lot of people off, so limits my opportunities. But, what's in a label. Bi, straight, multi, ambi, poly, pan, or even left handed.. Who cares. "

Must admit I had to Google that. What's the difference between pansexual and bisexual then?

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By *og-ManMan  over a year ago

somewhere


"I'm pansexual. I know that turns a lot of people off, so limits my opportunities. But, what's in a label. Bi, straight, multi, ambi, poly, pan, or even left handed.. Who cares.

Must admit I had to Google that. What's the difference between pansexual and bisexual then?"

Thank god you asked because I looked it up and I dont know either

If labels dont count why put straight on your profile instead of Pansexual

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By *antra MassageMan  over a year ago

city


"I'm pansexual. I know that turns a lot of people off, so limits my opportunities. But, what's in a label. Bi, straight, multi, ambi, poly, pan, or even left handed.. Who cares.

Must admit I had to Google that. What's the difference between pansexual and bisexual then?

Thank god you asked because I looked it up and I dont know either

If labels dont count why put straight on your profile instead of Pansexual "

Pansexual is an attraction, emotional, or romantic or sexual to other people regardless of their gender. I see the beauty in everyone. I'm attracted to some of them, I'm sexually attracted to a few of them, and I'm only interested in being sexual with a very small number of women. I can admire a male body, and a female body, but I'm only sexually aroused by beautiful female bodies. Why limit yourself? Pleasure can be found everywhere.

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By *ohndunboyneMan  over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

Ah here!

As long as all involved are having fun, I don't think any of the parties will be busy tying a label to anyones little toe.

Unless there's a kink for that

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