"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
Define "nice", what's nice for you might not be nice for others.
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"I am kind and loving and nice to people who deserves that kindness but I will be equally as blunt to people that don't deserve it. "
Gotta agree with you there.
I would never go out of my way to be fake nice to someone, just because it's what expected in a society. I do believe in tough love and some people need a slap on a face to get something.
On other hand I'll never go out of my way and be rude or nasty or disrespectful to people, who are nothing but nice and genuine and don't deserve it in any way. |
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"Do we have to be nice all the time? NO
Can you be too NICE? NO
When does being nice come across FAKE? NO
Is being constantly nice ATTRACTIVE? NO
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People who are TOO nice include...
People who smile constantly
People who are trying to find common ground so they can fuck you
People who are trying to sell you something
Ryan Tubridy
Daniel O'Donnell
Crystal Swing
..I'm sure ill think of more
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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive?
Define "nice", what's nice for you might not be nice for others.
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Well you can say that about almost everything. Just the general definition of nice as in polite and pleasing. |
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"I think if your an honest and decent person your naturally nice anyway
Being honest does sometimes involve saying things that might hurt others."
Ugly truth is still better than a beautiful lie.
For me at least .
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive?
Define "nice", what's nice for you might not be nice for others.
Well you can say that about almost everything. Just the general definition of nice as in polite and pleasing.
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Polite if as in respectful is nice .
Pleasing if it's not forced nice too.
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"People who are TOO nice include...
People who smile constantly
People who are trying to find common ground so they can fuck you
People who are trying to sell you something
Ryan Tubridy
Daniel O'Donnell
Crystal Swing
..I'm sure ill think of more
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"Do we have to be nice all the time? NO
Can you be too NICE? NO
When does being nice come across FAKE? NO
Is being constantly nice ATTRACTIVE? NO
So fucking true "
You can take that to the bank!
Lodge it... Then withdraw at a later date to buy some goddam Nice biscuits  |
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"Give me a rude straightforward honest person who knows what they want and goes about getting it every single day of the week. "
Yeah your tits aren't great but I still want to ride you. I'll try again tomorrow if you don't give in today. I'm a bit of a cunt like that tbh.
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Wonderful replies. I'll say that nice can be many things. But I think being too nice could come across as creepy. I know I've been there.
It takes a certain Balance of being nice and being honest and being yourself (don't change for anyone. Unless your an asshole ????). And sometimes nice can be the small things like holding a door open for someone or letting someone else go first |
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"Give me a rude straightforward honest person who knows what they want and goes about getting it every single day of the week.
Yeah your tits aren't great but I still want to ride you. I'll try again tomorrow if you don't give in today. I'm a bit of a cunt like that tbh.
How did I do? "
Haha I'd giggle. At least youd be honest. I'd way rather that than sycophantic nonsense. |
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"Give me a rude straightforward honest person who knows what they want and goes about getting it every single day of the week.
Yeah your tits aren't great but I still want to ride you. I'll try again tomorrow if you don't give in today. I'm a bit of a cunt like that tbh.
How did I do?
Haha I'd giggle. At least youd be honest. I'd way rather that than sycophantic nonsense."
I have to admit that sort of thing just isn't me either. 
Your tits are actually lovely.
The bit about wanting to ride you is true at least but I'm not really a cunt |
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I hate the phrase "if you have nothing nice to say...yada yada yada.
It amazes me how many adults cant see the distinction between not always being nice and still being a kind respectful person.
The same goes for the word in general actually |
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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Wonderful replies. I'll say that nice can be many things. But I think being too nice could come across as creepy. I know I've been there.
It takes a certain Balance of being nice and being honest and being yourself (don't change for anyone. Unless your an asshole ????). And sometimes nice can be the small things like holding a door open for someone or letting someone else go first "
I was nice twice last week and stopped my car to let a mother and two toddlers cross the road and on another occasion some teenagers. Guess what on both occasions the car behind me honked the horn. I honked back btw. |
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"Wonderful replies. I'll say that nice can be many things. But I think being too nice could come across as creepy. I know I've been there.
It takes a certain Balance of being nice and being honest and being yourself (don't change for anyone. Unless your an asshole ????). And sometimes nice can be the small things like holding a door open for someone or letting someone else go first
I was nice twice last week and stopped my car to let a mother and two toddlers cross the road and on another occasion some teenagers. Guess what on both occasions the car behind me honked the horn. I honked back btw. "
Then the mother and teenagers called you an asshole for honking the horn and rushing them lol |
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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Give me a rude straightforward honest person who knows what they want and goes about getting it every single day of the week.
That's Donald J Trump "
Honesty and Trump are two words that don't go together.  |
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"Give me a rude straightforward honest person who knows what they want and goes about getting it every single day of the week.
That's Donald J Trump
Honesty and Trump are two words that don't go together. "
He's honestly dishonest though, he's lying, everyone knows he's lying, he knows everyone knows he's lying. It's totally transparent for anyone with nous. |
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Being too nice can get you walked all over..I learned that a long time ago. So now I am nice to people who desearve it, but can be the most brutal person ever to anyone who is nasty to me. I don't believe you have to be nice all the time bs..it's impossible. |
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Hmmmm ???
Did we have to be nice all the time? Hell no! But it doesn't cost anything to be nice but you've no idea what affect a nasty comment has to some one. If you ain't got nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all!
Is it attractive to be too nice ? Who's asking? Everyone is different and everyone has likes and dislikes. What one person finds attractive might be unattractive to another but anyone who tries to change who they are to please someone else or get the ride is either stupid or fake and they will be found out eventually.
I wouldn't change my personality to try to come across as more attractive to ANYONE. Take it or leave it. |
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"Hmmmm ???
Did we have to be nice all the time? Hell no! But it doesn't cost anything to be nice but you've no idea what affect a nasty comment has to some one. If you ain't got nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all!
Is it attractive to be too nice ? Who's asking? Everyone is different and everyone has likes and dislikes. What one person finds attractive might be unattractive to another but anyone who tries to change who they are to please someone else or get the ride is either stupid or fake and they will be found out eventually.
I wouldn't change my personality to try to come across as more attractive to ANYONE. Take it or leave it. "
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Being "too nice" is what happens when someone has low self-esteem and poor boundaries. They allow people to take liberties or create a false front because they fear not being liked,then get all humpy because they're not getting what they want and this is when they turn nasty. |
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
I do think its nice to be nice and treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. But there are people here who play the manipulative nice on the public front but their true colours soon shine through and the real them is eventually exposed. |
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I would never go out of my way to be fake nice to someone, just because it's what expected in a society. I do believe in tough love and some people need a slap on a face to get something."
Im sorry but I have to strongly disagree. No one ever "needs a slap in the face to get something"
That is assault, it's a criminal offence and utterly wrong. |
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I would never go out of my way to be fake nice to someone, just because it's what expected in a society. I do believe in tough love and some people need a slap on a face to get something.
Im sorry but I have to strongly disagree. No one ever "needs a slap in the face to get something"
That is assault, it's a criminal offence and utterly wrong. "
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and suggest that were speaking metaphorically? Radical, I know... |
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I would never go out of my way to be fake nice to someone, just because it's what expected in a society. I do believe in tough love and some people need a slap on a face to get something.
Im sorry but I have to strongly disagree. No one ever "needs a slap in the face to get something"
That is assault, it's a criminal offence and utterly wrong.
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and suggest that were speaking metaphorically? Radical, I know... "
I thought that too |
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By *oghunter33 OP Woman
over a year ago
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I would never go out of my way to be fake nice to someone, just because it's what expected in a society. I do believe in tough love and some people need a slap on a face to get something.
Im sorry but I have to strongly disagree. No one ever "needs a slap in the face to get something"
That is assault, it's a criminal offence and utterly wrong. "
I don't think she meant that literally. |
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I would never go out of my way to be fake nice to someone, just because it's what expected in a society. I do believe in tough love and some people need a slap on a face to get something.
Im sorry but I have to strongly disagree. No one ever "needs a slap in the face to get something"
That is assault, it's a criminal offence and utterly wrong.
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and suggest that were speaking metaphorically? Radical, I know... "
Yes, because I have nothing better to do with my time, only hunt down internet strangers to slap their faces in real life |
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I would never go out of my way to be fake nice to someone, just because it's what expected in a society. I do believe in tough love and some people need a slap on a face to get something.
Im sorry but I have to strongly disagree. No one ever "needs a slap in the face to get something"
That is assault, it's a criminal offence and utterly wrong.
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and suggest that were speaking metaphorically? Radical, I know...
Yes, because I have nothing better to do with my time, only hunt down internet strangers to slap their faces in real life "
I'm sure it's a kink for someone |
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We all know you're in desperate need to attend one.
My best advice is - just use google for now and try really hard. There may yet be a chance for you. Don't give up buddy. Change is only around the corner |
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By *ex0x28Man
over a year ago
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
There’s a time and a place for both....when someone is to nice it comes across as needy and looking to be accepted all time...feck that,that’s got to be tiring |
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
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The background...
About 500 years or so ago, when nice was first used in the english language, it meant "foolish or stupid." coming from the Latin nescius, meaning "ignorant." so I believe you have to know the source of something to see if it's other connotations. Today the word "Nice" has plenty...
Myself, I think "nice" can imply being respectful and attentive ...but can at times come from a place of neediness whereas being "respectful", "obliging" or "cordial" might be better words and tact to use as "Being Nice" is still be viewed by some as a weakness or a "soft touch"
Now, "Too nice" is interesting as this can be viewed as not having a backbone, being scared of rejection or conflict or trying to appease & please people which usually ends up as the "nice person" becoming a doormat ...and that's never good 
Regarding men and being a nice guy or not?... I see a spectrum with "Nice guy" and "Bad boy" as the extremes  On the one hand you have the Nice guy trying to impress the girl  and being polite, attentive and empathetic. On the other end, you have the Alpha male who knows what he wants, thinks only about himself, his needs and is selfish. But guess which one of these usually fares better with women??? Hmmmm I do wonder...
So, for any fella's out there wondering "Nice or not?", I'd say stay somewhere in the middle as "A Good Man" i.e.
"Use your charm
speak your mind respectually
...& don't take any nonsense!  "
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"If slaps in the face involve something to do with titties please count me in because I'm not nice at all 
Aw you naughty boy, "
Nice ass missus...that's my nice deed of the day done  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think anyone can be too nice people who are always nice are usually fake and in the end it shows. I'm polite and treat people with respect and even if I don't agree with something I will usually disagree politely. But push me and I will have mo qualms telling someone in no uncertain terms where to go. Niceness and politeness should never be mistaken for meekness.
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Well it's important to be nice to others you just don't know how your actions could help someone..
BUT THERE MOMENTS WHEN YOU CAN BE
EMOTIONAL
So it important to care for others
I find it helps me escape from my
Problems by listening to someone else are talking to them.. There are those that seek attention mmh hello enough for them..
SO TREAT PEOPLE LIKE ITS THE FIRST TIME YOU'VE MET THEM.. HELLO  |
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
Being honest doghunter - you’ve always been nice to me. Especially when I was being verbally abused in the forums a while back, you backed me up.
It meant a lot at the time ( still does!) many thanks.
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last."
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you! |
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you! "
you are in your hole. |
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By *att360Man
over a year ago
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"People who are TOO nice include...
People who smile constantly
People who are trying to find common ground so they can fuck you
People who are trying to sell you something
Ryan Tubridy
Daniel O'Donnell
Crystal Swing
..I'm sure ill think of more
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. In fairness, there was no need to bring Daniel into this....lol:p |
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole."
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!" |
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
I totally agree. This whole be nice to people is a crock of shite I'd rather people where just themselves. Some people don't deserve being nice to. A lot of people are cunts let's be honest. |
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!" "
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob |
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!"
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob "
But, but, but... I really am a very nice person... My mammy told me and she was never wrong.
Mind you, she did say she'd be back from the shop in ten minutes but she died on the way so maybe she wasn't that reliable? |
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!"
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob "
Caveat: the converse isn't necessarily true! |
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!"
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob
But, but, but... I really am a very nice person... My mammy told me and she was never wrong.
Mind you, she did say she'd be back from the shop in ten minutes but she died on the way so maybe she wasn't that reliable? "
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!"
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob
Caveat: the converse isn't necessarily true! "
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!"
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob
Caveat: the converse isn't necessarily true!
Show off "
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!"
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob
But, but, but... I really am a very nice person... My mammy told me and she was never wrong.
Mind you, she did say she'd be back from the shop in ten minutes but she died on the way so maybe she wasn't that reliable? "
I remember the last thing she said before she died....... “Fuck me, a truck!!” |
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"I'm the nicest guy you will ever meet, but nice guys always come last, well except during sex, we dont get sex a lot so we come first during sex, but all the rest of the time we come last.
Fuck off, I'm way nicer than you!
you are in your hole.
Reminds me of the Young Ones on TV... "Hands up who likes me!"
Kaizer has a rule of thumb
Anyone that openly states "I'm actually a really nice person"
Is generally a knob
But, but, but... I really am a very nice person... My mammy told me and she was never wrong.
Mind you, she did say she'd be back from the shop in ten minutes but she died on the way so maybe she wasn't that reliable?
I remember the last thing she said before she died....... “Fuck me, a truck!!” "
The first thing that went through her mind when she saw the truck was, well... The radiator |
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I've heard people say such and such is too nice, that must be an act. Why cant they just be nice all the time?
I'm nice 90% or the time, the other 10% I'm a cunt |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I've heard people say such and such is too nice, that must be an act. Why cant they just be nice all the time?
I'm nice 90% or the time, the other 10% I'm a cunt "
Lol remind me not to message you durning the 10 per cent so |
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"I've heard people say such and such is too nice, that must be an act. Why cant they just be nice all the time?
I'm nice 90% or the time, the other 10% I'm a cunt
Lol remind me not to message you durning the 10 per cent so "
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"Do we have to be nice all the time? NO
Can you be too NICE? NO
When does being nice come across FAKE? NO
Is being constantly nice ATTRACTIVE? NO
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
How I see it you don't get far for being a gobshite a little bit of respect and politeness goes so much further and most importantly honesty I gets called a white Knight for sticking up for the ladies here that get alot of crap from guys that fail to read profiles and don't know the meaning of no don't get me wrong I know the ladies here can hold their own no problem I'm just kind hearted is all and if that makes me a white Knight then so be it |
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By *etite_RosyWoman
over a year ago
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"Picking up from the other thread:
Do we have to be nice all the time?
Can you be too nice?
When does being nice come across fake?
Is being constantly nice attractive? "
Im trying to be nice
But sometimes I want to kill my boss or my co workers
They know when Im really angry at them. Im super nice then |
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