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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone interested  "
You're not selling yourself very well to be fair.
What are you into ? What role(s) do you play ? What are your limits ? What is your experience ? Are you a sadist/masochist etc ?
Lumping up "anyone interested" is unlikely to get much traction.
I've been in the bdsm and swing scene since 2008 so feel free to take my advice or dismiss it.
Your profile is very basic also. Doesn't do much to intrigue. I'm sure you are a nice lad that's eager to get involved in the scene but it does require effort to get some fun. |
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Oh dear. I'm not going to comment on the BDSM thing, as I think you'll get plenty of reaction to that, but some general advice...
A partner of any kind isn't something you can just order up with 'any interest?' A partnership is something borne out of trust, respect, a strong connection and great chemistry... Someone you are drawn to again and again may become that elusive partner if the connection and attraction is mutual, but it can't be forced or found on demand, it has to be allowed to grow and evolve through mutual enjoyment and exploration. Otherwise everyone on here who ever wanted an fwb or partner would be coupled up by now!! So take finding a partner out of the equation, just enjoy meeting people, and you might find that it will happen naturally anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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go to a munch and BDSM events. get ourself known on the kink scene. unfortunately like many things in life partners and kink friends don't magically appear when asked for. good luck |
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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago
Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun |
"go to a munch and BDSM events. get ourself known on the kink scene. unfortunately like many things in life partners and kink friends don't magically appear when asked for. good luck"
Seconding heading to munches and BDSM events. BDSM is not to be taken lightly and doing it in flings or without the build up of trust you get when meeting someone actually on your level leads to disappointing moments, or even dangerous experiences because it's very easy to harm someone if you're ignorant (flogging or beating areas close to the kidneys is an example).
Join the other site fet, with the goal of getting into the scene and meeting new people as friends first, if you want to do it properly. The other place is better for kink but not based around hookups or dating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is everyone telling him what to do etc.
He asked a simple question?.
So the simple answer is if you are interested you get in touch if you not interested you say nothing.
He wasn't asking for a lecture which a lot of you are doing ??
This happens all the time here some one asks for something and everyone jumps on them when it's nothing to do with them.
Like the lady a 23 year old Dom no thanks.
Why did you feel the need to belittle him with that comment.??
If you wasn't interested then you shouldn't say anything.
Am I the only person who can see this or are you all to scared to say .? |
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"Why is everyone telling him what to do etc.
He asked a simple question?.
So the simple answer is if you are interested you get in touch if you not interested you say nothing.
He wasn't asking for a lecture which a lot of you are doing ??
This happens all the time here some one asks for something and everyone jumps on them when it's nothing to do with them.
Like the lady a 23 year old Dom no thanks.
Why did you feel the need to belittle him with that comment.??
If you wasn't interested then you shouldn't say anything.
Am I the only person who can see this or are you all to scared to say .?"
This place is an open forum and people are free to comment as they feel. Personally I felt this "anyone interested" request was almost laughable, so I thought I would make it clear with a short comment. I guess I was advising the OP that he is unlikely to find action this way. Getting a meet is hard enough for unverified single males, very young single males also struggle, but a young unverified single male BDSM Dom? Eeek. It takes a lot of learning and experience to be trusted as a BDSM partner. An inexperienced Dom can easily cause bodily harm or worse. Imagjning it might be as simple as "Anyone interested" to make the subby fems drop their knickers is bonkers.
There is some great advice in the thread about how he might find what he is looking for. This "telling him what to do" (as you put it) should be really helpful to him if hes genuinely looking for this.
Consider perhaps that telling him what he needs to hear is more useful than keeping quiet. |
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"I agree ,a lot of high horses on this site , I suppose it proves how much attention some people need , but high horses on a sex site, think about that ."
Sounds to me like someone has issues with people being on a sex site, despite him being on it also!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is everyone telling him what to do etc.
He asked a simple question?.
So the simple answer is if you are interested you get in touch if you not interested you say nothing.
He wasn't asking for a lecture which a lot of you are doing ??
This happens all the time here some one asks for something and everyone jumps on them when it's nothing to do with them.
Like the lady a 23 year old Dom no thanks.
Why did you feel the need to belittle him with that comment.??
If you wasn't interested then you shouldn't say anything.
Am I the only person who can see this or are you all to scared to say .?
This place is an open forum and people are free to comment as they feel. Personally I felt this "anyone interested" request was almost laughable, so I thought I would make it clear with a short comment. I guess I was advising the OP that he is unlikely to find action this way. Getting a meet is hard enough for unverified single males, very young single males also struggle, but a young unverified single male BDSM Dom? Eeek. It takes a lot of learning and experience to be trusted as a BDSM partner. An inexperienced Dom can easily cause bodily harm or worse. Imagjning it might be as simple as "Anyone interested" to make the subby fems drop their knickers is bonkers.
There is some great advice in the thread about how he might find what he is looking for. This "telling him what to do" (as you put it) should be really helpful to him if hes genuinely looking for this.
Consider perhaps that telling him what he needs to hear is more useful than keeping quiet."
Always looking for trouble him/her/it just look back through things. OP look at profiles that want dominant men to use subsluts like ME and message us ffs. Oh and others who don't like this please go back to the kiss pass fuck threads |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Okay so yes I understand that my way of language isn’t the most interesting . And I appreciate all the replies and advice ... no matter how it came across to others I do appreciate the support and advice of everyone on here as u guys know better than I do ( most of the time ) happy new year x x hahahaha |
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"Okay so yes I understand that my way of language isn’t the most interesting . And I appreciate all the replies and advice ... no matter how it came across to others I do appreciate the support and advice of everyone on here as u guys know better than I do ( most of the time ) happy new year x x hahahaha"
All the best of luck to you. If it's the BDSM side that you're mainly interested in then the advice above to get involved in the BDSM scene via munches is the best way to start (if you havent done it already). The other site mentioned above is the best. There is a BDSM test floating about that you might be able to find which might help you isolate exactly what you're looking for.. so you can communicate it clearly and make sure you get what you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree ,a lot of high horses on this site , I suppose it proves how much attention some people need , but high horses on a sex site, think about that ."
Almost every thread I've clicked onto this morning has been full of arguments. Have people nothing better to be doing  |
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"Attending a munch would be the first step.. perhaps a different site would be better for finding them. Or does anyone on here know of any munches been arranged in Ireland? "
The other site mentioned has them all listed |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Attending a munch would be the first step.. perhaps a different site would be better for finding them. Or does anyone on here know of any munches been arranged in Ireland?
The other site mentioned has them all listed "
I know it has but I was just trying to see if anyone on here knows of some happening in the near future so he can try attend as I suspect he may struggle with the other site initially. |
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"I agree ,a lot of high horses on this site , I suppose it proves how much attention some people need , but high horses on a sex site, think about that .
Almost every thread I've clicked onto this morning has been full of arguments. Have people nothing better to be doing "
Not sure what threads you're looking at. I just clicked on most of the ones on the first page here and there are hardly any with arguments in. |
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