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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet"
We travelled 4 hours a few weeks ago and no show.
Didn't name or shame her but was fuming and had to pay for hotel room. |
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By *opyThatMan
over a year ago
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet"
Sorry to hear this. It’s not exclusive to non verified people, I have had it happen with verified people also.
Don’t bother naming (you will earn yourself a few days of a ban), just block and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet"
Talking about no shows I definitely had more no shows from verified people than unverified.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Told them I had to take time off work as it only suited them in the mornings ...at 9.30 they asked if I was still coming . I said yes I'll be there by 10.30 . I got there and no sign . At 11am I got a message saying sorry phone was off and forgot to turn it on ... Lol... I replied to say I'm still in the area as was having a coffee .. read but no reply .. I taught I would give them benifit as to having no verifications . I taught I was once without ver and know how hard it is to get your first . But it was not to be |
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Is a pain in the backside but unfortunately, it happens. I was pure offended first time it happened me so I get where you're coming from with name & shame. I wouldn't bother if I were you coz they're not gonna lose sleep over it. Block & next my friend! |
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"Is a pain in the backside but unfortunately, it happens. I was pure offended first time it happened me so I get where you're coming from with name & shame. I wouldn't bother if I were you coz they're not gonna lose sleep over it. Block & next my friend! "
And possibly the second time too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet
Talking about no shows I definitely had more no shows from verified people than unverified.
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They must need their head examined. |
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet"
No hard and fast rule sometimes you get burnt thats life..you could be stood up on a dating site too messers everywhere not just here and no you dont need veris to meet someone why would you?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No shows makes it even harder for non verified members like myself to get verified. There are timewasters on here for sure, they are everywhere. Genuine people get tarred with the same brush unfortunately. I was a member a few years back and it was the same story. |
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Once I had two no shows in a week, I was fuming, one I had paid for a hotel, the other was just a coffee meet but I drove an hour or more, I didnt name or shame, I did send a message asking them to be honest with the next guy then blocked and moved on, I wouldn't name and shame, consider it a lesson. |
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we have travelled and gone through unnessary expense only for people not to show it frustraiting to say the least
but in my opinion
we dont and never will name and shame
as it happens for a varity of different reasons
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet"
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If you're a singleton or in a couple 
& here long enough, chances are will happen to you
However...
The Irish swinging community is small
People talk & pm so reputations get around...
So, what they did was silly
and hopefully karma will bite them in the arse 
...after Christmas obviously!  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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I know on the other fab site you see warnings in peoples profiles with timewasters and pic hunters named and shamed.
I think its only fair to do this and I dont see what the problem is to be honest.I can understand its hard to organise a meeting if you have a family but on the day of a meet with an hour or so to go...hotel room booked..travel done and suddenly phone off and no reply well fuck them they're messing.
Name and shame should be allowed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You eventually get older and wiser here. I had two hotel meets cancel in a row cancel as soon as I checked in. Yes I was raging to be left with the bill sitting in a room twiddling my thumbs. But it was the waste of a precious nights baby sitting for kids that annoyed me the most. They didn't consider my time is equally as precious as there's.
I usually only meet people now that I am mutually friends with or meet people through socials or parties. This works perfectly for me and I have not being let down since. |
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"I know on the other fab site you see warnings in peoples profiles with timewasters and pic hunters named and shamed.
I think its only fair to do this and I dont see what the problem is to be honest.I can understand its hard to organise a meeting if you have a family but on the day of a meet with an hour or so to go...hotel room booked..travel done and suddenly phone off and no reply well fuck them they're messing.
Name and shame should be allowed "
The problem is people with a grudge against someone would be able to get them removed by making false accusations. Noone can PROVE what happens off the site.
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"You eventually get older and wiser here. I had two hotel meets cancel in a row cancel as soon as I checked in. Yes I was raging to be left with the bill sitting in a room twiddling my thumbs. But it was the waste of a precious nights baby sitting for kids that annoyed me the most. They didn't consider my time is equally as precious as there's.
I usually only meet people now that I am mutually friends with or meet people through socials or parties. This works perfectly for me and I have not being let down since. "
I never even realised that women get shafted also and for some reason assumed it was just men. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I know on the other fab site you see warnings in peoples profiles with timewasters and pic hunters named and shamed.
I think its only fair to do this and I dont see what the problem is to be honest.I can understand its hard to organise a meeting if you have a family but on the day of a meet with an hour or so to go...hotel room booked..travel done and suddenly phone off and no reply well fuck them they're messing.
Name and shame should be allowed
The problem is people with a grudge against someone would be able to get them removed by making false accusations. Noone can PROVE what happens off the site.
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Ok so don't report to site but would giving a warning on your profile like "folks watch out for x they didnt bother turning up "get you banned |
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"But what's to stop someone making up stories about someone. It's one person's word against another"
Oh yes, and we've even seen threads started about people who then turn out to be victims of exactly the above. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"But what's to stop someone making up stories about someone. It's one person's word against another"
Yeah agreed but there's always a degree of trust anyway.
I think I'd appreciate the warning and if its from a woman or couple that have been on here a while and verified well I'd trust them enought to drive a couple of hundred kms to meet them and to belive a warning |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet"
Its a dam shame admin won't do nothing about this, you should at least be able to report it to admin to get them black listed.
First off Meets section should be introduced with a meet box on profile with for site supporter members only which gives members of the site an option to meet and
Then its agreed then. Admin will then be able to see that a meet was agreed with a copy sent to them. It will cut out all time wasters and the real people will be paying to use it, if anyone wants to cancel a meet it can be preaproved by admin first. They could find out if a meet was cancelled in extreme circumstances with this system and see that they have contacted the other person,in other words admin can decide if a meet was cancelled by the no showers for a genuine reason in advance. But there must be meet guidelines with it and a set of rules and consent etc.
Any thoughts on this would it work? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How would admin know who didnt turn up? Both sides could claim the other is a timewaster"
Absolutely true ...the only thing to have to do with timewasters is absolutely nothing but unfortunately the only way one discovers timewasters is by being fucked over by them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How would admin know who didnt turn up? Both sides could claim the other is a timewaster
Absolutely true ...the only thing to have to do with timewasters is absolutely nothing but unfortunately the only way one discovers timewasters is by being fucked over by them ."
Real members will sign up to join ,timewasters wont pay the money ,meet options only for members
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Is the first rule no verification . Do not go out of your way. 30 miles I traveled for a couple with no virifcation . And it was a no show . Should they be named and shamed . To help genuine people meet
Its a dam shame admin won't do nothing about this, you should at least be able to report it to admin to get them black listed.
First off Meets section should be introduced with a meet box on profile with for site supporter members only which gives members of the site an option to meet and
Then its agreed then. Admin will then be able to see that a meet was agreed with a copy sent to them. It will cut out all time wasters and the real people will be paying to use it, if anyone wants to cancel a meet it can be preaproved by admin first. They could find out if a meet was cancelled in extreme circumstances with this system and see that they have contacted the other person,in other words admin can decide if a meet was cancelled by the no showers for a genuine reason in advance. But there must be meet guidelines with it and a set of rules and consent etc.
Any thoughts on this would it work?"
I think that is a terrible idea and I think the admins have enough to be doing without having to sort through people's meets as well.
People on here need to sort meets out themselves. Yes there are going to be some no shows and they are a pain in the ass. But also read warning signs of people like dropping out of touch just before a meet or being too good to be true etc.
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"How would admin know who didnt turn up? Both sides could claim the other is a timewaster
Absolutely true ...the only thing to have to do with timewasters is absolutely nothing but unfortunately the only way one discovers timewasters is by being fucked over by them .
Real members will sign up to join ,timewasters wont pay the money ,meet options only for members
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Not true. Plenty of site supporters still mess people about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my limited experience on here I've learned that verification is some sort of holy grail, if only I could find my Indie costume! I've tried contacting locally but it seems people do not want to risk that either, I'd be interested in seeing the percentages of what people prefer, travelling or close to home? |
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Talking about no shows I definitely had more no shows from verified people than unverified.
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Well how stupid of them and what a loss to miss a hott lady like yourself 
We have had our fair share of no shows too .... it ain't nice when you have to arrange sitters and book a hotel .
Si xx aka Mr dirty |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Talking about no shows I definitely had more no shows from verified people than unverified.
Well how stupid of them and what a loss to miss a hott lady like yourself
We have had our fair share of no shows too .... it ain't nice when you have to arrange sitters and book a hotel .
Si xx aka Mr dirty "
i dont get how someone can just not show up, does not tale much to at least just send a text.. if you dont want to talk say say something came up then a text at lease.. |
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