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Just something that I have noticed a lot of lately.
Quite a few specific genre groups being set up.
I have no problem with people doing this and whatever makes it easier for like minded folks to get together is to be championed.
My question is, does this detract from the Fab forums? Specifically, and selfishly, from the Ireland forum?
If people are busy having conversations on their "clique" groups, they can't usually multitask and have similar discussions here.
That's not a carte blanch statement, of course, though you get my meaning.
Just wondering what your thoughts are on this and do of course chime in, particularly where you have joined one of these newish group chats.
No judgement, no spite, no chip on the shoulder.
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I was on a different site years ago and the gang that were on it realised they had outgrown it and it happened very fast..they set up a kik group and left..that site was never the same again..still isnt  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't help when you have the same repetitive threads/topics, add in the cliques that form (somewhat naturally) and it's fairly difficult for newbies to feel accepted. It's much easier for these folk to get involved and become part of an active Kik group and get more out of it. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back "
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums.  |
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"It doesn't help when you have the same repetitive threads/topics, add in the cliques that form (somewhat naturally) and it's fairly difficult for newbies to feel accepted. It's much easier for these folk to get involved and become part of an active Kik group and get more out of it. "
There is only so much talk you can do about cumming or bjs or anal before people get bored..the novelty wears off everything including sex unfortunately |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums. "
Fancy a sad fuck  it will cheer u up i swear |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums.
Fancy a sad fuck it will cheer u up i swear "
Yes please, I could do with one.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums. "
Excuse me, we may be old but we're very happily fucking  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forums are definitely quieter and kik groups are more prominant.
But like any internet forum if you are arpund long enough you will see the same old comments, threads and behaviours again and again.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Forums are definitely quieter and kik groups are more prominant.
But like any internet forum if you are arpund long enough you will see the same old comments, threads and behaviours again and again.
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Well feck it man change your ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Forums are definitely quieter and kik groups are more prominant.
But like any internet forum if you are arpund long enough you will see the same old comments, threads and behaviours again and again.
Well feck it man change your ways."
Im not the problem...everyone else is  |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums.
Excuse me, we may be old but we're very happily fucking "
And perving |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums.
Excuse me, we may be old but we're very happily fucking
And perving "
What a lovely ass! I had to zoom in a bit to have a closer look at the dangly bits.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums.
Excuse me, we may be old but we're very happily fucking
And perving
What a lovely ass! I had to zoom in a bit to have a closer look at the dangly bits. "
Thought that was a Christmas decoration on the window sill |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again. |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again. "
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied "
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose... |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again. "
I have seen cliques or whatever you want to call them take over threads for there own amusement so many times and undoubtedly that stops new people from posting on the forums.
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again. I have seen cliques or whatever you want to call them take over threads for there own amusement so many times and undoubtedly that stops new people from posting on the forums. "
It's gone that quiet that this does happen very rarely. It's a thing from the past.
Thread topics have gone really flat, dumbed down, boring, which isn't very inviting. |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again. I have seen cliques or whatever you want to call them take over threads for there own amusement so many times and undoubtedly that stops new people from posting on the forums.
It's gone that quiet that this does happen very rarely. It's a thing from the past.
Thread topics have gone really flat, dumbed down, boring, which isn't very inviting. "
That, combined with the incessant sniping between certain users who can't seem to get along with each other, makes for tedious reading. If people can't get on with each other, they should just grow the fuck up and ignore each other. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"So whos starting the group??? Lol"
Lol, I can't even see the appeal of such groups, it absolutely mental when a few are kik chatting simultaneously. I couldn't follow reading not even to mention writing responses.
Hmmm makes me wonder if there's some slow motion chat app for seniors like myself. |
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"So whos starting the group??? Lol
Lol, I can't even see the appeal of such groups, it absolutely mental when a few are kik chatting simultaneously. I couldn't follow reading not even to mention writing responses.
Hmmm makes me wonder if there's some slow motion chat app for seniors like myself. "
Thats called the postal service DH |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Group chats definitely take people off the forums. I've always loved kik groups but lately have found them to be much more cliquey and drama-packed than here, so not sure if I'm arsed with them anymore. I don't think the monotony of the forums helps though. It gets real old real fast seeing the same threads over and over again. |
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"So whos starting the group??? Lol
Lol, I can't even see the appeal of such groups, it absolutely mental when a few are kik chatting simultaneously. I couldn't follow reading not even to mention writing responses.
Hmmm makes me wonder if there's some slow motion chat app for seniors like myself. "
Yeah, can't see any appeal in large kik groups, particularly in handing out our kik details to lots of people. A nice intimate group of 2,3 or 4, that's how we like it |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"So whos starting the group??? Lol
Lol, I can't even see the appeal of such groups, it absolutely mental when a few are kik chatting simultaneously. I couldn't follow reading not even to mention writing responses.
Hmmm makes me wonder if there's some slow motion chat app for seniors like myself.
Thats called the postal service DH "
That's a bit too slow and involves giving out personal info. Na I was more thinking of only one can post at the time, once a new post goes up there's a 5 minutes posting block so you get a chance to read and reply. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"So whos starting the group??? Lol
Lol, I can't even see the appeal of such groups, it absolutely mental when a few are kik chatting simultaneously. I couldn't follow reading not even to mention writing responses.
Hmmm makes me wonder if there's some slow motion chat app for seniors like myself.
Thats called the postal service DH
That's a bit too slow and involves giving out personal info. Na I was more thinking of only one can post at the time, once a new post goes up there's a 5 minutes posting block so you get a chance to read and reply. "
Ah DH that'd take forever lol |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"So whos starting the group??? Lol
Lol, I can't even see the appeal of such groups, it absolutely mental when a few are kik chatting simultaneously. I couldn't follow reading not even to mention writing responses.
Hmmm makes me wonder if there's some slow motion chat app for seniors like myself.
Thats called the postal service DH
That's a bit too slow and involves giving out personal info. Na I was more thinking of only one can post at the time, once a new post goes up there's a 5 minutes posting block so you get a chance to read and reply.
Ah DH that'd take forever lol"
Yeah you're right, it wouldn't allow endless chatting. You'd have to boil down your words to the bare minimum which probably would lead us to: Wanna fuck? |
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"Its just the time of year I'd say those kik groups eventually run their course people chat away in there but keep an eye here. Like the poster above i think people out grow the forum nd slowly pull back
Yeah just a few old sad fucks like ourselves left that still creep around the forums. "
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose... "
Here's a reply, just that you don't feel completely neglected. Not getting a reply doesn't mean your post hasn't been read or noticed. Not every post of a frequent poster gets a reply either. But if you post more often you'll get replies, simply a matter of frequency. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just something that I have noticed a lot of lately.
Quite a few specific genre groups being set up.
I have no problem with people doing this and whatever makes it easier for like minded folks to get together is to be championed.
My question is, does this detract from the Fab forums? Specifically, and selfishly, from the Ireland forum?
If people are busy having conversations on their "clique" groups, they can't usually multitask and have similar discussions here.
That's not a carte blanch statement, of course, though you get my meaning.
Just wondering what your thoughts are on this and do of course chime in, particularly where you have joined one of these newish group chats.
No judgement, no spite, no chip on the shoulder.
Merely a topic for discussion "
I was in a kik group chat once...once only and never again...it was a total headwrecker for me ...once it started on any particular day it was beep beep beep every minute or so and l found myself constantly taking out my phone to see what someone has said and it was totally disrupting my concentration at work so l had to leave the group ,it just wasn't for me ...but I do totally enjoy logging on here to see what's on the forums and l do agree with some comments already posted here that most threads are all the same only worded differently and from different members and it can get old but there's only so much topics that can be discussed unless something new and fresh hits the news scene..but the best of the forum against Kik groups chats is that you decide when you want to drop in and not have constant notification beeps when in a group ...and to answer the question ,l have no idea how much of the forums are effected through Kik groups being formed,l'm not on them frequently to the extent of saying wether they are or not. |
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I didn't think so. Chat groups are going on for an age so I can't see a connection there as to why thing's are so dull on the forum.
The majority if not all the people I interact with would rarely have used the forum so I don't think it's a case of jumping ship either.
Regarding notifications, you can turn them off and have a peaceful life when needed. |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose... "
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose...
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. "
We've all felt this at one time or another. Don't take it personally and keep being you. Just post when it suits. I was posting for what seems like forever and being ignored or lost in the conversation. I post when interested and don't when not. Still get passed over frequently but that's ok too. |
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I mean ye do all know that most people on the forum aren't bff's off site?
People get to know each other because they are interested in each others forum posts and interact.
No one is obliged to reply to you if they domt find your post interesting.
This is like a new offshoot of the why wont people write back to my mail complaints |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose...
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. "
we all get ignored every now and then, just don't take it personally |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose...
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. we all get ignored every now and then, just don't take it personally "
Did someone say something
But ye everyone puts comments up and quite often they don't get replies to. Don't take it personally. Just post when you see something that interests you. It is also how people get to know you a bit more if that's what you want. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"I mean ye do all know that most people on the forum aren't bff's off site?
People get to know each other because they are interested in each others forum posts and interact.
No one is obliged to reply to you if they domt find your post interesting.
This is like a new offshoot of the why wont people write back to my mail complaints"
You're not my bff??? Gutted!!! |
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"I mean ye do all know that most people on the forum aren't bff's off site?
People get to know each other because they are interested in each others forum posts and interact.
No one is obliged to reply to you if they domt find your post interesting.
This is like a new offshoot of the why wont people write back to my mail complaints
You're not my bff??? Gutted!!!"
Ah here stop.... people will think we are in the clique |
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"I mean ye do all know that most people on the forum aren't bff's off site?
People get to know each other because they are interested in each others forum posts and interact.
No one is obliged to reply to you if they domt find your post interesting.
This is like a new offshoot of the why wont people write back to my mail complaints
You're not my bff??? Gutted!!!
Ah here stop.... people will think we are in the clique"
Your in a clique, I knew it, explains so much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose...
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. we all get ignored every now and then, just don't take it personally
Did someone say something
But ye everyone puts comments up and quite often they don't get replies to. Don't take it personally. Just post when you see something that interests you. It is also how people get to know you a bit more if that's what you want. "
I dont take it personally at all. Just saying what its like from ones outside the clique or ones that know each other from parties or whatever. It gets boring posting things if you can't get involved in the topic thats all.
So people stop using the forums and that may cause the repetitive posts from the ones that always post. |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose...
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. we all get ignored every now and then, just don't take it personally
Did someone say something
But ye everyone puts comments up and quite often they don't get replies to. Don't take it personally. Just post when you see something that interests you. It is also how people get to know you a bit more if that's what you want.
I dont take it personally at all. Just saying what its like from ones outside the clique or ones that know each other from parties or whatever. It gets boring posting things if you can't get involved in the topic thats all.
So people stop using the forums and that may cause the repetitive posts from the ones that always post. "
Most of the people I know don't really post on here but I still try and at times it frustrating but you also have to see its a comunity and people make friends and they grow to like interacting with certain people, it's not easy but as a new people you have to show them you can be fun too, well at least that's what I think |
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"I mean ye do all know that most people on the forum aren't bff's off site?
People get to know each other because they are interested in each others forum posts and interact.
No one is obliged to reply to you if they domt find your post interesting.
This is like a new offshoot of the why wont people write back to my mail complaints
You're not my bff??? Gutted!!!
Ah here stop.... people will think we are in the clique
Your in a clique, I knew it, explains so much "
Ya...but aint nobody fucking with my clique |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose...
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. we all get ignored every now and then, just don't take it personally
Did someone say something
But ye everyone puts comments up and quite often they don't get replies to. Don't take it personally. Just post when you see something that interests you. It is also how people get to know you a bit more if that's what you want.
I dont take it personally at all. Just saying what its like from ones outside the clique or ones that know each other from parties or whatever. It gets boring posting things if you can't get involved in the topic thats all.
So people stop using the forums and that may cause the repetitive posts from the ones that always post.
Most of the people I know don't really post on here but I still try and at times it frustrating but you also have to see its a comunity and people make friends and they grow to like interacting with certain people, it's not easy but as a new people you have to show them you can be fun too, well at least that's what I think "
Perhaps you are right. So how would a person show they are'fun' through forum posts about a guy wondering why he can't get a meet or whats your favourite position? Lol |
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"The forums can be fun but you get the same complaints all the time. Why can't I get a meet. Why can't I get a reply. It's all clique. The problem is if only the same people post they're a clique. If they don't post and talk else where they've ruined the forums. If they debate they're trouble makers if they agree they're white Knites. If they're offended they're snowflakes. It goes in cycles in the forums. Gets lively for a while until people become familiar and then get bored and then back off and come back again when some new faces have joined and the process starts all over again.
Good synopsis there Rose.
You forgot to mention Admin being a little heavy handed, as I've often found they don't all have the same sense of humour.
Anyway, it was merely a general observation and thanks to everyone who replied
I don't post that much, but have noticed that whenever I do, it's usually passed over for comment....now that I checked back on a few, I realise that it's the same people posting and replying... to each other...
I think most forums tend to go the way of 'cliques' or posters who know each others like and dislikes.
Back to paradiddling on my own I suppose...
As above. I used to post but they were mostly ignored by the usual forum people so wasn't worth wasting my time. we all get ignored every now and then, just don't take it personally
Did someone say something
But ye everyone puts comments up and quite often they don't get replies to. Don't take it personally. Just post when you see something that interests you. It is also how people get to know you a bit more if that's what you want.
I dont take it personally at all. Just saying what its like from ones outside the clique or ones that know each other from parties or whatever. It gets boring posting things if you can't get involved in the topic thats all.
So people stop using the forums and that may cause the repetitive posts from the ones that always post.
Most of the people I know don't really post on here but I still try and at times it frustrating but you also have to see its a comunity and people make friends and they grow to like interacting with certain people, it's not easy but as a new people you have to show them you can be fun too, well at least that's what I think
Perhaps you are right. So how would a person show they are'fun' through forum posts about a guy wondering why he can't get a meet or whats your favourite position? Lol"
You take the piss out of him and tell him your favorite position is in front of him mam/dad hahahah |
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By *hechapMan
over a year ago
Derry |
All you have to do is look through a few threads and its clear to see the forum is full of cliques.
Non clique member puts up a post and either gets 0 replies or a few replies yet someone else puts up a similar type post and before you know it the post is closed because it got too big.
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"All you have to do is look through a few threads and its clear to see the forum is full of cliques.
Non clique member puts up a post and either gets 0 replies or a few replies yet someone else puts up a similar type post and before you know it the post is closed because it got too big.
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maybe that is a reflection on people with no friends not being able to think up good topics, and people who have friends can.
I dunno, I have no friends and dont start topics. |
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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago
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People come and go and some come back again so it rises and falls like the tide.
You need a few people to engage with it all to make others engage in the forums.
The chat rooms used to be great for getting to know people as it's more instant and the flow is better but people move on and then it gets quieter so when people do come in they don't bother and leave.
All the sites have their moment in the sun at the top and some fade away. It's like the hottest club in town but a few years down the road the crowd have moved on to somewhere else.
It will be what you make it to be. If people enjoy the banter and interaction then others will join in.
If it's all the same ispy and comment on the profile above people give up....
That's life.
It's short so enjoy it.
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"People come and go and some come back again so it rises and falls like the tide.
You need a few people to engage with it all to make others engage in the forums.
The chat rooms used to be great for getting to know people as it's more instant and the flow is better but people move on and then it gets quieter so when people do come in they don't bother and leave.
All the sites have their moment in the sun at the top and some fade away. It's like the hottest club in town but a few years down the road the crowd have moved on to somewhere else.
It will be what you make it to be. If people enjoy the banter and interaction then others will join in.
If it's all the same ispy and comment on the profile above people give up....
That's life.
It's short so enjoy it.
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True and valid point but every club has it's regulars and they're needed to keep the club open. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"All you have to do is look through a few threads and its clear to see the forum is full of cliques.
Non clique member puts up a post and either gets 0 replies or a few replies yet someone else puts up a similar type post and before you know it the post is closed because it got too big.
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I've roamed the forum for a few years, never belonged to any clique, I haven't met any of the other posters, go to parties etc., basically a lonesome cowgirl posting. Some threads I started got a few replies, others filled up. It really depends on the topic rather than belonging to a clique, at least that's my experience. |
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
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I much prefer a forum where i can make a comment and go back later to check on replies or continue commenting. I find chat groups and chat rooms too fast and hectic for me. By the time I've answered someone there have been 10 more comments. |
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Forums were always a bit hit and miss tbh Op...
But there's less and less originality on the forums these days. If two or three people could put up half decent threads, it might breathe some life back into the forums  ...
Here's hoping anyway |
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"People come and go and some come back again so it rises and falls like the tide.
You need a few people to engage with it all to make others engage in the forums.
The chat rooms used to be great for getting to know people as it's more instant and the flow is better but people move on and then it gets quieter so when people do come in they don't bother and leave.
All the sites have their moment in the sun at the top and some fade away. It's like the hottest club in town but a few years down the road the crowd have moved on to somewhere else.
It will be what you make it to be. If people enjoy the banter and interaction then others will join in.
If it's all the same ispy and comment on the profile above people give up....
That's life.
It's short so enjoy it.
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Very well said. |
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By *ubeMan
over a year ago
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I have found in the last few months there is a lot of people on here just to moan about everything no matter what it is and I have found myself not bothered with the site, life is to short to live it listening to a moaning gift, I'm here for fun and to be honest if it's not fun what's the point. It's like work if your not happy just move along and find something that makes you happy. |
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"I have found in the last few months there is a lot of people on here just to moan about everything no matter what it is and I have found myself not bothered with the site, life is to short to live it listening to a moaning gift, I'm here for fun and to be honest if it's not fun what's the point. It's like work if your not happy just move along and find something that makes you happy."
Seems there are many who are only happy when they are moaning |
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By *ubeMan
over a year ago
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"I have found in the last few months there is a lot of people on here just to moan about everything no matter what it is and I have found myself not bothered with the site, life is to short to live it listening to a moaning gift, I'm here for fun and to be honest if it's not fun what's the point. It's like work if your not happy just move along and find something that makes you happy.
Seems there are many who are only happy when they are moaning "
I know I just dond get it, life is way to short to spend it moaning, it has to be more fun and enjoyable to be happy with what ever you have and just enjoy life. |
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We've never used the forums however we know someone who does and they set up a new profile after taking a break, got photo verified, paid to be a supporter, had verifications, waited 7 days - the lot!
And couldn't post in them.
Contacted admin repeatedly and never got any awknowledgement to their emails so has deleted the profile again.
Maybe thats the reason forums are quiet..
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