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over a year ago
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"Do big strong dom men that know how to work with a brat exist??? I cant find them!!!
loopking in the wrong place.
Where do you suggest looking then?"
a fetish site would likely have a few. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP. "
Most don’t have the patience for it. Me personally it’s not a persona I play but my natural personality but I know when to stop pushing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
Most don’t have the patience for it. Me personally it’s not a persona I play but my natural personality but I know when to stop pushing "
Few know when to stop and I think that's partly what has given it a predominantly negative quality. I had it shoved up my face at a social thinking it was an expected thing from her. The social didn't last very long as a result.
Also there is a plethora of wannabie Dom's who don't cut it and some sub's get marred as a result too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ugh. Girl. I feel this so much. Finding that kind of man is so fucking hard. But when you do, it's fireworks. Keep looking. There are a few out there. Just not enough of them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
Most don’t have the patience for it. Me personally it’s not a persona I play but my natural personality but I know when to stop pushing "
When he's on the floor in the fetal position crying??..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP. "
It's true. Most men just aren't able.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
It's true. Most men just aren't able. "
Maybe because most men aren't Dom's/Alpha or Omegas. Most are still finding themselves and not sure who they are. Afraid or being told not to label. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
It's true. Most men just aren't able.
Maybe because most men aren't Dom's/Alpha or Omegas. Most are still finding themselves and not sure who they are. Afraid or being told not to label."
I don't see what labels have to do with it at all? |
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
Most don’t have the patience for it. Me personally it’s not a persona I play but my natural personality but I know when to stop pushing
Few know when to stop and I think that's partly what has given it a predominantly negative quality. I had it shoved up my face at a social thinking it was an expected thing from her. The social didn't last very long as a result.
Also there is a plethora of wannabie Dom's who don't cut it and some sub's get marred as a result too."
Yea you're right about the 'wannabe dom's '.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could try fetlife, an ex gf of mine had a particular fetish about kitten play and she was a regular on there and attended alot of socials and meets through there. Could be worth a shot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
Most don’t have the patience for it. Me personally it’s not a persona I play but my natural personality but I know when to stop pushing
Few know when to stop and I think that's partly what has given it a predominantly negative quality. I had it shoved up my face at a social thinking it was an expected thing from her. The social didn't last very long as a result.
Also there is a plethora of wannabie Dom's who don't cut it and some sub's get marred as a result too.
Yea you're right about the 'wannabe dom's '..... "
There also a few who have little experience or understanding of what's involved and they can contribute very little worthwhile to the dynamic. They come with a very generalised blanket perspective and apply it to a specific dynamic. They may find their experience with a real Dom is partly negative and they assume it's the Dom's mishandling. It may be the Dom knows and moves on knowing they aren't ready or may need more training than the Dom is prepared for. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP. "
https://www.google.com/amp/s/belasarius.com/2014/03/20/brat-in-bdsm/amp/
Just thought I might past the link where you got your reference from.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/belasarius.com/2014/03/20/brat-in-bdsm/amp/
Just thought I might past the link where you got your reference from. "
Yes, there's some good information out there if people would look. If you look you'll also see that only two lines were used but some of my own experience was added, so it's not a direct quote as you may imply. Easier sometimes than writing much the same in your own words for someone to challenge it and say it's rubbish.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are."
I think it does help in understanding your question, then again depends what answer you're looking for and maybe you already know it and it doesn't fit yours.
There are a few good Doms out there and can be found, a few on fab, a good few else where on f*tlife. Your search for a good Don may have arrived at a similar place with numbers as with females/makes on fab. Most will already have found a sub they are pleased with, so that reduces the available Doms even more. Some may take on more than one, but most don't.
Any way happy searching. It's a relational thing with real ncompatabities, unlike a lot of fab meets which seem to be in general one off or two off meets. |
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over a year ago
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are."
I’d say they are few and far between on Fab. Some men, for some mad reason, think it’s just give them a few slaps and exert pressure and mind games or they do a quick google search and suddenly they become a Dom overnight. I’d say I’ve come across a handful of male profiles on Fab who I’d actually consider to know exactly what the role involves. Not that I’ve been looking for them. As someone posted above, there are specific sites that would be tailored better for your search. Same with some women’s profiles on Fab claiming to be Domme’s or brats or Sub’s. It’s really easy to see through it. Same as you see on a couples profile ‘looking for that elusive unicorn’. It’s just cliche bullshit that’s thrown around. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/belasarius.com/2014/03/20/brat-in-bdsm/amp/
Just thought I might past the link where you got your reference from.
Yes, there's some good information out there if people would look. If you look you'll also see that only two lines were used but some of my own experience was added, so it's not a direct quote as you may imply. Easier sometimes than writing much the same in your own words for someone to challenge it and say it's rubbish.
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Nothing wrong with 'borrowing' sentences as we don't have to reinvent the wheel but some quotes or a reference might be appropriate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've come a cross a few 'bratish' subs. For the most part they quickly became a turn off because many submissives, define themselves as “brats” often seeing this as a highly positive quality. It wasn't natural and certainly not sustainable. Being a 'natural' Brat is quite different however.
Some dominants seek bratty partners but others see it is a negative quality or term or believe it isn’t sustainable if it is the main part of a long-term dynamic.
In my opinion it is one of the most draining Dom/sub dynamics.
This my be the answer to your question OP.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/belasarius.com/2014/03/20/brat-in-bdsm/amp/
Just thought I might past the link where you got your reference from.
Yes, there's some good information out there if people would look. If you look you'll also see that only two lines were used but some of my own experience was added, so it's not a direct quote as you may imply. Easier sometimes than writing much the same in your own words for someone to challenge it and say it's rubbish.
Nothing wrong with 'borrowing' sentences as we don't have to reinvent the wheel but some quotes or a reference might be appropriate. "
It's good to know we've got it policed here. Keeps it above board. My bad. |
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are."
No no. You need to sit quietly while the men explain to you what a brat is. Because, as a woman who identifies as a brat, you couldn't possibly know what a brat is.  |
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"What like slap them about and hit them with a belt and stuff?
Ehm what??"
Pretty self explanatory. But I will explain to you, even though I am a man, but just because you asked.
Are you looking for impact play as a way to "handle" your bratty nature, or would you prefer to write lines in a notebook, or maybe sit in the corner? |
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over a year ago
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are.
No no. You need to sit quietly while the men explain to you what a brat is. Because, as a woman who identifies as a brat, you couldn't possibly know what a brat is. "
Your just being a brat now Ducky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Discipline and reward is the way to deal with brats "
Or ignore them but that still doesn't answer the OP and were both males, this again seems offensive to some in offering possible suggestions. Gender equality when it suits  |
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are.
No no. You need to sit quietly while the men explain to you what a brat is. Because, as a woman who identifies as a brat, you couldn't possibly know what a brat is.
Your just being a brat now Ducky."
Me??? A brat? I resent that statement.
I, sir, am an angel. |
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are.
No no. You need to sit quietly while the men explain to you what a brat is. Because, as a woman who identifies as a brat, you couldn't possibly know what a brat is. "
Oh sarah, behave, we all love a bit of mansplaining lolol |
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are.
No no. You need to sit quietly while the men explain to you what a brat is. Because, as a woman who identifies as a brat, you couldn't possibly know what a brat is.
Your just being a brat now Ducky.
Me??? A brat? I resent that statement.
I, sir, am an angel. "
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By *r.SMan
over a year ago
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"Doesnt really answer my question though does it? I know what the roles are and how it works, I'm basically asking where these types of dom are.
No no. You need to sit quietly while the men explain to you what a brat is. Because, as a woman who identifies as a brat, you couldn't possibly know what a brat is. "
What is the difference between a brat and a sub? |
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Surely a brat is not submissive. Its about challenging thE other person?
Is that not more of a dominant trait? Trying to control or influence another?
Iv no experience of a brat. So im purely speculating |
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