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Having read a few different threads recently either about how men won't date Fabbers but are happy to shag them, or how some folk won't verify people they've met because they're 'ashamed' to have met them etc., it lead me to wonder has anyone ever thought the opposite about someone?
Obviously this doesn't apply to couples or currently attached singles, but for those who are (or have ever been) a Fab singleton, have you ever formed a connection or rapport with someone on Fab whom you would consider dating and perhaps form a relationship with, but would not meet for no strings sex? |
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"Why would they not show verify or verify them. We all know what fab is here for, you can be descreet and verify. That's just my opinion "
Personal reasons I guess... But there are lots and lots of threads about it. What I was wondering about though was has the opposite ever happened. Has anyone ever thought after chatting online, or perhaps conversing with someone at a social event 'My God... He/she and I could be made for each other' and yet have done nothing about it because 'this is Fab, not PoF', or because you've thought they were 'too nice' just to shag, or for any other reason?
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over a year ago
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"Having read a few different threads recently either about how men won't date Fabbers but are happy to shag them, or how some folk won't verify people they've met because they're 'ashamed' to have met them etc., it lead me to wonder has anyone ever thought the opposite about someone?
Obviously this doesn't apply to couples or currently attached singles, but for those who are (or have ever been) a Fab singleton, have you ever formed a connection or rapport with someone on Fab whom you would consider dating and perhaps form a relationship with, but would not meet for no strings sex? "
Happens all the time, there has been couples who've married each other who have met on here.
We personally know a few couples who met on here, a few have lastest and a few have not.
We met on fab, started chatting arranged a meet, but actually bumped into each other for the first time the night before or arranged meet, at The Venue. That's over 3 years ago now.
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"Why would they not show verify or verify them. We all know what fab is here for, you can be descreet and verify. That's just my opinion
Personal reasons I guess... But there are lots and lots of threads about it. What I was wondering about though was has the opposite ever happened. Has anyone ever thought after chatting online, or perhaps conversing with someone at a social event 'My God... He/she and I could be made for each other' and yet have done nothing about it because 'this is Fab, not PoF', or because you've thought they were 'too nice' just to shag, or for any other reason?
Interested to hear thoughts.. "
Good Lord no, if I thought someone might be relationship material, first thing I would do is make sure we were sexually compatible!! |
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"Why would they not show verify or verify them. We all know what fab is here for, you can be descreet and verify. That's just my opinion
Personal reasons I guess... But there are lots and lots of threads about it. What I was wondering about though was has the opposite ever happened. Has anyone ever thought after chatting online, or perhaps conversing with someone at a social event 'My God... He/she and I could be made for each other' and yet have done nothing about it because 'this is Fab, not PoF', or because you've thought they were 'too nice' just to shag, or for any other reason?
Interested to hear thoughts..
Good Lord no, if I thought someone might be relationship material, first thing I would do is make sure we were sexually compatible!! "
If they were sexually compatible and you got together but after sometime one lost their appetite for sex would you dump them. |
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"Why would they not show verify or verify them. We all know what fab is here for, you can be descreet and verify. That's just my opinion
Personal reasons I guess... But there are lots and lots of threads about it. What I was wondering about though was has the opposite ever happened. Has anyone ever thought after chatting online, or perhaps conversing with someone at a social event 'My God... He/she and I could be made for each other' and yet have done nothing about it because 'this is Fab, not PoF', or because you've thought they were 'too nice' just to shag, or for any other reason?
Interested to hear thoughts..
Good Lord no, if I thought someone might be relationship material, first thing I would do is make sure we were sexually compatible!! If they were sexually compatible and you got together but after sometime one lost their appetite for sex would you dump them. "
Try again if its worthwhile 
We dont realise something was really important to us until we lost it.
There might be no second chance.
People have different appetite for sex. We may be on the same level for a while then its gone. If there is more than sex between people it is always worthwhile to wait. Make sure you are going in the right direction  just to be sure no regrets afterward... |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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As a single woman on here I haven't come across that issue yet anyhow. I've made some good friends on here but haven't met anyone that I want a relationship with yet anyhow. But then at present I'm happy single so I'm not looking for someone.
I have no problem verifying anyone I met I personally don't show my veris but I am not embarrassed by anyone I've met that has veried me. I wouldn't meet someone if I thought I would be ashamed after what would be the point in that. I can't say the same maybe for the guys who have met me but I'd hate to think they would be but this is fab so you never know lol  |
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By *he MickMan
over a year ago
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I've met someone here that I could see a relationship with but she isn't looking for that so I will not let her know I like her so much otherwise it will probably end what we have and to be fair I'm quite happy with what we have |
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"Having read a few different threads recently either about how men won't date Fabbers but are happy to shag them, or how some folk won't verify people they've met because they're 'ashamed' to have met them etc., it lead me to wonder has anyone ever thought the opposite about someone?
Obviously this doesn't apply to couples or currently attached singles, but for those who are (or have ever been) a Fab singleton, have you ever formed a connection or rapport with someone on Fab whom you would consider dating and perhaps form a relationship with, but would not meet for no strings sex? "
If I clicked with someone and fancied them and wanted more than casual sex from that person, I absolutely wouldn't have casual sex with them because it's just as shitty and misleading as the opposite. Also I don't compromise on what I want when it comes to men. They're not running out any time soon, there's absolutely no reason to settle. |
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We click with someone..
Conversation is easy...
Chat over coffee...
We think they like us..
Then they start playing games...
Nah...I nip all that stuff in the bud!!
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"Why would they not show verify or verify them. We all know what fab is here for, you can be descreet and verify. That's just my opinion
Personal reasons I guess... But there are lots and lots of threads about it. What I was wondering about though was has the opposite ever happened. Has anyone ever thought after chatting online, or perhaps conversing with someone at a social event 'My God... He/she and I could be made for each other' and yet have done nothing about it because 'this is Fab, not PoF', or because you've thought they were 'too nice' just to shag, or for any other reason?
Interested to hear thoughts.. "
Yes, met someone at a M&G that I saw potential in for relationship but I'm married. Kids and family life come first but, if circumstance was different, oh yes.
The fact they're on Fab just makes it more interesting to me. |
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Both of us werent looking but now 8 months together...people are people. If u click n like eachother why not? Its open..honest n real..i do find it hard to find any meets that match him lol.. |
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"Both of us werent looking but now 8 months together...people are people. If u click n like eachother why not? Its open..honest n real..i do find it hard to find any meets that match him lol.."
THIS ..  ...is just the natural magic of when two people connect ...best of luck to you both always sexy lady ..am pure delighted for you both MUWAHHHHHHHHH !!! |
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"Having read a few different threads recently either about how men won't date Fabbers but are happy to shag them, or how some folk won't verify people they've met because they're 'ashamed' to have met them etc., it lead me to wonder has anyone ever thought the opposite about someone?
Obviously this doesn't apply to couples or currently attached singles, but for those who are (or have ever been) a Fab singleton, have you ever formed a connection or rapport with someone on Fab whom you would consider dating and perhaps form a relationship with, but would not meet for no strings sex?
Happens all the time, there has been couples who've married each other who have met on here.
We personally know a few couples who met on here, a few have lastest and a few have not.
We met on fab, started chatting arranged a meet, but actually bumped into each other for the first time the night before or arranged meet, at The Venue. That's over 3 years ago now.
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Oh believe me, I do know how well these things can work out! 
But what I was really asking was has anyone ever decided not to meet someone because they potentially saw them as something more than a no-strings shag. |
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"Why would they not show verify or verify them. We all know what fab is here for, you can be descreet and verify. That's just my opinion
Personal reasons I guess... But there are lots and lots of threads about it. What I was wondering about though was has the opposite ever happened. Has anyone ever thought after chatting online, or perhaps conversing with someone at a social event 'My God... He/she and I could be made for each other' and yet have done nothing about it because 'this is Fab, not PoF', or because you've thought they were 'too nice' just to shag, or for any other reason?
Interested to hear thoughts..
Good Lord no, if I thought someone might be relationship material, first thing I would do is make sure we were sexually compatible!!
If they were sexually compatible and you got together but after sometime one lost their appetite for sex would you dump them. "
From experience I can tell you this kind of thing does happen... Things can fizzle out, and because you've come to care about someone on a personal level, it can make that an awkward conversation to bring up, but if you're sure the spark has gone, there's no point dragging things out. Dumping is a strong word though... If you care about each other and it's just the sexual element that isn't working anymore, you can agree to be friends and continue to be in each other's lives... Just in a different dynamic. |
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"I've met someone here that I could see a relationship with but she isn't looking for that so I will not let her know I like her so much otherwise it will probably end what we have and to be fair I'm quite happy with what we have "
Did you realise you maybe wanted 'more' before you met her first or was this something that has happened over time? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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Fab is a place for almost everthing, so I'm sure even that exist.
But just trying to work out the logistical consequences that arises out of such thought process does my head in: how do you get to know a fabber more closer without having a proper meet? Convince him/her to 20 coffee meets? Live from party to party for your 10 minutes slot you can chat with her/him? Confess to the person how you're feeling and see what happens? .... I dunno it just sounds complicated and a potential for drama.
Imagine going all the way like that and falling in love, just to find out eventually that you're not compatible in the bedroom  |
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"If I clicked with someone and fancied them and wanted more than casual sex from that person, I absolutely wouldn't have casual sex with them because it's just as shitty and misleading as the opposite. Also I don't compromise on what I want when it comes to men. They're not running out any time soon, there's absolutely no reason to settle. "
This is actually the kind of answer I was looking for... You've completely understood what I was asking... Taking casual sex off the table because you see someone as being worth more. Not a casual thing that progresses into something more (as many of us have had happen), but to actually stop something before it even has the chance to begin. |
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Ya I still would meet for nsa....
I meet people I fancy rather tgan people Id just like to fuck.
The chances of things turning into a dating scenario are low in my expericance for various reasons so why refuse the chance of a meet |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"If I clicked with someone and fancied them and wanted more than casual sex from that person, I absolutely wouldn't have casual sex with them because it's just as shitty and misleading as the opposite. Also I don't compromise on what I want when it comes to men. They're not running out any time soon, there's absolutely no reason to settle.
This is actually the kind of answer I was looking for... You've completely understood what I was asking... Taking casual sex off the table because you see someone as being worth more. Not a casual thing that progresses into something more (as many of us have had happen), but to actually stop something before it even has the chance to begin. "
Ya got to love the principle riders, and how do you spot that potential for more here on fab without meeting?  |
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"We click with someone..
Conversation is easy...
Chat over coffee...
We think they like us..
Then they start playing games...
Nah...I nip all that stuff in the bud!!
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Because of the game-playing? I can understand that... Who has the time !?
But would you decide not to meet someone simply because they were too likeable? Have you ever chatted with someone or met them for coffee, or at a social event who gave you a warm fuzzy feeling as well as the fanny flutters and thought 'uh-oh!.. This could be trouble..' and decided to go no further? |
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"If I clicked with someone and fancied them and wanted more than casual sex from that person, I absolutely wouldn't have casual sex with them because it's just as shitty and misleading as the opposite. Also I don't compromise on what I want when it comes to men. They're not running out any time soon, there's absolutely no reason to settle.
This is actually the kind of answer I was looking for... You've completely understood what I was asking... Taking casual sex off the table because you see someone as being worth more. Not a casual thing that progresses into something more (as many of us have had happen), but to actually stop something before it even has the chance to begin. "
I never understood why women do this.
Oh I don't really fancy you, so I'll fuck you after a few drinks vs I do fancy you so I'm going to make you wait at least 3 dates before I let you near me!
WTF is that about?
Fuck me on the first date but make the third one extra special FFS |
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"Taking casual sex off the table because you see someone as being worth more. "
Why would you see people you have casual sex with as being "worth less"? Or why should the fact that you're having casual sex with them preclude the development of a relationship later on? |
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"Fab is a place for almost everthing, so I'm sure even that exist.
But just trying to work out the logistical consequences that arises out of such thought process does my head in: how do you get to know a fabber more closer without having a proper meet? Convince him/her to 20 coffee meets? Live from party to party for your 10 minutes slot you can chat with her/him? Confess to the person how you're feeling and see what happens? .... I dunno it just sounds complicated and a potential for drama.
Imagine going all the way like that and falling in love, just to find out eventually that you're not compatible in the bedroom "
Absolutely! There are a lot of ways it could go... That's why I'm asking... The idea that has been put forward on so many threads is that many people think Fabbers are OK to shag, but not date (despite the amount of couples who originally met here), so it made me wonder has anyone experienced or felt the opposite... That someone was OK to date, but not to just shag |
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"Ya I still would meet for nsa....
I meet people I fancy rather tgan people Id just like to fuck.
The chances of things turning into a dating scenario are low in my expericance for various reasons so why refuse the chance of a meet"
I think that's the way most of us meet, myself included but you know me, I'm intrigued by other perspectives and views! |
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"If I clicked with someone and fancied them and wanted more than casual sex from that person, I absolutely wouldn't have casual sex with them because it's just as shitty and misleading as the opposite. Also I don't compromise on what I want when it comes to men. They're not running out any time soon, there's absolutely no reason to settle.
This is actually the kind of answer I was looking for... You've completely understood what I was asking... Taking casual sex off the table because you see someone as being worth more. Not a casual thing that progresses into something more (as many of us have had happen), but to actually stop something before it even has the chance to begin.
Ya got to love the principle riders, and how do you spot that potential for more here on fab without meeting? "
Not a clue! I'm asking not because this is something I've personally done, but because other threads got me thinking... Has anyone ever experienced this? |
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"I would have no problem starting a relationship with someone from fab . "
I had a 10 month open relationship on fab last year..amazing time. Looking for another now lol! Apply within! |
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Yes I would date someone from fab but I do think a lot of men wouldn't.
Had met someone last year and we both left fab for a while but distance and been at different stages in our lives it didn't work yet.
There is someone else who I enjoy the company off and actually think we are quite compatible outside fab but he has no interest in a relationship so I've walked away to protect myself.
So now it's about having fun, exploring sex and if someone comes along I'm up for it.
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We met on here 2.5 yrs ago with my King. Its the happiest most open and honest relship we both ever been in.
When I signed up on here I thought if I ever be in a relship..it will be ftom a site like this...cos I was not willing to settle for anything vanilla anymore..I wanted to be with a guy who accepts and understands that this is who I am and doesnt try to fit me into a box accepted by society ...so fab was the perfect platform not that either of us was looking at the time i might add;)
Everyone gets whatever they wanna get out of this.
Stay safe folks
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I'm only interested in meeting friendly independent women who are down to earth and happy for no strings attached naughty fun.
After being in several long-term relationships over the last thirty years, I love the freedom of being single. I have many wonderful friends and lots of interesting hobbies. I still enjoy female company in small doses- but I'm free now, so never going back to the plantation. |
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"Having read a few different threads recently either about how men won't date Fabbers but are happy to shag them, or how some folk won't verify people they've met because they're 'ashamed' to have met them etc., it lead me to wonder has anyone ever thought the opposite about someone?
Obviously this doesn't apply to couples or currently attached singles, but for those who are (or have ever been) a Fab singleton, have you ever formed a connection or rapport with someone on Fab whom you would consider dating and perhaps form a relationship with, but would not meet for no strings sex? "
Met the most amazing lady on fab last April .. totally amazing lady in everyway way possible...heart ..mind ..soul..body ..had a most amazing mindblowing time together.. Absolutely...but unfortunately situations and circumstances in life have now closed that book. |
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"Both of us werent looking but now 8 months together...people are people. If u click n like eachother why not? Its open..honest n real..i do find it hard to find any meets that match him lol..
THIS .. ...is just the natural magic of when two people connect ...best of luck to you both always sexy lady ..am pure delighted for you both MUWAHHHHHHHHH !!!"
Damn lol.
We lasted 10 months..on different life paths with 20 yr age gap..killed me but I ended it for the good for both of us ..sob sob..6 months since then..heart still not mended yet xx |
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Yes. I started to have feelings for someone before I met them and told him, knowing full well (in hindsight) that he would run a mile. Best decision made. Pity tho because I reckon we would have had amazing sex. |
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It’s interesting that you think it might be possible to want someone so much in a long term relationship kind of way, but not ruin it by having casual sex with them, when you yourself are on a swingers site?!? (And I use the royal “we” in that statement)
Would that not be inhibiting your natural tendency to open relationships or swinging scenarios? |
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