Hi can someone please help me i am a single woman with my own house i have no ties i live half an hr from belfast its all motorway except for the last 10mins yet i cannot seem to break into the party scene i have put numerous posts up advertising and only replies i get are from single guys peole moan about not getting invities to parties yet when one is advertise they wont come i am a single girl with my own house i should be having parties every weekend lol |
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You really bloody should!
I work all weekends and we have the kids every second weekend, so attending any kind of parties is extremely challenging for us unless we organize something like that way in advance (sometimes we're planning something for months and life just happens last minute), but I can't see how it could be the case with everybody- as all I ever see around here is "any plans for the weekend" and "how was your weekend" surely there's enough of a crowd to fill in the weekend party spaces...  |
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over a year ago
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"Hi! I would suggest starting with a more casual gathering. Invite a few friends that you can rely on and maybe one or two newbies and build from there. Smaller parties can be great fun  xx"
Sounds like a good idea..good luck op  |
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"Thankyou freespirit will see what happens lol"
Your welcome..im in the same living arrangements as yourself and a small gathering sounds like fun..but I'm too nervous lol..enjoy x |
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Yes _eltic cpl thats what i heard when i first joined fab and thought great this will be a breeze but not so i just dont understand people they moan about not having anywhere to meet or not getting invities then when you do they wont come lol i have always advertised my parties as no pressure to play if you just want to come and have a few drinks and a bit of craic thats fine but equally if you want to play there is the option lol |
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I help my friend host parties in Glasgow. We have found that alot of men are all talk and no action so best to invite more than needed in case of no shows. Our parties are pretty successful but are always planned well in advance. |
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Free spirt you should join us at the ops gathering that way you will be in a small gathering and we will all make you feel comfortable as we know what I is like for the first time x |
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"Yes _eltic cpl thats what i heard when i first joined fab and thought great this will be a breeze but not so i just dont understand people they moan about not having anywhere to meet or not getting invities then when you do they wont come lol i have always advertised my parties as no pressure to play if you just want to come and have a few drinks and a bit of craic thats fine but equally if you want to play there is the option lol"
We know exactly where you coming from , we even tried the odd social and were even inviting unverified to the socials to help them along and the response was poor, so nowadays we are just thinking of ourselves and going outside of Ireland for fun and are sorry we didn't do it sooner |
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I have put nurmerous posts up i even had one up on tues nite if any couples or songle ladies were free wed or thurs for coffee not one reply but yes if i have one you would be more than welcome to come |
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There was a recent thread about the success rate of posting meets and it was pretty much zero. You’ve got some lovely people (I assume lol) interested here. Pick a date and private message and see how it goes. We’d say yes...just saying....  and if all else fails we could sing karaoke lol!!! |
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Perhaps start by inviting people you have previously met for a small social in your house. If people ask who is going dont tell them, and just get a male/female/couples balance. If you have previously chatted to the people you will know their interests & whether they may get. A dozen people, some finger food and party on.
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"Perhaps start by inviting people you have previously met for a small social in your house. If people ask who is going dont tell them, and just get a male/female/couples balance. If you have previously chatted to the people you will know their interests & whether they may get. A dozen people, some finger food and party on.
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I'd second this... It's much easier to put a nice group who will gel well together if you've already met and know people. I see from your veri that you attended a M&G, so I would assume you'd made a few friends and contacts there.
On the other hand, I don't agree with not telling other guests who is going. I personally won't attend anything unless I know in advance... A house party is quite an intimate setting, so who would want to find themselves in a room with 2 or 3 people you've previously had to block from contacting you, or even worse, to find yourself suddenly, unwittingly, and very uncomfortably in the middle of an bad atmosphere between 2 or 3 other attendees who have a previous history and don't get along with each other? Believe me... That's no fun for anyone. |
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"Perhaps start by inviting people you have previously met for a small social in your house. If people ask who is going dont tell them, and just get a male/female/couples balance. If you have previously chatted to the people you will know their interests & whether they may get. A dozen people, some finger food and party on.
I'd second this... It's much easier to put a nice group who will gel well together if you've already met and know people. I see from your veri that you attended a M&G, so I would assume you'd made a few friends and contacts there.
On the other hand, I don't agree with not telling other guests who is going. I personally won't attend anything unless I know in advance... A house party is quite an intimate setting, so who would want to find themselves in a room with 2 or 3 people you've previously had to block from contacting you, or even worse, to find yourself suddenly, unwittingly, and very uncomfortably in the middle of an bad atmosphere between 2 or 3 other attendees who have a previous history and don't get along with each other? Believe me... That's no fun for anyone. "
We always give out a guest list beforehand which then lets folk message each other to say hello before the actual party. |
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"Perhaps start by inviting people you have previously met for a small social in your house. If people ask who is going dont tell them, and just get a male/female/couples balance. If you have previously chatted to the people you will know their interests & whether they may get. A dozen people, some finger food and party on.
I'd second this... It's much easier to put a nice group who will gel well together if you've already met and know people. I see from your veri that you attended a M&G, so I would assume you'd made a few friends and contacts there.
On the other hand, I don't agree with not telling other guests who is going. I personally won't attend anything unless I know in advance... A house party is quite an intimate setting, so who would want to find themselves in a room with 2 or 3 people you've previously had to block from contacting you, or even worse, to find yourself suddenly, unwittingly, and very uncomfortably in the middle of an bad atmosphere between 2 or 3 other attendees who have a previous history and don't get along with each other? Believe me... That's no fun for anyone.
We always give out a guest list beforehand which then lets folk message each other to say hello before the actual party. "
Same as when we used to do parties, once the guest list was sent the only change would be if someone dropped out, never done last minute additions |
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"Yes _eltic cpl thats what i heard when i first joined fab and thought great this will be a breeze but not so i just dont understand people they moan about not having anywhere to meet or not getting invities then when you do they wont come lol i have always advertised my parties as no pressure to play if you just want to come and have a few drinks and a bit of craic thats fine but equally if you want to play there is the option lol"
Human nature/ego. People want what they can't have and then when they can have it, they don't want it. I think a lot of people just enjoy the chase itself or having their ego stroked then when they achieve that they move unto the next one. |
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From talking to people who have organised house party's, it seems the trend is to invite more than you want because of no shows. Maybe the trend should be to charge upfront and if they turn up, refund their money, less PayPal expenses of course.
Nothing worse than ending up with 3 couples and 15 guys (some might like it ) lol |
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"From talking to people who have organised house party's, it seems the trend is to invite more than you want because of no shows. Maybe the trend should be to charge upfront and if they turn up, refund their money, less PayPal expenses of course.
Nothing worse than ending up with 3 couples and 15 guys (some might like it ) lol"
We had the complete opposite at one party, we done a singles party once and invited 7 girls and 7 guys, all the girls turned up and only 1 guy. |
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"From talking to people who have organised house party's, it seems the trend is to invite more than you want because of no shows. Maybe the trend should be to charge upfront and if they turn up, refund their money, less PayPal expenses of course.
Nothing worse than ending up with 3 couples and 15 guys (some might like it ) lol
We had the complete opposite at one party, we done a singles party once and invited 7 girls and 7 guys, all the girls turned up and only 1 guy. "
The rule of thumb for any fab event tends to be that if you have 10 women invited then you need to invite 30 guys and then you might get 10 actually show up. I’ve run a couple of socials and this is what I had to do and I’ve been to club nights and parties that had to do the same. |
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"From talking to people who have organised house party's, it seems the trend is to invite more than you want because of no shows. Maybe the trend should be to charge upfront and if they turn up, refund their money, less PayPal expenses of course.
Nothing worse than ending up with 3 couples and 15 guys (some might like it ) lol
We had the complete opposite at one party, we done a singles party once and invited 7 girls and 7 guys, all the girls turned up and only 1 guy. "
Haha did he have a good night  |
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"From talking to people who have organised house party's, it seems the trend is to invite more than you want because of no shows. Maybe the trend should be to charge upfront and if they turn up, refund their money, less PayPal expenses of course.
Nothing worse than ending up with 3 couples and 15 guys (some might like it ) lol
We had the complete opposite at one party, we done a singles party once and invited 7 girls and 7 guys, all the girls turned up and only 1 guy. "
I'd say he was delighted and terrified all at the same time!!!! |
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My lady friend and I are hoping to attend a party sometime!!! She wants to watch. Only problem with her is she can't do nighttime parties!! Ever hear of some daytime parties?? |
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We tend to send direct invites to our parties and daisychain off verifications from people attending. That way, people are more likely to mix well, if they have friends in common. Likewise, we ask the guests to suggest single guys, as they're much more likely to turn up.
Random meet posts, seldom seem to succeed.
Agree it's a good idea to start small and only with very well verified people. Good luck |
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"We tend to send direct invites to our parties and daisychain off verifications from people attending. That way, people are more likely to mix well, if they have friends in common. Likewise, we ask the guests to suggest single guys, as they're much more likely to turn up.
Random meet posts, seldom seem to succeed.
Agree it's a good idea to start small and only with very well verified people. Good luck "
OP this seems the ideal way to organise a house party...i must reme.ber this |
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Tganks fod all the advice i get tge thing about inviting more single guys tgan you want becauss of drop out but knowing my luck everyone would turn up lol i like the idea of having asingles only party as i do think single people do get a bit of a raw deal on fab and yes i do agree alot of it is there own fault |
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Why our people so afraid of attending a party any parties that i run will be under the influence of no pressure to play but obviously if you come and find someone that you want to play with there is the option also whatever happens at the party stays at the party it doesnt be discussed all over fab |
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"Why our people so afraid of attending a party any parties that i run will be under the influence of no pressure to play but obviously if you come and find someone that you want to play with there is the option also whatever happens at the party stays at the party it doesnt be discussed all over fab "
sent you a pm
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"Why our people so afraid of attending a party any parties that i run will be under the influence of no pressure to play but obviously if you come and find someone that you want to play with there is the option also whatever happens at the party stays at the party it doesnt be discussed all over fab "
Would be the fact that it is totally new to me and have my own things to worry about. Although I know your parties would be well run |
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