FabSwingers.com > Forums > Ireland > Does ANYONE like bi guys?
Does ANYONE like bi guys?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
So I’m back after a long break from fab and it seems now that single women and couples really have no interest in chatting to, let alone meeting bi guys? Are guys just putting up straight and playing straight to get meets? What is your biggest hang up about meeting bi guys? Honestly?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So I’m back after a long break from fab and it seems now that single women and couples really have no interest in chatting to, let alone meeting bi guys? Are guys just putting up straight and playing straight to get meets? What is your biggest hang up about meeting bi guys? Honestly? "
Are you bi? Your profile days straight  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Bi guys tend to like bi guys.
But in all seriousness, for a bi guy, Fab is a terrible place to be because the biphobia on this site is extreme. The judgement laid out on guys who play with guys, no matter how they identify, is constant. Like, daily threads almost. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I don't think the problem is bi. I tend to contact couples that have a bi male on profile. Some reply, some don't.
I see straight men, women and couples having the same issues.
I see no response as no interest and much preferable than back and forth messages leading no where. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
As a single girl , my preference is for bi guys & I know I'm not alone with that . Obviously, there has to be an attraction there so not gonna meet every bi guy that messages me . Everyone has preferences , bi, straight & everything in between . We all have our own tastes & attactions & we have to respect other peoples , whether we agree with them or not. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I find this odd.
The amount of women here that say they fantasised about a bi MMF and then aren't winking/ messaging the said bi guys is confusing.
Then again, if the OP has straight on his profile but is bi, then tough shit Paddy!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Morning all, thanks for all the replies. So just to clear up I am bi but had switched to the description straight on here to see if it makes a difference. It’s nice to see I’m not the only guy on here that noticed the “biphobia” but it’s refreshing to see that there are women who still want guys who play with guys  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Morning all, thanks for all the replies. So just to clear up I am bi but had switched to the description straight on here to see if it makes a difference. It’s nice to see I’m not the only guy on here that noticed the “biphobia” but it’s refreshing to see that there are women who still want guys who play with guys "
If I wanted to look for a bi guy i'd look for a bi guy, everyone has their preferences why lie/omit the truth on your profile. Yes there is bi-phobia here but just be honest about what your are and what you want and leave the phobia people to themselves. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Morning all, thanks for all the replies. So just to clear up I am bi but had switched to the description straight on here to see if it makes a difference. It’s nice to see I’m not the only guy on here that noticed the “biphobia” but it’s refreshing to see that there are women who still want guys who play with guys
If I wanted to look for a bi guy i'd look for a bi guy, everyone has their preferences why lie/omit the truth on your profile. Yes there is bi-phobia here but just be honest about what your are and what you want and leave the phobia people to themselves. "
Your dead right, I’m not switching it again... if someone doesn’t want you for being bi then they are not the person you want to be meeting anyways. Thanks  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
"
It's the reason why someone prefers not to meet a bi-guy, not a "preference" itself.
Show me one single person who has issues with and has a preference not to meet a bi-woman. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
"
Well if a couple is willing to meet a guy because he hasn’t played with other guys but has issue with meeting a guy because he admits to having met other guys, isn’t that a judgement based completely upon sexual preference and therefore a phobia of sorts? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
Well if a couple is willing to meet a guy because he hasn’t played with other guys but has issue with meeting a guy because he admits to having met other guys, isn’t that a judgement based completely upon sexual preference and therefore a phobia of sorts? "
No not at all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
Well if a couple is willing to meet a guy because he hasn’t played with other guys but has issue with meeting a guy because he admits to having met other guys, isn’t that a judgement based completely upon sexual preference and therefore a phobia of sorts?
No not at all. "
What is it then? Please explain |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"All I'll say to this is that this website proves my theory that no man is 100% straight. Despite what their profile might say.
Your theory is wrong
Thou dost protest too much "
No protest here! All I'm saying is a massive generalisation coming from a theory by a guy basing it on the fact that met 1 guy 4 months ago is inaccurate |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
Well if a couple is willing to meet a guy because he hasn’t played with other guys but has issue with meeting a guy because he admits to having met other guys, isn’t that a judgement based completely upon sexual preference and therefore a phobia of sorts?
No not at all.
What is it then? Please explain "
I don't want to eat butter cause I don't like it, I prefer my bread without it, I wouldn't eat a sandwich that had butter on it but scraped off. That doesn't mean I have a phobia of butter. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
Well if a couple is willing to meet a guy because he hasn’t played with other guys but has issue with meeting a guy because he admits to having met other guys, isn’t that a judgement based completely upon sexual preference and therefore a phobia of sorts?
No not at all.
What is it then? Please explain
I don't want to eat butter cause I don't like it, I prefer my bread without it, I wouldn't eat a sandwich that had butter on it but scraped off. That doesn't mean I have a phobia of butter."
In theory it's a solid logic.
But...
As I asked before - how come nobody ever minds meeting bi women?
Surely same logic would apply?
Also if your logic would apply to bedroom activities, anyone could say "I don't like the look of one of your exes, so now you can't play with my partner" (assuming it's a straight mfm scenario).
Now that I'm rambling...
I keep getting amazed by how most straight men assume that if a guy is bi or gay - he's automatically attracted to all men, so they try to stay away from them as God forbid that gay or bi guy will ever try anything with them.
Bi and gay people do have their own types and preferences too.. and very far and few would overstep a boundary of disrespecting someone else's sexuality.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Morning all, thanks for all the replies. So just to clear up I am bi but had switched to the description straight on here to see if it makes a difference. It’s nice to see I’m not the only guy on here that noticed the “biphobia” but it’s refreshing to see that there are women who still want guys who play with guys
If I wanted to look for a bi guy i'd look for a bi guy, everyone has their preferences why lie/omit the truth on your profile. Yes there is bi-phobia here but just be honest about what your are and what you want and leave the phobia people to themselves. "
Totally agree with this.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
Well if a couple is willing to meet a guy because he hasn’t played with other guys but has issue with meeting a guy because he admits to having met other guys, isn’t that a judgement based completely upon sexual preference and therefore a phobia of sorts?
No not at all.
What is it then? Please explain
I don't want to eat butter cause I don't like it, I prefer my bread without it, I wouldn't eat a sandwich that had butter on it but scraped off. That doesn't mean I have a phobia of butter.
In theory it's a solid logic.
But...
As I asked before - how come nobody ever minds meeting bi women?
Surely same logic would apply?
Also if your logic would apply to bedroom activities, anyone could say "I don't like the look of one of your exes, so now you can't play with my partner" (assuming it's a straight mfm scenario).
Now that I'm rambling...
I keep getting amazed by how most straight men assume that if a guy is bi or gay - he's automatically attracted to all men, so they try to stay away from them as God forbid that gay or bi guy will ever try anything with them.
Bi and gay people do have their own types and preferences too.. and very far and few would overstep a boundary of disrespecting someone else's sexuality.
"
As a wise young man on here once said to me... There's a difference between having a taste in men and a taste for men. Something that stuck in my mind and applies to any gender or sexual orientation. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"How is someone's preference for not wanting to meet a bi guy suddenly "bi-phobia"??
Well if a couple is willing to meet a guy because he hasn’t played with other guys but has issue with meeting a guy because he admits to having met other guys, isn’t that a judgement based completely upon sexual preference and therefore a phobia of sorts?
No not at all.
What is it then? Please explain
I don't want to eat butter cause I don't like it, I prefer my bread without it, I wouldn't eat a sandwich that had butter on it but scraped off. That doesn't mean I have a phobia of butter.
In theory it's a solid logic.
But...
As I asked before - how come nobody ever minds meeting bi women?
Surely same logic would apply?
Also if your logic would apply to bedroom activities, anyone could say "I don't like the look of one of your exes, so now you can't play with my partner" (assuming it's a straight mfm scenario).
Now that I'm rambling...
I keep getting amazed by how most straight men assume that if a guy is bi or gay - he's automatically attracted to all men, so they try to stay away from them as God forbid that gay or bi guy will ever try anything with them.
Bi and gay people do have their own types and preferences too.. and very far and few would overstep a boundary of disrespecting someone else's sexuality.
"
It's like everything else on here, it's personal preference. If a guy would prefer not to have a 3 some with a bi guy, it's not a phobia, it's a preference.
There's couples only want to meet women, does that mean they have a man phobia?
Look up the term phobia before you start labelling anyone that has a different opinion that you as phobic. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Correct me if I'm wrong but a phobia is irrational fear of certain encounters imaginary or not. Be it spiders, ghosts, certain actions or even strawberries (yes, some people have a genuine phobia of strawberries!)
Now I still haven't heard a single RATIONAL explanation why and what makes a bi guy so undesirable.
"Just because I said so" isn't a reason.
P.s. not trying to change your mind, you do you, boo, just genuinely want to find out wheres the logic behind this whole thing.
Deep down inside you know and I know that only logic behind it it's because some people find the idea of a man being with a man "icky".
Difference is - if you were so afraid to touch something or someone who touched another man surely you would start with not touching a woman in a first place as it is guaranteed that she touched more men than your any given bi/bi curious guy.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"All I'll say to this is that this website proves my theory that no man is 100% straight. Despite what their profile might say. "
I'd say this attitude, which I've seen a lot of, would be giving people an 'irrational' fear. The 'fab straight' attitude. That some people, whether it be women, gay men or bi men, sees men as bi no matter what their profile states. That you are somewhat un-enlightened cause you haven't tried it, your preference means nothing (although that preference means you've a phobia now apparently) A lot of messages I get on here are from bi men or gay men trying to turn me - if I was in a couple, wanting a mfm, why would I risk inviting someone of thay opinion into my bed?
Why bother putting yourself in that position where it could possibly happen?
And for the record, I'm straight, I'm not in a couple, and my name is not boo |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"All I'll say to this is that this website proves my theory that no man is 100% straight. Despite what their profile might say.
I'd say this attitude, which I've seen a lot of, would be giving people an 'irrational' fear. The 'fab straight' attitude. That some people, whether it be women, gay men or bi men, sees men as bi no matter what their profile states. That you are somewhat un-enlightened cause you haven't tried it, your preference means nothing (although that preference means you've a phobia now apparently) A lot of messages I get on here are from bi men or gay men trying to turn me - if I was in a couple, wanting a mfm, why would I risk inviting someone of thay opinion into my bed?
Why bother putting yourself in that position where it could possibly happen?
And for the record, I'm straight, I'm not in a couple, and my name is not boo"
100% valid point.
But you're talking about the "don't knock it till you try it" type and not about bisexuality in general.
Women get this kind of type of people in their inbox all the time. i.e. "yes, I'm 20 years outside your preferred Age, but don't knock it till you try it", "I want you to use me as a toilet, don't knock it till you try it", you get the gist.
If I decide to meet a guy, who has some fetish I don't agree or participate in - I'll make sure to set my boundaries and let him know what exactly not to do. Obviously if I will agree to meet such person - they'll have to go through personality check first and foremost.
As a single straight guy - yes, there's not a single reason for you to ever meet any bi guys.
I am taking it from a single female and straight couples perspective.
As if you do decide to invite someone to your bed - you'd find out weather a person is going to push their own agenda on you or not way before inviting them as more often than not bi guys are more than happy not to touch a man who doesn't want to be touched.(couples scenario).
Single women who are scared of single bi men (this one baffles me ) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
You’re looking at the wrong profiles .
We love bi guys joining us . In fact we had a great threesome this morning . He topped Kevin and I fucked him with my strap on . I believe he enjoyed himself very much |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You’re looking at the wrong profiles .
We love bi guys joining us . In fact we had a great threesome this morning . He topped Kevin and I fucked him with my strap on . I believe he enjoyed himself very much "
Wow, id love this! So hard for bi single guys to find people like this, or maybe im looking in the wrong places. Ps im in mayo alot hah |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"As a single girl , my preference is for bi guys & I know I'm not alone with that . Obviously, there has to be an attraction there so not gonna meet every bi guy that messages me . Everyone has preferences , bi, straight & everything in between . We all have our own tastes & attactions & we have to respect other peoples , whether we agree with them or not. "
At last a very intelligent person |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
