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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status? "
Not everyone on here attends play parties either
I don't meet attached married guys and I've never attended a party , it's a preference |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status?
Not everyone on here attends play parties either
I don't meet attached married guys and I've never attended a party , it's a preference "
My point was about people that do attend parties each to there own on a one to one basis! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status?
Not everyone on here attends play parties either
I don't meet attached married guys and I've never attended a party , it's a preference
My point was about people that do attend parties each to there own on a one to one basis! "
Your point isn't very clear than |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status? "
Some will play outside of their preferences, some wont.
At a party I guess those that feel strongly about it will still vet who they play with I mean its not like there are 100's of single guys at the parties it wouldnt be too hard to find out who is attatched(at least the hinest ones) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status?
Not everyone on here attends play parties either
I don't meet attached married guys and I've never attended a party , it's a preference
My point was about people that do attend parties each to there own on a one to one basis!
Your point isn't very clear than "
How is it not clear it is the only thing I mentioned, I referenced people who attend parties |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status?
Some will play outside of their preferences, some wont.
At a party I guess those that feel strongly about it will still vet who they play with I mean its not like there are 100's of single guys at the parties it wouldnt be too hard to find out who is attatched(at least the hinest ones)"
Obviously that should read single guys and girls  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status?
Same
Not everyone on here attends play parties either
I don't meet attached married guys and I've never attended a party , it's a preference "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status?
Not everyone on here attends play parties either
I don't meet attached married guys and I've never attended a party , it's a preference
My point was about people that do attend parties each to there own on a one to one basis!
Your point isn't very clear than
How is it not clear it is the only thing I mentioned, I referenced people who attend parties"
Maybe if you said "only people who attend parties" all other opinions not invited or required |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status?
Not everyone on here attends play parties either
I don't meet attached married guys and I've never attended a party , it's a preference
My point was about people that do attend parties each to there own on a one to one basis!
Your point isn't very clear than
How is it not clear it is the only thing I mentioned, I referenced people who attend parties
Maybe if you said "only people who attend parties" all other opinions not invited or required"
Your opinin is very welcome! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would not like to play with someone i knew was cheating, whether that be at a party or elsewhere. Id guess most swinging couples feel the same. "
That's probably very true I suppose its weather the person gives out the info!
And id say there's alot of people on here as couples and one or both are in a relationship with another person and thats a whole other dimension to it |
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I feel like people here are being purposefully obtuse about this.
Am I going to ask for proof that everyone I meet is totally single? No. Obviously not.
I will never knowingly meet an attached person. If I find out during a meet that they are attached then we wont be meeting again.
It's not actually a difficult concept to grasp with a little bit of critical thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel like people here are being purposefully obtuse about this.
Am I going to ask for proof that everyone I meet is totally single? No. Obviously not.
I will never knowingly meet an attached person. If I find out during a meet that they are attached then we wont be meeting again.
It's not actually a difficult concept to grasp with a little bit of critical thinking. "
U won't be meeting again wod u not stop mid meet?? Surely if its a preference that once you know u won't go any further? |
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I've asked folks at parties if they are really REALLY single, or just fab-single. I would almost always confirm this before play. Obviously people can lie, but unless there are indications otherwise then i would take them at their word. |
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"I've asked folks at parties if they are really REALLY single, or just fab-single. I would almost always confirm this before play. Obviously people can lie, but unless there are indications otherwise then i would take them at their word."
I'd say your in the minority, that actually this crosses their mind but fair and honest response
It's the same for men who say on there profile straight and only meet women but you get the
"can I suck your dick"
messages off, so it goes both ways |
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"I've asked folks at parties if they are really REALLY single, or just fab-single. I would almost always confirm this before play. Obviously people can lie, but unless there are indications otherwise then i would take them at their word.
I'd say your in the minority, that actually this crosses their mind but fair and honest response
It's the same for men who say on there profile straight and only meet women but you get the
"can I suck your dick"
messages off, so it goes both ways"
I'm not sure if that's a minority view or not. Even at parties people will often have a good chat before play to figure out compatibility. These questions would be part of that for me, it's as important as physical compatibility. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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My preference is not to meet attached people. I have found out at meet and politely finished my coffee and we parted ways. At a party I would only ask the people I was interested in. If they lie well, then how could one tell. But I have friendly chats with married men here that respect my preferences and we all get on like grown ups.  |
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"I feel like people here are being purposefully obtuse about this.
Am I going to ask for proof that everyone I meet is totally single? No. Obviously not.
I will never knowingly meet an attached person. If I find out during a meet that they are attached then we wont be meeting again.
It's not actually a difficult concept to grasp with a little bit of critical thinking.
U won't be meeting again wod u not stop mid meet?? Surely if its a preference that once you know u won't go any further? "
Well the one time I unknowingly met an attached person he pretended to be single until the end of the meet. Thankfully it never went very far to begin with and after I got home I blocked him and we haven't spoke since.
So you're still the one being obtuse with your black and white thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It honestly doesn’t bother me meeting and knowing he was cheating. I prefer men to be honest from start. At end of day he is still going to cheat so why not if I fancy him? Just my opinion and preference. I find men in relationships less jealous and needy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status? "
I'd definitely say if they state it they mean it ..and I'd say at parties they'd probably only ask those that Interested them or if they were approached by others .. |
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"So I see alot of people on here DON'T MEET ATTACHED people!!!
But I was just wondering, but when it all comes down to it do they really mean it??
Do they go around a play party and ask every single person there status? "
If I'm considering playing with someone at a party I do ask if they're single, yeah. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have it clearly on my profile I don't mind attached people. I have being told to get down off my high horse on my stance about it. It's my choice and I would like people to respect that. Unfortunately some people don't. I found out recently that I had
unknown to myself met a married man. I had grilled him about his relationship status over a three hour coffee the previous week. He knew my stance on the matter. I even walked him to his car and joked he couldn't be married as I didn't see car seats in his car. I was a party recently and his name came up in conversation and the fact he was married. I felt like I had being punched in the stomach. He had totally spun me a number. |
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Personally, I wouldn't play with someone at a party without having met them previously and having already established a rapport. I have had the opposite to your scenario happen though! I was attending a party as a single and was very firmly and pointedly informed by another guest that her husband was not allowed to play with single females. I was quite taken aback really by her assumption that I would want to play with her husband (I didn't) from someone whom I'd had no prior interaction with and who had no idea what my preferences or interests were. As far as she was concerned, I was at the party to entertain whoever wanted to play with me... Whether I was interested never entered her head. |
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