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Suggestions getting over nervousness.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi Guys/ladies,
Been a while sense I posted, anything, on the fourms.
I am just wondering, what gotten people, over there nerves on going to a swingers club!.
Examples;
A Drink before hand!.
Go in with someone, etc...
Form, what I can see its normally single men, who have most of the nerves, lol.
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By *iablo73Couple
over a year ago
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If there's a kik group set up, join it and get chatting then meet for pre drinks you will be made welcome. Introduce yourself to others is also very important, what's the worst that can happen ?
Most of all enjoy yourself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK worse thing that could happen? Let me see, you see your brother there you being F or see your little baby sister there you being big brother, or worse than that you see Mum and dad there, lol  , that's probably the worst thing that could happen. |
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"Hi Guys/ladies,
Been a while sense I posted, anything, on the fourms.
I am just wondering, what gotten people, over there nerves on going to a swingers club!.
Examples;
A Drink before hand!.
Go in with someone, etc...
Form, what I can see its normally single men, who have most of the nerves, lol.
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Attend the meet & greet beforehand so you can chat to people in a more "normal" environment! It's mostly the unknown that causes nerves and once you see the people who will be there and how normal and friendly people are you'll be grand! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
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"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
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A m&g is essentially just a night out. My advice would be to treat it kinda like a night out with work colleagues. You’ll kinda know some of the people there (through the kik group) but you still need to do the whole introducing yourself properly thing. And you don’t want to get d*unk. Tipsy is fine, d*unk is a bad idea.
If you can buddy up with someone else going by themselves that definitely makes it easier. Meet another lad for a pint first before going in together. Some m&g will have pre drinks so you can meet a smaller group of people and go to the m&g venue with them.
It’s scary the first time but it’s not as awkward as you’d imagine! You’ll find someone to chat to and just go from there. Don’t go in expecting to find someone to bring back to your room that night. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll have chatted to people that you may arrange to meet at a later date. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
A m&g is essentially just a night out. My advice would be to treat it kinda like a night out with work colleagues. You’ll kinda know some of the people there (through the kik group) but you still need to do the whole introducing yourself properly thing. And you don’t want to get d*unk. Tipsy is fine, d*unk is a bad idea.
If you can buddy up with someone else going by themselves that definitely makes it easier. Meet another lad for a pint first before going in together. Some m&g will have pre drinks so you can meet a smaller group of people and go to the m&g venue with them.
It’s scary the first time but it’s not as awkward as you’d imagine! You’ll find someone to chat to and just go from there. Don’t go in expecting to find someone to bring back to your room that night. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll have chatted to people that you may arrange to meet at a later date. "
Thanks for your advice, Galway girl. I am a Galway lad myself. |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
A m&g is essentially just a night out. My advice would be to treat it kinda like a night out with work colleagues. You’ll kinda know some of the people there (through the kik group) but you still need to do the whole introducing yourself properly thing. And you don’t want to get d*unk. Tipsy is fine, d*unk is a bad idea.
If you can buddy up with someone else going by themselves that definitely makes it easier. Meet another lad for a pint first before going in together. Some m&g will have pre drinks so you can meet a smaller group of people and go to the m&g venue with them.
It’s scary the first time but it’s not as awkward as you’d imagine! You’ll find someone to chat to and just go from there. Don’t go in expecting to find someone to bring back to your room that night. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll have chatted to people that you may arrange to meet at a later date.
Thanks for your advice, Galway girl. I am a Galway lad myself."
Why do all the hot galway guys leave  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
A m&g is essentially just a night out. My advice would be to treat it kinda like a night out with work colleagues. You’ll kinda know some of the people there (through the kik group) but you still need to do the whole introducing yourself properly thing. And you don’t want to get d*unk. Tipsy is fine, d*unk is a bad idea.
If you can buddy up with someone else going by themselves that definitely makes it easier. Meet another lad for a pint first before going in together. Some m&g will have pre drinks so you can meet a smaller group of people and go to the m&g venue with them.
It’s scary the first time but it’s not as awkward as you’d imagine! You’ll find someone to chat to and just go from there. Don’t go in expecting to find someone to bring back to your room that night. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll have chatted to people that you may arrange to meet at a later date.
Thanks for your advice, Galway girl. I am a Galway lad myself.
Why do all the hot galway guys leave "
Probably because there is no hot ladies from Galway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
A m&g is essentially just a night out. My advice would be to treat it kinda like a night out with work colleagues. You’ll kinda know some of the people there (through the kik group) but you still need to do the whole introducing yourself properly thing. And you don’t want to get d*unk. Tipsy is fine, d*unk is a bad idea.
If you can buddy up with someone else going by themselves that definitely makes it easier. Meet another lad for a pint first before going in together. Some m&g will have pre drinks so you can meet a smaller group of people and go to the m&g venue with them.
It’s scary the first time but it’s not as awkward as you’d imagine! You’ll find someone to chat to and just go from there. Don’t go in expecting to find someone to bring back to your room that night. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll have chatted to people that you may arrange to meet at a later date.
Thanks for your advice, Galway girl. I am a Galway lad myself.
Why do all the hot galway guys leave Probably because there is no hot ladies from Galway. "
You obviously must be blind.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
A m&g is essentially just a night out. My advice would be to treat it kinda like a night out with work colleagues. You’ll kinda know some of the people there (through the kik group) but you still need to do the whole introducing yourself properly thing. And you don’t want to get d*unk. Tipsy is fine, d*unk is a bad idea.
If you can buddy up with someone else going by themselves that definitely makes it easier. Meet another lad for a pint first before going in together. Some m&g will have pre drinks so you can meet a smaller group of people and go to the m&g venue with them.
It’s scary the first time but it’s not as awkward as you’d imagine! You’ll find someone to chat to and just go from there. Don’t go in expecting to find someone to bring back to your room that night. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll have chatted to people that you may arrange to meet at a later date.
Thanks for your advice, Galway girl. I am a Galway lad myself.
Why do all the hot galway guys leave Probably because there is no hot ladies from Galway.
You obviously must be blind.... "
Well I did go to Specsavers once but they said I was perfect in every way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
A m&g is essentially just a night out. My advice would be to treat it kinda like a night out with work colleagues. You’ll kinda know some of the people there (through the kik group) but you still need to do the whole introducing yourself properly thing. And you don’t want to get d*unk. Tipsy is fine, d*unk is a bad idea.
If you can buddy up with someone else going by themselves that definitely makes it easier. Meet another lad for a pint first before going in together. Some m&g will have pre drinks so you can meet a smaller group of people and go to the m&g venue with them.
It’s scary the first time but it’s not as awkward as you’d imagine! You’ll find someone to chat to and just go from there. Don’t go in expecting to find someone to bring back to your room that night. If it happens, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll have chatted to people that you may arrange to meet at a later date.
Thanks for your advice, Galway girl. I am a Galway lad myself.
Why do all the hot galway guys leave Probably because there is no hot ladies from Galway.
You obviously must be blind.... Well I did go to Specsavers once but they said I was perfect in every way."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Guys/ladies,
Been a while sense I posted, anything, on the fourms.
I am just wondering, what gotten people, over there nerves on going to a swingers club!.
Examples;
A Drink before hand!.
Go in with someone, etc...
Form, what I can see its normally single men, who have most of the nerves, lol.
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I've attended 2 parties , entered both on my own ,..deep breath and in the door,..nervous as hell but twas either do that or turn around .. |
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"Yea, I have not fully explored the "swinging", scene in Ireland, as I live in England, at this current monent.
Yah, I been put off going, because of nerves.
I think you pre imagine what's its going to be like, when in reality
it's completely different.
Problay this question is tailored towards, the people who have been, and what they did on there first m&g, etc.
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You might actually be better off posting in the Lounge or one of the UK forums OP, as the club scene in Ireland is vastly different to that of the UK (to the point of almost being incomparable), and with a few exceptions, advice given here is likely to only be based on Irish club experience. If I've misunderstood your comment, and it's specifically advice on Irish clubs you are looking for, I apologise... But if not, you're more likely to get more relevant advice on the other Forums. Good luck OP   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think the kik groups are good to get ya over rhe nervors I don't think drink is the answer as u drink too much and wont enjoy it . "
Totally agree.
kik groups for an event can be great icebreakers.
I'd definitely keep the alcohol levels low for your own enjoyment and other's. Trying to have a chat with someone who's overly d*unk isn't great, let alone arrange any kind of fun with them.
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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago
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Why can't I, help but, read the OPs posts, in a Stephan hawking's voice? .
Beisdes that.
Just go to a meet and greet and you'll be grand. Nerves will never go away no matter how many parties or events you've been to.
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"have a good wank (helps with stress) "
I'd say that's what most guys do. Then they don't need to show up because they are sorted, hence the low turn out of single invited men to the socials, so don't do that. 3 hours later you will be kicking yourself |
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