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Advice on vanilla dating sites.... which one is best

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi everyone, i hope you can give me some helpful advice. I joined fab after a long term relationship break up, and I had some fun. But now i think it is time to look for a relationship again, and i am wondering which dating site is best ? Ideally i would like to meet some i click with, possibly marry / kids/ house together..... the usual vanilla life lol. I would really appreciate you advice. Thanks

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By *evil_u_knowMan over a year ago

city

I'm not sure if we can post, but when it comes down to finding a proper match they are all the same.

Some you might get more message but that does not mean finding a match quicker, some less active but that does not equal a smaller chance. I think overall they even out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know a couple who met on POF getting married this week. Know people who met on here and happy out, don't think it matters where you meet them, if it's meant to be it will be.

Best of luck op

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bumble is quite good and POF

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was recognized a few times on Bumble. They were kind of hinting they could skip the dinner and drinks and get come straight over to my house because I am on a swinging site. God I do like to go on a proper date occasionally!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks Rosy and RG, i am going to be busy lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had that with POF from a blank guys profile,it was creepy and than he wanted to meet but wouldn't share a pic.

Would love a proper date it's been years

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Back in a day when I was on pof if was quite a regular occurrence when some random faceless profile would just keep saying "sorry, I've no photos of myself, but please meet me".

Genuinely don't get it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There are a lot if creeps out there

no pic equals married or axe murderer lol

Its been so long since I dated.... it's scaring me ... i am bricking it.

What to talk about.... awkward silence.... rejection ????????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are a lot if creeps out there

no pic equals married or axe murderer lol

Its been so long since I dated.... it's scaring me ... i am bricking it.

What to talk about.... awkward silence.... rejection ????????

Well don't talk about Fab as most will run

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lol..... definitely won't mention fab lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was recognized a few times on Bumble. They were kind of hinting they could skip the dinner and drinks and get come straight over to my house because I am on a swinging site. God I do like to go on a proper date occasionally!"
Ye I think this is gas from guys . Just cause ur on here does that not mean we would like to date and settle down.a lot of guys seem to think were not good enuf to date.

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By *oupleuncutCouple over a year ago

dun laoghaire

I met my better half on plenty of fish and what a catch I got

. The only advice I would give you is to meet them quickly so you don't waste your time and energy texting back and forth, only for there to be no spark...even if it's just for a coffee and chat. Best of luck op, there are some great people out there but you have to kiss a few frogs first x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah dude, here, any other site, through work, through a friend, or even just some randomer you might meet on a night out.

It's all the same, hard work to find the right one for you but once you do, it's great.

I say just try all avenues, best way to find someone I think, better chance the more avenues you put yourself out on.

Good luck Buddy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pick something from their profile try use that as a starting point put some recent pics up of yourself too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for all the replays

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

"There are a lot if creeps out there

no pic equals married or axe murderer lol

Its been so long since I dated.... it's scaring me ... i am bricking it.

What to talk about.... awkward silence.... rejection ????????

Well don't talk about Fab as most will run

I went on an OkCupid date, mentioned Fab. It certainly has been since!

It depends on what you want and why you were on Fab. If you were/ are here for anything more than uncomplicated sex, in a (I hate this term but) vanilla way then you probably should, as I guess you haven’t grown out of those desires and interests.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman over a year ago

Bangor

"Back in a day when I was on pof if was quite a regular occurrence when some random faceless profile would just keep saying "sorry, I've no photos of myself, but please meet me".

Genuinely don't get it

I remember you on pof

But as for where to meet, you may just have a much luck here as anywhere. I think everywhere is similar tbh.

I know people who have had more success on pof for ONS & FWB than here. And i know people who met people on here now in relationships (me) .

The one thing to remember is the ratio of guys to girls is just as high everywhere so possibly have the same problems elsewhere as guys have on here.

But good luck with your search OP XX

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the advice everyone..... i am just putting together my profile lol. Pof tinder and elite single..... sure what could go wrong

Will it be a case of " this time next year" davina style or " this time next year" only fools and horses lol

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

"Back in a day when I was on pof if was quite a regular occurrence when some random faceless profile would just keep saying "sorry, I've no photos of myself, but please meet me".

Genuinely don't get it

I remember you on pof

But as for where to meet, you may just have a much luck here as anywhere. I think everywhere is similar tbh.

I know people who have had more success on pof for ONS & FWB than here. And i know people who met people on here now in relationships (me) .

The one thing to remember is the ratio of guys to girls is just as high everywhere so possibly have the same problems elsewhere as guys have on here.

But good luck with your search OP XX "

The ratio of women to men on the mainstream dating sites is not nearly as low as it is on here. Even I can get a date via Tinder!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tinder is the most common. And probably the least amount of cat fishing and messers.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman over a year ago

Bangor

"Back in a day when I was on pof if was quite a regular occurrence when some random faceless profile would just keep saying "sorry, I've no photos of myself, but please meet me".

Genuinely don't get it

I remember you on pof

But as for where to meet, you may just have a much luck here as anywhere. I think everywhere is similar tbh.

I know people who have had more success on pof for ONS & FWB than here. And i know people who met people on here now in relationships (me) .

The one thing to remember is the ratio of guys to girls is just as high everywhere so possibly have the same problems elsewhere as guys have on here.

But good luck with your search OP XX

The ratio of women to men on the mainstream dating sites is not nearly as low as it is on here. Even I can get a date via Tinder! "

I was on pof a whole two days, its worse than here!

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman over a year ago

Magical Forrest

To be honest I've had no luck on any sites...

Been recognised as well which wasnt great...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest I've had no luck on any sites...

Been recognised as well which wasnt great... "

I rejoined tinder a week or so ago. Matched twice - unmatched when I wouldn't give my phone number and think I didn't reply to the 2nd guy quick enough.

Here is actually easier lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not tried any in years.i dont date

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

A few of my friends met their (now) husbands or long-term partners on PoF. Most of them were on multiple dating sites, but PoF seems to have been the one that worked for them

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By *reddieRaeCouple over a year ago

Banbridge

Rae tracked me down and pursued me endlessly on PoF until she had me. 10 years, 2 kids later... 3

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

UPDATE

PoF .....3 proper chats going.....one may go somewhere

BADOO..... 2 Proper chats ...and one may turn out good

Tinder.... one chat....still waiting for tinder to come alive

Koort me..... its seems to be crap

Lisdoonvarna here i come lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"UPDATE

PoF .....3 proper chats going.....one may go somewhere

BADOO..... 2 Proper chats ...and one may turn out good

Tinder.... one chat....still waiting for tinder to come alive

Koort me..... its seems to be crap

Lisdoonvarna here i come lol

Go tom

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks steph ..... every time i check fab and see that you are only 4 miles away from me i question....am i doing the right thing giving up fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks steph ..... every time i check fab and see that you are only 4 miles away from me i question....am i doing the right thing giving up fab

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I recently had a guy tell me he recognised me from Tagged, which I haven't used in about ten years? It was pretty fucking creepy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"UPDATE

PoF .....3 proper chats going.....one may go somewhere

BADOO..... 2 Proper chats ...and one may turn out good

Tinder.... one chat....still waiting for tinder to come alive

Koort me..... its seems to be crap

Lisdoonvarna here i come lol

Brillant!

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman over a year ago

Dublin

I use a few different apps and they all seem to be the same in terms of guys only being interested in casual sex / "fun" / "just out of a relationship" / "not looking for anything serious" (with me at least - fat girl problems probably!)

My impression is that if you are a guy and serious about dating and meeting someone you should have few issues meeting women who are on the same page.

Personally I think if you're in that mindset, you can meet someone anywhere, even Fab - it doesn't matter as long as both people want the same thing.

My advice is pull the trigger quickly and ask her out within a few days of starting to chat - if it drags out any longer it rarely goes anywhere!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks sweet _soft and sexy yes i am getting that vib .... 4 to 5 days chatting ....its time to meet for a face to face coffee/dinner/walk or else they want a pen pal not someone to share time with. Thats for the advice x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was recognized a few times on Bumble. They were kind of hinting they could skip the dinner and drinks and get come straight over to my house because I am on a swinging site. God I do like to go on a proper date occasionally!"
Got that yest and the guy of pof says sure I'm on fab u cant be on both . Why not . Says same guy that was on both too.

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