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Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ... |
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over a year ago
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This would be totally ideal for anyone but it's that ol chestnut of being worried one side might develop feelings especially when it's a little more than sex.
I think though easily enough worked out, if you say from the start...that if feelings begin to stir, it must be said because if the other party doesn't feel that way then unfortunately I think it would have to come to an end, so people don't get hurt.
That's the long answer
Short answer is yes..... |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ..."
I would be very interested in this concept and you have put into words something that I have thought about quite a bit. |
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Yes, that's why I prefer repeat meets. It becomes a relationship of sorts, chatting,coffee,lunch,and massages. I'm going to change my profile to reflect my new desires, as repeat meets with a friend are so much more satisfying than a series of one off meets. |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ..."
They are probably here but in the minority. Guys are usually the non shampoo equivalent of “Wash & Go”.
And youre asking for some sort of emotional depth too from the male of the species. Are you crazy..?  |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ..."
I personally wouldn’t want it, I would want to meet someone regularly but not on these terms. Just my preference but I am sure they are people that would. |
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Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...” |
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Sounds perfectly acceptable sex is fun but it's better when you have a connection with the person therefore you will be comfortable around them and you get a friend out of it to go adventure with plus you won't be on your own going to parties sounds fun |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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People meet and pair up here all the time. Feelings are not a problem it's how you manage them that can cause issues. If both parties engage in open and honest comunication then issues arising can be addressed and resolved. You just to be grown ups.  |
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I was in a situation like this a couple of years ago. And I ended up catching the feels. I knew for a fact I couldn't handle a relationship & he wasn't looking for one so it was quite confusing for me. Luckily, because we had built up that bond, I was able to tell him straight out where my head was at and we stopped seeing each other for my sanitys sake! So I think it is perfectly acceptable to look for something like that, provided you can talk about & come to a solution on the back of one person catching the feels |
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Your point O P is a good one, personally I would embrace an opportunity such as you outline. I'm recently divorced and moved to Spain after 22 years of marriage. I now live alone and am building a new life but do miss the company of a lady so your outline would certainly appeal to me! |
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over a year ago
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I have done it was meeting her for about a year an half wasn't a closed sort of relationship but we done the exact same thing that you would normally do in an relationship. Just the doors where kinda open if you know what I mean |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...”"
Surely the potential pay off is better than the danger... ya know when both people think awww this is nice |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...”
Surely the potential pay off is better than the danger... ya know when both people think awww this is nice"
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"Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...”"
Couldn't say it better! |
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"Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...”
Couldn't say it better!"
Been there twice and this exactly, you also share personal stuff and end up knowing everything about each other even family related things, it gets really personal really quickly and once you go there turning back only ends 1 way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Definitely can work if both parties are open and honest. Was in similar situation recently but unfortunately the person turned out to be a compulsive liar. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...”
Couldn't say it better!
Been there twice and this exactly, you also share personal stuff and end up knowing everything about each other even family related things, it gets really personal really quickly and once you go there turning back only ends 1 way "
Obviously it doesn't if people have met and formed relationships on here. It goes bad if both parties are not on the same page and not being honest with each other but if you're grown ups about it shouldn't have end badly. |
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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago
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I remember dating this girl who was beautiful, sexy, confident and great fun to be with and yes the sex was awesome. But I didn't love her, and was fairly up front about telling her. I was happy to continue the relationship as long as she was. A year later she dumped me fast forward a few years is now happily married with kids. I couldn't be more happier for her. |
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"Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...”
Couldn't say it better!
Been there twice and this exactly, you also share personal stuff and end up knowing everything about each other even family related things, it gets really personal really quickly and once you go there turning back only ends 1 way "
Have to agree.
Spending time in the company of someone you like enough to fuck, can lead to emotional entanglement.
If both parties are aware of the other also being with others, then it's less of a problem, in my experience.
Still risky and any emotions should be discussed openly, so both parties are aware and can deal with accordingly
This is from experience, not supposition. |
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It happens, and especially with people into kink as trust is required. Hard to give control to a person they don't know or trust.
I've had friends who have become FB and FWB over the years then back to just friends. But have also lost friends when feelings had developed and weren't reciprocated. That all comes down to the strength of the friendship.
Sex is always better when it's repeat meets as you discover more about the person and their body, what turns them on and each little sweet spot. Which cannot be done on a single meet.
Plus it's always nice to be able to socialize with them rather than have that awkwardness at times. I've gone to FWB birthdays, gone over and done bits of DIY for them around the house, and have even gone out for drinks and meals together.
Once both people know where they stand it can work, and yes an emotional connection can and will be formed but I don't see that as a negative, as that mental bond and knowing each other's likes and dislikes, just leads to more mind blowing sex. |
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"It happens, and especially with people into kink as trust is required. Hard to give control to a person they don't know or trust.
I've had friends who have become FB and FWB over the years then back to just friends. But have also lost friends when feelings had developed and weren't reciprocated. That all comes down to the strength of the friendship.
Sex is always better when it's repeat meets as you discover more about the person and their body, what turns them on and each little sweet spot. Which cannot be done on a single meet.
Plus it's always nice to be able to socialize with them rather than have that awkwardness at times. I've gone to FWB birthdays, gone over and done bits of DIY for them around the house, and have even gone out for drinks and meals together.
Once both people know where they stand it can work, and yes an emotional connection can and will be formed but I don't see that as a negative, as that mental bond and knowing each other's likes and dislikes, just leads to more mind blowing sex. "
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ...
They are probably here but in the minority. Guys are usually the non shampoo equivalent of “Wash & Go”.
And youre asking for some sort of emotional depth too from the male of the species. Are you crazy..? "
Stranger things have happened lol |
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"It happens, and especially with people into kink as trust is required. Hard to give control to a person they don't know or trust.
I've had friends who have become FB and FWB over the years then back to just friends. But have also lost friends when feelings had developed and weren't reciprocated. That all comes down to the strength of the friendship.
Sex is always better when it's repeat meets as you discover more about the person and their body, what turns them on and each little sweet spot. Which cannot be done on a single meet.
Plus it's always nice to be able to socialize with them rather than have that awkwardness at times. I've gone to FWB birthdays, gone over and done bits of DIY for them around the house, and have even gone out for drinks and meals together.
Once both people know where they stand it can work, and yes an emotional connection can and will be formed but I don't see that as a negative, as that mental bond and knowing each other's likes and dislikes, just leads to more mind blowing sex. "
Yep this I want lol especially the diy stuff |
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"It happens, and especially with people into kink as trust is required. Hard to give control to a person they don't know or trust.
I've had friends who have become FB and FWB over the years then back to just friends. But have also lost friends when feelings had developed and weren't reciprocated. That all comes down to the strength of the friendship.
Sex is always better when it's repeat meets as you discover more about the person and their body, what turns them on and each little sweet spot. Which cannot be done on a single meet.
Plus it's always nice to be able to socialize with them rather than have that awkwardness at times. I've gone to FWB birthdays, gone over and done bits of DIY for them around the house, and have even gone out for drinks and meals together.
Once both people know where they stand it can work, and yes an emotional connection can and will be formed but I don't see that as a negative, as that mental bond and knowing each other's likes and dislikes, just leads to more mind blowing sex.
Yep this I want lol especially the diy stuff "
I'm good at screwing and banging stuff against the wall.   |
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There is no reason why such an arrangement can't work.
My current partner and I had that kind of arrangement for 13 years.
Sometimes we would just hang out and watch TV or listen to music whilst having drinks, and nothing more. Sometimes we would cuddle. Sometimes we would have sex. Sometimes we would go on nights out or to a friend's barbeque or whatever but neither of us ever wanted more.
There is no reason why such arrangements can't work so long as both persons are honest with one another from the offset. |
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Of course it can work if both parties are honest, communicate openly and treat each other with respect...funny how people don't seem to make the connection that these are the fundamentals of any good relationship - whatever label you want to stick on it. |
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It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship. |
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship."
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't. |
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship.
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't."
Terminology could be your issue. “Cuddle and Spoon” sounds like “Egg and spoon”, so maybe when you suggest it the woman is thinking youre all energised and want to do some sort of race while they just want to relax after sex.
Maybe just suggest one at a time and see how it goes. |
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Last time I asked a girl if she wanted a cuddle she just got up and ran off and said "Ill find some lube, let me sit on your dick before you leave"..
the one before that laughed at me.
Then I said "should I leave?" and still laughing she started to nod and then said "ummmm yeah"
Women are ruthless at treating me like a bit of meat. |
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship.
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't.
Terminology could be your issue. “Cuddle and Spoon” sounds like “Egg and spoon”, so maybe when you suggest it the woman is thinking youre all energised and want to do some sort of race while they just want to relax after sex.
Maybe just suggest one at a time and see how it goes. "
Well Cuddle or spooning. I was replying to the comment above mine which stated men don't want to do these things. But cool take it up like you like  |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ..."
wish I could fine a guy who interested in this myself |
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By *anhoeMan
over a year ago
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship."
I'd prefer a bowl of soup to a cuddle if it were on offer tbh...!
Having said that however, my next relationship will be with a swinger.
Can't be dealing with all this monogamous lark which is assosciated with 'regular relationships tbh...
Too restrictive..
Will only marry a swinger...
single line please ladies..no pushin'!!
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"Folks, its a dangerous road to go down.
When you spend more time with someone of the opposite sex that you like and are attracted to, feelings are inevitable.
Boundaries are set with FWB or FB, but starting to spend prolonged time together? The biggest concern would be if one starts to have feelings and the other doesn't. And that rarely ends well.
Not saying its impossible, just that its extremely difficult to carry off successfully because then you have branched in to doing “real life” couple stuff, and you start to think “Awww this is nice...”"
Best answer so far haha! |
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship.
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't."
That could be true but I wouldn't really know |
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship.
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't.
That could be true but I wouldn't really know "
I'll be down in an hour.  |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ..."
OP, it happens but rare. Lucky person who's in this kind of relationship
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ...
OP, it happens but rare. Lucky person who's in this kind of relationship
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Which one is the lucky one? |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ...
OP, it happens but rare. Lucky person who's in this kind of relationship
Which one is the lucky one?"
Both?  |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ...
OP, it happens but rare. Lucky person who's in this kind of relationship
Which one is the lucky one?
Both? "
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By *amsuzieCouple
over a year ago
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We have had this with a number of couples in the past, two couples we met on holiday and have become long term friends with a bit of fun as well, the third couple was closer to home, however due to medical reasons they do not play anymore but have remained friends.
It can workout so long as it’s not taken seriously
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship.
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't.
That could be true but I wouldn't really know
I'll be down in an hour. "
Did you get lost? |
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"Not a full on relationship but a loose one. No love feelings just a respect for each other. To spend the odd weekend away and see & do things together. Fyi ... sex is a given.
Is there any men on this interested in the concept or is it just sex your after? Yes I know it's a sex site but I feel Fab caters for all.
Any thoughts ..."
Yes this could work. If only more were open to it and honest about seeking it. |
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship.
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't.
That could be true but I wouldn't really know
I'll be down in an hour.
Did you get lost?"
Yup walking the quays got distracted by the longboat. |
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"It's hard enough to find a guy that will stick around for a cuddle after sex lol. I'd to meet someone regularly with no boundaries as such but no expectations towards a relationship.
Same could be said about women. Not all women like to cuddle.
I love a good cuddle and spoon afterwards, but some women don't.
That could be true but I wouldn't really know
I'll be down in an hour.
Did you get lost?
Yup walking the quays got distracted by the longboat. "
It's okay I found someone else. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"We have had this with a number of couples in the past, two couples we met on holiday and have become long term friends with a bit of fun as well, the third couple was closer to home, however due to medical reasons they do not play anymore but have remained friends.
It can workout so long as it’s not taken seriously
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