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Who here has been affected by someone taking their own lifes
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" You don't need to save people, you just need to be able to look yourself in the mirror and know you were decent to them." Probably one of the most selfish things I've read on the fourms in a long time. | |||
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" You don't need to save people, you just need to be able to look yourself in the mirror and know you were decent to them. Probably one of the most selfish things I've read on the fourms in a long time. "I don't think he meant it in a bad way. I think he just means that we can't beat ourselves up about not saving someone because at the end of the day no matter what we do if that person makes the choice to end their life and are adamant about it, and determined, then there is nothing we can do to stop it but we can reflect on our relationship with that person and take comfort in knowing that we had good relationship with them and did our best by them even if we know it wasn't enough to stop them going through with their decision. | |||
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"Thanks to everyone for the kind words and empathy shown. Of course to all of ye affected please accept my condolence too. I am in the process of getting some help. I'm here to share the burden with any of ye too. Take care of yourselves. I hope, maybe we can all combine and try to make a difference. A support group or something. This has become an epidemic. " Glad to hear you're getting help. I've been to a dark place. Learned the hard way not to leave it to long and bottle everything up. Anyways if you need to talk drop myself or anyone of the others who offered a mail. We maybe strangers but you're not alone. | |||
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"Hey man. First, I'm so so sorry for your loss. Words from a stranger don't mean much, I know, but that's just the start. Give me a shout man. I've lost two close people in the last two years. My best friend and my older brother. I'm still going through the grieving journey. So just in case, you don't text me, I'll give you my 2c. 1. Open up. As men, we are way too closed off. Telling your friends, family, that you're not okay, takes strength. Me personally, I had to be the rock for my family, and forgot about myself. I ended up opening up on Facebook and loads of people reached out. And that helped. 2. Hit the gym, workout. There's something about physical exercise that's therapeutic and it releases serotonin (the chemical in your brain that makes you happy). When you're depressed, going through a bad time, your brain doesn't produce enough, and exercise fucking helps. 3. Meet up with a friend, talk about it. And if you don't have one of those, if you're in Dublin, give me a shout or I'll give you my personal number and we can chat. 4. You're not a robot. I said you're not a robot. It's okay, to not be okay. It's okay, to one day, feel like you've moved on to the acceptance stage of grieving. Then 10 minutes later, feel like crying, because you'll never hear that person's voice again (that was my trigger, at work one day, where my big tough ass, went into the bathroom stall and just cried for 20 minutes. 5. See a counselor. I felt ashamed when I first went. I felt like I was going for an STD test and everyone was judging me. Then my other brother told me, dude, you're not going to come out of there a worse person. I'm not familiar with Pieta house but having looked them up, give them a call. And, I'm absolutely 100% here for you dude. I'm not being polite. I mean, I would drop everything and come meet, speak and listen to you. It gets better, slowly. And you have setbacks. And that's okay. Sincerest and heartfelt regards!" | |||
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"Never understood why anyone would kill themselves..ive been through some crazy shite in my life and im still here breathing away and have no plans on doing away with myself..weak people kill themselves "...and the donkey of the day award goes to you Sir. Congratulations, I'm sure your mother's proud of you for winning such a prestigious award. Been through some shit in your life have ya? Did these things go on for a couple of weeks, than settle down again? The thing is most that feel suicidal have been dealing what is making them feel like that for a long time and its worn them down. Next time you're in the gym or just have some time on your hands. Try picking up a weight. Say about 3kg (nice and light) and hold it with a straight arm, straight out in front of you. You will probably be able to do this easy enough as you are healthy and strong, without any problem and it seems fine and not hard to deal with at all because you are not weak and only weak people could not do this. But keep it there,see how long it takes for the pain to set in and you start to squirm with the burn in your arm before finally you drop the weight as you can't take it anymore....but just remember only weak people could not hold that small weight out in front of themselves. That's kinda what it's like for people that suffer with their mental health. | |||
"Never understood why anyone would kill themselves..ive been through some crazy shite in my life and im still here breathing away and have no plans on doing away with myself..weak people kill themselves "The truth is, we will never know what that level of darkness (I wasn't sure what word to use there tbh) or how a person that commits suicide is feeling because that goes with them. Calling someone weak because they commit suicide well, it seems a bit ignorant. We have all been through shite times at one point or another in our lives. And we should give ourselves a pat on the back for coming out the other side. | |||
"Im taking care of this young lady who would be at the end of as rope but only for me. She is very hard work but if i found her dead i dont think i could ever cope . It must be the wordt nitemare ever . ." It must be hard. Good on you for being there for her xx | |||
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"I'm lost my son to sicide three years ago this month..it'hard to deal with all we can do is take it one day at a time.. " im soo sorry to hear that _oglady I’ve lost my best pal 3 years ago too gets worse every year hope your ok | |||
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"Never understood why anyone would kill themselves..ive been through some crazy shite in my life and im still here breathing away and have no plans on doing away with myself..weak people kill themselves
...and the donkey of the day award goes to you Sir. Congratulations, I'm sure your mother's proud of you for winning such a prestigious award.
Been through some shit in your life have ya? Did these things go on for a couple of weeks, than settle down again?
The thing is most that feel suicidal have been dealing what is making them feel like that for a long time and its worn them down.
Next time you're in the gym or just have some time on your hands. Try picking up a weight. Say about 3kg (nice and light) and hold it with a straight arm, straight out in front of you. You will probably be able to do this easy enough as you are healthy and strong, without any problem and it seems fine and not hard to deal with at all because you are not weak and only weak people could not do this. But keep it there,see how long it takes for the pain to set in and you start to squirm with the burn in your arm before finally you drop the weight as you can't take it anymore....but just remember only weak people could not hold that small weight out in front of themselves.
That's kinda what it's like for people that suffer with their mental health.
"I deal with my past every minute every hour every day..there is no escape its on my mind all the time but I'd never let it wear me down..its made me stronger and I can safely say I'll never kill myself..now I wont stoop to your level and throw personal insults not my style at all lad ..have a nice day | |||
"Never understood why anyone would kill themselves..ive been through some crazy shite in my life and im still here breathing away and have no plans on doing away with myself..weak people kill themselves
...and the donkey of the day award goes to you Sir. Congratulations, I'm sure your mother's proud of you for winning such a prestigious award.
Been through some shit in your life have ya? Did these things go on for a couple of weeks, than settle down again?
The thing is most that feel suicidal have been dealing what is making them feel like that for a long time and its worn them down.
Next time you're in the gym or just have some time on your hands. Try picking up a weight. Say about 3kg (nice and light) and hold it with a straight arm, straight out in front of you. You will probably be able to do this easy enough as you are healthy and strong, without any problem and it seems fine and not hard to deal with at all because you are not weak and only weak people could not do this. But keep it there,see how long it takes for the pain to set in and you start to squirm with the burn in your arm before finally you drop the weight as you can't take it anymore....but just remember only weak people could not hold that small weight out in front of themselves.
That's kinda what it's like for people that suffer with their mental health.
"post of the week , just spot on !! | |||
"I donated all his organs and they were all used so that helps me cause in my mind his just off on a new adventure with these people who received them. It might sound silly but it has helped me deal with it.." that was such a great thing to do your son has saved some ones life and so have you by making that decision | |||
"I donated all his organs and they were all used so that helps me cause in my mind his just off on a new adventure with these people who received them. It might sound silly but it has helped me deal with it.." That was a very kind, generous and important thing to do. I think your adventure idea is spot on....a very positive thought. | |||
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"Never understood why anyone would kill themselves..ive been through some crazy shite in my life and im still here breathing away and have no plans on doing away with myself..weak people kill themselves "Sensitive topic, dangerous and unhelp comment and I've reported you. | |||
"Never understood why anyone would kill themselves..ive been through some crazy shite in my life and im still here breathing away and have no plans on doing away with myself..weak people kill themselves "Sensitive topic, dangerous and unhelp comment and I've reported you. | |||
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