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Do your friends know you swing?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Interested to see if many have told friends about swinging? I’ve told a few close female friends of mine and all have been curious none joined her but full of questions |
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A few friends know. One joined but she has left again since. Another couple are contemplating joining. My girlfriend knows I have an account here and is open to dipping her toes in sometime in the future.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh l would never ever discuss my private life with anyone..l'm a firm believer in " loose lips sink ships ".. all you need is just one person to fall out with you over maybe something silly or stupid and who knows who they will tell or what they will tell so l play all my cards extremely close to my chest which of course means anyone that l meet ,if l'm lucky too,that their privacy and discretion are extremely paramount to me... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That makes sense. Haven’t shown any of them the site and certainly wouldn’t give any details of meets, a value discretion and everyone has the right to maintain it |
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What's the difference between being a swinger and a one night stand...?
I'm sure a lot have been there in that a night out finishes with unexpected bonus.. An instant attraction and desire on both parts that the night continues for as long as possible.
Unless swinging to define it as interaction between a single and a couple... Or a couple who are open enough for each other to play separately..
So are singles that interact with singles not swingers but uses the Internet for hook ups without the bother of going out on the pull or to be pulled..
Food for thought.. |
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A few yes, but it was down to a tabloid report years ago that published our profile photo at the time that was on a verification for another couple.
Not a good time but we learned from it.
EireCpl x |
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Of course they know.
They dont know the name of one person I have had sex with, but they know I get up to it, they know they am sexually active. I think most would be shocked how little I have sex tbh more than I am kinky. |
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"Tbh l would never ever discuss my private life with anyone..l'm a firm believer in " loose lips sink ships ".. all you need is just one person to fall out with you over maybe something silly or stupid and who knows who they will tell or what they will tell so l play all my cards extremely close to my chest which of course means anyone that l meet ,if l'm lucky too,that their privacy and discretion are extremely paramount to me..."
You hit the nail in the head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A few yes, but it was down to a tabloid report years ago that published our profile photo at the time that was on a verification for another couple.
Not a good time but we learned from it.
EireCpl x"
Wow that's scary that they could publish things like that without your consent, I hope your stronger as a result |
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"A few yes, but it was down to a tabloid report years ago that published our profile photo at the time that was on a verification for another couple.
Not a good time but we learned from it.
EireCpl x
Wow that's scary that they could publish things like that without your consent, I hope your stronger as a result "
We're a lot more careful. Our rules stem from this experience.
We did take legal advice at the time and we were told that we could pursue on the rights of privacy, but were asked did we really need to draw that attention on ourselves, it was a catch22 situation, as we were told the story died away in time but you'd always wonder if people are still judging you.
EireCpl
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My closest friends know. They don't get (or want!) the details but they've a vague idea what I get up to. Some of them I've used as safety checks in the past, either here or for meets from another site. But then I've been lucky enough to make a ton of sex/kink positive friends, some of whom I've met here anyway. |
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"No definitely not.
We socialise with some fab couples so it could possibly compromise them too if we were seen out together. "
This is a factor that mot many people think about, the association aspect. I also have this worry with the kink community and people who are very open with their identity in BDSM. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh l would never ever discuss my private life with anyone..l'm a firm believer in " loose lips sink ships ".. all you need is just one person to fall out with you over maybe something silly or stupid and who knows who they will tell or what they will tell so l play all my cards extremely close to my chest which of course means anyone that l meet ,if l'm lucky too,that their privacy and discretion are extremely paramount to me..."
Exactly what he said.
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Well I could say exactly the opposite.
How can I trust someone who does not trust their friends or family? How can I trust someone who hides risky behavior from people? How can I trust someone who would be too paranoid to sit beside someone in a vanilla venue? Are they discreet or afraid?
It's a well known fact that in the gay world, people still in the closet are the highest risk. |
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No way would we ever disclose what we get up to with our friends. We value discretion big time and it just takes one person to tell another and before you know it everyone in the locality would know your business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All my family and friends know and I never denied it. I don't tell them anything about it and my reply is if there really interested they join and find out themself. But I do tell someone where I am going just in case things go sour. |
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None that I've told directly in recent years but I've bumped into numerous friends of friends at parties. And then the one time the silly b*tch putted me to friend to "really confirm that was me" in the picture. I me a why on earth would you do that? But she's never mentioned it
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"My best friend knows as she was the one to suggest fab to me but that is all no one else knows.
Has she seen your pictures?"
Ye she has even the private ones. She's my best mate. Has been for over 25 years. My pics are pretty tame anyhow. Why. |
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I know I'm the outlier here, but pretty much everyone who knows me knows about my sexuality. I don't announce it without solicitation - I'm not confrontational about it - but when conversations naturally come up, I chime in - even as a professor/instructor, I let my students know I am a bi-sexual, non-monogamous woman - I don't usually tell them I'm a submissive but that just seems like TMI.
I do this with purpose. As I write on my website, the heterosexual closet is now bigger and darker than the homosexual one. And while I don't want the vanilla crowd coming into that closet, I don't like seeing how easy it is to frighten my closet mates who have children and jobs they fear finding out.
I'm odd in that I'm divorced (after a very successful open marriage about which we didn't hide) and I don't have children or a work in an industry that cares or would limit my sexuality. I hate that anyone lives in fear of their sexuality, and I really want to change that - especially where shame is involved. I have had a couple of men allude to 'outing' me to my employers - to which I responded that I would give them my employer's phone number.
If there are two things I could wipe off the planet, they would be shame and jealousy (I'd replace them with patience and generosity). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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think Dee's bestie knows from when she was a single on here as she was her safe call on meets.
one of my friends knows as she wondered why my phone was always hopping when i was here as a single male years ago. |
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