I find it very interesting that this person chooses not to disclose that they are a trans woman right away. I can understand that there can be some safety issues in doing this but a quick text before the date would allow the oppertunity for the person to say nope, this isn’t for me and save themselves the time/money/effort.

A lot of men and women do not want to date a trans person or a bi person, I know one girl who refuses to date religious people and I respect every person’s right to decide on this, it’s not a judgment, it’s a preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What exactly does this meaning stand for trans? I am so confused reading this post. But op you are a amazing looking young lady.. very high class well done

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By *evil_u_knowMan over a year ago

city

Just treat them like you would a woman.

I dont think how I treat women is good enough for trans girls though. Mainly because I am the type of person if I see a man and a woman kissing in public i face palm and mutter about them getting a room, and romantic for me is letting the woman walk beside me, none of this holding my hand or kissing me nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it very interesting that this person chooses not to disclose that they are a trans woman right away. I can understand that there can be some safety issues in doing this but a quick text before the date would allow the oppertunity for the person to say nope, this isn’t for me and save themselves the time/money/effort.

Yeah everyone has their preferences ..... women on here don’t want to meet a man with a cock pic on their profile , or if they are not completely shaved, or if they are bi or if they don’t have a full head of hair or if they are under 5’10 or if they are attached or if they are not “fit” , or if they have too many veris or if they don’t have enough veris or if they are a smoker or believe it or not if they are Scottish !! or if during conversation on here you describe yourself as tall and sexy !!!!!! (Guilty lol)

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By *evil_u_knowMan over a year ago

city

"A lot of men and women do not want to date a trans person or a bi person, I know one girl who refuses to date religious people and I respect every person’s right to decide on this, it’s not a judgment, it’s a preference."

A woman refused to date me because I killed a fish when I was younger on a school trip, and kill spiders instead of catching them.

A whole load of women refuse to date me because I am pro-life too.

In Dublin it can be a lot more petty too, you can be ruled out for being 1cm too short, for your job earning 50 euro too little and all kinds of small stuff.

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By *ortadowncplCouple over a year ago

Portadown

Absolutely, you may not like it but you have to accept it.

I think there are a lot of “types” of people who are seen as a fetish, redheads being a big one but you could say the same about tall, short big and small. Trans people do face the danger of violence which is despicable but to not tell someone up front is just dishonest.

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By *P_80Man over a year ago

Waterford

Everything she is saying with regards of showing her the respect she deserves is perfectly acceptable.

But I have to say that hiding the fact she's trans is a show of disrespect for the men she's dating.

Disagree with me if you will, but a person, for whatever reason, who would not want to date a trans woman should not be duped.

Let's just use drugs as an example. You can apply this reasoning to anything, but drugs is the first thing that popped into my mind.

Say for instance, you hate drugs and everything to do with them. You've made a decision that you could never be with anyone who is/was involved with drugs. You're dating a guy and it's all going great after a few weeks or months, then he drops the bombshell that he is a convicted drug dealer.

How do you react?

Would you have preferred to be told up front from the start?

I'm not trying to be a dickhead here. I'm just saying, not everyone will see a trans woman the same as a biological woman and they shouldn't have to.

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By *usketeerMan over a year ago

Kerry

Great article in clear terms, thanks for sharing

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By *ortadowncplCouple over a year ago

Portadown

"Everything she is saying with regards of showing her the respect she deserves is perfectly acceptable.

But I have to say that hiding the fact she's trans is a show of disrespect for the men she's dating.

Disagree with me if you will, but a person, for whatever reason, who would not want to date a trans woman should not be duped.

Let's just use drugs as an example. You can apply this reasoning to anything, but drugs is the first thing that popped into my mind.

How do you react?

Would you have preferred to be told up front from the start?

I'm not trying to be a dickhead here. I'm just saying, not everyone will see a trans woman the same as a biological woman and they shouldn't have to."

Nothing wrong with the statement at all, although some might take offence at comparing trans people with drug dealers but I don’t think you mean any harm.

There are some out in internet land saying that a trans person shouldn’t have to say and anyone refusing to consider dating a trans person is a bigot but I don’t think anyone here would feel that way.

I wouldn’t date a trans person myself, nor would a date anyone who enjoys marmite!

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By *P_80Man over a year ago

Waterford

"Everything she is saying with regards of showing her the respect she deserves is perfectly acceptable.

But I have to say that hiding the fact she's trans is a show of disrespect for the men she's dating.

Disagree with me if you will, but a person, for whatever reason, who would not want to date a trans woman should not be duped.

Let's just use drugs as an example. You can apply this reasoning to anything, but drugs is the first thing that popped into my mind.

How do you react?

Would you have preferred to be told up front from the start?

I'm not trying to be a dickhead here. I'm just saying, not everyone will see a trans woman the same as a biological woman and they shouldn't have to.

Nothing wrong with the statement at all, although some might take offence at comparing trans people with drug dealers but I don’t think you mean any harm.

I wouldn’t date a trans person myself, nor would a date anyone who enjoys marmite!"

Just for the record, I'm not comparing trans people to any other people. I have respect for anyone who deserves it.

I was just using the drug dealer scenario as an example to show that we all have different things or traits that we would rather not get involved with.

I have no issue with trans women, in fact I can appreciate that some are very beautiful. But personally, I would rather know from the get go what situation I was getting into.

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By *ortadowncplCouple over a year ago

Portadown

"Everything she is saying with regards of showing her the respect she deserves is perfectly acceptable.

But I have to say that hiding the fact she's trans is a show of disrespect for the men she's dating.

Disagree with me if you will, but a person, for whatever reason, who would not want to date a trans woman should not be duped.

Let's just use drugs as an example. You can apply this reasoning to anything, but drugs is the first thing that popped into my mind.

How do you react?

Would you have preferred to be told up front from the start?

I'm not trying to be a dickhead here. I'm just saying, not everyone will see a trans woman the same as a biological woman and they shouldn't have to.

Nothing wrong with the statement at all, although some might take offence at comparing trans people with drug dealers but I don’t think you mean any harm.

I wouldn’t date a trans person myself, nor would a date anyone who enjoys marmite!

Just for the record, I'm not comparing trans people to any other people. I have respect for anyone who deserves it.

I was just using the drug dealer scenario as an example to show that we all have different things or traits that we would rather not get involved with.

I have no issue with trans women, in fact I can appreciate that some are very beautiful. But personally, I would rather know from the get go what situation I was getting into."

I didn’t think that for a moment, my reason for pointing it out is that some people will always find something to be offended about. Your point was respectful and fair.

There is a huge difference between having an issue with trans people and not wanting to be romantically involved. Having an issue with one is as bad as any hatred for someone because of what they are and is unacceptable not wanting to be romantic is just a preference.

It’s an article well worth reading, even if it doesn’t impact on our lives it’s always beneficial to be introduced to another perspective.