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Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing. |
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Thank you for the kind advice as a new member to this site and being a single guy I believe I may have crossed one or two of these lines in error and will know now not to do so going forward it's so hard to get a meet for a coffee to get verified never mind make it to the bedroom but any advice you guys have for me I would really appreciate thank you |
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Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block . A typical fab experience. Thank fuck I never got close to meeting such
Melters. Take as much time writing whatever u want but it’s pure luck as even the most sane sounding ppl can turn out to be knobs . |
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Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
That is a major point just there..
“I’d love to tick being with a redhead off my to do list” or variables of that just make me think that the guy thinks I’m providing some service here or something.
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block . A typical fab experience. Thank fuck I never got close to meeting such
Melters. Take as much time writing whatever u want but it’s pure luck as even the most sane sounding ppl can turn out to be knobs ."
Snap 
Was it the couple mad for a certain material |
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More people need to read this!!
I think it's so creepy that some guys will hound you with messages trying to convince you to do something you've already said you didn't want to the point you need to block them from contacting you on two platforms.
It actually makes me feel unsafe. |
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"I wrote a similar post years ago and got slaughtered for it  oh it's funny how Fab works "
Post wasn't intended to seek attention, or patronize anyone, just genuinely getting fed up being seen and spoke off as some piece of meat in my private messages. Then same culprits crying poverty how everyone is stuck up and ignorant for not replying to their amazing pieces of literature. |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block . A typical fab experience. Thank fuck I never got close to meeting such
Melters. Take as much time writing whatever u want but it’s pure luck as even the most sane sounding ppl can turn out to be knobs ."
Some couples are just as cookoo. Or maybe... just maybe they've received too many single meet requests and you just got the unfortunate end of being misunderstood.
When we message a couple - we address both. Always. |
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing. "
Yup...that about sums it up ..and of course ladies here wake up to a totally yellow wall full of hundreds of Messages each day so how in all honesty can ladies be expected to reply to all ,even a " sorry not interested " text...also the majority of them have a " if no reply ,not interested " piece on their profile..plus ladies should be shown Respect ,100% all the time ,and at the end of the day ,they decide who they meet or want to leave between their legs and rightly so..ladies rule the Fab jungle ,that is just the way it is ..and it's all about respect and courtesy...if they don't reply ,they have their reasons why . |
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"Any man with cop-on, respect for others, and basic social skills knows these things already."
a few unfortunately think as this is a swing site they aren't needed  |
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing. "
great post. i hope it actually works |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wrote a similar post years ago and got slaughtered for it oh it's funny how Fab works
Post wasn't intended to seek attention, or patronize anyone, just genuinely getting fed up being seen and spoke off as some piece of meat in my private messages. Then same culprits crying poverty how everyone is stuck up and ignorant for not replying to their amazing pieces of literature. "
I know I did the same thing for a similar reason years ago and was torn to shreds on the forums |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"I wrote a similar post years ago and got slaughtered for it oh it's funny how Fab works
Post wasn't intended to seek attention, or patronize anyone, just genuinely getting fed up being seen and spoke off as some piece of meat in my private messages. Then same culprits crying poverty how everyone is stuck up and ignorant for not replying to their amazing pieces of literature.
I know I did the same thing for a similar reason years ago and was torn to shreds on the forums "
Ah but Lim you were about 12 at the time telling all the grown ups what to do  plus if I'm not mistaken that was around the time you were wearing the boxing gloves sparring with a number of folk |
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"I wrote a similar post years ago and got slaughtered for it oh it's funny how Fab works
Post wasn't intended to seek attention, or patronize anyone, just genuinely getting fed up being seen and spoke off as some piece of meat in my private messages. Then same culprits crying poverty how everyone is stuck up and ignorant for not replying to their amazing pieces of literature.
I know I did the same thing for a similar reason years ago and was torn to shreds on the forums
Ah but Lim you were about 12 at the time telling all the grown ups what to do plus if I'm not mistaken that was around the time you were wearing the boxing gloves sparring with a number of folk "
Not my fault I'd more cop on then people older than me as for boxing gloves I don't know what you mean  |
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"Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
That is a major point just there..
“I’d love to tick being with a redhead off my to do list” or variables of that just make me think that the guy thinks I’m providing some service here or something.
Eah... "
THIS !!! "I've always wanted to "try" a black girl"... Am I a car? Clothes or something ?
I had a guy once, just after we were finished (actually, after he was) going "well that's one off the bucket list"...
I'm not stupid, I know that quite a lot of white men, Irish men in this case "fantasize" about being with a black girl but the choice of words! You don't even need to mention it!
I was quite surprised this guy said that out loud. Haven't met him since. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any man with cop-on, respect for others, and basic social skills knows these things already."
Yup... absolutely spot on.. my late parents would kick the arse off me if l didn't treat ladies with respect, dignity and , courtesy ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good advice. Unfortunately, I’m already doing everything you suggest, and still not having any luck. Maybe I’m just hideously unattractive. "
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone NEW AND INEXPERIENCED who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
I see you skipped that part.... |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block"
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple. |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple. "
Exactly !!
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing. "
If grown adults have to be told this then we aren't interested in them to begin with ! |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple. "
It was a simple polite question so I knew who I was talking to. No need to get on their high horse. I talk to couples all the time , and 9 out of ten happily say M here or F here so most normal people , when having a conversation are happy to say who it is I am talking to. The exceptions have been guys, pretending to be a couple who say they are a woman, make it obvious by their chat they are a guy then get all nasty when I call him out on it. So not interested in ppl if they can’t even be bothered to tell me if they are a man or a woman. It’s a pretty basic element of conversation to know who you are talking to IMHO |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple.
It was a simple polite question so I knew who I was talking to. No need to get on their high horse. I talk to couples all the time , and 9 out of ten happily say M here or F here so most normal people , when having a conversation are happy to say who it is I am talking to. The exceptions have been guys, pretending to be a couple who say they are a woman, make it obvious by their chat they are a guy then get all nasty when I call him out on it. So not interested in ppl if they can’t even be bothered to tell me if they are a man or a woman. It’s a pretty basic element of conversation to know who you are talking to IMHO"
You KNEW who you were talking to. It was a couple. Many couples are a team and respond as a couple. You should respectfully address both. If it makes a difference who you are talking to then you're doing it wrong. |
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There is also the simple issue of supply and demand. Single males significantly outnumber women and couples, it's just a fact that not all men will obtain meets regardless of what they do. A man who has been here for a period of time with zero success should perhaps be exploring alternative avenues rather than continuing to frustrate himself here.
As Einstein said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple. "
I would ask who I was speaking to in a message from a couple. Edpecially if they made first contact. I see nothing at all wrong with that. |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple.
It was a simple polite question so I knew who I was talking to. No need to get on their high horse. I talk to couples all the time , and 9 out of ten happily say M here or F here so most normal people , when having a conversation are happy to say who it is I am talking to. The exceptions have been guys, pretending to be a couple who say they are a woman, make it obvious by their chat they are a guy then get all nasty when I call him out on it. So not interested in ppl if they can’t even be bothered to tell me if they are a man or a woman. It’s a pretty basic element of conversation to know who you are talking to IMHO
You KNEW who you were talking to. It was a couple. Many couples are a team and respond as a couple. You should respectfully address both. If it makes a difference who you are talking to then you're doing it wrong. "
How was he to know who he was talking to without asking ? . Most couples and almost all that we have become close to, the make deals with the the mail and photo posting side of things. As a part of a couple I want to know and if the other party are anyway genuine they shouldn't feel the need to hide which of them is chatting. Would you be concerned if a couple you chatted with refused to tell you if it was the male or female. Respect and honesty (within personal safety boundaries) here is paramount regardless of your status as a single couple or group |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple.
It was a simple polite question so I knew who I was talking to. No need to get on their high horse. I talk to couples all the time , and 9 out of ten happily say M here or F here so most normal people , when having a conversation are happy to say who it is I am talking to. The exceptions have been guys, pretending to be a couple who say they are a woman, make it obvious by their chat they are a guy then get all nasty when I call him out on it. So not interested in ppl if they can’t even be bothered to tell me if they are a man or a woman. It’s a pretty basic element of conversation to know who you are talking to IMHO
You KNEW who you were talking to. It was a couple. Many couples are a team and respond as a couple. You should respectfully address both. If it makes a difference who you are talking to then you're doing it wrong. "
Well it doesn't but you tend not to flirt 1much with the male half |
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing.
If grown adults have to be told this then we aren't interested in them to begin with !"
1000%
Only from chatting to a lot of guys - pretty much all of them joined under the impression of unlimited sex adventures and a bunch of horny women just putting it out on here left, right and centre, so clearly the crotch thinking took over way before the brain kicked in.
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"There is also the simple issue of supply and demand. Single males significantly outnumber women and couples, it's just a fact that not all men will obtain meets regardless of what they do. A man who has been here for a period of time with zero success should perhaps be exploring alternative avenues rather than continuing to frustrate himself here.
As Einstein said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result."
Damit ,I better make a appointment with my therapist
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing.
If grown adults have to be told this then we aren't interested in them to begin with !
1000%
Only from chatting to a lot of guys - pretty much all of them joined under the impression of unlimited sex adventures and a bunch of horny women just putting it out on here left, right and centre, so clearly the crotch thinking took over way before the brain kicked in.
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You see..to me...a guy has to realise that that's never the case with women , that even though they may be on a site such as this ,a guy ,to have any chance of a meet must first engage the only item that has to be stimulated before a lady opens up any other avenues of her life ..and that's her mind...cause if a guy isn't on a lady's mind...he's totally off her radar...so IF a guy can get a lady's attention..and keep it ..and keep her Interested...then he MAY have a "shot at the title " of a meet....but if guys are all cock & dick approach to a lady ,she has heard and seen it all so much here ,why would another approach like that stimulate her...that's my tuppence worth on things anyway... |
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Sorry to hurt your feelings if you think that doesn't apply to you - just bypass it.
I was reacting to what I receive on a daily basis in my private mail from 99% of all men who ever contact me.
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"Sorry to hurt your feelings if you think that doesn't apply to you - just bypass it.
I was reacting to what I receive on a daily basis in my private mail from 99% of all men who ever contact me.
Congratulations for not being one of them "
Oh no.. Jeez..you didn't hurt my feelings at all here ..not in the least ..your post is absolutely spot on ..l was just giving my views that l think a guy can't be all cock & dick approach to a lady if he hopes to meet her ..that's all..and l do fully acknowledge that as a lady here you must be swamped with such every day hence why you said it ..100% respect to you for writing post...and for the lady you are .. |
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"Sorry to hurt your feelings if you think that doesn't apply to you - just bypass it.
I was reacting to what I receive on a daily basis in my private mail from 99% of all men who ever contact me.
Congratulations for not being one of them "
I'm not sure if I a in the one percent because I don't belive I've ever contacted you |
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing.
If grown adults have to be told this then we aren't interested in them to begin with !
1000%
Only from chatting to a lot of guys - pretty much all of them joined under the impression of unlimited sex adventures and a bunch of horny women just putting it out on here left, right and centre, so clearly the crotch thinking took over way before the brain kicked in.
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Thankfully not all of them tho.  |
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing.
If grown adults have to be told this then we aren't interested in them to begin with !
1000%
Only from chatting to a lot of guys - pretty much all of them joined under the impression of unlimited sex adventures and a bunch of horny women just putting it out on here left, right and centre, so clearly the crotch thinking took over way before the brain kicked in.
Thankfully not all of them tho. "
Ya lots of generalisation and male bashing a foot |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple.
I would ask who I was speaking to in a message from a couple. Edpecially if they made first contact. I see nothing at all wrong with that. "
Thank you. Some common sense at last. Some really strange people on here . |
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"Except like this morning when a well known couple winked me. I messaged back saying thanks for the wink. I get a smiley back and ask who I was speaking to. Cue abuse about wanting to meet the woman alone and it shouldnt matter who I was speaking to blah blah blah. Oh - and a block
I can see their point of view. Why does it matter whos answering messages. That kind of message shows what you're looking for, when you SHOULD be concentrating on both halves of the couple.
It was a simple polite question so I knew who I was talking to. No need to get on their high horse. I talk to couples all the time , and 9 out of ten happily say M here or F here so most normal people , when having a conversation are happy to say who it is I am talking to. The exceptions have been guys, pretending to be a couple who say they are a woman, make it obvious by their chat they are a guy then get all nasty when I call him out on it. So not interested in ppl if they can’t even be bothered to tell me if they are a man or a woman. It’s a pretty basic element of conversation to know who you are talking to IMHO
You KNEW who you were talking to. It was a couple. Many couples are a team and respond as a couple. You should respectfully address both. If it makes a difference who you are talking to then you're doing it wrong.
How was he to know who he was talking to without asking ? . Most couples and almost all that we have become close to, the make deals with the the mail and photo posting side of things. As a part of a couple I want to know and if the other party are anyway genuine they shouldn't feel the need to hide which of them is chatting. Would you be concerned if a couple you chatted with refused to tell you if it was the male or female. Respect and honesty (within personal safety boundaries) here is paramount regardless of your status as a single couple or group"
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I guess for us.. The issue is mostly caused by several incidents in the past where single guys would mesaage and be immediately looking for dirty chat from the female that they can wank to, and have no interest in communicating with the male half of the couple. If you're chatting with a guy about a potential meet then it doesn't matter which half of the couple you're talking to as the end result will be the same. Obviously different people use the site in different ways so this isn't a rule for everyone. I'm just talking from experience we've had. We absolutely wouldn't immediately block if a guy asked who was typing, but it's might well form part of the many things taken into account when deciding if we are going to communicate further or not. There is so much choice that there is no point wasting time giving out wank-fodder. A respectful guy who addresses us both is a big plus, and communicating with both is a good way of signalling the right kind of intentions. |
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"I guess for us.. The issue is mostly caused by several incidents in the past where single guys would mesaage and be immediately looking for dirty chat from the female that they can wank to, and have no interest in communicating with the male half of the couple. If you're chatting with a guy about a potential meet then it doesn't matter which half of the couple you're talking to as the end result will be the same. Obviously different people use the site in different ways so this isn't a rule for everyone. I'm just talking from experience we've had. We absolutely wouldn't immediately block if a guy asked who was typing, but it's might well form part of the many things taken into account when deciding if we are going to communicate further or not. There is so much choice that there is no point wasting time giving out wank-fodder. A respectful guy who addresses us both is a big plus, and communicating with both is a good way of signalling the right kind of intentions. "
That has cleared it up a bit. So in general if a single or a guy from a couple asks to speak to Mrs exclusively it's a block and in the highly unlikely event that a female took a shine to me and wanted to chat with me exclusively the result would be the same. Polite no thank you.
It is disrespectful to ask to talk to just one part of a couple but not to ask who you are actually speaking to. |
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I female half of the couple have found the msg we get sent have turned me into a bit of a gobby bitch .You need to have a bit of a laugh and banter .The msg we get off dom men get right on my tits telling me what I’m going to have done to me .off you fuck I think not |
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"I female half of the couple have found the msg we get sent have turned me into a bit of a gobby bitch .You need to have a bit of a laugh and banter .The msg we get off dom men get right on my tits telling me what I’m going to have done to me .off you fuck I think not "
Some men think women are a piece of meat and treat them like dirt. |
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"I female half of the couple have found the msg we get sent have turned me into a bit of a gobby bitch .You need to have a bit of a laugh and banter .The msg we get off dom men get right on my tits telling me what I’m going to have done to me .off you fuck I think not
Some men think women are a piece of meat and treat them like dirt. "
Works both ways. It's more of a personality trait than a gender issue |
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"I female half of the couple have found the msg we get sent have turned me into a bit of a gobby bitch .You need to have a bit of a laugh and banter .The msg we get off dom men get right on my tits telling me what I’m going to have done to me .off you fuck I think not
Some men think women are a piece of meat and treat them like dirt.
Works both ways. It's more of a personality trait than a gender issue "
I wouldn’t mind a lady treating me like a piece of meat.  |
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"And then people get offended "
I never get offended ,fair points by op...and sound advice .but it is fairly difficult to catch someone's eye ...unless you surround yourself with neon lights with big arrow |
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