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Why some young couples (late 30s & late 40s) end up having sex only a few times a year or a couple of time a month? Then what happens? Affair? Alcohol?
I couldn't imagine my partner and I love making less than two times a week (every day if possible)...
I know sometimes it's good a little break...but? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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admittedly if things are not happening g in the bedroom it may be an I dication of problems in the relationship, but the relationship in whole needs to be looked at. many life issues can cause problems, children are often cited as a reason,work issues, stress, finances...so many things that may leave either person "not in the humour" , realising there is a problem & communicating is the key.
Sex is not everything but it can be the foundation that may make or break a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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True and always looking for constructive solutions and looking at all sides of the coin... But we can't change people, I find it silly aka sad that so many people lack open and fair communication... :/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Work, kids, stress, illness there are lots of different reasons I would think. Once both people are happy(or understand) the reason I wouldn't think its too much cause for concern. These things tend to right themselves after whatever has gotten in the way has changed  communication is key  |
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"admittedly if things are not happening g in the bedroom it may be an I dication of problems in the relationship, but the relationship in whole needs to be looked at. many life issues can cause problems, children are often cited as a reason,work issues, stress, finances...so many things that may leave either person "not in the humour" , realising there is a problem & communicating is the key.
Sex is not everything but it can be the foundation that may make or break a relationship"
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"Why some young couples (late 30s & late 40s) end up having sex only a few times a year or a couple of time a month? Then what happens? Affair? Alcohol?
I couldn't imagine my partner and I love making less than two times a week (every day if possible)...
How do you know the frequency of sex in other folks relationships?
I know sometimes it's good a little break...but?"
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As long as both parties are happy with the frequency and quality of the sex, why would it be a problem? Also, most mature adults realise that sexual desire and activity will ebb and flow naturally.
On the other hand, stress, illness, demands of parenting or looking after other family members can be seriously draining. It's easy for a couple to slide into a pattern of communication that revolves around practicalities. Or one party may feel they are carrying the bulk of the load,leading to resentment which can seriously impact desire for a partner. One or both can develop an outside relationship which is more emotionally rewarding simply because it lacks the stresses of the primary relationship, leading to neglect and emotional distance between partners, which makes the problem worse. Both partners can get locked into a negative pattern of demands and defensiveness, again widening the gulf.
These are very common issues, all of which are exacerbated by lack of openness and trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lots of things can cause this to happen. As had being said previously kids, work, stress, sick family members and a low sex drive would also cause this. It is never down to just one thing but a number of things added together. Sometimes it just happens |
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Every single long term relationship I've ever been in (except for this one) ended up being sexless after a few months. Why? Getting too familiar with a person - to the point where they didn't excite me any more in any way.
Looks like they weren't the right people to begin with. |
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I was in a long term relationship last 6 months of it became sexless before that was literally every day after splitting up I found out that she was seeing multiple people shit happens but what can you do |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Low libido. Or whatever that is."
Overthinking and undecided, not able to control those loyal emotions and impulses?
So couples can overcome all barriers, some can't... How? Self discipline? Self respect and a clear picture of the self? Self sufficient and decided? |
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