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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested. |
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Yeah, exactly the same experience. Men just don't get what it's like. I get so many messages that often the first one I manage to catch from a guy is the one where he's decided I'm an ignorant bitch who's been ignoring him.
I now just delete if I'm not interested and block if I really don't want to hear from them again. There was even a forum post about me blocking some guy and sure enough loads of jilted men jumped on to proclaim how up my own hole I must be.
It's not nice but I just dgaf anymore.
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one. |
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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one. "
"Sorry, I don't think we are a match but thanks for the message is my usual reply". I don't think that is worthy of rude replies. |
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"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one. "
I'll either send "thanks for the message. That's very kind to say. But I don't think we are compatible" or if I have an actual reason I'll give it like "Thanks for the message but you're a good few years outside of my age preferences so no thank you"
And I'll still get pushiness and abuse back. So I think you've just been very lucky tbh. |
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By *oc1998Man
over a year ago
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Ok i will admit that i never have or never will get as much attention as you all do. Plus yous all deserve it. Yous are all way better looking than me. Though i often get more men talking to me then anyone else. I am the same about if i say no they ask why. however i never got any rude responses. Maybe its in some little mens minds that they can say what they want to a woman and get away with it. Some people just get salty over the little of things. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
by a lake with my rod out |
I never understood the moaning about not getting replies. If your ego is that fragile I suggest you become a monk. It's clearly written in the FAQ that no reply is a reply in the negitive.
My best tip is to let the women and cpls mail you instead. |
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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"Ok i will admit that i never have or never will get as much attention as you all do. Plus yous all deserve it. Yous are all way better looking than me. Though i often get more men talking to me then anyone else. I am the same about if i say no they ask why. however i never got any rude responses. Maybe its in some little mens minds that they can say what they want to a woman and get away with it. Some people just get salty over the little of things."
To be fair it's not an issue of the number of messages. I actually don't get that many. I've been on here for many many years and most have seen and passed over my profile by now. Lol It was just me seeing if I was being unfair not replying and being shocked at the replies I got when saying no. I have had many rejections here and would never be rude about it. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one.
"Sorry, I don't think we are a match but thanks for the message is my usual reply". I don't think that is worthy of rude replies. "
It's a very simple and polite reply you're using and certainly no reason for rudeness. The problem is that single guys are turned down a lot and that can take it's toll and result in a reaction coming out of frustration.
So by explicitly turning down the 'contender' (we're not a match) you even provide him with a reason. I never state a reason nor do I directly say that I'm not interested. |
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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one.
"Sorry, I don't think we are a match but thanks for the message is my usual reply". I don't think that is worthy of rude replies.
It's a very simple and polite reply you're using and certainly no reason for rudeness. The problem is that single guys are turned down a lot and that can take it's toll and result in a reaction coming out of frustration.
So by explicitly turning down the 'contender' (we're not a match) you even provide him with a reason. I never state a reason nor do I directly say that I'm not interested. "
Their "frusrations" is no excuse for bad behaviour and also not my responsibilty to soothe. All it proved was I was right to stick to the no reply means no interest rule. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We try to reply to messages that are polite and indicate that the writer has taken even a basic interest in our profile text. I don't recall ever getting an abusive response, it's either our reply is read and deleted or we get a message back thanking us for responding.
Incoherent garbage, text speak and messages that blithely ignore the existence of a male partner are usually deleted without response (or any qualms!) |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"We try to reply to messages that are polite and indicate that the writer has taken even a basic interest in our profile text. I don't recall ever getting an abusive response, it's either our reply is read and deleted or we get a message back thanking us for responding.
Incoherent garbage, text speak and messages that blithely ignore the existence of a male partner are usually deleted without response (or any qualms!)"
Ye told md fook aff  |
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over a year ago
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"We try to reply to messages that are polite and indicate that the writer has taken even a basic interest in our profile text. I don't recall ever getting an abusive response, it's either our reply is read and deleted or we get a message back thanking us for responding.
Incoherent garbage, text speak and messages that blithely ignore the existence of a male partner are usually deleted without response (or any qualms!)
Ye told md fook aff "
I would never be so crude  |
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Probably no reply is best. It’s good to get s message but disappointing if it’s just a no. Also the site gives a warning if you haven’t got a reply from a message. Sending s reply loses that and can lead to excessive duplication. Do you lady’s like a hundred repeat messages from the same super stud muffin? |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"We try to reply to messages that are polite and indicate that the writer has taken even a basic interest in our profile text. I don't recall ever getting an abusive response, it's either our reply is read and deleted or we get a message back thanking us for responding.
Incoherent garbage, text speak and messages that blithely ignore the existence of a male partner are usually deleted without response (or any qualms!)
Ye told md fook aff
I would never be so crude "
Can I ask lee is that true |
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"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one.
I'll either send "thanks for the message. That's very kind to say. But I don't think we are compatible" or if I have an actual reason I'll give it like "Thanks for the message but you're a good few years outside of my age preferences so no thank you"
And I'll still get pushiness and abuse back. So I think you've just been very lucky tbh. "
My replies are like yours. I'm never rude nasty or abrupt in my replies. Some not all don't get the no thanks and insist they can change your mind. And the odd one with a nasty comment |
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"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one.
I'll either send "thanks for the message. That's very kind to say. But I don't think we are compatible" or if I have an actual reason I'll give it like "Thanks for the message but you're a good few years outside of my age preferences so no thank you"
And I'll still get pushiness and abuse back. So I think you've just been very lucky tbh.
My replies are like yours. I'm never rude nasty or abrupt in my replies. Some not all don't get the no thanks and insist they can change your mind. And the odd one with a nasty comment "
I try to be as polite as possible but it's just not worth the risk any more.
I don't understand the guys who hit me up telling me how hot I am and then when I turn them down they tell me to fuck off anyway because I'm fat and disgusting.
I even had one guy go a step further and tell me to immediately start making myself sick because I'm so fat and repulsive he doesn't know how anyone can stand the sight of me. And I'm paraphrasing that because what he actually said left me in tears.
So as unfortunate as it is for genuine guys who deserve a polite reply they just won't be getting them from me anymore. |
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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"If you dont like the calibre of messages or replies you get set your filters so nobody can contact you and make the first move yourself  "
Why should I exclude all for the sake of a few rude people. I have made good friends with people who's profile I might have overlooked had they not contacted me. I'm simply explaining why many people don't send a polite no thank you. |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"If you dont like the calibre of messages or replies you get set your filters so nobody can contact you and make the first move yourself
Why should I exclude all for the sake of a few rude people. I have made good friends with people who's profile I might have overlooked had they not contacted me. I'm simply explaining why many people don't send a polite no thank you. "
Based on your OP its actually 85% that were a problem, so in fairness its a valid suggestion |
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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"If you dont like the calibre of messages or replies you get set your filters so nobody can contact you and make the first move yourself
Why should I exclude all for the sake of a few rude people. I have made good friends with people who's profile I might have overlooked had they not contacted me. I'm simply explaining why many people don't send a polite no thank you.
Based on your OP its actually 85% that were a problem, so in fairness its a valid suggestion "
That was in reference to those I declined to chat with. Not those that I did chat with so no. Not valid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re not inundated like a single female profile but luckily we’ve never had anyone be rude or nasty when we’ve declined."
Using filters means nobody need be inundated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested. "
I have updated my bio that if there is no reply means I'm not interested. Finito |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested.
I have updated my bio that if there is no reply means I'm not interested. Finito "
But i might change ur mind |
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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested.
I have updated my bio that if there is no reply means I'm not interested. Finito
But i might change ur mind"
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Even the most polite person might respond to "You're not my type" with "Whats that mean?"
Its not about how polite youre response is, its if its open or closed. "no, not meeting" is closed, "You're not my type, youre too far away..." all those encourage a reply to ask more.
But this is fab where you get blocked for voicing an opinion, get followed around for a girl flirting with you, and get harassed by fake accounts for being nice publicly to one person and declining another. You can be followed around on here for years.
So my advice would just be dont interact with people you dont want to meet.
and if its me you dont want to meet, can chuck me in the block list if it makes you feel better, but either way I wont message people on here, so it wont matter. |
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also, i wrote "you're response is" above, not because I do not understand the difference between your and you're, but because I wrote "you're being.." then deleted the "being and wrote "response is"
Please dont think less of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We try to reply to messages that are polite and indicate that the writer has taken even a basic interest in our profile text. I don't recall ever getting an abusive response, it's either our reply is read and deleted or we get a message back thanking us for responding.
Incoherent garbage, text speak and messages that blithely ignore the existence of a male partner are usually deleted without response (or any qualms!)
Ye told md fook aff
I would never be so crude
Can I ask lee is that true "
I would be very surprised if Casey told you to fook aff. Having said that and knowing her as I do, if it was said it was well and truly deserved. Her usual response to something disrespectful would be to ignore
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Tbh I don’t think a “you’re not my type” warrants a follow up. I would consider it fairly definitive. Not my type = I don’t find you attractive. Personally I wouldn’t ask any potentially awkward follow up question, I’d just accept that average brunette simply doesn’t do it for them! |
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"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one. "
You are one of a few Doghunter.
A little politeness goes a long way. Thank you for not letting the idiots on here ruining it for everybody else. |
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"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one.
"Sorry, I don't think we are a match but thanks for the message is my usual reply". I don't think that is worthy of rude replies. "
Very polite and to the point. |
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"Tbh I don’t think a “you’re not my type” warrants a follow up. I would consider it fairly definitive. Not my type = I don’t find you attractive. Personally I wouldn’t ask any potentially awkward follow up question, I’d just accept that average brunette simply doesn’t do it for them!"
But I am actually a sex god, so I'd need to know how I can not be their type, obviously they dont mean my body, they must mean something else, have they confused me for someone else? |
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"Tbh I don’t think a “you’re not my type” warrants a follow up. I would consider it fairly definitive. Not my type = I don’t find you attractive. Personally I wouldn’t ask any potentially awkward follow up question, I’d just accept that average brunette simply doesn’t do it for them!
But I am actually a sex god, so I'd need to know how I can not be their type, obviously they dont mean my body, they must mean something else, have they confused me for someone else?"
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"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested. "
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"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested.
I have updated my bio that if there is no reply means I'm not interested. Finito
But i might change ur mind"
You can always try  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbh I don’t think a “you’re not my type” warrants a follow up. I would consider it fairly definitive. Not my type = I don’t find you attractive. Personally I wouldn’t ask any potentially awkward follow up question, I’d just accept that average brunette simply doesn’t do it for them!
But I am actually a sex god, so I'd need to know how I can not be their type, obviously they dont mean my body, they must mean something else, have they confused me for someone else?"
Its not only about sexy body.
In my case there must be more than that.
I prefer beautiful mind, good sense of humour.
Maybe I am too selective, but it's my choice. I won't waste my and other people time.
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"Its not only about sexy body.
In my case there must be more than that.
I prefer beautiful mind, good sense of humour.
Maybe I am too selective, but it's my choice. I won't waste my and other people time.
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Oh yes, but I have the mind and the humour too, so why, WHY am i not someones type?
I may never find out, because no one has ever said it to me. |
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"Its not only about sexy body.
In my case there must be more than that.
I prefer beautiful mind, good sense of humour.
Maybe I am too selective, but it's my choice. I won't waste my and other people time.
Oh yes, but I have the mind and the humour too, so why, WHY am i not someones type?
I may never find out, because no one has ever said it to me."
I think we cannot be everyone's cup of tea
Patience Mr, more patience
They will find you sooner or later |
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"I think we cannot be everyone's cup of tea
Patience Mr, more patience
They will find you sooner or later "
Aww, I am just joking, I have been told I have an ugly face in messages, but normally its people who message me to tell me, I rarely message people myself, and never ask why they dont want to talk to me.
I also get blocked by people i never talked to, like half the site at this point I think, so I am only joking about being awesome too.
I'm just being self deprecating. |
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By *osered OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Tbh I don’t think a “you’re not my type” warrants a follow up. I would consider it fairly definitive. Not my type = I don’t find you attractive. Personally I wouldn’t ask any potentially awkward follow up question, I’d just accept that average brunette simply doesn’t do it for them!
But I am actually a sex god, so I'd need to know how I can not be their type, obviously they dont mean my body, they must mean something else, have they confused me for someone else?
Its not only about sexy body.
In my case there must be more than that.
I prefer beautiful mind, good sense of humour.
Maybe I am too selective, but it's my choice. I won't waste my and other people time.
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Aww, I am just joking, I have been told I have an ugly face in messages, but normally its people who message me to tell me, I rarely message people myself, and never ask why they dont want to talk to me.
I also get blocked by people i never talked to, like half the site at this point I think, so I am only joking about being awesome too.
I'm just being self deprecating."
I’ve seen when your profile pic is your face, you’re a good looking guy in fairness |
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I also get blocked by people i never talked to, like half the site at this point"
I've been blocked by people I've never talked to, probably because of my forum posts and opinions.
I am not everyone's cup of tea and I've started to block everyone who told me I am not their cup of tea either, as I keep losing track of who said no and who didn't, nothing personal.
I think I may be growing a thicker skin by the day now  ! |
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"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested. "
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the message not interested good luck
Is my usual reply ...
Most dont hound me after that...
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Can I ask, at what point in the interaction do you send that? First introductory message they send even if it’s not a request to meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ladies send me messages all the time saying how they want to spank my cute little ass and that they love my shower pic and can they join me and usually with a pic attached of their lower body with them in a pair of knickers. Sometimes I’m not interested and I send a quick thanks but no thanks this time and they immediately reply with a why not and another pic, this time with their knickers removed. I can’t keep up with the madness |
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"I’ve seen when your profile pic is your face, you’re a good looking guy in fairness "
Ah thanks, just posted it cause people might think I was being serious about loving myself, I know I'm far from everyones cupan tae.
I can understand why someone might ask why they are not the persons taste, It's just not something I would do, mainly because I wouldn't get anything else done in the day if I had to ask everyone why they didnt like me. lol |
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By *oc1998Man
over a year ago
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"Ok i will admit that i never have or never will get as much attention as you all do. Plus yous all deserve it. Yous are all way better looking than me. Though i often get more men talking to me then anyone else. I am the same about if i say no they ask why. however i never got any rude responses. Maybe its in some little mens minds that they can say what they want to a woman and get away with it. Some people just get salty over the little of things.
To be fair it's not an issue of the number of messages. I actually don't get that many. I've been on here for many many years and most have seen and passed over my profile by now. Lol It was just me seeing if I was being unfair not replying and being shocked at the replies I got when saying no. I have had many rejections here and would never be rude about it. "
Lol i wouldnt mind dropping a few messages your way haha. But yea everyone here have some very interesting points |
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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago
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You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you reply "thank you, but you are not my type I'm afraid", you get grilled as to why they aren't your type. If you don't reply at all, you get a follow up of numerous messages of the same thing or abuse and insults.  |
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"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested. "
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Many times even in the last few days I have been called entitled, a brat, up myself, ugly, fat, a bitch for not replying to people. I tried the polite no thanks approach and most of the time end up getting the same so I don't know!
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"So I noticed a regular topic of men complaining that women don't reply with a simple no thanks when messaged. I did reply when I started many years ago but stopped as no thank you mostly resulted in a number of messages to change my mind or explain myself. So I thought maybe I was wrong and things had changed. So I replied to the last 20 profiles that I felt didn't match or suit mine, with a polite no thanks. Resulting in 17 looking for reasons and or trying to change my mind. So I think it will be back to no reply means no interest. I hope this goes some way to explaining to folks that it is not me being, up myself, a bitch or any of the other fancinating names in exchange for the polite "no thanks" requested. "
Going with say the read but no reply would be enough for me to know someone isn't interested there is no point going ham on the messages till I get a reply women here get overwhelming messages mostly saying the same thing which isn't fair on them then get idiots to expect to reply to every message the women gets my utmost respect that deal with it all all I say for those who are lacking in patience and don't take hints shouldn't really be here oh dear god I've gone on a ramble again lol sorry |
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"Going with say the read but no reply would be enough for me to know someone isn't interested "
I have to say that I will never understand the read but undeleted messages.
If someone doesn't want to reply, just delete my damn message, simple.
I do it. I delete a message if it is rude or I just feel like.
I say sorry but not interested and reply if I feel generous, but I don't expect anyone to do the same as me, especially from someone who has 200 messages unread in their inbox. |
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"I have to say that I will never understand the read but undeleted messages.
If someone doesn't want to reply, just delete my damn message, simple.
I do it. I delete a message if it is rude or I just feel like."
I dont delete messages unless I have like 60 messages from one person in a day and need to try find a message further down the list, you have to delete to find them. |
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Frustrating when I simply delete a message, having given up on the polite ‘no thanks,’ and get flak from whomever sent the message. God I wish Fab did not have the option to see whether someone had deleted a message! Meanwhile though, would be lovely if men didn’t keep messaging to ask why their messages were being deleted! |
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"I reply to most of my messages and I'm here a good while. I think it is crucial how phrase your reply.
I do not get any of such pushy behaviour looking for reasons or even abuse. Quite contrary most come back very polite, appreciative that they got a reply, despite negative one. "
This... Doghunter was the first woman who replied to my message many years ago, and although we never met or became 'friends' she still will chat every so often... so for that I can say "thank
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"I stopped replying with " No thanks not for me, Enjoy fab! After recieving many vile, sickening & abusive msgs as to why i said no! If im not interested its a block! "
This works too.
Ive updated my bio. If the person who didnt make an effort and sacrifice a minute to read it then why I should reply? |
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"I stopped replying with " No thanks not for me, Enjoy fab! After recieving many vile, sickening & abusive msgs as to why i said no! If im not interested its a block!
This works too.
Ive updated my bio. If the person who didnt make an effort and sacrifice a minute to read it then why I should reply? "
A minute well spent |
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"Frustrating when I simply delete a message, having given up on the polite ‘no thanks,’ and get flak from whomever sent the message. God I wish Fab did not have the option to see whether someone had deleted a message! Meanwhile though, would be lovely if men didn’t keep messaging to ask why their messages were being deleted! "
Yeah like I said in my post its ridiculous the amount of messages ye get its impossible to get through them all then expect to reply to everyone of them just can't be done those who do try to reply and keeps a cool head fair play to them but of course you get the dumbasses that lack any intelligence like I guarantee that more than half the messages women get are dick pics with just hi or want to fuck or something similar then mix that with the abusive messages that gets a no or no reply literally fucking things up for decent single guys guys that are like that need to grow brain along with a pair |
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