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"No
Why? Has there never been someone who knows you and your mind intimately enough to choose well, or is it because you prefer to be fully in control?  "
No, no one has ever got that far into my head, nor would I want them to! Some things are best left unsaid or forgotten. Think people loose interest too quickly as well, it’s like a conquest! One achieved it’s done but no one want to continue maintaining. |
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"I’d give anything a go once. What’s the worst that can happen ( can’t be any worse than me looking by myself lol)"
Do you think your friend would know you well enough to make the best possible choice? |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
I would, but not if they do it as a prank! 
We are all adults and in any situation we can say no, sorry but it doesn't work, I don't want to continue our meet.
Not a big deal at all.
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over a year ago
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"I’d give anything a go once. What’s the worst that can happen ( can’t be any worse than me looking by myself lol)
Do you think your friend would know you well enough to make the best possible choice? "
I wouldn’t micro analyse it in terms of “best possible choice”. I doubt I would ever get the best possible choice left to my own devices. In for a penny in for a pound. Give it a go. If it doesn’t work it doesn’t work. Cup half full etc. Think positively |
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"No..there is no rhyme or reason to my choices, would be impossible task "
I think I'm somewhat like that myself. I often have swinging friends tell me I should meet this guy or that girl because they are 'sooo my type', but even a cursory glance at a profile will often be enough for me to say 'no they're not'. But on the other hand, I've had partners who were perfectly willing for me to choose someone to bring into our bed, without any input from them, which I found completely frustrating. |
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I’d trust MrB. In fact I’ve asked him in the past to do this but he doesn’t want the responsibility! Whilst I have wide and varied taste I think he’d probably choose someone classically good looking, built and vwe! Personality-wise I think he’d be a good judge too. I find the idea of him searching someone out for me a big turn on if I’m honest  |
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"I’d trust MrB. In fact I’ve asked him in the past to do this but he doesn’t want the responsibility! Whilst I have wide and varied taste I think he’d probably choose someone classically good looking, built and vwe! Personality-wise I think he’d be a good judge too. I find the idea of him searching someone out for me a big turn on if I’m honest "
You are so lucky ! |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
I would, but not if they do it as a prank!
We are all adults and in any situation we can say no, sorry but it doesn't work, I don't want to continue our meet.
Not a big deal at all.
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But in saying that you'd go along with it but might ultimately say no, you're actually saying that you wouldn't trust anyone enough to get it right. |
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"No
Why? Has there never been someone who knows you and your mind intimately enough to choose well, or is it because you prefer to be fully in control? "
I have twin sister so we know each other. There is "but"... She (and all my friends and family) wants to see me happy having a man in my house. All of them, including my daughter were trying to find me the best man but no thanks.
I like having a friend with benefits, each of us live own life, no jealousy, all clear. This suits me better. No complications |
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"No
Same question as I asked MissCar to you.. "
No wouldn’t give that type of control to anyone else even if I knew that they would only have my best interest in their minds. Doesn’t mean the person they chose would. |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
Yes , my Mistress knows my needs and desires.We both have similar mindset,so i would let her choose . |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
I would, but not if they do it as a prank!
We are all adults and in any situation we can say no, sorry but it doesn't work, I don't want to continue our meet.
Not a big deal at all.
But in saying that you'd go along with it but might ultimately say no, you're actually saying that you wouldn't trust anyone enough to get it right. "
I like to mix SM play and sex, most of the time, but not always.
It would be difficult for anyone to find me a match, especially on Fab.
The very few who know me well, I would trust them fully.
The others that think they know me, I would trust and actually meet someone they've arranged too, we are consenting adults at the end of the day. |
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"I’d trust MrB. In fact I’ve asked him in the past to do this but he doesn’t want the responsibility! Whilst I have wide and varied taste I think he’d probably choose someone classically good looking, built and vwe! Personality-wise I think he’d be a good judge too. I find the idea of him searching someone out for me a big turn on if I’m honest "
I think I can understand his reluctance. If he got it wrong (he probably wouldn't.. But the fear would be there), he might be afraid that it would cast doubt in your mind as to how well he really knows you. But I can also see how amazing you would both feel if he got it absolutely right. |
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"No
Why? Has there never been someone who knows you and your mind intimately enough to choose well, or is it because you prefer to be fully in control?
I have twin sister so we know each other. There is "but"... She (and all my friends and family) wants to see me happy having a man in my house. All of them, including my daughter were trying to find me the best man but no thanks.
I like having a friend with benefits, each of us live own life, no jealousy, all clear. This suits me better. No complications "
Ok... But would you trust any of them to find you that fwb? If you hadn't already found one  |
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"No
Same question as I asked MissCar to you..
No wouldn’t give that type of control to anyone else even if I knew that they would only have my best interest in their minds. Doesn’t mean the person they chose would. "
That's absolutely true, sometimes we even make poor choices for ourselves, but at least then have nobody else to blame. |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
Yes , my Mistress knows my needs and desires.We both have similar mindset,so i would let her choose ."
Have you tried it so far or even suggested it? |
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"Does everyone make there choice on looks in this situation?"
You have no choice in anything. You are trusting this person implicitly to find someone they think is your ideal meet, whether meeting them solo or bringing them into a threeway situation. Is there anyone you would trust that much? |
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"No
Same question as I asked MissCar to you..
No wouldn’t give that type of control to anyone else even if I knew that they would only have my best interest in their minds. Doesn’t mean the person they chose would.
That's absolutely true, sometimes we even make poor choices for ourselves, but at least then have nobody else to blame. "
Nobody’s perfect  |
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"I have
Did it work well? Did you feel they had made the same choices you would have made for yourself? "
He knew me very well and made good choices.....he was there aswell. The trust is the thing and I completely trusted his judgement. He enjoyed it as much as I did |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
I would, but not if they do it as a prank!
We are all adults and in any situation we can say no, sorry but it doesn't work, I don't want to continue our meet.
Not a big deal at all.
But in saying that you'd go along with it but might ultimately say no, you're actually saying that you wouldn't trust anyone enough to get it right.
I like to mix SM play and sex, most of the time, but not always.
It would be difficult for anyone to find me a match, especially on Fab.
The very few who know me well, I would trust them fully.
The others that think they know me, I would trust and actually meet someone they've arranged too, we are consenting adults at the end of the day. "
That brings me to another point. Even if you know your partner intimately enough to make a good choice, how would you know that the person they choose is 'as advertised' and won't harm you or overstep boundaries? Especially in situations where restraints may be in play? |
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"I have
Did it work well? Did you feel they had made the same choices you would have made for yourself?
He knew me very well and made good choices.....he was there aswell. The trust is the thing and I completely trusted his judgement. He enjoyed it as much as I did "
I agree on the trust part, I only play with people I trust, so any suggestion to bring a third or more into a play meet situation could be interesting and fun, if it comes from any of them.
At the end of the day, it could be a "blind date" and not a "blindfold date", as that would be a different kind of scenario ! |
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By *nicumCouple
over a year ago
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
Yes and have actually done it twice now.
The Duchess likes being played with by an complete stranger because of the excitement of the unknown. We have had a recent session were she knew nothing about the guy but knew I had one lined up. He turned up at the hotel room door, let him in and we started playing with her straight away. She did not see his face or talk to him for about an hour into the play when her blindfold eventually came off.
I introduced them to each other only after they already fucked twice. It was all very hot.
Because of this fantasy to do this I have had to become so picky when it comes to guys to play with because all the responsibilities is on me but so far so good. |
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"I have
Did it work well? Did you feel they had made the same choices you would have made for yourself?
He knew me very well and made good choices.....he was there aswell. The trust is the thing and I completely trusted his judgement. He enjoyed it as much as I did "
I've never been asked to let someone else choose for me, but it is something I've wondered about myself on occasion... I think there's probably only 1 person who would know my mind well enough to choose for me, but it would be as a third party joining us, I honestly don't think I would ever have enough faith in anyone to choose someone for me to meet solo. |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
Yes and have actually done it twice now.
The Duchess likes being played with by an complete stranger because of the excitement of the unknown. We have had a recent session were she knew nothing about the guy but knew I had one lined up. He turned up at the hotel room door, let him in and we started playing with her straight away. She did not see his face or talk to him for about an hour into the play when her blindfold eventually came off.
I introduced them to each other only after they already fucked twice. It was all very hot.
Because of this fantasy to do this I have had to become so picky when it comes to guys to play with because all the responsibilities is on me but so far so good."
Would you allow her to meet someone you had chosen alone though? Would you trust your judgement enough to send your partner off to meet someone you had chosen? |
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"Trust anyone...
That brings me to another point. Even if you know your partner intimately enough to make a good choice, how would you know that the person they choose is 'as advertised' and won't harm you or overstep boundaries? Especially in situations where restraints may be in play? "
The answer to your point would be more complex and I would not try to elaborate it here.
In short, I was fortunate enough to engage in SM play with people that are sound and know the scene well, both on Fab and Fet.
Finding the right person to play SM with, is like anything else in life, a bit of luck, a lot of patience, but mostly common sense has worked for me.
Looks or age are not the main criteria someone should use when trying to find the right partner. |
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By *nicumCouple
over a year ago
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
Yes and have actually done it twice now.
The Duchess likes being played with by an complete stranger because of the excitement of the unknown. We have had a recent session were she knew nothing about the guy but knew I had one lined up. He turned up at the hotel room door, let him in and we started playing with her straight away. She did not see his face or talk to him for about an hour into the play when her blindfold eventually came off.
I introduced them to each other only after they already fucked twice. It was all very hot.
Because of this fantasy to do this I have had to become so picky when it comes to guys to play with because all the responsibilities is on me but so far so good.
Would you allow her to meet someone you had chosen alone though? Would you trust your judgement enough to send your partner off to meet someone you had chosen?"
It's a good question. I guess I wouldn't. More for safety reasons than anything else. If I had to or it was something she wanted to try I would have meet the guy for coffee first and/or chat his verifications (background check)... then maybe. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"No
Could you ever see yourself in that scenario? "
I've heard of one or two situations where this went terribly wrong. As a single woman I wouldn't put my health and safety into someone else's hands. I believe and trust in my gut feeling and I've learned over the years what to look out for.
The only situation I could see myself doing that if the man choosing is present too.
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"No
Could you ever see yourself in that scenario?
I've heard of one or two situations where this went terribly wrong. As a single woman I wouldn't put my health and safety into someone else's hands. I believe and trust in my gut feeling and I've learned over the years what to look out for.
The only situation I could see myself doing that if the man choosing is present too.
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That's exactly how I would see it too. I don't think there is any scenario in which I would meet someone solo that had been chosen for me by someone else... And I include both men and women in that. I don't think I'd feel any better or safer if it were a woman. |
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"Go for it someone pick a female for me.as I'm having no luck myself ha "
Really? If I picked a female, didn't let you know who it was and just arranged a sex meet for you, you'd be OK with that? Really? Would you? |
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"Go for it someone pick a female for me.as I'm having no luck myself ha
Really? If I picked a female, didn't let you know who it was and just arranged a sex meet for you, you'd be OK with that? Really? Would you? "
If you arranged a meet then yes. Sex part would only happen if you picked well ha |
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"Go for it someone pick a female for me.as I'm having no luck myself ha
Really? If I picked a female, didn't let you know who it was and just arranged a sex meet for you, you'd be OK with that? Really? Would you?
If you arranged a meet then yes. Sex part would only happen if you picked well ha"
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"Go for it someone pick a female for me.as I'm having no luck myself ha
Really? If I picked a female, didn't let you know who it was and just arranged a sex meet for you, you'd be OK with that? Really? Would you? "
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I'd meet them socially first, couldn't just have sex with someone I've never even spoken to  |
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"No
Why? Has there never been someone who knows you and your mind intimately enough to choose well, or is it because you prefer to be fully in control?
I have twin sister so we know each other. There is "but"... She (and all my friends and family) wants to see me happy having a man in my house. All of them, including my daughter were trying to find me the best man but no thanks.
I like having a friend with benefits, each of us live own life, no jealousy, all clear. This suits me better. No complications
Ok... But would you trust any of them to find you that fwb? If you hadn't already found one "
I will trust my sister definitely but never my younger brothers  |
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I trust Max implicitly and he has on occasion organised blind meets, with me blindfolded, where he is present. Very exciting and satisfying for all. I only meet solo if Max has drove me to my meet and is watching live to see me being treated. Exciting when he plots with another gent who gets our dynamic and who is compatible and comfortable. Everyone a winner. I a lucky lady. Lilred  |
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"No as I think that spark is something others can’t see and it’s between you
That's the unquantifiable bit isn't it? Could another person actually capture that lightning in a bottle for you? "
No as it’s not something you can put down on paper or describe. Certainly you can be physically attracted to someone but I prefer when there is more. That mental stimulation and spark. |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
Yes, as long as I knew they weren't going to take the piss. It sounds quite hot to me. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
Yes, as long as I knew they weren't going to take the piss. It sounds quite hot to me. "
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"Loads of women do trust others to pick, some never even see the other guy, they are blindfolded the whole time."
That's a particular fetish though, and their partner is normally present to ensure all goes well. Not sure even those with that kink would agree to meet someone solo that way, without any input, or at the very least, without their partner having met them beforehand. I'm open to being corrected on this though if anyone has experienced otherwise! |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
Had an absolutely amazing 3sum arranged by hubby. He didn't tell me who was arriving to the room and blindfolded me. It was Hot AF and when the blindfold came off I can confirm he chose perfectly. |
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"Go for it someone pick a female for me.as I'm having no luck myself ha
Really? If I picked a female, didn't let you know who it was and just arranged a sex meet for you, you'd be OK with that? Really? Would you? ..
I'd meet them socially first, couldn't just have sex with someone I've never even spoken to "
So that's a no then |
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"No
Why? Has there never been someone who knows you and your mind intimately enough to choose well, or is it because you prefer to be fully in control?
I have twin sister so we know each other. There is "but"... She (and all my friends and family) wants to see me happy having a man in my house. All of them, including my daughter were trying to find me the best man but no thanks.
I like having a friend with benefits, each of us live own life, no jealousy, all clear. This suits me better. No complications
Ok... But would you trust any of them to find you that fwb? If you hadn't already found one
I will trust my sister definitely but never my younger brothers "
Younger brothers should never be trusted with these matters |
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"Yes i would. My x knew me better than anybody ever did. My best friend id let him i think he knows my likes and dislikes"
What if they had never met the person themselves? If they made their decision based on an online conversation and a profile? |
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"I trust Max implicitly and he has on occasion organised blind meets, with me blindfolded, where he is present. Very exciting and satisfying for all. I only meet solo if Max has drove me to my meet and is watching live to see me being treated. Exciting when he plots with another gent who gets our dynamic and who is compatible and comfortable. Everyone a winner. I a lucky lady. Lilred "
When you say watching live, do you mean he is present throughout the meet but not participating or nearby and watching live feed? |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
Had an absolutely amazing 3sum arranged by hubby. He didn't tell me who was arriving to the room and blindfolded me. It was Hot AF and when the blindfold came off I can confirm he chose perfectly. "
Would you have felt as comfortable with it if hubby wasn't there though? Also, can I ask if you had ever chatted with or seen the person he chose beforehand? Was it someone you might have had spotted online and remarked on, or someone you had never even been aware existed? |
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No.
I had a fwb for nearly a year and she tried twice to arrange a 3 some. When she told me who it was, she got it completely and I mean completely wrong. Both choices couldn't have been worse choices.
That was someone I thought new me well enough.
My gut feeling couldn't be replaced with someone else. Sometimes I surprise myself too, but that gut feeling has never been wrong |
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"No.
I had a fwb for nearly a year and she tried twice to arrange a 3 some. When she told me who it was, she got it completely and I mean completely wrong. Both choices couldn't have been worse choices.
That was someone I thought new me well enough.
My gut feeling couldn't be replaced with someone else. Sometimes I surprise myself too, but that gut feeling has never been wrong "
What he said above
No one knows your gut feeling but you! |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
Had an absolutely amazing 3sum arranged by hubby. He didn't tell me who was arriving to the room and blindfolded me. It was Hot AF and when the blindfold came off I can confirm he chose perfectly.
Would you have felt as comfortable with it if hubby wasn't there though? Also, can I ask if you had ever chatted with or seen the person he chose beforehand? Was it someone you might have had spotted online and remarked on, or someone you had never even been aware existed? "
So yes we had met him for a drink previously and it's generally what we do, meet for a drink before planning anything more intimate. I would trust my hubby so would be fine if I had been alone for a portion of it or indeed if he arranged a solo meet for me. He knows what I like. But definitely it would be someone we'd have met socially at some point.
He recently was the subject of a surprise himself for a fellow hotwife who's hubby had arranged for her to meet solo with my hubby. She didn't know who she was meeting in the bar but again we know them socially also so it worked perfect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve met 3 couples in which the female had no contact with me at all. The guy did all the chatting and choice. One couple recently, the woman didn’t even know I was due to turn up until I arrived at her house with her FB. Takes all sorts |
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This is a slight twist on the OP but I've met 5 or 6 ladies on my time here, where she has been blindfolded and I've arrived and played without ever meeting face to face before, not even shared a face photo. Only contact has been profiles and txt chat.
Again gut feeling is adhered too. All went on to be good friends and regulars. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is a slight twist on the OP but I've met 5 or 6 ladies on my time here, where she has been blindfolded and I've arrived and played without ever meeting face to face before, not even shared a face photo. Only contact has been profiles and txt chat.
Again gut feeling is adhered too. All went on to be good friends and regulars."
Midas; same here. Chatted.... no pics.... but front door left open.... undressed outside her bedroom.... entered to find her on her knees, blindfolded , ankles restrained with spare silk scarves to restrain her hands. No talking until I said so. Also done it the other way around with her in charge |
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Hell noooo, all depends on my mood as to what type of guy I'd pick on a given night .I do have a certain type I'm attracted to but has to be the full package and im the only one I'd trust to see that in someone else . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
I've let a friend choose men to gang bang me and it went perfectly. She knows me very well! |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?
I've let a friend choose men to gang bang me and it went perfectly. She knows me very well! "
Had you met or previewed any of them before, or were they completely unknown to you? |
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Had you met or previewed any of them before, or were they completely unknown to you? "
A couple of them were guys I knew but most were complete strangers. We did this for 2 gang bangs and they both went really well. But I see why people would be nervous. I can think of only 2 people I'd let choose for me. Otherwise it'd be too risky. |
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Had you met or previewed any of them before, or were they completely unknown to you?
A couple of them were guys I knew but most were complete strangers. We did this for 2 gang bangs and they both went really well. But I see why people would be nervous. I can think of only 2 people I'd let choose for me. Otherwise it'd be too risky. "
Did the fact that you'd met a couple of them before help, do you think? Did you feel more comfortable meeting the strangers because you had friends in the room, or would it have made no difference if they were all strangers? Also, was your friend who did the choosing present?
Sorry for all the questions, I know I'm incredibly nosy, but I'm always intrigued by people's experiences and love to hear different perspectives, and where else but on Fab do you get to ask these kind of questions? |
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"No
Why? Has there never been someone who knows you and your mind intimately enough to choose well, or is it because you prefer to be fully in control?
I have twin sister so we know each other. There is "but"... She (and all my friends and family) wants to see me happy having a man in my house. All of them, including my daughter were trying to find me the best man but no thanks.
I like having a friend with benefits, each of us live own life, no jealousy, all clear. This suits me better. No complications
Ok... But would you trust any of them to find you that fwb? If you hadn't already found one
I will trust my sister definitely but never my younger brothers
Younger brothers should never be trusted with these matters "
Well, my younger brothers will choose someone who will in their opinion be a great buddy to watch the football, rugby, etc and going out with them so they will find a person totally opposite I want 
PS I like watching hockey, volleyball and basketball |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
I would trust a swing friend to choose a playmate ..... after all you get to play and have fun at the very least hopefully |
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I had a fwb for nearly a year and she tried twice to arrange a 3 some. When she told me who it was, she got it completely and I mean completely wrong. Both choices couldn't have been worse choices.
That was someone I thought new me well enough.
My gut feeling couldn't be replaced with someone else. Sometimes I surprise myself too, but that gut feeling has never been wrong "
If your gut feeling has never been wrong, why are you single? |
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"No.
I had a fwb for nearly a year and she tried twice to arrange a 3 some. When she told me who it was, she got it completely and I mean completely wrong. Both choices couldn't have been worse choices.
That was someone I thought new me well enough.
My gut feeling couldn't be replaced with someone else. Sometimes I surprise myself too, but that gut feeling has never been wrong
If your gut feeling has never been wrong, why are you single?"
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I would go for it , of course there had to be a coffee or drink meet first , since at the moment there is no one that knows me well enough to find a good match , but I would be game for a challenge like that , no problem |
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Did the fact that you'd met a couple of them before help, do you think? Did you feel more comfortable meeting the strangers because you had friends in the room, or would it have made no difference if they were all strangers? Also, was your friend who did the choosing present?
Sorry for all the questions, I know I'm incredibly nosy, but I'm always intrigued by people's experiences and love to hear different perspectives, and where else but on Fab do you get to ask these kind of questions? "
Yes she was present and no, it didn't make any difference because I was blindfolded the entire time so I didn't know who was involved until afterwards. |
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Did the fact that you'd met a couple of them before help, do you think? Did you feel more comfortable meeting the strangers because you had friends in the room, or would it have made no difference if they were all strangers? Also, was your friend who did the choosing present?
Sorry for all the questions, I know I'm incredibly nosy, but I'm always intrigued by people's experiences and love to hear different perspectives, and where else but on Fab do you get to ask these kind of questions?
Yes she was present and no, it didn't make any difference because I was blindfolded the entire time so I didn't know who was involved until afterwards. "
That's an incredible amount of trust you have in your friend. Have you done the same for her? |
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"Trust anyone... be it your spouse, partner or best friend, to choose a playmate for you, without any input whatsoever from you?"
Yes, I have and would again. He knows me so well and exactly what I like. Ana x |
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