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"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?" Cheating is cheating in my book | |||
"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?" Once your wife knows and said it's ok to join, but if your cheating that another thing | |||
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"Well I gonna throw my point in here.. OK cheating is cheating.. Everyone has their own personal reasons to do what they choose in life. And it's a free forum here. But I see it over and over in different topics. Yes people are entitled to say what they want. But do they ever know the true background behind the op s initial message. I fully support the op here because I had been in a similar scenario.. If one's wife totally goes off affection and sex and your left feeling abandoned emotionally and sexually.. And you constantly keep trying to instigate fun and closeness. And you spend a day txn and suggesting fun later that night only to come home to coldness. And even still trying to be nice and positive and she hits off to bed without even a goodnight and your left on the couch punching the couch with frustration.. And this happens year on year out.. Well fuk that. Soo point is.. Yes I did cheat. But not intentional.. All I did was fix a woman's flat wheel on the side of the road and it progressed from there. But we hit it off from the start and now we are happy.. So basically for some there can be a happy life out there for some of us that ain't happy regardless of been branded cheaters..! " | |||
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"Not everything is black and white. Many are here as a result of different reasons . So not one of us can judge " Totally agree Inquisitive, we all have different values, and not fair for one to judge another on here. | |||
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"If your wife is ok with it then no harm but if you are just cheating on your ill wife because you lack the self control of an adult then that's on you. We see this sort of thread a lot, and I can only wonder how many men marry their partners just for sex? It's a big part of it but are you willing to destroy your already poorly wife (they nearly always find out) just to get your rocks off? I'm not trying to be judgemental, but you came on here asking if it's wrong when it clearly is."  | |||
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"Not everything is black and white. Many are here as a result of different reasons . So not one of us can judge "
Well i guess honesty is the key...especailly here. | |||
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"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?" Just be honest to whomever you are going to meet. It will matter to some and not others. Dont let strangers sit in judgement on you. Marriage is not just defined by sex but by shared history, family and even finances. No one but you know your circumstances. Happy Fabbing x | |||
"To say that people are judging is a misinterpretation. This is a public forum where people post knowing others will comment with their opinion and that’s all it is... an opinion. In my experience my advice to the OP is simply this... if your marriage has broken down to the point that you are actively seeking someone else rather than your wife for sex then do a Dolly Parton....... D.I.V.O.R.C.E..... " | |||
"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling? Just be honest to whomever you are going to meet. It will matter to some and not others. Dont let strangers sit in judgement on you. Marriage is not just defined by sex but by shared history, family and even finances. No one but you know your circumstances. Happy Fabbing x" This is so true . Every marriage is different and defined differently .Mine is based on love but even so as I said before its not all black and white. But definitely be honest here and say you are married or attached its only fair to those you do decide to meet. | |||
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"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?" Does your wife know you are in here? | |||
"Sounds like your blaming your wife for your sexless marriage and trying to justify cheating. It's never ok to cheat . By all means live your life how you see fit but don't try justifying cheating . " Thats abit harsh. Sounds like you don't know the man's situation but still see fit to judge | |||
"Sounds like your blaming your wife for your sexless marriage and trying to justify cheating. It's never ok to cheat . By all means live your life how you see fit but don't try justifying cheating . Thats abit harsh. Sounds like you don't know the man's situation but still see fit to judge " Not harsh at all - OP categorically stated the reasons were all due to his partner - and he’s the one inviting comment. She’s the poor sap getting cheated on don’t forget that | |||
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"Everyone on fab has their own reason for being on here. I think if everyone is honest about their marital circumstances, then it is up to each person to decide if they want to meet them or not. I met a Dublin guy who always said he wasnt married yet when I got the opportunity to eventually meet him in Drogheda, we spent the first 3 to 4 hours sitting in pubs and even a car park for a time to avoid his WIFE who was shopping in Drogheda that day. The meet wasn't the best as I couldn't relax and even worse as he kept disappearing with lame excuses to, as I later found out, to go on Fab to chat to his previous meet. Definately my worst meet ever! But all that aside, I am married but honest about it. And I like to know if a person is married or not before I decide to meet. It is so very easy to judge a book by its cover....or a person by their marital status, but until you know their story....who can judge? OMG that sounds awful ;( " | |||
"Everyone on fab has their own reason for being on here. I think if everyone is honest about their marital circumstances, then it is up to each person to decide if they want to meet them or not. I met a Dublin guy who always said he wasnt married yet when I got the opportunity to eventually meet him in Drogheda, we spent the first 3 to 4 hours sitting in pubs and even a car park for a time to avoid his WIFE who was shopping in Drogheda that day. The meet wasn't the best as I couldn't relax and even worse as he kept disappearing with lame excuses to, as I later found out, to go on Fab to chat to his previous meet. Definately my worst meet ever! But all that aside, I am married but honest about it. And I like to know if a person is married or not before I decide to meet. It is so very easy to judge a book by its cover....or a person by their marital status, but until you know their story....who can judge? " That was a bad meet  | |||
"I’m not here to judge anyone. Everyone is here for different reasons. I just wish the attached guys would be honest with us and let us decide if we want to meet them or not. " well said, even for us bi guys it's nice to know if a potential sexual partner is attached or not, sometimes married men and women for that matter tend to think bisexual people can be used because we are thought of as being neither here nor there. By the way probably not the place to say this but you look beautiful. | |||
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"I’m not here to judge anyone. Everyone is here for different reasons. I just wish the attached guys would be honest with us and let us decide if we want to meet them or not. well said, even for us bi guys it's nice to know if a potential sexual partner is attached or not, sometimes married men and women for that matter tend to think bisexual people can be used because we are thought of as being neither here nor there. By the way probably not the place to say this but you look beautiful." Thank you.   | |||
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"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive " Yeah you sound very supportive blaming it all on her.  | |||
"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive Yeah you sound very supportive blaming it all on her. "It might just be true  | |||
"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling? Cheating is cheating in my book" And tax evasion is tax evasion out of books  | |||
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"Lol" I would laugh when it comes to tax evasion ... | |||
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"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner? Her past stories? Her traumas? Her fears? Her dreams? Her plans for family? Her fantasies? Her favorite type of holidays? If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it). Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women? Did she ever play by herself with herself? Does she have any concerns about life or anything? Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband? Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration? Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)... But cheating, man, that is just a no no no... "Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs! | |||
"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner? Her past stories? Her traumas? Her fears? Her dreams? Her plans for family? Her fantasies? Her favorite type of holidays? If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it). Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women? Did she ever play by herself with herself? Does she have any concerns about life or anything? Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband? Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration? Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)... But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...
Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs! "Actually this works. I always start a date with these questions before ask her what to drink.  | |||
"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner? Her past stories? Her traumas? Her fears? Her dreams? Her plans for family? Her fantasies? Her favorite type of holidays? If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it). Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women? Did she ever play by herself with herself? Does she have any concerns about life or anything? Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband? Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration? Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)... But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...
Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs! "Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though | |||
"Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though" Why would cleaning the house and ironing get her in the mood. Maybe take her for a walk, give her a push on the roundabout, go to the beach, walk up a mountain with her, work on her goals. Also flush the toilet cause nearly all women hate when you leave floaters in the toilet, but that much should be obvious. | |||
"Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though Why would cleaning the house and ironing get her in the mood. Maybe take her for a walk, give her a push on the roundabout, go to the beach, walk up a mountain with her, work on her goals. Also flush the toilet cause nearly all women hate when you leave floaters in the toilet, but that much should be obvious." Looks like the devil knows | |||
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"Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though Why would cleaning the house and ironing get her in the mood. Maybe take her for a walk, give her a push on the roundabout, go to the beach, walk up a mountain with her, work on her goals. Also flush the toilet cause nearly all women hate when you leave floaters in the toilet, but that much should be obvious." Women only either put out or don't, letting men stew in their own blue ball juices and forcing them to look for affairs on the likes of fab. Also since when women are allowed to have goals of their own? You on drugs? Can I have some? | |||
"Also since when women are allowed to have goals of their own? You on drugs? Can I have some?" I like to encourage my woman to have goals. Nothing crazy, small stuff like learn mandrin together or maybe learn to cook better. | |||
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"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner? Her past stories? Her traumas? Her fears? Her dreams? Her plans for family? Her fantasies? Her favorite type of holidays? If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it). Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women? Did she ever play by herself with herself? Does she have any concerns about life or anything? Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband? Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration? Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)... But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...
Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs!
Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though"Maybe a pile of crap for you, because you think that men can guess what you are thinking and feeling, so if you think that is it okay to not to open your heart by just giving a fake smile pretending that everything is fine and not having a super basic and common sense communication, then you really need to work out yourself or never be married until this silly behavior is fixed. (I am being as democratic as you) All successful marriages is made by pure constructive structured communication, understanding, and no expectations at all. Sounds like that the mandatory communion and marriage course didn't work at all... | |||
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"Op with all the respect in the world I wouldnt ask here for advice, everyone Opinion is different in regards to that issue ! people always have big opinions especially in a situation that is not their own! live your life as you see please and be happy as you see please! I understand that it might seem selfish but we come alone in this world and we go alone! every situation is different you do what you consider the best move is , even if it turns out to be a mistake ... then you will hopefully learn a lesson from a mistake... best of luck " Came alone gone alone, but made of two individuals who feel in love and at the most cases go through life overcoming all difficulties as a team if there were many Get through it together and never regret | |||
"Op with all the respect in the world I wouldnt ask here for advice, everyone Opinion is different in regards to that issue ! people always have big opinions especially in a situation that is not their own! live your life as you see please and be happy as you see please! I understand that it might seem selfish but we come alone in this world and we go alone! every situation is different you do what you consider the best move is , even if it turns out to be a mistake ... then you will hopefully learn a lesson from a mistake... best of luck " Correction: "Came alone gone alone"(that is selfish), but needed/made of two individuals who fell in love and in the most cases gone through life overcoming all difficulties as a team if there were many/any. Get through it together and never regret :D | |||
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