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Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?"
I prefer to meet with bbw/curvy/full figured women.. Its just what I like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?
I prefer to meet with bbw/curvy/full figured women.. Its just what I like "
I'm the same, their is something sexy about curvy/larger ladies 
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?"
Be yourself and if people don,t like that then thats their problem . Nice profile for a nice lady and they are jealous if they make negative comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think a body type comes with a set personality.
The jolly fat girl or the jocky gym guy its all a bit lazy putting people in boxes.
Why woukd you assume your a fot persons last option compared to some out of shape persons first? |
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?"
Hmm.... A personality that comes with sporty body type? That's an interesting one. Did not know that body type affects the personality. It can be the other way around though - a certain type of personality can lead to being overweight...
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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago
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"I dont think a body type comes with a set personality.
The jolly fat girl or the jocky gym guy its all a bit lazy putting people in boxes.
Why woukd you assume your a fot persons last option compared to some out of shape persons first?"
Because ive been told that. Then i starting turning down fit guys jic & abuse has followed. Had written details but decided to retract info as they aren't worth drawing attention to but lets say ive no nice names for them with level of abuse & they kindly enlightened me to fact i would be fit persons last option |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont think a body type comes with a set personality.
The jolly fat girl or the jocky gym guy its all a bit lazy putting people in boxes.
Why woukd you assume your a fot persons last option compared to some out of shape persons first?
Because ive been told that. Then i starting turning down fit guys jic & abuse has followed. Had written details but decided to retract info as they aren't worth drawing attention to but lets say ive no nice names for them with level of abuse & they kindly enlightened me to fact i would be fit persons last option "
And you have never had the rejection abuse off an out of shape guy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's very easy to stereotype based on body type but some of the nicest guys I've met here are fit, ripped lads who were very into me.
I've gotten abuse about my body here, but so havemy thin friends. Some people are just assholes.
I also think that a lot of the assumptions from the OP are probably rooted in some insecurity. I know a lot of bigger girls here who just find it so hard to believe ripped guys could fancy them, which is really sad.
Hope she starts to see that her body is beautiful and opens up to other people who are it that way.
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thats sick abusing a lady cos she was not into you . How would some of those guys like to be forced to have sex with a lady they dont like . How would they react . Its simple if a person says no they mean no .. |
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"It can be the other way around though - a certain type of personality can lead to being overweight...
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This is complete bullshit.
OP, I tend to presume that anyone messaging me finds me attractive because a) why wouldn't they and b) why would they bother messaging if they didn't. If they don't fancy me, and they have an "any hole's a goal" approach that will become very clear very quickly, and guys with that approach don't get very far with me. |
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"I think it's very easy to stereotype based on body type but some of the nicest guys I've met here are fit, ripped lads who were very into me.
I've gotten abuse about my body here, but so havemy thin friends. Some people are just assholes.
I also think that a lot of the assumptions from the OP are probably rooted in some insecurity. I know a lot of bigger girls here who just find it so hard to believe ripped guys could fancy them, which is really sad.
Hope she starts to see that her body is beautiful and opens up to other people who are it that way.
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"I think it's very easy to stereotype based on body type but some of the nicest guys I've met here are fit, ripped lads who were very into me.
I've gotten abuse about my body here, but so havemy thin friends. Some people are just assholes.
I also think that a lot of the assumptions from the OP are probably rooted in some insecurity. I know a lot of bigger girls here who just find it so hard to believe ripped guys could fancy them, which is really sad.
Hope she starts to see that her body is beautiful and opens up to other people who are it that way.
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Exactly |
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This escalated quickly lol. Thanks for all the messages and kind words. I can assure you I love my body and how I look. I just come out of my comfort zone when a person compliments my WHOLE body and not just my tits and ass.
Maybe I should have said, it's happened a few times now and although I'm not too bothered by it, I'm thinking of all the girls, who get hated on by men like that, and maybe 4/5 years ago I would have believed every word.
My boyfriend is slimmer than me and athletic build but not into fitness or gym. So it's not that I don't think they are attractive. My point was, I get messages from men who enjoy gym, weights and fitness who will compliment me or my body. Once I turn down an offer of sex, the messages tend o get abusive and hateful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it hard to believe men like bigger girls on a site like this, most are here to just to fulfill their needs and will go with anyone"
Do you find it hard to believe men like biggers girls away from Fab? |
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I think I know what the OP is talking about. In my experience , without making generalisation, curvey Ladies are always great fun (in and out of bed)... Cannot say thry same about "model like men/women" Having said so, men that contacts a curvy lady and start to insult/abuse them when rejected are just morons that are looking for "any hole" and that cannot find one cause they are morons... In my mind a men that acts like this, especially if fit, just make true the equation "fit man = idiot".. That's like jokes about blondes...we knkw all the blondes are not stupid... But it also true that many blondes are 
Anyway... This is a funny conversation to have during a social meet as it is easier to explain it all talking than writing  |
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"Right that settles it I giving up the gym so that I no longer have to be a c*nt"
If you are taking my comment personally... Probably you should
If I wasn't clear, if you are the type that would insult/abuse a woman because she rejected you, then you are a moron, doesn't matter if you go to the gym or not... And again, to be sure i said "if you are"... "IF" |
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"Right that settles it I giving up the gym so that I no longer have to be a c*nt
If you are taking my comment personally... Probably you should
If I wasn't clear, if you are the type that would insult/abuse a woman because she rejected you, then you are a moron, doesn't matter if you go to the gym or not... And again, to be sure i said "if you are"... "IF" "
Ah it wasnt just your comment, and it was said more in jest.
But taking your post as an example anyone (not you personally) that is lazy enough to connect someones bodytype/lifestyle/hair color to a personality is going to miss out on alot of very diverse and interesting people. And a few stupid stupid blondes do not make true the equation |
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What a load of old tosh.
Imagine a fat man saying that "Can the gorgeous fit girls just fuck off and leave me alone"
Both men and women can insult you when rejected. If you're overweight they will call you fat, if skinny call you skinny. You don't really know someone till you reject them and see how they handle a no.
But men are far less judgemental than women about this stuff. |
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When there are 100 males to every female online most males are going to take what they can get..,it's a fact most males are not too fussy about who they get to take care of their cocks....ladies you are in the driving seat...enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just don't understand what personality has with how we look like?
If you are overweight or skinny you can still have a good sense of humour and laugh a lot or be total ignorant and treat people badly. We are who we are. The rule is simple: chat and meet these people whom you are sure both sides find it attractive. If you don't like skinny or overweight people, its still your choice but have RESPECT for God sake!
This world is crazy enough. A bit of manners wouldn't kill us but make someone's else life a bit brighter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"BBW are more fun both in the bed and bubbly personality
I'm a big aul curvy bird im crap in the sack and have no sense of humour  "
Me too!!
I just lay there like a beached whale then cry and beg for bacon when its over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For what it’s worth, I would consider myself fit, but I’ve always been attracted to different body types at different times. I can never tell what kinda lady is gonna catch my eye, and wouldn’t have it any other way, keeps life interesting!
And if I message a woman on here, she’s in no way my last choice, surely that defeats the purpose of Fab!
Bad people are bad people, irregardless of the body they inhabit!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love a curvy lady and find them delicious in every way.
My head turns when I see a scrumptious full bodied lady walk past and my eyes takes her from her luscious booty right up to her voluptuous breasts.
Gets me going every time.
Psyche (f)
Ps - nothing wrong with a slim gym body lady either but it’s just my personal preferences.
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I've never thought of myself as bbw tbh. I only ever get called it on this site.
I'd just describe myself as curvy although I don't believe bbw has any inherently negative connotations, it's just not a label I've ever chosen for myself.
I am loving all the body positivity in the forums lately though.
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"BBW are more fun both in the bed and bubbly personality
I'm a big aul curvy bird im crap in the sack and have no sense of humour
Me too!!
I just lay there like a beached whale then cry and beg for bacon when its over."
I never knew whales ate bacon, learn something new everyday |
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You have a fabulous figure I must say and I being honest before I met my current partner, I didn't really know there was nice ways to describe my body type. I am fucking beautiful but I'm also big and kinky as fuck. Hence the username lol 
But yeah I've seen some hotties on here maybe half my size, it's all about how you carry yourself. And personality is the biggest factor.
So all I need now is a vote, fresh cream and fruit or chocolate cake? |
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By *oobs1Woman
over a year ago
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"As I said it's not the fact men go to the gym, I just find they can't handle rejection or the word no  "
Isn’t that the truth!!!! I went from being absolutely gorgeous to a stuck up fat cow in a 20 minute window all because I didn’t throw myself at him and reply.... That’s not too mention the constant who comes into my inbox every time his IDs are banned from fab calls me a colourful range of names and then blocks me because I didn’t want anything more to do with him... The latest being a fat whore whose Greek husband left her because she was a cunt..... This will be the same man who makes a bee line for BBWs every time I see he obtains a new ID and veri lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What a load of old tosh.
Imagine a fat man saying that "Can the gorgeous fit girls just fuck off and leave me alone"
Both men and women can insult you when rejected. If you're overweight they will call you fat, if skinny call you skinny. You don't really know someone till you reject them and see how they handle a no.
But men are far less judgemental than women about this stuff. "
I completely agree with you there |
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By *ertwoCouple
over a year ago
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Im not into the skinny bags of bones. Even thow thats what I am my self lol. Have to say love the Boots advert on TV with the 2 Great girls in the sea proud of the fantastic bodies they have. |
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"Im not into the skinny bags of bones. Even thow thats what I am my self lol. Have to say love the Boots advert on TV with the 2 Great girls in the sea proud of the fantastic bodies they have."
Why is it ok to refer to slim girls like this. Body positivity is brilliant but refereing to a body type as skinny bag of bones is cruel. Words have effect ..on Everyone no matter what their size. Lets refer to BBW as fattys then ?? |
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"Im not into the skinny bags of bones. Even thow thats what I am my self lol. Have to say love the Boots advert on TV with the 2 Great girls in the sea proud of the fantastic bodies they have.
Why is it ok to refer to slim girls like this. Body positivity is brilliant but refereing to a body type as skinny bag of bones is cruel. Words have effect ..on Everyone no matter what their size. Lets refer to BBW as fattys then ?? "
This is the best answer on the thread,i dont agree with either references but you make an excellent point as to why anybody should believe they have a right to body shame somebody else |
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"Im not into the skinny bags of bones. Even thow thats what I am my self lol. Have to say love the Boots advert on TV with the 2 Great girls in the sea proud of the fantastic bodies they have.
Why is it ok to refer to slim girls like this. Body positivity is brilliant but refereing to a body type as skinny bag of bones is cruel. Words have effect ..on Everyone no matter what their size. Lets refer to BBW as fattys then ??
This is the best answer on the thread,i dont agree with either references but you make an excellent point as to why anybody should believe they have a right to body shame somebody else"
Nobody has its that simple |
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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me,
what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?"
Me personally
I like curvy/bbw /voluptuous women
Just my preference |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im not into the skinny bags of bones. Even thow thats what I am my self lol. Have to say love the Boots advert on TV with the 2 Great girls in the sea proud of the fantastic bodies they have.
Why is it ok to refer to slim girls like this. Body positivity is brilliant but refereing to a body type as skinny bag of bones is cruel. Words have effect ..on Everyone no matter what their size. Lets refer to BBW as fattys then ??
This is the best answer on the thread,i dont ae with either references but you make an excellent point as to why anybody should believe they have a right to body shame somebody else
Nobody has its that simple"
100000% agree
It’s hard enough, this life lark without people making it rougher with their ill thought out stupid comments ..... for years I was totally embarrassed by being so thin , I could never mock anyone over their body .... keyboard warriors are very brave folk |
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Funny enough... about a week ago there was a thread in forums - lady from a couple asked why is it so hard to find a slim lady on fab.
She got absolutely slaughtered for "body shaming BBW's", for "not being inclusive" and for "Not being considerate of others feelings".
Now here's a thread full of BBW's talking loud and proud about how much funnier, sexier and generally better they are than all of them skinny, sad gym bunnies.
Double standards? Noooooo... how dare you.
Body positivity? Only works one way - when you're positive about a bigger body. Duh
I'm not standing on either fat or skinny side.
I used to be size 18 when I was younger and had exactly same friends, lifestyle, hobbies and personality.
Now I'm size 10 and I'm all the same person, but happier. Never been to the gym, only ever commited to one diet - homemade high fat low carb food made from scratch. What makes me happier? I don't need to worry that some clothes or lingerie won't fit me, I feel awake and alive (a lot to do with a diet as it fixed some health issues too).
I still do have my own little demons and insecurities, but never would I ever, not in the past, not now and hopefully not in future will I let myself stoop so low to put anyone else down to make myself look better.
Bottom line is: when one is happy in their own skin (be it weight, hight, hair colour or whatever else) - they shouldn't feel the need to seek other people's approval and just get on with who they are.
In regards to OP's original post - everyone receives abuse from rejection. Some people called me and my "skinny" friends nastiest things. Some even went as far as stating that they only contacted me for my weight issues as I'm obviously struggling. Some people are nasty. It's not nice. I put my little statuses up to voice it here and there. Other people deal with it differently.
What you should never do is assume that it has anything to do with you or your actual body. Most of them are genuinely attracted to you, only rejection pushes them to be the big boy and belittle you just to inflate their own ego back. |
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?"
I put up a topic a little similar to this once but got eaten out of it just because I like larger curvy women and yeah probably simply down to the fact the slim sporty ladies wouldn't be attracted to me so same as yourself lol |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
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I’m a very large sexy woman and I have a female couples profile here with a sexy slender woman. We are both just as sexy as the other one and like to meet people that don’t judge either for their size. Can we not just meet who we like without being offensive to those that we don’t?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's very easy to stereotype based on body type but some of the nicest guys I've met here are fit, ripped lads who were very into me.
I've gotten abuse about my body here, but so havemy thin friends. Some people are just assholes.
I also think that a lot of the assumptions from the OP are probably rooted in some insecurity. I know a lot of bigger girls here who just find it so hard to believe ripped guys could fancy them, which is really sad.
Hope she starts to see that her body is beautiful and opens up to other people who are it that way.
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Well said. For me it isnt the body type that attracts me, its the personality. If someone doesnt like my body shape thats fine, don't contact me and go and chat to ladies with the body type you like.
Simples!
I have been very lucky and get no nasty messages really barr the very odd one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn’t give a flyin fuck what anyone thinks , I’m a big girl and it hasn’t ever stopped me pullin the fellas , I do tend to go for well built tall men tho , I’d be afraid of breaking the smaller skinny fellas , cute as they are ! There’s someone here for everyone . |
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Yip alot if the time on here.
First message is the "wow you are gorgeous /amazing curves/ you're hot" etc yawn.. And then when I politely say no thanks all the toys come out of the pram, the bile starts spewing and the insults start
Latest one when I said I no last night was "you're not my type anyways ya fat c*nt" what a charming man lol |
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"Yip alot if the time on here.
First message is the "wow you are gorgeous /amazing curves/ you're hot" etc yawn.. And then when I politely say no thanks all the toys come out of the pram, the bile starts spewing and the insults start
Latest one when I said I no last night was "you're not my type anyways ya fat c*nt" what a charming man lol"
Luckily you're not his type, and plenty of others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice. |
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice. "
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well... |
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice.
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well..."
Totally agree op. My experience on this site as a larger lady is abuse if I turn a guy down whether he fit or not. Maybe it's an Irish guy thing even on nights out I've experienced it. Even one guy laughed in my face when I started chatting to him. But thankfully there is some decent guys here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice.
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well...
Totally agree op. My experience on this site as a larger lady is abuse if I turn a guy down whether he fit or not. Maybe it's an Irish guy thing even on nights out I've experienced it. Even one guy laughed in my face when I started chatting to him. But thankfully there is some decent guys here "
...I ALWAYS treat a lady with the utmost respect ..no matter her size or shape ,if l message a lady and she decides to give some of her time to me she will get my 100% respect and time returned..my opinion on it is that " who the fuck am l to treat anyone with less than the respect they deserve to be treated with "...and ya l do realize that there are the arrogant .. condescending..pompous guys out there ..BUT...there are also a fair few ladies that would look down their noses at guys too and make them feel totally worthless or inadequate...there is never a problem when either male or female treat others with respect..the problems occur when either party treats the other with distain in whatever form..when l first joined here l was always worried that l didn't have the confidence to approach a lady cause l maybe didn't have the " criteria " and maybe feel " not good enough " for her even before l messaged ..now a thing l say to myself is ..." What can she bring into my life ..to enhance it.. Even for the short while were we to meet..and about your last point in your text...if guys can't handle rejection they shouldn't be here ..no need to get abusive ..not all shoe fits ..just be respectful... |
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice.
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well..."
I have had more abuse from the other side tbh... But like ya said, different experiences... I find rejection doesn't sit well with all body types... But especially the "genuine" ones, or ones that say they are nice guys, on their profile |
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over a year ago
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice.
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well...
I have had more abuse from the other side tbh... But like ya said, different experiences... I find rejection doesn't sit well with all body types... But especially the "genuine" ones, or ones that say they are nice guys, on their profile "
Gotta agree with you there. I usually stay away from those who state anything similar to "genuine and nice guy" in their profile. Run a mile from ones who also send an opening message repeating themselves that they're "genuine and are genuinely nice". They always without a fail end up being the worst for taking any kind of rejection. |
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice.
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well...
I have had more abuse from the other side tbh... But like ya said, different experiences... I find rejection doesn't sit well with all body types... But especially the "genuine" ones, or ones that say they are nice guys, on their profile
Gotta agree with you there. I usually stay away from those who state anything similar to "genuine and nice guy" in their profile. Run a mile from ones who also send an opening message repeating themselves that they're "genuine and are genuinely nice". They always without a fail end up being the worst for taking any kind of rejection. "
Oppss just sent you a message saying I am a genuine nice guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always take it a blessing when women on here block me for simply having the audacity to look at their profile and maybe fab one of their pics . Tells me a lot about them |
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice.
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well...
I have had more abuse from the other side tbh... But like ya said, different experiences... I find rejection doesn't sit well with all body types... But especially the "genuine" ones, or ones that say they are nice guys, on their profile
Gotta agree with you there. I usually stay away from those who state anything similar to "genuine and nice guy" in their profile. Run a mile from ones who also send an opening message repeating themselves that they're "genuine and are genuinely nice". They always without a fail end up being the worst for taking any kind of rejection. "
...Really Missus ?? ..lol..." Gimme some sugar ..l AM your neighbour "...don't know what l put that down there ...It was on the radio a minute ago .." Heyyy ya "... good tune...so you think the " genuinely nice ones " and Everything genuinely about them are really Wolves in sheep's clothing..and hide a nastier side ?...well ..I'll take your word for it as l'm sure you're speaking from the experience of it..hey .hope your party went the way you wanted it to |
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"I am fat and have fucked some amazingly lovely "fit" blokes. Not once did I feel I was their last option or that I was "any hole" just because I am not fit too doesn't mean they are unable to fancy fat birds, infact I have found it to be quite the opposite.. And an old, fat bird at that! Plus, them being athletic doesn't automatically make them dickheads ya know, the same as less buff blokes are not all nice.
This thread is pretty long, but if you scroll some more you will see I said about rejecting an offer they become abusive and comment on my body they were complimenting minutes before. I understand these are YOUR experiences, but that was MINE. I'm not painting all 'fit' men with the same brush, I just find (in my experience) they don't take rejection all that well...
I have had more abuse from the other side tbh... But like ya said, different experiences... I find rejection doesn't sit well with all body types... But especially the "genuine" ones, or ones that say they are nice guys, on their profile
Gotta agree with you there. I usually stay away from those who state anything similar to "genuine and nice guy" in their profile. Run a mile from ones who also send an opening message repeating themselves that they're "genuine and are genuinely nice". They always without a fail end up being the worst for taking any kind of rejection. "
Yep the minute I see "genuine" I keep scrolling. |
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By *B 2001Man
over a year ago
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?"
Well you shouldn't get guff anyway. Personally face is more important than body. I need a glint in the eye. A personality is massive. I'm no prize pig but I'm no monster either. I say just be nice and feck anyone who had been nasty to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always take it a blessing when women on here block me for simply having the audacity to look at their profile and maybe fab one of their pics . Tells me a lot about them"
That you're not what they are looking for and they didn't want either of you wasting time with messages, or turning up in eachothers searches or updates?! Blocking is not always a personal slight you know, just an effective filter! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"thats sick abusing a lady cos she was not into you . How would some of those guys like to be forced to have sex with a lady they dont like . How would they react . Its simple if a person says no they mean no .."
Happens to me when the wife has a few too many!!!
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?"
I don't have a physical type really (aside from tall), as my libido is more personality-drawn, but I do understand where you're coming from. I'm not meeting, but still get plenty of meet requests from self-proclaimed ripped, hung guys who assume that the sheer magnetism of their looks will pull my knickers off, despite what my profile states, and it is usually these same narcissists who will take rejection badly and proceed to tell me how lucky I am that anyone as old, fat, ugly, or stupid as me would even look at me, and how nobody on here would give me the time of day in real life.... Then usually in the next few days you'll see their veri pop up on someone local (nearly always the same person who ends up meeting these guys) and know that he probably only in the area for the night or two and had messaged every woman locally, because as you say OP, any hole is a goal, and he was determined to score, even if he did consider his meet old, fat, ugly or stupid |
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"Been messaged before and expected to meet good looking or "fit" lads, but in all honesty that's not my type. Never was. Im just not attracted to the sporty type, or the personality that comes with it. Just like they probably not attracted to me, but choose the "any holes a goal" approach. 100% turn off for me, what does everyone else think? I'd much prefer to be someone's type than someone's last option.
Ever get abused and comments after rejecting or turning down an offer?
I don't have a physical type really (aside from tall), as my libido is more personality-drawn, but I do understand where you're coming from. I'm not meeting, but still get plenty of meet requests from self-proclaimed ripped, hung guys who assume that the sheer magnetism of their looks will pull my knickers off, despite what my profile states, and it is usually these same narcissists who will take rejection badly and proceed to tell me how lucky I am that anyone as old, fat, ugly, or stupid as me would even look at me, and how nobody on here would give me the time of day in real life.... Then usually in the next few days you'll see their veri pop up on someone local (nearly always the same person who ends up meeting these guys) and know that he probably only in the area for the night or two and had messaged every woman locally, because as you say OP, any hole is a goal, and he was determined to score, even if he did consider his meet old, fat, ugly or stupid "
Talking to women here realised they only turn old, fat and ugly when they reject a guy , till then they are the best .
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Omg x people should not be judged on size colouring or anything. If people don't want to meet that's their choice but getting abusive is playground games. We are all adults and should respect each other choices over who we meet or don't meet xx |
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"Omg x people should not be judged on size colouring or anything. If people don't want to meet that's their choice but getting abusive is playground games. We are all adults and should respect each other choices over who we meet or don't meet xx"
Sadly I wonder sometimes are we really all adults. I saw a perfect example of this type of thing this morning. A returning local member had set up a new profile this morning... And within minutes of setting up his profile had a scathing status message up saying how quickly it was coming back to him that Fab is full of fat/ugly woman punching above their weight and being cocky because of it, but nobody would look at them in real life. A delightful creature who instantly got himself onto my 'not ever' list without even having spoken to me. |
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"Omg x people should not be judged on size colouring or anything. If people don't want to meet that's their choice but getting abusive is playground games. We are all adults and should respect each other choices over who we meet or don't meet xx"
Of course they should be judged "you're gorgeous" = a positive judgement. If people cant hate you, then people cant love you.
It's only a problem for people who need positive reinforcement from everyone they meet. |
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By *assyBBWWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it's very easy to stereotype based on body type but some of the nicest guys I've met here are fit, ripped lads who were very into me.
I've gotten abuse about my body here, but so havemy thin friends. Some people are just assholes.
I also think that a lot of the assumptions from the OP are probably rooted in some insecurity. I know a lot of bigger girls here who just find it so hard to believe ripped guys could fancy them, which is really sad.
Hope she starts to see that her body is beautiful and opens up to other people who are it that way.
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I have been on fab over 8 years and have only had one experience of a guy who was verbally abusive and after a while he rejoined made a new profile and messaged me to apologise, we all have our sexual preference and I do believe it’s how you present urself and if the message or photo doesn’t attract you it’s best to be open and honest with the sender !!! |
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