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No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used. |
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"Virtually all human interaction involves varying levels of give and take. What's your point?"
This... As long as we're both using each other willingly and respectfully, isn't that what it's all about? I don't hear Tesco complaining that I only use them for shopping  |
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"Discuss.... I personally think we are but I'm fine with it. In a no strings capacity everyone is been used for pleasure. "
I used to use users, usually I'm used to being used, but youse get used to it. |
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"No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used. "
They're still being used, but their reward is monetary. In swinging the reward is mutual pleasure.... If only 1 person is gaining pleasure or reward from the experience, that's not swinging... That's something of an entirely different nature. |
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"No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used.
They're still being used, but their reward is monetary. In swinging the reward is mutual pleasure.... If only 1 person is gaining pleasure or reward from the experience, that's not swinging... That's something of an entirely different nature. "
that can be applied to all sexual encounters. I could meet a girl today, not give a fuck about pleasing her, just make sure I cum. I'd never do it but anybody could. |
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"No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used.
They're still being used, but their reward is monetary. In swinging the reward is mutual pleasure.... If only 1 person is gaining pleasure or reward from the experience, that's not swinging... That's something of an entirely different nature. that can be applied to all sexual encounters. I could meet a girl today, not give a fuck about pleasing her, just make sure I cum. I'd never do it but anybody could. "
That last bit sounds exactly like my modus operandi  |
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"No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used.
They're still being used, but their reward is monetary. In swinging the reward is mutual pleasure.... If only 1 person is gaining pleasure or reward from the experience, that's not swinging... That's something of an entirely different nature. that can be applied to all sexual encounters. I could meet a girl today, not give a fuck about pleasing her, just make sure I cum. I'd never do it but anybody could.
That last bit sounds exactly like my modus operandi "
just make sure that white creamy stuff leaves your willy. |
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"No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used.
They're still being used, but their reward is monetary. In swinging the reward is mutual pleasure.... If only 1 person is gaining pleasure or reward from the experience, that's not swinging... That's something of an entirely different nature. "
I agree once we are both consenting and giving each other pleasure and satisfaction 
Often the satisfaction is giving the pleasure  |
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All no strings sex is similar, even swinging. It makes me laugh when some even say this is not tinder. As I said on the tinder or fab thread earlier, both sites are similar in looking for sex. The exception is you have straight up physical attraction on tinder. |
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"Virtually all human interaction involves varying levels of give and take. What's your point?
This... As long as we're both using each other willingly and respectfully, isn't that what it's all about? I don't hear Tesco complaining that I only use them for shopping "
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"All no strings sex is similar, even swinging. It makes me laugh when some even say this is not tinder. As I said on the tinder or fab thread earlier, both sites are similar in looking for sex. The exception is you have straight up physical attraction on tinder. "
I agree with you that mutual giving and receiving pleasure is not restricted to swinging or even defines swinging, it can happen with with any sort of nsa encounter.
However there are more differences between tinder and fab than the one you listed, besides you could argue that straight physical attraction is given with fab too but more body related than the face or looks. Anyhow in general I think it's fair to say fab is more straight forward regardingthe aim, it's about sex and kinks. And by saying that I'm aware it doesn't mean it's easier to get a meet on fab. While tinder is in its origin a dating site, it obviously is also used as a hook up site, although I've read more than once here that there's often leading on involved to get to the honey pot. Finally on tinder you're more likely to get the usual conventional sex while fab facilitates kinks and living out fantasies. |
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"No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used. "
Totally disagree. I understand the point you are wanting to put across. But I would never allow myself to be used and I would never set out to use anybody. I enjoy good sex but I would never view another person as just a means to an end or something I want. I don't see a woman as an object to get or achieve what I want sexually. And I would never allow myself to be "used". I think the key word or what it boils down to is respect. Mutual respect. Yes we all know why we are on here, it's all about the sex and growing in that manner; but I would never walk into a situation thinking I'm going to get what I want (use her) and then leave. I would like to think when I leave that the other person is satisfied or smiling or too. So that would lead to another word...... compersion. Good thread though. |
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I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view. |
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"No problem but at times I think people struggle with the differences associated with meaningful loving relationship sex and no strings fun. At the end of the day you want to give and receive pleasure but the 2 are very different. You often here the line "I'm not a hooker, I'm not here to be used". In realistic terms you ain't q hooker, they're paid for sex but you are been used.
Totally disagree. I understand the point you are wanting to put across. But I would never allow myself to be used and I would never set out to use anybody. I enjoy good sex but I would never view another person as just a means to an end or something I want. I don't see a woman as an object to get or achieve what I want sexually. And I would never allow myself to be "used". I think the key word or what it boils down to is respect. Mutual respect. Yes we all know why we are on here, it's all about the sex and growing in that manner; but I would never walk into a situation thinking I'm going to get what I want (use her) and then leave. I would like to think when I leave that the other person is satisfied or smiling or too. So that would lead to another word...... compersion. Good thread though."
I understand both points of view.
Fab is for mutual pleasue and satisfaction and isn't meant to make anyone feel a hooker. Although a meet can make a person, especially a female, feel used and cheap afterwards but that is due to the ignorance of the other person making them feel like that.
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view. "
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? |
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? "
I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment?"
To answer your question: Been there done it and hopefully do it again, I've two fab friends in the uk I'd love to meet. 
How do you go on and organise a 3sum on tinder? How open are peeps on tinder to discuss their sexual needs and wants? I'd say the chances of 'being used' without getting pleasure in return is higher on tinder than on fab. |
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment?
To answer your question: Been there done it and hopefully do it again, I've two fab friends in the uk I'd love to meet.
How do you go on and organise a 3sum on tinder? How open are peeps on tinder to discuss their sexual needs and wants? I'd say the chances of 'being used' without getting pleasure in return is higher on tinder than on fab. "
see for me sex is very simple. Would I do a 3sum? I have done and prob will again. Would I be ok if I only got one to one sex with a hot female from now on? Absolutely. Sex doesn't bother me whether it's a 2sum, 3sum, 4sum, etc etc as long as mutual attraction is there |
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By *oghunter33Woman
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment?
To answer your question: Been there done it and hopefully do it again, I've two fab friends in the uk I'd love to meet.
How do you go on and organise a 3sum on tinder? How open are peeps on tinder to discuss their sexual needs and wants? I'd say the chances of 'being used' without getting pleasure in return is higher on tinder than on fab. see for me sex is very simple. Would I do a 3sum? I have done and prob will again. Would I be ok if I only got one to one sex with a hot female from now on? Absolutely. Sex doesn't bother me whether it's a 2sum, 3sum, 4sum, etc etc as long as mutual attraction is there "
You missed a bit my point, it's not just about a 3sum, that was just an example. It's about living out desires, fantasies and kinks by avoiding a hit and miss approach. Nothing complicated about it. |
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment?
To answer your question: Been there done it and hopefully do it again, I've two fab friends in the uk I'd love to meet.
How do you go on and organise a 3sum on tinder? How open are peeps on tinder to discuss their sexual needs and wants? I'd say the chances of 'being used' without getting pleasure in return is higher on tinder than on fab. see for me sex is very simple. Would I do a 3sum? I have done and prob will again. Would I be ok if I only got one to one sex with a hot female from now on? Absolutely. Sex doesn't bother me whether it's a 2sum, 3sum, 4sum, etc etc as long as mutual attraction is there
You missed a bit my point, it's not just about a 3sum, that was just an example. It's about living out desires, fantasies and kinks by avoiding a hit and miss approach. Nothing complicated about it. "
a 3sum 4sum, anal, blindfolded etc, they're all fantasies. The difference here is people list them usually for others to see, on tinder you can just ask if you want to. The point I was making is one to one normal sex would do me no problem. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment?
To answer your question: Been there done it and hopefully do it again, I've two fab friends in the uk I'd love to meet.
How do you go on and organise a 3sum on tinder? How open are peeps on tinder to discuss their sexual needs and wants? I'd say the chances of 'being used' without getting pleasure in return is higher on tinder than on fab. see for me sex is very simple. Would I do a 3sum? I have done and prob will again. Would I be ok if I only got one to one sex with a hot female from now on? Absolutely. Sex doesn't bother me whether it's a 2sum, 3sum, 4sum, etc etc as long as mutual attraction is there
You missed a bit my point, it's not just about a 3sum, that was just an example. It's about living out desires, fantasies and kinks by avoiding a hit and miss approach. Nothing complicated about it. a 3sum 4sum, anal, blindfolded etc, they're all fantasies. The difference here is people list them usually for others to see, on tinder you can just ask if you want to. The point I was making is one to one normal sex would do me no problem. "
I understand your preferences or sex simplicity but everyone is different and nothing wrong with fantasies respectively satisfy your desires that might be slighty off the norm.
Yes you might just ask peeps on tinder ie would you be into watersports or dp with a third person involved, but do tinder peeps really do so? I doubt it... |
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment?
To answer your question: Been there done it and hopefully do it again, I've two fab friends in the uk I'd love to meet.
How do you go on and organise a 3sum on tinder? How open are peeps on tinder to discuss their sexual needs and wants? I'd say the chances of 'being used' without getting pleasure in return is higher on tinder than on fab. see for me sex is very simple. Would I do a 3sum? I have done and prob will again. Would I be ok if I only got one to one sex with a hot female from now on? Absolutely. Sex doesn't bother me whether it's a 2sum, 3sum, 4sum, etc etc as long as mutual attraction is there
You missed a bit my point, it's not just about a 3sum, that was just an example. It's about living out desires, fantasies and kinks by avoiding a hit and miss approach. Nothing complicated about it. a 3sum 4sum, anal, blindfolded etc, they're all fantasies. The difference here is people list them usually for others to see, on tinder you can just ask if you want to. The point I was making is one to one normal sex would do me no problem.
I understand your preferences or sex simplicity but everyone is different and nothing wrong with fantasies respectively satisfy your desires that might be slighty off the norm.
Yes you might just ask peeps on tinder ie would you be into watersports or dp with a third person involved, but do tinder peeps really do so? I doubt it..."
nobody can answer that only them. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view.
You see it's all relative, I think fab is more straightforward or is it common to ask or get a cock pic on tinder? I wouldn't be at all surprised at a woman saying fab is far more straightforward. U didn't answer the first part of the comment?
To answer your question: Been there done it and hopefully do it again, I've two fab friends in the uk I'd love to meet.
How do you go on and organise a 3sum on tinder? How open are peeps on tinder to discuss their sexual needs and wants? I'd say the chances of 'being used' without getting pleasure in return is higher on tinder than on fab. see for me sex is very simple. Would I do a 3sum? I have done and prob will again. Would I be ok if I only got one to one sex with a hot female from now on? Absolutely. Sex doesn't bother me whether it's a 2sum, 3sum, 4sum, etc etc as long as mutual attraction is there
You missed a bit my point, it's not just about a 3sum, that was just an example. It's about living out desires, fantasies and kinks by avoiding a hit and miss approach. Nothing complicated about it. a 3sum 4sum, anal, blindfolded etc, they're all fantasies. The difference here is people list them usually for others to see, on tinder you can just ask if you want to. The point I was making is one to one normal sex would do me no problem.
I understand your preferences or sex simplicity but everyone is different and nothing wrong with fantasies respectively satisfy your desires that might be slighty off the norm.
Yes you might just ask peeps on tinder ie would you be into watersports or dp with a third person involved, but do tinder peeps really do so? I doubt it...nobody can answer that only them. "
Correct but cheap answer. My best guess is it's way easier on fab to talk openly about sex. |
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If we think we being used, than it works the same way as we using others. This is a swing site we all on here for the same thing and can't let emotions get in the way if thats the case this is not the site for you. |
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By *oseredWoman
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Nothing wrong with emotions being involved if you manage them like a grown up. People use this site for many reasons with many different needs, and that's ok too. I've been on this site a long time and my use of it has changed many times over the years. If all parties agree on expectations then nobody should feel used. If that happens then the match was wrong. |
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Nothing wrong with emotions being involved if you manage them like a grown up. People use this site for many reasons with many different needs, and that's ok too. I've been on this site a long time and my use of it has changed many times over the years. If all parties agree on expectations then nobody should feel used. If that happens then the match was wrong."
Seem to me that frequently when people complain of being used,it's that they were out-manipulated. |
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Nothing wrong with emotions being involved if you manage them like a grown up. People use this site for many reasons with many different needs, and that's ok too. I've been on this site a long time and my use of it has changed many times over the years. If all parties agree on expectations then nobody should feel used. If that happens then the match was wrong."
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"I'll ask a question. Open to everyone. Would you be happy to meet someone at a fair distance, have a great time, great sex and never meet again? On the tinder issue, I enjoy tinder more for the reason it's far more straightforward and something that's more straightforward is more fun in my view. "
I agree, I think tinder is definitely more fun. Probably because there is no real pressure associated with it, less stigma and I like to see peoples faces From the start |
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"Discuss.... I personally think we are but I'm fine with it. In a no strings capacity everyone is been used for pleasure. "
But isnt everybody on here just here for sex, no matter if your swingers, cheaters or singles.
So how then is anybody being used if we are all here for the same purpose. Saying someone is using another implies a power on one side that I don't think applies in this suitation. |
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"Discuss.... I personally think we are but I'm fine with it. In a no strings capacity everyone is been used for pleasure. "
Your not wrong, but even in a commited relationship your still using the other person for pleasure be that the safety you feel with them, the loving feeling how ever you want to put it.
Unless of course you cant stand them and being with them is a selfless act of charity |
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