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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab. "
No you're not overreacting, you cancelled due to unavoidable circumstances,he stood you up as some sort of petty power play. Cut off contact,he's a child. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab. "
so it was revenge? Lol this place does get petty sometimes, had arranged to meet someone myself and had agreed myself to travel the distance which was 1h30mins as I'm a gentleman, no numbers exchanged so was about to set off and asked for a quick call before I made the journey and was told plain and straight "no" so decided nah not for me, next thing they all come off a kik group onto here having a go on a thread I'd made, the laughable part was 2 guys trying to give me advice with a verification each dating back 2 years from god knows who lol it's a funny old place is fab, but anyway don't lose hope I'm sure your pretty annoyed I'd be the same but there are genuine guys like me on here too    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats is so bloody childish..
Why bother treating a lady like that ?
Cant for the life of me understand that kind of behaviour..
something like that would totally piss me off |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab.
No you're not overreacting, you cancelled due to unavoidable circumstances,he stood you up as some sort of petty power play. Cut off contact,he's a child."
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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He's got all the pics and wank chat he needed from Kik. I doubt he'd have shown up at all, you gave him what he wanted already. Keeping things on fab is my golden rule, sorts out the pic collectors that way. |
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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago
Near Enough |
"That's he's loss, hard enough to get to meet a woman, when you get the opportunity, you don't let that person down, loads of genuine fellas out here"
Exactly this. Welcome to the forums by the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The tyke - you know now what he’s like honey.
Game playing is not nice but unfortunately people still do it at our age.
The right guy is out there for you so don’t give up.
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"So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab. "
I suppose that's the good thing about fab no strings attached sounds like a babyish behavior and complete clown your better off without him his loss in the end not yours  |
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You cancelled on him & gave him notice...
He stood you up...
...and there's a huge difference between the two 
He seems to be acting out some childhood issue, so ask yourself...
"Do I really want to share a bed with someone like that?
Best wish him the best, Block if necessary... and shout "NEXT!"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not an overreaction at all. You cancelled due to a change of plans which you didn't know would happen. Whereas he was enough of a dick to say it was ok and reschedule but then intentionally not show up.
His loss! |
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First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway. |
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway. "
But she said what he said he intentionally didn't show up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway. "
Even if he felt OP was "taking the piss", and she gave him notice after all, the way to deal with it was either give her another chance or call it off,not deliberately stand her up  |
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway.
Even if he felt OP was "taking the piss", and she gave him notice after all, the way to deal with it was either give her another chance or call it off,not deliberately stand her up "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway. "
The stick has two ends.
We know OP version.
Maybe he also had an truthful excuse too... |
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway.
Even if he felt OP was "taking the piss", and she gave him notice after all, the way to deal with it was either give her another chance or call it off,not deliberately stand her up "
Oh I agree. Just standing someone up is childish and a power play. I was just giving an example of why he may have felt pissed off too. We only have one side of the story, and the OP explained the effort she had to make, but we don't know that he was easily able to make plans either or have them changed last minute. It doesn't justify standing her up, by any means. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway.
Even if he felt OP was "taking the piss", and she gave him notice after all, the way to deal with it was either give her another chance or call it off,not deliberately stand her up
Oh I agree. Just standing someone up is childish and a power play. I was just giving an example of why he may have felt pissed off too. We only have one side of the story, and the OP explained the effort she had to make, but we don't know that he was easily able to make plans either or have them changed last minute. It doesn't justify standing her up, by any means. "
We all have to accept that others may have to cancel due to life circumstances,for someone who is a single parent,this kind of behaviour from a prospective date should be a huge red flag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He has explained his reason. He himself said he was getting his own back . Childish and vindictive. If he starts like this , what will he be like later. Ignore/ ditch the childish fool, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you should arrange a meet again and stand HIM up this time, haha 
Send him a pic of you in your pj's or something while on the couch and say "what you up to? I'm just chilling"
Has anyone else said, I wouldn't stand you up yet Kandi.....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's how I joined Fab. As a single Mammy night's off are so rare and a logistics nightmare. I got let down last minute three times in a row on Tinder which is a pain when you have had to organise kids with the very rare sleepover favours I use with family. So someone told me to sign up to Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway. "
Well to be fair when I mailed to say I couldn't meet he said it was fine and he could meet at anytime that day. My mum agreed to take the kids later that day and I mailed him back to say I was free later if he wanted to meet. He said he would and named the time and place. He even text to say he was leaving and just never showed. |
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By *iiboyMan
over a year ago
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"So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab. "
No you havnt over reacted , you cancelled for a legitimate reason, you told him as soon as you knew , life does get in the way and its usualy stupid stuff , he started playing silly tit for tat child games, block/forget and move on, he dont deserve a second thought |
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By *oxminxCouple
over a year ago
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Ah feck him. Plenty more fish in the sea lol
Talk about throwing your toys out of the pram. Childish behaviour at best, control game playing at worst. Either way steer clear and block him everyway possible. Better luck next time
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a dick
Block him, there are lots of nice guys on fab who are understanding that it's hard when sitters let you down, he clearly is a C@#t and you better finding out now rather than later down the line |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anybody can have a genuine reason to postpone a date. Life can throw up unexpected events and we all have to react to them as best we can. Any guy should be understanding of this and if he isn't then it's his loss. |
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway.
Well to be fair when I mailed to say I couldn't meet he said it was fine and he could meet at anytime that day. My mum agreed to take the kids later that day and I mailed him back to say I was free later if he wanted to meet. He said he would and named the time and place. He even text to say he was leaving and just never showed."
You don't need to explain yourself any further that was a dick move that guy pulled a legit gobshite is all he is I pitty anyone who gets with him it's people like him that makes it harder decent single guys and makes it near impossible for those who are struggling to get meets just block him forget he exists |
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"So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab. "
And I've only just seen your pics damn that guy is some dope very attractive may I add if you don't mind can I pm you |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"First thought is that yeah... That was a childish power play, but, having said that, you've only given your side. You had to cancel because your ex didn't take the kids, but you haven't mentioned his circumstances... Had he had to make special arrangements in order to get away to your lunch date? Had he to take time off work, change a roster, move around other commitments or maybe sacrifice some family time in order to meet you? Maybe he felt you were taking the piss? Either way it sounds like you weren't really a good match anyway.
The stick has two ends.
We know OP version.
Maybe he also had an truthful excuse too..."
No truthful excuse, he told her he stood her up because she cancelled.  |
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By *ashy85Man
over a year ago
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"So after chatting for a while with a guy we exchanged KIK. Chatted all week and got on great. Exchanging lots of messages and some pics. We flirted outrageously and quickly arranged to meet.
So yesterday we were meant to meet. We set up a lunch date. I had to cancel as my ex didn't show up to collect my kids. I mailed him early yesterday morning and he messaged back to say not to worry and if I found the time we could meet later that day. My Mum decided to take my kids on a sleepover yesterday evening.
We flirted and chatted all day. Arranged to meet in a pub for some food half way. We live about an hour apart. I had given him my number and told them to text me when he arrived. He text to say he was leaving.
I got there 10 minutes early (traffic was lighter than expected). Sat for 30 minutes. Got impatient so had dinner and then left. Radio silence from him and then I get a message from him today. Just general chit chat. I mailed back to ask if he had forgotten he stood me up the day before. He simply replied well you stood me up at lunch time. Needless to say I didn't reply. He then mailed me about an hour later to ask why I was sulking. Still haven't replied. My question is am I slightly overreacting? I Should mention this is a guy I met on a dating site and not from fab. "
That's mental I really don't get why anyone gets stood up on here anyway block that guy double time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Only one thing comes to mind reading them responses- OP has clearly mentioned that the guy in question was NOT from fab yet so many still find a way to moan about fab and not the general shitty attitude of some individuals |
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